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I am 16/f, just to get that out of my way.
Let me just start off by saying, I have been in and out of maybe 6 relationships ever since 9th grade, I am now in 10th, and those have never lasted longer than 2 weeks. Various reasons to be broadly stated.
So I've been off dating field for about 6 months when I meet this great guy and things went good so now we are going out and I am surprise to say that we have been going out for about 3 weeks...(ha yes, 3 weeks isn't long time but it is to me compared to other relationships) and just couple days ago my bf told me, "i know this is a day late(referring to valentines day), but I love you"
and i was COMPLETELY shocked by this. My head is going out of control thinking, how could you love me? how can someone LOVE someone when they known each other for less than a month and have been going out for little over 2 weeks?
I mean i didnt tell him, I just told him that I am really not ready to say I love him, but i really do like him a lot. Which I am glad that he understood perfectly well and wasn't upset in any way.
So I don't regret anything on that, but What my real question is, Is it possible for someone to love someone in that short amount of time?
I mean, I am not doubting his affection for me and his respect for me nor am I really going to ask him but on the back of my mind, I can't help but to wonder, is he really saying that because he mean it?
I mean i did ask if he meant it and he looked at me straight in the eye with serious face...
and also, how do I know if i LOVE him? obviously I have never loved somebody... Yeah i know I am suppose to just "know" if its love but still...
I was thinking of asking him that question... "Define Love"
Thank you (link)
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Well. Let me start by telling you that there are some people who get in love real fast. And come out of it.maybe he really meant it. Maybe he thought he meant it but really didn't.
You should definetly ask him what love is in his opinion. Just to get to know him alittle more in this topic. Remeber 3 weeks isn't a lot. It all depends on the way you look at it.
You know you love a person when you can't stop thinking about them. When they're always on your mind. When everytime your out with someone else you think about them instead. When every mean word they tell you hurts you more then anything in the world. When life isn't just the same without them. When you get a feeling you never felt before
That's when you know you're in love.
Hope I helped I tried my best!.
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I liked this guy for four years in high school and it was really complicated becasue he liked me in the eighth grade and I hated him then because he would tease me but beginning of high school, I started liking him. Just before grad we started talking at parties and conversing but it was all cut short when we both graduated.
In high school, my crush was really intense. My other friends went through crushes but I always seemed to have this weird bond with him and I couldn't move on.
After high school, I put my little girl crush aside since there was no chance of us seeing each other again because I don't know any of his friends and even though I still liked him, I tried my best to get over him and I thought I was over him.
Two saturdays ago, at three in the morning, I was dropping a few friends off and I saw his car leave the street and I followed him (I think we live around the same side of town). My heart started beating so fast and I honestly started shaking. I passed him because he wasn't going fast enough and I wanted so badly for him to see me. Eventually, he ended up in front of me again and I followed him until he turned into another street then I moved on.
I can't stop thinking about him just because I saw his car and back of his head in his side window. Now I don't know what to do. I'm totally crushing on him again, daydreams and all. I thought I was over him, I saw him once in September and I was a little freaked but it was still early. I don't know what it is about this guy, I've been meeting so many boys since I've graduated and none of them have this impact on me. I just can't stop thinking about him and I've tried soooo hard to get over him but I feel like crying. It isn't fair, I'm just trying to move on with my life and he shows up out of nowhere and leaves me in pieces. I'm such a wreck. What do I do? (link)
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aww. This is so sad. I know what your gowing through. I feel the same way. Just so you know your not alone.
I think you aren't crushing anymore. You are truly in love!. And when you're in love you just can't forget about someone so easily(trust me).I think you should follow your heart. Look for him. Tell him how you feel. Maybe he feels the same way. Tell him that you haven't found anyone so great like him. Tell him that you still think about him after all this time. You might never be able to tell him how you feel. Don't put yourslef down. Look for him. If you really love him and want to be with him. Until you don't honestly tell this guy how you feel you won't feel better.
So I think you should try your best leave all your pride behing your shyness..all that bad stuff that's not letting you guys be together. Look fot him tell him how you feel.
If he doesn't feel the same way then you will feel better. Becuase you told him how you feel. Anyway would you want to be with someone that doesn't feel the same way about you
I really really truely hope that this works out you sound like you really love him. And in this world we need more people like you becuase I think love is overdue.
Please please let me know how it worked out I really would love to know. Just drop it by my inbox. Hope I helped
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There is this guy who recently broke up with his long-term girlfriend whom he's known for at least 5 years now. The thing is that they have been on and off throughout these years and I don't like try to get myself into that type of information/drama. The problem is, recently it seems like they haven't been talking to each other for a longer time than usual. Personally it doesn't really matter to me, until a few weeks ago the guy started joking around with me, saying that i'm going to ask him out to a school dance. I went along with it because it was hilarious but I never actually thought that was going to happen because he might still get back together with his ex so it was just all really funny humor. This continues for the longest time, he would link arms with me when we walked to class and my friends would just joke about it. Up until this week I asked someone what was up with his and his ex. They said to not worry about it and that I won't get his ex mad if she saw him being all touchy with me. So after that I seriously considered asking him to go as a friend cuz he kept reminding me everytime I saw him.
Anyways, what was weirder was that I had a dream where he was my bf which made this scene completely change. I woke up feeling all weird inside...and I wanted to see if my mind would change back to normal. I saw him that day and he acted the same which made me even more confused. My feelings grew stronger, but I didn't know if I liked him or not...and I don't know if I even SHOULD because he might still have a chance at his relationship with his ex. Today I found myself wanting to talk to him and getting jealous when he talked to other people...especially his ex. He kinda stopped talking to me because before everytime we would " joke" about going as dates I wouldn't really respond to his flirting. I never had a bf before and I never really actually came close to that stuff at all. But now I feel worse than ever because I don't knwo how to explain how I feel. Does a dream reallly change everythign? or is this my own concious acting on me because I've never had anyone treat me like that and its just some type of physical attraction that doesn't really mean anything? I really don't know what I should do...
Sorry about such a long and confusing story> I just really needed to sort my mind out. Please help! (link)
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Ok so after reading everyone elses advice. I came up with my own but I think its going to be different. The same thing happened to me.I know its becuase you don't have a boyfriend and the thought of having one makes you happy. I actually don't think u are crushing on this guy. I think its all in your mind. U probably just want a boyfriend so bad that since he came along you decided to take that chance. Don't confuse yourself. Just answer this question to youself. Did you ever like him before he started flirting with you...and while he was still with his ex??.
I belive that if you answer yourself that question you will know if you actually do like him or if its just in your mind.
I really can't help you answer that question because you have to searcha deep inside only you know.
Hope I helped
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I got a new cat in March of 2006. My other cat before her was an outside cat more than an inside one. But one night she got hit by a car, and we had to put her to sleep.
When I got my new cat, my family and I decided to make it an indoor one, so the same thing wouldn't happen to her. We live on a very busy street so I felt it was OK to make her an indoor cat. But I feel horrible every day that she can't go outside. We already declawed her, so we can't just make her an outdoor cat. And yeah, I feel a little bad for declawing her because I feel it's inhumane, but she was ripping stuff up, and tearing carpets and furniture up.
When I see her every day, looking at the window, she just looks and sounds like she is sad, and I keep feeling I should of made her an outside cat, but I don't want the same thing to happen to her, as to what happened to my other cat. She just always looks depressed. I seriously don't know, but how can I tell how she is feeling?
Also, am I doing what is right for my cat? I mean if I was stuck indoors all my life I would be pretty depressed, yet I don't want my cat to feel the same way. What can I do?
Thanks for reading and anything is greatly appreciated! (link)
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I love cats. And yes the same thing happened to me. You have to think about your cat first. When I had this problem what I did was that I bought it a leash and tried to take her out. See that way she was out and protected with the leash. I know that would looks weired like a cat in a leash but its for your cats safety. After I started doing that my cat was happier!. I was happy because I know that they are like us they have feelings to. I hoped I helped.
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Well i like this guy, and we talk all the time, and message alot and stuff.
Well he likes my best friend, and she kinda likes him. and like i really dont want them to date, because i like him alot, and if they date she'll like idk
but i wouldnt ever get the chance to date him
cuz you know the like rule or something..
so should i try to get over him or somethingg...
im not sure
should i flirt with him more.?
please help
xoxo thanks
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well. I think that if he likes your best friend then you should step aside. Only to the fact that he doesn't feel the same way you do about him. Why would you want to be with someone who likes your friend?.wouldn't it be nice to be loved back?. I think you should just let your best friend date him. I mea she likes him and he likes her. You wouldn't want anyone doing that to you. And if u were a really good friend you would care about your friend and how she feels about this guy. Its up to you to make your decision..just make sure you don't choose the wrong one that would end up hurting the 3 of you.
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Hi, I'm 25 years old and have been in a relationship for 8 months. I love this woman more than anything in the world, and want to share my life with her. However, we have a lot of problems. I feel like she doesn't respect my feelings, gets mad at me for the stupidest things, talks to me/treats me like a child, she doesn't show me much affection anymore. I feel like she is irritated with me almost all the time, she hardly ever shows me she loves me anymore. She always has to have things her way and on her time. And when I try to talk to her about these issues, all we do is get into a huge fight and I feel like I have no chance to say everything I need to say. I don't know what to do! I'm afraid she is going to make me have to leave because I'm not going to see any other option, but that's not what I want. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and be happy. (link)
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hey. Well I read your problem and I want to help. I think u should tell her exactly what you just told me. U need to tell her that you love her and don't want to leave her but that you guys have so much problems
Make it clear to her that you don't want to leave her you just want to solve the problems that you guys have
Tell her that you feel that she doesn't appreciate you as much as you want her too. Just whatever you say or do let her know that you love her. You sound like a really nice guy that loves her a lot. I don't think she wants to loose you.
if this doesn't work just remeebr that there is a possibility that she might not feel the same way...and if she doesn't do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn't love you as much as you love her.
Remember love is like a plant. If you don't feed it..it can die.
I hope I helped.
Xoxo johanny
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Alright, so. 18/f. My best friend is 17/m. There's no other way to say it; I'm a pushover. He's the only one I'm like this with. I know it's not that I have a crush on him, I really don't.
For example, I have a dog. I just got him October 1. I've wanted a dog for 2 years, and wanted this specific dog for maybe 6 months. W, my friend, is a total ass to him. He scares him all the time. Anyone else, and their ass would be mine. But when W does it, I can't say anything. Also, we plan on moving in together. He doesn't like animals. He wants a small house or apartment without a backyard. He doesn't want to leave town. I could easily find a medium sized in another town, with a small backyard, that would be where I kept the dog (with proper shelter, heating and cooling, all the attention he needs and stuff) for cheaper. But if I tell him, he just goes "no, I want this this this this, no animals" If it was my sister or any other friend I'd be like "dammit we're getting a dog and that's final." But with W, I can't.
How can I be more assertive and express my feelings without being bitchy? (link)
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Well. It sounds to me like he only wants it his way?. No dog?. He doesn't want to leave town?. I mean if you guys are friends you have to make this decision together not only him. So you have to explain to him that you want that dog and its final tell him your not going 2 give him away or anything similar to that becase you love that dog.tell him in a nice calm way. And if that doesn't work. Think about the fact that he's only wanting things his way?. That's not fair to you. Think that he's your friend ok but you guys have to decide this together.
Also you might want to maybe take turns and see what each of u guys want. Figure it out TOGETHER!
Hope I helped! Good luck
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i have a best friend named kevin, and we`ve been friends for a long time. we helped eachother with problems, and we always had eachother`s backs. but he`s been acting really different lately, and i`m not liking it too much. ever since he got a new girlfriend, he`s been acting really weird around me. one day he`ll be really nice to be like he`s been, and then other days he`ll blow up in my face for the smallest things, and i don`t know what`s happening.
lately he`s been questioning our friendship, and the other day he messaged me saying "forget it, we`re not friends anymore". and now everytime i try to talk to him, he`ll smack rude comments in my face.
i know you might be thinking that i should just forget about him, but it`s harder than that. i know that deep down inside my best friend in still in there, but i just can`t find him yet .. so can anybody please help me figure all this out ? (link)
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Hey sounds like u got a big problem I think I can help. Well I am not going to tell you to forget about him because I know a good best friend is hard to forget. I think you should talk to him. He's probably being brain washed by his girlfriend. You never know. Tell him you miss him (like the way he used to be) tell him u miss hanging out like him. But most importantly catch him in the act. Like when he screams at you for no reason tell him. Tell him that's messed up and ask hoim why all of a sudden he's changing. If he's a really good friend like you said he was then he'll understand!.
Hope I helped! And goodluck!
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hi my mom smokes quite alot i havent counted because shes at work most of the day and im really worried and want her to stop but everytime i bring it up she goes "ooooohhh stop nagging me" how can i get her to stop please help meee (link)
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Well I think you should tell ur mom that you love her. Start off like that. Tell her she's scaring you and that you don't want anything bad to happen to her. Tell her she's very important in your life and you're afraid to loose her. Tell her you need her. Shell understand. Also tell her that you'll help her with whatever she needs to stop her habit. I know she loves you and will do anything for you. Its not easy to stop a smoking habit but if you two work together side by side it'll make things a whole lot easier!
Hope I helped!:o) good luck!
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Hi I am a 15 year old female. I lived in the same town for most of my life. About a week ago I moved. I now live about 3.5 hours away from there. My mom kicked me out so I live with my dad. I miss my friends and my old life so much that I am seriously depressed and I'm afraid that if I dont run away and go back there and live with a friend that something even worse is going to happen. For example I used to cut myself to let out my emotions and I have been trying not to but I want to so bad.
What do I do? stay here in hell or go be happy? (link)
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I think you should try the new place out. Try to be happy. The most important thing is that your happy. I recently got into a school I didn't eant to go. But don't cut yourself its not going to fix anything. When I first got into that school I really hated it. But now I really like it, its not that bad like I thought it was. Maybe the same case is going on here. Give it a little try. If you don't like it then leave go back to where you were. Go back to what makes you happy. Its the most important thing. That you're happy.
xoxo johanny. Hope I helped.!
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I have bean accepted to join the Royal Marines in July 2007 but i am not sure if i sould go, i fell in love with an amazing girl and i dont know if i can leave her. she always cries whenever i bring up the subject and she is begging me not to go. I have wanted to join for my entire life but now i am not so sure because i am scared she will not be there for me when i come back.
Please help give me your opinions. (link)
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You have to think about what's more important to you. Your girl or this dream that you have of leaving. Sounds like this girl is in love with you and doesn't want you to leave. But if this is your dream then she would understand. Don't worry if she really loves you shell wait until your back. Just make sure you guys keep in touch!. Make sure you talk to her and explain to her that this is your dream and that you love her and you will always love her. Also tell her you guys will keep in touch. But make sure this is really what you want. Don't do naything without you being sure that that's what you really whant. Goodluck! Hope I helped! :o)
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ok, one day i created myspace i never really got on b/c i dont konw how to use it and stuff. on day a guy that i like ask me for my name on my space so i gave the guy on my space, the pic ture on my space is not my pic ( my friend put it there b/c i didnt have a pic on her comp) so the guy called me and ask me is that me i said yes b/c is a pretty pic so i want him to see me as the pretty side, then my best friend called me and said that she want to do 3 way calling with me and the guy i like, so i said yes, then the guy ask me some question about the picture on my space my best friend just blur out that the picture is not mine! and she was laughting her azz of on the phone then i got really mad at her so i hain the phone off. after about 5 min she called me back and ask what was wrong with me, y i hain off the phone i told her y i hate about ppl trying to make fun of the stuff taht i didnt do but she didnt say ne thing to me just say : hey ill talk to u later k? then hain off on me i was so pissed off!!!!!!! i have the rage to beat her up with her stupid attitude towar what she did to me or should i call her back? i feel she betrade me !! what should i do (link)
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Hey I answered this question already and u rated it a 5 and u left me some feedback saying tht u don't want to looser your best friend and for me to help. Well I just have to tell you that you should tell your friend the truth don't worry if you think that she won't understand. You picked her as your bestfriend you know her. Maybe she will understand. Don't worry. If she was a real friend than she would understand you. If she doesn't undserstand you then she's not a real friend. Don't worry. Everything will turn out fine. If she doesn't understand then that means she isn't a real friend. And why would you want a fake friend. You have many of those. Who doesn't??.
Ps good luck! Hope I helped. If you need anymore help send me a mail in my inbox bye!;o)
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Ok, well I've already posted a question for help with my family, and recently some more has happened. My mom thinks i'm dating 2 guys at once, and she read my Diary again. This time, we were moving things from one house to another. So, she asked me to ride with her to unload the stuff. I of course said I would help, but once we got into the truck, she asked me if I was still with my Boyfriend. Whenever I replied that yes, Yes I was, she exploded and told me that I don't apreciate her, and that I have no remorse over the fact that she has cancer. I tried to tell her that they won't take her whole breast, and she told me I was too young to know anything. So, when she read my Diary, it basicly said that the moment I get a good job, and get into College, i'm getting a dorm, and i'm out of the house for good because my dad won't do anything about the way she talks, and treats me. She got defensive again, and asked me why I wanted to hurt her so bad. I said,"Mom, I never asked you to seek out my diary, and read it. It's your own fault for not liking what I have to say, but i'm not going to keep things from the one place I have that should be private." and she got mad at me, and punched me. I couldn't believe it! She's threatened to hit me before, and whenever I was about 4-5 she used to pull my hair and shove me whenever I made her angry, but I never in my wildest dreams that she would ever hit me! I threatened to call CPS, but I didn't because I don't want to leave. I have too much here, and if I call they'll take me away, not her. And she's told my whole family that i'm lying about her all the time. She told an older lady who I respect so much that i'm a horrible child, that i'm a dirty whore, and i'm selfish. The truth is, yes I am VERY selfish, and no i'm not the perfect child, but i'm NOT with 2 different people, i've NEVER been sexually active, and i've made it clear to every guy to ever put a move on me that I have a boyfriend, and I won't tolerate any unfaithfulness! But, whenever we got to this lady's house, the woman who I respect deeply, she basicaly told me that i'm blowing it way out of proportion, and that I probably deserved it...And she tells me that I provoked it by backtalking my mother...I've tried to look up teen privacy rights online, and child abuse to figure out if maybe i'm just having a hard time dealing with what's coming to me, or if this is truely something I should be worried about.
Also, my parents are getting a divorce, and my mom says it's because of me. It's my fault because I try to lock her out of my life, and the only person I talk to is my dad. She asks why I locked her out, but the truth isn't good enough for her. I lock her out because anytime I let her in more drama happens and we wind up hurting each other. Anytime I try to talk to her it's always,"Break up with Logan, he's a bad bad kid. He'll influence you wrong. It's his fault we're fighting, and his fault you locked me out."
Logan has his own set of issues right now. And like everyone else God made, he's not perfect. But I think he's turned out quite fine considering his past. To go into detail, his dad murdered his mom, and the people he's living with now beat him. o.O So I don't exactly blame him for not being a part of a Beaver Cleaver atmosphere. I've always been told that there is always someone for everyone. Well, if every girl would dump him because of his past, and his current issues, he wouldn't have someone for him. We've been together for over a year now, and he's never done anything wrong to me! He's never hurt me, anytime he upsets me he apologizes, and he truely wants the best for me...
Aye, well, this is long, but basicaly, I need to know if I need to change, or my mom does. We used to get along, but everytime we talk now she threatens me, cries, and tells me she hates me. Am I just an immature teen not realizing that my mom just wants the best for me, or is she immature and doesn't want me to be with Logan because she thought me and him were having sex? (link)
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I can see that your mom has turned out to be very abbuseive. But have u ever thought that she's got 2 much on her plate 2 handle right now?. She has cancer...and is about 2 get a divorce. She's your mom. She's trying to protect you. She loves you. But apperantly she doesn't think you do. You have to talk to her and ask her why she's being so aggeresive to you. Tell her you don't like it. Tell her you'll try to be better as a duaghther but that she needs to better as a mother also. Yes what she did was wrong(reading your diary). I understand.that's the only private place a teen actually has. But you have to forgive her. Explain to her that your not a whore. That you love your boyfriend. Tell her you love him and he makes you happy. I can tell your mom is going threw a hard time right now. You need to help her. Let her know you're there for her. Try not to argue with her and eventually everything will turn out fine. Goodluck hope I helped!. :o)
Ps if ur mom doesn't want to be the big person in this situation..u be the big person be the first to say you're sorry.
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i went to the movies with this guy about 1 month ago. and it turns out my ex was there. and said the guy i with gave him a dirty look. and then we left and the next day my ex told me he wanted to fight him. well later after that i realized i wasnt over my ex. i still loved him. so friday we had a football game and they both were there and my ex wanted to fight him. i tried to hold him back but he wouldnt listen. someone pulled me off. and he tackled him and started trying to beat the crap out of him. i was crying so hard. i HATE my ex with a passion now. and i have never hated anyone this much. and he had no reason to fight him at all. and i heard later it was all for fun. i am such an idiot now becasue even after he beat this innocent guy up i still love him. and the other guy too. what do i do. but the other guy likes someone else (link)
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Well, it seems like you have a big problem. Don't worry ill try to help you. Why would you like that other guy that still likes another girl. He's totally isn't worth it. And the other one that faught the other guy he seems like a jerk to me. He also seems like he's jelous and just wanted attention from you. They both sound like they arent worth it. Don't waste your time with someone like that. Your going to find someone better. But if your with someone your not going to find the right person. Take your time. Good things take there time to come. Goodluck! Hope I helped!
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one time me and this boy I liked were one on one
at my house on my trampoline.
He said " you used to like me didnt you?"
and Im like "yeah" [which was akward enough]
then he said " i used to like you "
2 seconds later , he says " just kidding"
whats the deal? (link)
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Well, I think he said that just to see your response. Since you probably didint say anything back he just didn't want to make a fool of himself so he said just kidding. The guy sounds like a looser to me so don't pay any attention to him. Hope I helped!
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OKay, so theres this kid who seemed really into me, and he calls me and stuff, not like long convos but calls me sometimes. and he talks to me online. but like in school its like he doesnt know me & i want to get him to notice me even more and get him to know that i like him. but im not a very forward person so it cant be like drastic things lol. please help (link)
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hi i think i can help :0) ok so this kid doesnt talk to you. i think thats pretty harsh. he talks to you online and even calls you but doesnt talk to you in school. next time he calls you or talks to you online tell him how you feel. and ask him why he doesnt talk to you in chool. if he doesnt have a possitive answer or no answer than that means that he probbaly doesnt want to talk to you in school because hes afraid of what his friends might think about you. but it sounds like he likes you. but he has to be able to talk to you in school to confirm that. hope everything goes well. i tried my best to help you. :o) bye! goodluck!
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17/f - My boyfriend (15 yrs old.) broke up with me a few days ago because he said he didn't want to be in a relationship right now because a few months ago he got out of a 2 yr relationship with a girl he loved that cheated on him with his cousin and bestfriend. We didn't go out that long but I ended having strong feelings for him. He wanted to be friends but it bothered me too much. I think he only wanted sex and I'm still a virgin and I don't want to have sex yet. Anyways, I was on the phone with him yesterday and he was kidding around alot about having sex with me and being friends with benefits (which I seriously DON'T want). I got really pissed off and hung up. So he called back and told me he wouldn't kid around with me anymore and then he told me he wanted to be honest with me and tell me something and said he had sex with this girl on my bus twice! Once, the week before me and him started to go out and wednesday (2 days after he broke up with me)! I was crying and my friend that was over asked if she could talk to him and she did. When she got off the phone we talked about him and everything. She went through almost the same stuff I had to go through and told me I should stop talking to him and maybe be friends with him later when I was ready. I know it's a good choice and I called him and told him I didn't want to be friends right now and he said ok and we hung up. I'm just so heartbroken and a part of me wants him and a part wants me to forget him and move on. I'm also thinking he might have cheated on me while we were going out but I don't want to find out even he did. My questions are: Do you think it's a good thing I stopped talking to him for now? Should I move on? Or be friends with him? How can I make things easier for me not to get jealous seeing him with other girls and help me move on? Also, the girl he had sex with has A BOYFRIEND!! Don't you think it's wrong since he had to deal with his exgirlfriend cheating on him so why would he let that happen to another guy?! Ughh seriously I just need some advice and opinions on what to do. Thanks and sorry it's so long. (link)
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its ok its so long i read it all :0). ok what i think is that you not talking to him was the best thing. i think he just used you like you wrote just to have sex. next time u see him with a girl think that hes a looser and that shes the one that has to put up with him now. your very lucky that you choose the right thing to do. many girls might have done sex with him like the girl on the bus did. also r u possitive that he had sex with that girl on the bus? maybe he just wants you to get jelous?. hes defentely (spelling?) not the right guy for you. you deserve someone better.someone who isnt only with you just for sex. he left you just because you wouldnt do "it" with him. thats not right you should be with someone that loves you and just wants to be with you. you are a person thats worth alot dont be waisting your time with someone that doesnt worth crap.you will eventually find a great guy that loves you and then youll be happy that you left that jerk and that your still a vergin. remember you can only be a virgin once! goodluck and i hope i helped and sorry its so long. :o)
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okay .. so let`s start with the names of the two people in this problem - their names are Robby and Brooke. i`m BEST FRIENDS with both of them, and they`ve been going out for four months. about two weeks ago, Brooke told Robby that she didn`t like him anymore. so they broke up. and now they don`t talk anymore.
okay, so the other day Robby told me that he liked me, and he asked me out. i told him that i`d need a few days to think about it, and he said that it was fine. then today, Brooke IMed me. she was saying something like, "i`m really upset that Robby likes you because i miss him, and i like him again. and i want him back".
HERE`S MY PROBLEMS ..
1.) i don`t know if i should go out with Robby. my last relationship ended with my boyfriend cheating on me with one of my best friends. so now we hate eachother. i don`t want to ruin what i already have with Robby. but i mean .. Robby`s a great guy. and he`s funny. and he`s everything i want. and we both know that we`d have a lot of fun going out. are the nerves just getting to me ? or what ?
2.) if i say yes to Robby, Brooke will be ticked at me. and if i say no to Robby, then he`ll be heartbroken. and he`ll know that i did it because i don`t want to hurt Brooke.
this is really confusing. so please help me ?
:] any help will be greatly appreciated. (link)
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well i dont really know if i can help but ill try. ok what i think is that you should think about whats more important to you.brooke or robby?
think about this.. do you really really like robby. like enough to risk your friendship with brook. if you do really like him then brooke should understand. she let him go which means that hes free for any girl that crosses his mind. she should understand that. but first before you do anything make sure robby really likes you. he might just be confused about brooke so he thought he probbaly needed someone to help him. is there a possibility that he might be confusing a great friendship with love/like? dont do something that you might regret. also have in mind that a good friendship is not worth loosing over a guy. hope i helped! goodluck!!
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okay.
last year i had a crush ona guy. he just broke up with his long term girlfriend.
he asked me for help, i did, he liked me, after a while. 4 months into our relationship he says he loves me, 2 weeks later, he is back with his ex.
he never officially ended it with me, i never got closure, im still not over him, he meant a lot to me. its looking like he is going to break it off with his g/f again. hes starting to come back to me. i want him back but i dont think i could take him, what do i do? (link)
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Seems to me like he's using you. He only comes to you when his girlfriend isn't there. Don't let him you use you like that. I know you like him I understand but don't let him take advantage of you. If he does come back to you talk to him and tell him why he left you like that and whent to his ex if there's really no answer than its abvious that he's using you and you don't want that right?. End it before its to late. That's my advice to you. Good luck!! Hope everythings works well for you!
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okay, first off, let me tell yu about the guys. there's this boy i used to like last year. i like somebody else now. then, there's my best guy friend. so, to start, the guy i like now is going out with someone. but he's so cute and funny, and i seem to always look at him when he's in sight. the boy i used to like, well, i don't know who he likes, but he's really good friends with one of my girl friends. he's really nice and caring, but sometimes his ego gets the best of him. my best guy friend. he's AWESOME. we can talk about EVERYTHING and ANYTHING.
here's the problem.
the guy i like now - well, like i said, i can't help but look at him. but i know he's taken, and no matter what i do, that's not gonna change. but i still can't help but think that maybe he'll notice me and we'll start going out. i'm not obsessed. i'm just not good at following reality.
the guy i used to like - he and my friend, they have this bond kind of thing. and sometimes, i feel jealous cuz i want that kind of relationship with him, too. i don't know if i still like him, but i always feel jealous when i see him talking to other girls.
my guy best friend - we're great great friends, and i don't wanna ruin that. but at times i feel like i want him as my boyfriend, but i don't really have a crush on him. i also do get jealous when he talks to other girls.
as you can see, i'm a very jealous person. i admit that. i try not to, but everybody around me is just so much better, and i hate not having people notice me the way they notice other people. what should i do? not just with the jealousy thing, but the guys. any kind of advice will be VERY HELPFUL! thanks! (link)
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Well what I see here is that you don't know who to choose well maybe I can help. I can't choose the person for you but I can help you make it easier. Well, the boy you like that has a girl friend should be crossed out of your list. Think reality. If he has a girlfriend that means he really likes her. Imagine you were the girlfriend you wouldn't like no girl on your boyfriends back right?. So I think you should forget about him. He's taken, its up to you. Well your guy friend seems like a really good choice. You could talk to him about whatever. He would actually understand you. I think communication is really important. But you also don't want to make your friendship weired so make sure he feels the same way about you also. The boy you sused to like seems taken to me also by your friend. She seems like she likes it and I don't think you would want to ruin it for her right? Well I hope I helped and I hope you make the right decision. Goodluck!
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