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How can i tell him i want to wait?
How can I tell my boyfriend i want to wait for his next birthday to have sex with him. He wants to lose his virginity now, but i want to wait 'till im a little older. How do i tell him without him getting mad or like being o.k. with me wanting to wait?
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Just explaim to him its your body treat it as ur temple. Tell him u want to wait an if he cant exept that then yall arent meant to be together. Respect is a big thing in relationships if you cant respect each others wishes then why be together it will only cause problems. Pour your heart to him like you do this computer. GOODLUCK:)
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If he's mad, fuck him. (not like that, you pervs)
It's your decision, he can take it or leave it. His own feelings on your body are irrelevant.
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okk i can relate to you in this one.. i went out with a guy who all he wanted was sex sex sex and thats all he ever talked about.. i think that you and your boyfriend should have a serious conversation about this and just tell him how you feel tell him everything. and be honest dont hold things back and if he doesnt respect your decision then he's not worth it bt im pretty sure he will wait for you if he really cares for you a relationship isnt always about sex its about showing each other how much you care for each other and having a good time if he cant see that in you then he is missing out on a lot... i think it will wokr out for you tho i hope i helped youu =]] !
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The best way to deal with any boy is honesty. Even if he doesn't like what you're saying, he's going to respect you for saying it.
Saying, "I'm really not ready to have sex, yet," is so hard because he is probably really pushing for it, and you worry that he's going to think you're immature. Lately, he's been acting like sex is the most important thing in the world, and he's even got you thinking that maybe you have to have sex with him to prove your love for him. This is nothing like you imagined it would be! Deep down inside, you know you aren't ready for sex, and all the pressuring he's doing isn't making it any easier. Maybe you even said some things that lead him to believe you were ready, but what else could you do when he kept pushing and pushing?
Here's the good news; it can still be like you imagined. One day, you are going to have sex for the first time and you are just going to know it's so right, and it will be a special moment you will have forever in your memories. You may not marry the first person you have sex with, but you will always love and respect eachother. It may be hard for this guy to hear right now, but he's just not good enough for you if he's going to keep pushing it. And one more thing, your body is not a thing to be given away as a birthday present. Do not place a time limit on when you think you'll be ready.
This boy may get angry, play games with your feelings, and even break up with you when you tell him you're not ready. If he does than it's a good thing you found out what a jerk he is before you had sex with him!
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If you are worried about him getting mad, what on earth do you want to do with him?
"I want to lose my virginity now. Let's have sex." is a less than enticing offer. It sounds like he wants to use you to "get it over with". That's an invitation I would encourage you to pass up.
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Just tell him. If he gets mad at you, drop him as fast as you can.
Yes, you love him. Yes, you want to be with him. I get that. I've been there. I can tell you, though, that if he really loves you he won't get mad. He'll respect your decision and wait until you're comfortable.
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You should just tell him honestly how you feel. Tell him you do love him, but you just aren't ready yet. If he respects you, he'll be okay with it, and if not, he's probably in the relationship for the wrong reasons. There are also "other" kinds of sex (meaning, oral), if you're interested in that to hold him over until his next birthday. Best of luck! :) <3
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