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How soon is too soon?
I am 16/f, just to get that out of my way.
Let me just start off by saying, I have been in and out of maybe 6 relationships ever since 9th grade, I am now in 10th, and those have never lasted longer than 2 weeks. Various reasons to be broadly stated.
So I've been off dating field for about 6 months when I meet this great guy and things went good so now we are going out and I am surprise to say that we have been going out for about 3 weeks...(ha yes, 3 weeks isn't long time but it is to me compared to other relationships) and just couple days ago my bf told me, "i know this is a day late(referring to valentines day), but I love you"
and i was COMPLETELY shocked by this. My head is going out of control thinking, how could you love me? how can someone LOVE someone when they known each other for less than a month and have been going out for little over 2 weeks?
I mean i didnt tell him, I just told him that I am really not ready to say I love him, but i really do like him a lot. Which I am glad that he understood perfectly well and wasn't upset in any way.
So I don't regret anything on that, but What my real question is, Is it possible for someone to love someone in that short amount of time?
I mean, I am not doubting his affection for me and his respect for me nor am I really going to ask him but on the back of my mind, I can't help but to wonder, is he really saying that because he mean it?
I mean i did ask if he meant it and he looked at me straight in the eye with serious face...
and also, how do I know if i LOVE him? obviously I have never loved somebody... Yeah i know I am suppose to just "know" if its love but still...
I was thinking of asking him that question... "Define Love"
Thank you
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awww you have a very sweet boyfreind to begin with!
dont worry about haveing to tell weather you luv him or not! you have forever to figure out, get to know him better, and dont feel presured.
youll just KNOW if you love him "love if not a mbaie thing youll exactly know with no doughts if you LOVE him"
just tell him you simply dont want to say somehting your not sure about how you feel, LOVE is REALLY new to you and you dont know much about the feeling,you 2 should just enjoy being together without haveing to be stressed about weather you truely love eachother!
people say hate is a strong word
but then, so is love
&& people throw it around like its
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be gratefull your boyfreiend MEANs it when he said love.....cause souunds like to mee you two are highschool LOVERS.....one day
--ashley
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Loving someone is different than being IN love with someone. He could definitely love you. That would mean he cares about you deeply and thinks about you a lot of the time. Being IN love with him would be different, and if that is what he meant I find it hard to believe he could be in love that quickly, but it's still possible. He may have just wanted to tell you because of Valentine's Day, since it is a typical day to tell someone that.
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Well. Let me start by telling you that there are some people who get in love real fast. And come out of it.maybe he really meant it. Maybe he thought he meant it but really didn't.
You should definetly ask him what love is in his opinion. Just to get to know him alittle more in this topic. Remeber 3 weeks isn't a lot. It all depends on the way you look at it.
You know you love a person when you can't stop thinking about them. When they're always on your mind. When everytime your out with someone else you think about them instead. When every mean word they tell you hurts you more then anything in the world. When life isn't just the same without them. When you get a feeling you never felt before
That's when you know you're in love.
Hope I helped I tried my best!.
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Well ok I have a girlfriend and we have known each other for more over a year. But then we just knew that we liked each other and then like 5 months later I think i told her I loved her it took awhile so my point is that you need to be careful cause I don't think that relationship should go that fast I'm not try to say anything but relationships and things you say should not be that fast. I hope this helped if you need anymore help just let me know and leave it in my inbox. Thanks!!!
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