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This is a really long story, so i'll try to make it short.
I've known this boy for almost 7 months. we've dated for 4 of them. he left me, he just disappeared for 2 months. and i found him and we started talking again. he says he regrets doing what he did to me, and that he still loves me. he said that if he hadnt left we'd still be together. the thing is he now has a girlfriend who he started dating while we weren't talking. they fight all the time. she tells me what she says; she threatens to leave him almost daily but never does. i feel like she treats him like complete trash. shes only 13, and hes almost 18. which i find absolutely disgusting but thats beside the point. i've asked him multiple times to break up with her. he says that he cant just leave her because after everything shes done to him (lying and such) he still loves her. i says he cant leave because he'll feel bad, and he doesnt want her to be sad. he told me that if he stays he wont be happy and if he leaves he wont be happy.
i really really want him back. of all the boyfriends i've ever had hes the one i love and care about the most. we talk about having a life together but the way he talks about not being able to leave his current girlfriend, i dont think he'll ever leave her. he says it wont last forever but i feel otherwise. i need to know what to do. when i think about him and her i get very jealous and upset. i cant get him out of my mind.
right now he does say i love you to me, he calls me baby and such, just like when we were dating. but i wish the other girl was just out of the picture. im not really sure what kind of advice im looking for. i really want to know how to get them to break up but thats horribly mean, i dont want to hurt his feelings. whats the best thing for me to do? (link)
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What on earth do you want with this guy? He's worried about hurting the 13 year old, but he didn't worry about hurting you. And he's with a 13 year old! At their ages, that gap is huge. Where rare her parents? Where is his mind?
He says that if he hadn't left you two would still be together??? He left! That kind of makes you no longer together.
Walk away, show a little respect for yourself and demand to be treated better. You deserve that.
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How can I tell my boyfriend i want to wait for his next birthday to have sex with him. He wants to lose his virginity now, but i want to wait 'till im a little older. How do i tell him without him getting mad or like being o.k. with me wanting to wait? (link)
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If you are worried about him getting mad, what on earth do you want to do with him?
"I want to lose my virginity now. Let's have sex." is a less than enticing offer. It sounds like he wants to use you to "get it over with". That's an invitation I would encourage you to pass up.
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I am a 13 year old girl, and I think that I'm depressed. I have a very loving family, although my brother and I don't always get along. I am in middle school. I believe that I started getting depressed about midway through 6th grade. My school is an arts school, so you can express yourself. But, I just don't find any joy in life. My symptoms: I am sluggish and tired a lot, I am not confident with my body, things that I used to enjoy I don't now, I sleep a lot, I can't find joy in life, and I believe I cause problems for people. I do smile and laugh often, but when I think about it, the moments are just dull. Does anybody know what I should do? (link)
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Ask your parents if they can make an appointment for you with a doctor.
In the meantime, or before you ask them, you might want to take an online test at http://www.depressedtest.com/
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So I was going to finally get help on my depression. I was looking up my doctor's phone number online when a familiar site showed up again. Each doctor has their own page and people post comments and rate their doctor on various things.
There's only one good comment of course and 6 bad ones about him and look at the most recent one:
I found the man arrogant, opinionated and judgmental. I went to him for help with depression over a 2 year period and felt worse about myself than I ever did. It turns out he misdiagnosed me and had me on medication that I was barely able to get through each day. When I said anything he didn't like to hear he had temper tantrums that scared the hell out of me. Calls himself a Christian ... churches are full of people like him .... denial isn't just a river in Egypt!
And I know that I shouldn’t make judgments based on comment on the internet because angry people probably go on searching for places to type these things and the happy people maybe are outside doing other things, but still!
And this comment was posted one month ago in July! And it's true, he does have a temper! I'm not going anywhere near the church stuff because that's a crazy subject to discuss and has nothing to do with medical care as of now. But I always get advice that if my doctor isn't good and isn't helping you, go to another one. Well, I'm not allowed. That’s the first thing he yelled at us for when we went to the walk-in-clinic while he was on vacation and couldn’t wait for him to come back! What do I do? And should I even call him now? (link)
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I suggest you find a new doctor, and don't think about going back.
The fact that you know he has a temper is something that you should never have come close knowing as a patient. That's an indicator of how out of control he is.
You need help, and from someone whose own problems aren't out of control.
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ok, so I have this guy friend who I have fallen hard for. He has no idea how much I like him. I want to tell him how I feel, but I'm afraid it will upset him or scare him, and he will not want to even be friends with me anymore. If anyone has a good way telling him without ruining our friendship, that would be great. Thanks in advance :) oh, and he is also a firm believer in the saying "actions speak louder than words". In case that changes anything (link)
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There is no way you can reveal your feelings that does not put your friendship at risk.
That's not to say there aren't times when taking the risk is worth it, but if he does not reciprocate those feelings, it's going to make the friendship very difficult and probably end it.
At the same time, many of the best romances I've ever seen have started as friendships. If you are not at a point where you are ready for a commitment with him, I'd hang with the friendship.
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Turning 16 In September(: / Female
ohkay so ivee been feeling likee my harmonees hvee been goingg crazyy to feel whaat its likee to have sex. I have a boyfriend who ifeel really comfortable whidd andd can picturee myself loosing it too . Buh im really self consious about my bodyy , dahts whaat stopps me from actually being sexually active whidd someeone, ifeel likee my blubber looks sooo disgustingg when im nakeed! Im 5'2 andd weight about 138 . Whaat shouldd i do? (link)
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Put your clothes back on
Obviously you aren't as comfortable with your boyfriend as you like to think you are. When you're ready for sex, your body will not be your concern and you will feel secure in his delight of you and your body.
Me? I'm old school and think that marriage is the best place for sex, where it can be fantastic!
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hi. im a junior in high school and i really want to figure out what i want to do with my life. i get about b average in my classes. well im not super smart like a lot of lawyers are but i believe i would make a good lawyer. the thing is is that i dont know what kind of law is out there and how many years i would have to go to college. i also would like to know how much money i would be making. im want to stay away from busniess lawyer or patent lawyer, i was thinking about general lawyer, and lawyers helping people with cases like judge judy cases. examples :helping someone sue an ex due to unpaid car insurance, sueing a company for emply discrimination. . . something like that. i know this is kind of weird, but im in a law class now and i like it. im not sure what else to do. please help. thanks. (link)
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I used to be a pre-law adviser, so I hope I can help.
You have lots of time. First, you will need to go to college. Your GPA really matters, so major in something you really like, you'll tend to get better grades and if you change your mind, you'll have a degree something you like. Do not take a pre-packaged Pre-Law program. Hardly any colleges offer them anymore, but they are not well thought of. Do not major in Criminal Justice, law schools don't like it. Do take a coursed or two in accounting. Every law student I ever worked with says one of two things: "I'm so glad I took accounting in undergrad." or "I wish I had taken some accounting in undergrad."
Other than that, major in anything else. Really.
LSAT scores matter a great deal. When you get to college, buy some second hand LSAT tests and start prepping with them a little each week.
Law is in every single area of life that there is, every kind of business, courtrooms, transactional, research, teaching etc. Most lawyers never see the inside of a courtroom.
There are lawyers who make huge salaries, and lawyers who don't make much money at all. There are lawyers who work 60 - 80 hours a week, and some who work under 40. It all depends.
On Judge Judy you are seeing Small Claims Court.
Every state has a limit on damages, often $5000.
Usually people do not take lawyers with them to small claims court.
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Recently my emotions have been decreasing. My emotions used to be normal, but lately it seems as though they are altering. Some examples are when someone would die or get injured badly I would cry, but when my grandma past away a month ago (who I was very close to), I didn't feel anything. Not happy or sad just nothing. Another example is when I'm with my friends. I used to be happy every time I was with them and now it's blank. I'm finding myself faking laughs or being happy. It's not depression because I'm not sad I'm just, blank. I'm starting to feel like a robot. What should I do? Sorry for making this long. (link)
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Chat with your doctor.
I don't think you should rule out depression at this point. Depression is often misunderstood. Many people describe themselves as "flat" as opposed to sad, and others also say "It's like my life went from color to black & white. The blankness you describe is a sign of depression.
A DIY test from the Natl. Institute on Mental Health can be found at: http://www.depressedtest.com/
That might be a good starting point for you.
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lets go with me and my boyfriend have been having sex im on birth control and when i started going on birth control me and him started not using condoms and i dont really like using them. well the other night he was like i wanna try a condom with lube ok lets try then again last night he used a condom and i was just thinking why again? so i was like um no were not using those i dont like them and hes like really and i go yah. then no b.c i didnt want him to get mad. now all i was thinking hes having sex with someone else wtf! and i felt like if i asked him that hed filp b.c it might or most likely not true. so basically the mood was torn and he got mad b.c i left him hanging and now its weird. and i was like if your going to change the way we have sex you should tell me why and he said it hurt last time with out one then i dont want babies and w.e so your telling me three diff reasons and i was like your not the only one having sex with me here so i think i should know why and he like ignored me on that question. so i dont know what to do.
and just a reminder im well old enough to be having sex and me not using condoms is none of your business so i dont like to hear that i should be using them i know all i need to know, ive had one partner so has he. (link)
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You are worried that he's having sex with someone else, but you believe him when he says he has only had one partner? And how many people has that one other person had sex with? You should know, because in terms of STDs, you are having sex with all of them.
Birth control does a fairly good job of preventing pregnancies, but does nothing to prevent the spread of a long list of sexually transmitted diseases that your current behavior puts you at risk for getting and passing on. Condoms can decrease the odds of you contracting them. I know you don't want to hear it, but that's the truth and your attitude doesn't alter those facts one little bit.
You're being smart about birth control, why not be smart about disease as well?
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i been seeing my boyfriend for 2 and years we also work together i only found out he was sleeping wit some one eles that we work wit i went mad i posted it up on facebook and mention both there names he went to t boss and showed him texted messages i sent him in anger sayin i was goin to confront her they both went to hr and reported me i after getin transfered to another site that i cant stand i lost alone and dont know wat to do i want my job back were i was but can they do that it dident happn in t work place i ant even seen her (link)
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This job is gone. You threatened to confront a coworker and they have a legal obligation to protect all their employees, so posting from out of the workplace makes no difference. Be thankful this did not get reported to the police and that you still have a job.
You are well rid of a guy who would do this to you. Be thankful he is out of your life.
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I just recently was forced to quit my job waitressing by my parents (even though I am 18 I have to abide by their rules since I'm living under their roof)
Anyway, I used to make really good money working there. Now, I have to work from home. I teach piano, and I was wondering what a good way was to find students. I teach at a professional level and have been doing so for years.
Any suggestions? Also, any other way to make money from home (as I'm going to college that's an hour away from home, I need my schedule to be flexible. I'm saving this money to rent a room closer to the university)
Thank you :) (link)
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How to grow your piano teaching business -
Contact other teachers - they may have too many students or students that might be better off with your style of teaching, or your location could be better
Figure out who your ideal student is - beginners?
experienced? type of music? and let people know that's your specialty
Ads where mothers are - usually mom is going to make the decision about this. Where are moms? Day care, schools, music stores, home school groups
Good luck!
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alright i am a 16 year old girl turning 17 next month going into my senior year, i feel like everyone in my grade has had sex, i feel a lot of girls feel so nonchalant about it all. I have had a boyfriend and i personally don't think i am ugly, i have never had sex before and i haven't met the right guy i feel i could do that with but i feel kind of insecure i feel that i should of had sex already considering im almost going to college i feel kind of like a loser i don't know i just wanna hear your thoughts on this & what i should do? please no hateful comments :) (link)
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I can assure you, everyone in your school is not having sex. Everyone wants to have everyone else think they are experienced and desirable, but an awful lot of people are pretending or, like the previous person giving advice, they had one very unsatisfying experience they now regret to "get it over with".
Sex is wonderful, shared with someone you love who also loves you, not just someone whose willing to do it when you're willing to get it over with. Stay true to yourself and wait for that right guy,IMHO, the guy you are going to marry.
Take time to read:
http://www.pureintimacy.org/piArticles/A000000628.cfm
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i think i've had it once before. It was around the same time last year. I didn't know what it was but I was feeling very much the same to as I am right now. I didn't use any treatment with it though and it just went away. Is it possible if I don't put any treatment on it this time that it will just go away? (link)
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Left untreated, yeast infection can and often do go away on their own.
If there is a lot of burning and itching and you scratch very tender skin, you can end up breaking the skin and be at risk for infection.
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i just started college & i'm hating it already. i know it's too early to tell so i'm gonna wait a while but.... if i decided that i didn't want to return in the spring then i wouldn't have wasted any money right? like you pay per semester, but would there be a fee for leaving the university? (link)
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First, every college has a policy in how much you get back when you drop out, based on how long you've been there. At this point you could probably get most of your money back. It's probably in the catalogue. I'm not going to lie to you.
Second, it is too early. At this point, everything, 100% of your whole life is new! That's a huge transition for everyone. You are surrounded by strangers, in strange place, everything you do, from how and where to what you eat, to where you go to the bathroom, is all new.That's a lot of change.
Give yourself a chance to get adjusted to the changes. Break down what it is you hate - college classes? your roommate? the food? the people? Try and make friends - that can make a huge difference.
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I'm a fifteen year old girl and lately I've felt like I'm not good enough for my parents. They always concentrate on my weaknesses and not my strengths. Even the smallest things get me in trouble but when I try to talk to my parents about how I'm feeling, they shut me out. Even on good days I'll get ignored when I talk or they'll roll their eyes at me and say I'm just trying to be dramatic and get attention. When I get mad I start yelling and then I get in more trouble and my parents REALLY won't listen to me. They're hypocritical and judgmental and I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't really talk to them even though I'd love to be able to tell them how I feel and be able to talk out our problems. They just shut me out when I try to work with them so we can fix our relationships. What should I do? (link)
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You are right, you should be able to talk with your parents about these things. For whatever reason, they are not able to do this with you at at this time. But you still need to talk.
You need to find someone to talk to. Is there an older relative you feel comfortable with? A minister, teacher or school counselor? Many schools offer counseling for students. Look around for some people in your world who can help you.
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I have this problem where everything has to be perfect like everything has to be clean organized and perfct in every way at home and at work and if its not I freek out .people think I have an attitude becase I have to have to be perfect in everything I do no place for error and people don't like that especaly when its not done right to my standards but I'm in a good mood only when things are clean and organized but when its not I'm in a bad mood but that's me and it is taking over my life to where no one likes me .I see my self better than most people and to me most people are slobs .so what is my problem I have no clue .does anybody know I'm cluless (link)
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Sounds like you may have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Check with your doctor and he may refer you to a therapist or psychiatrist. There are meds that can help, and a lot that can be done in therapy so that you can be back in chanrge of your life.
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My good friend came over to my house and started to try to find my "tickle spots" and wanting to massage me on the places that i have muscle pain. He also tried to lift me in a playful way. He also said "I can't get over how soft your skin is."
I'm wondering if my guy friend likes me more than a friend. (link)
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He wants to get physical with you... that's not necessarily the same thing as liking you and caring about you as a person.
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ok so, my entire vagina has been super sore and like stinging. inside and out. i've never had sex before so im pretty sure it's not an STD. it started about 2 days after my period and im still on my period right now. it almost feels like it might be swollen. and im also having MAXIMUM discharge. it's about 10x more than I normally have on a daily basis. It's really disgusting. Basically what I want to know is what this is, why it's happening, and how I can prevent it or stop it. (link)
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Welcome to the wonderful world of yeast infections.
It's most likely what it is, but it would be wise to get a confirmation through a doctor's visit if you can.
There are are over-the-counter meds that work fairly quickly.
A good preventative is to eat some yogurt with active yogurt cultures every few days.
There are also creams you can buy that help minimize the itch, or, many women like the old fashioned trick of using yogurt as a topical application. A little messy, wear a pad. Once this is over, make sure to wear panties with a cotton crotch.
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I'm 20/f, my boyfriend is 18. We've been together for 3 years. We've had our ups and downs, but we've always worked out. Basically, he's done a lot of crap to me that I just put up with.Anyway, I found out that he cheated on me a couple of weeks ago. (He had sex with another girl;I don't know her) And now I can't figure out what to do. I know it seems obvious..I have always said I would dump somebody in a minnesota minute if they cheated on me, but I never expected this. Like I said, we've been together for 3 years. He is the only guy I've ever slept with, and I love him.
But I keep going back and forth about what to do, because I still love him and want to be with him, but at the same time, I can't get over him betraying me like that. All I can think about is how he was intimate with someone else, and it's driving me insane!
Plus, I don't trust a word he says now. I found out on my own about him cheating, and he denied,denied,denied until I finally drug it out of him cause he knew I knew. So now even if he just says he's going to walmart my mind starts spinning..
anyway, advice please!
is 'once a cheater,always a cheater' true?
should I even be trying to work this out?
help! (link)
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Not only did he cheat on you, but he repeatedly lied to you. If you had not persisted, he would have gladly let you believe the lie. Making a fool of you.
You know what you need to do.
Think highly enough of yourself to not let yourself
be treated this way.
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Ive lost 30 pounds since this summer and now Im losing weight slowly I do work out. Ive tried girdles and I cant get a corset because they aren't in stores and I cant get one online. When I wear clothes my stomache shows. How do I get rid of my stomach fast or something I can wear to hide it? (link)
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Congratulations!
You may be a little overly aware of this... but, it sounds like a good time to add sit ups and leg lifts to your routine.
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