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I'm a pushover :(
Alright, so. 18/f. My best friend is 17/m. There's no other way to say it; I'm a pushover. He's the only one I'm like this with. I know it's not that I have a crush on him, I really don't.
For example, I have a dog. I just got him October 1. I've wanted a dog for 2 years, and wanted this specific dog for maybe 6 months. W, my friend, is a total ass to him. He scares him all the time. Anyone else, and their ass would be mine. But when W does it, I can't say anything. Also, we plan on moving in together. He doesn't like animals. He wants a small house or apartment without a backyard. He doesn't want to leave town. I could easily find a medium sized in another town, with a small backyard, that would be where I kept the dog (with proper shelter, heating and cooling, all the attention he needs and stuff) for cheaper. But if I tell him, he just goes "no, I want this this this this, no animals" If it was my sister or any other friend I'd be like "dammit we're getting a dog and that's final." But with W, I can't.
How can I be more assertive and express my feelings without being bitchy?
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It might be ok to make some of these sacrifices for someone that you loved, but you don't even like him! Why are you moving in with him? That's just going to cause a lot of trouble. You two aren't going to live well together at all. Cancel this arrangement as soon as possible. It doesn't matter how you sound. You just need to say what needs to be said. You're going to get stuck in a situation that you can't get out of. You know how to be assertive, you do it with others. Set his feelings aside for a minute and start thinking of yours. There's no special way to do it, you need to just do it. Good luck.
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Well. It sounds to me like he only wants it his way?. No dog?. He doesn't want to leave town?. I mean if you guys are friends you have to make this decision together not only him. So you have to explain to him that you want that dog and its final tell him your not going 2 give him away or anything similar to that becase you love that dog.tell him in a nice calm way. And if that doesn't work. Think about the fact that he's only wanting things his way?. That's not fair to you. Think that he's your friend ok but you guys have to decide this together.
Also you might want to maybe take turns and see what each of u guys want. Figure it out TOGETHER!
Hope I helped! Good luck
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