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I AM TERRIFIED. so i went tanning today.
and when i went in i accidently forgot to press the button to make the lid go down. and i wanted to know how much room you have. like the open area on the side.
and will tanning 3 times really hurt you (link)
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on the area on the side you have like 10ish inches.
i know because my friend goes tanning.
this one girl only went twice, and she got moles so she went to the doctors and they said if she went tanning, or outside in the sun for a long time she would get cancer. not a "could" but she definitely would.
but whatever, you'll probably still go because 'it could never happen to me' but you know what? it could. but hey, have fun chemically treating your skin and inviting the cancer to soak into your pores.
and if you dont go tanning again then i congratulate you in your success in being able to think more seriously about your health.
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I've been having suicidel thoughts leatly, I think it's because I came to a conclusion that I'm a worthless nobody, I'm not good at anything and that I really have no reason to live ,no goal in life or will living.
Please give me some advice how to get this thoughts out of my head...
18 year old male (link)
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well, first off, im sorry you're thinking those things.
as for you being a "worthless nobody" i dont think thats true. everybody is put on the earth for a reason albeit they know it or not.
heres an example.
lets say your walking into a store, and a woman thats had a very bad day is carrying a lot of bags, and you hold open the door for her. that might spark, for even an instant, a sign of happiness in her, and make her day feel better. then maybe on her way home shes driving and sees someone stranded on the road with a kid in teh car, and for some reason decides to stop over and help them. the mother and the child being thankful get help and go home. on their way home being towed in the AAA truck, they might see someone holding out a cup, for extra change, and drop a couple dollars in.
im sorry if this is boring, but basically my point is that God put everybody on the earth for a reason. he's not expecting you to go out and invent some new fuel that cars can use instead of gas, or find a cure for cancer. you can do the tiniest thing and it might make somebodys day better.
as for that you're not good at anything, i can understand, because i've felt like that before. i focused on something that i really loved to do, no matter how silly it might seem, and realized thats what im good at! so sit yourself down, and think about something you love, whether it be your pet, a hobby, or your charasmatic conversations with someone. chances are you're good at something but your mood is keeping you down.
try to hang in there and stay positive! i hate the thought of anyone feeling worthless, and if you ever need anything at all, or just want someone to talk to about something, feel free to ask me.
:) have a nice day
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I was raped and It made it so I was kinda loose and not tight. I really want to be able to feel like I have my virginty. It was a really important thing to me.
Is there any excersises I can do to tighten up my vaginal area? (link)
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as the person below me said, kegel excersizes work fine, just make sure you do them every day at least 10 times, and it'll be fine.
other than that im sorry that happened to you and i hope that you're doing ok now.
:)
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i'm not sure on what thing your suppose to put this in but are you suppose to shave your cat? does boys like it shaved? are you suppose to shave it before you have sex? (link)
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Well just from reading your question I'd say you weren't old enough to have sex yet. It's not a cat, it's a vagina, and there's nothing wrong with typing it, or *gasp* saying it.
As for your actual question, I'd just ask the guy for his opinion. Some like a bikini-shave, others nothing at all, and some like the whole thing shaven. So maybe ask him, and if you dont feel comfortable asking him then just don't have sex at all. If you do actually want to have sex, do it for yourself.
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Can you be forgiven for being gay? Is it really a sin? What if you just want to try it and see what happens are you going to be penalized for that? Can someone help me asap.. these questions are for a friend who really needs it (link)
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like the other chicks said, it all really comes down to what you believe in. in my opinion,you dont need to be forgiven for being gay. God accepts everyone for who they are. you cant help who you are, and theres nothing at all wrong with being gay. people are always afraid of what other people will think but thats just because of all the homophobs out there.
as for trying it out, i would say that a lot of kids in their teens (im guessing?) are finding out more about their sexuality and what they like/dont like. God doenst judge you by what kind of people you like, he judges you by whats inside your heart.
as for the bible thing, i think the bible is a good instrument, for learning. God DID NOT write the bible. some old men, who had very narrow views back then wrote it. not God. you have to read between the lines, and not take everything exactly how it says. for instance when it talks about God drowning all his sons and daughters because they were evil, well, if you were a father or a mother, would you drown your child because they were a brat? no. reading between the lines is something most people have a hard time with, because they/ve been told different.
God loves you for who you are. not who you love. good luck with this, and be yourself.
:)
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Okay i've got a really bad confidence problem.
I feel ugly ALL the time and get jealous when i see pretty girls, i wish that was me.
But like.. im not the ugliest person ever but im not pretty either.
i really need a confidence boost im going on holiday soon with a mate who i totally have a crush on but im gonig to be so ashamed of my looks and body and im going to be totally embarrassed.
How can i get my confidence level up and feel beautiful? (link)
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Like the other peopl said, relationships simply shouldn't be based on looks. If he really likes you he'll see whats on the inside, and appreciate that. Besides, most people put themselves down about their looks, but they aren't actually ugly. The magazines and modeling companies definitely effect the view people have on themselves, whether its pyschological or you can actually notice it. Don't compare yourself to other girls though, because they're doing the same exact thing, comparing themselves to other girls and thinking theyre ugly. Maybe somebodys looking at you and thinking that, you just have to try to stay positive. Also, everyone has something about them that they especially like whther its physical or not, but if you can recognize that, flaunt it babe! Anyway I hope you feel better, and good luck on your date!
Just remember to keep a positive attitude and everything will go fine.
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I'm going to be blunt with this question: the "physical tension" between my ex boyfriend & I has become insane over the last week. What I mean by that is we have the constant need to touch eachother/be close to eachother. I've had feelings for him since the breakup about 5 months ago but we went a while without talking, sometimes exchanging few words (hi, bye, etc). For some reason, something triggered in both of us lately and we've been flirting uncontrollably. I'm unsure whether this means perhaps he is regaining feelings for me as time progresses or if it's just friendly flirting. If anyone could help, it would be MUCH appreciated.
Thank You! (link)
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i think it would depend on the reason why you guys broke up. if either of you cheated, or did something bad, i would think twice before going out with him again to make sure that doenst happen.
well since you guys went out,you obviously like the other person. you probably have things in common and such, but why did you break up? and if you think that would get in the way again, you should either (again) think over the fact if you really want to go out with him, and if you guys do, Great!! but make sure to not let it happen again.
if you do, make sure its for real. he might be missing you, you would be missing him, and you guys just would want to be around eachother. talk to him about it first and see what he says, and if everything works out, than i would go for it.
anyway sorry if this was redundant in any way..
but good luck!
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how do you put a tampon on? are they uncomfortable and hard to put on because I love to swim and I don't want to not be able to swim just because I have my period and I'm not usually the kind of person who sticks things up there..if you know what i mean. will it ever get stuck up there?? (link)
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well, the first couple times you wear them theyre kind of uncomfortable, but thats just because you have to make sure you put it in at the right angle, and if you do, you'll basically forget its in there cuz you cant feel it. you'll get the hang though.
and no, they wont get stuck up there..lol. if the string disappears you can just kinda feel around for it, which is kind of gross, but true.
there are directions on the box you can look at to help you too.
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ok.. me and my mom aren't really close... and like when she tells me stuff like oo i need to buy u a bra or sumtin like oo lets go bra shopping i get like embarrased and she does it like in front of people... so like my friends wouldn't care to come with me cuz they would buy there own.. but i mean iim only 13.. and ive got some boobs.. but im not sure wat size.... but they are like small.. i would be no bigger than a a cup.. .and in bikini size im a medium.. so liek maybe you can tell me by that wat size i am or like wat possible sizes are small.... (link)
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go to the store and get a 32, 34, and 36 A. it sounds like any one of those would fit you. you can also ask a lady that works there for some help on picking one out, or your mom, whoever you would feel more comfortable around.
also here is this website too, for some tips
http://www.figleaves.com/us/fitting_room.asp?cat=100
good luck!
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Everytime I brush my hair it gets really staticky. I use a drier sheet, but like the next time I brush it all the static comes back.
Is there anyway to prevent this? (link)
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you can either brush it when its wet, like if your in the shower (which is what i have to do) or, you can spray "Rusk, Shining". which is what i use. and im pretty sure you can get it at rite aid or cvs... and then comb your hair. it'll keep it less staticky, and it'll be shiny and smooth
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Me and my boyfriend were just talking and stuff (we've been together for a lil over a month) we went out before in the summer and that lasted almost 4 months but anyways he told me im the only girl he ever loved n stuff and how much i mean to him and he told my best friend one of his wishes and its nothing gross or anything but idk is this a weird wish for a guy to want?
he wants to marry me when we are older... like 6-7 years from now.
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no. i know people that were going out in 8th grade and are still going out. they want to get married....idk if they will (still in highschool) but he seems to want to stick around. even though it freaks you out i think its good he wants that because at least you know hes not going to run!
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I really would like to make more guy friends. Guys talk to me and stuff, but how do I develop a friendship with them? I'll give all 5's. Thanks (link)
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well, for one, just be yourself. also, like the person below me said, dont talk about girly stuff that much. i dont think they'll mind once in a while but dont be like "do these pants make me look fat?" or anything like that because then theyll just stare at you. scope out guys that you want to be your friend, and after you find some that you like just start talking to them, and act friendly. after a while just like sit next to them in class or whatever and if you see them at a basketball game or something go over and say hi. dont rush it though or they might think you want to go out with t hem or something...but that should work
gl babe
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hey evryone
Do you know those color decoders for clothing- like you wear this color is you feel.... ? can anyone give me some (if you know what im talking about) thanks in advance and ill rate 5s for answers- thanks! (link)
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blue- calm and peaceful
green- nature
yellow- happy
red- passionate and enthusiastic
white- pure and innocent
black- sexy and mysterious
purple- royal, and feeling good about yourself
pink- girly and happy
orange- bouncy and positive attitude
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Okay, I wasn't sure if this was good enough for the health section, but I was just wondering about something.
A little over a year ago a friend of mine was in a car accident due to drinking and driving and she didn't make it. I was completely torn up about it. I wouldn't say that I'm over it now, but I've found other ways to deal with it.
Recently another friend of mine was in a car wreck and was injured pretty badly. The first week or so that he was in the hospital he was in a lot of pain but he was there. He understood what we said to him and he could talk back to us clearly. By the end of the 1st month it was just like something was eating away at him, he was like a mentally ill person. You couldn't understand what he was saying, and well I don't know if he could understand me. He lives in a different state than I do (I moved away a few years ago) but we still kept in close contact after I moved, he even helped me through the death of the friend I mentioned above. I owe him (and a few others) my life. But anyway, about a week ago his health completely deteriorated. He is now in a coma and I feel really guilty because I have shown no emotion whatsoever. I'm living my life just like I did before. I cried once and that is when I found out. And that kind of scares me. I am not that much of an emotional person, but when somebody like a brother to me is in a coma and his mom doesn't really love him (she used to abuse him) and wants to pull the plug thing that is keeping him alive (sorry, I don't know what it's called) because she is sick of paying for her sons mistakes (she told me that when I talked to her) I just don't know what I should be feeling.
How come I'm not feeling anything? Is it wrong not to be feeling anything knowing that such a great person and somebody so close to me may die?
I don't know, I'm just confused, I needed to vent and just see if anyone else has experienced or knows somebody who has experienced something like this. I just kind of found it weird that I was sooo devastated when it came to my one friends death, and now this person, and I've cried maybe once...
Oh 15/f (link)
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you're not a bad person, it just seems like it came as a shock to you so maybe you just havent actually accepted it yet. maybe you were also just closer to the other person than you are to this person in a coma..visit them in the hospital if you havent already just to say hi (well, you know what i mean) and see how he's doing. people also respond differently to situations so it might just be that too.
anyway, im sorry about your friends and i hope this helped a little bit...
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I just realized that I have this weird binging habit. When nobody's home, or when I'm at a friend's house, I find myself eating insane amounts of food.
Is there a way that I can force myself to control it? (link)
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it sounds to me like you're just bored...if you want to do something to keep yourself from thinking about eating i would reccomend:
-painting your nails (especially with the smell)
-reading
-calling a friend
-listening to music and dancing around
and also about your eating, just eat breakfast, lunch and dinner, and have 1 snack inbetween or something.
gl babe
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I've been going out with this guy for ages. He seems perfect. He has a great body etc etc. Thing is i have loads in common with this other guy, and i really like him. I go all girly everytime i see him. I really really like him! Im 15 and my bf is 17. The guy I like is in the year below me. Hes not the best looking either. But when my boyfriend and i have sex all i think about is this other guy. What shall i do? (link)
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It seems that you like the guy a year below you more than your like your boyfriend. i mean, if you're imagining its him and not your bf when youre having sex, thats definitely a big signal. stay with your bf for another week or two and see how you feel, but if it was me i would go with my heart and date the other guy.
gl babe
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i've been really stressed lately and i finally cracked. yesterday night i was working on homework late at night and i just started crying. over all the things that are wrong in my life and it seems like theres nothing left to be happy about and im just not happy with my life right now. i dont know what to do. (link)
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aw im sorry sweetie, but try not to get too upset or it might make things worse. first, i'd like to say, this happened to me i think...3 years ago. well the homework thing. im not sure whats happening in your personal life, so i cant relate, but i used to get soooo stressed out with homework. i would do it for like 4 hours each night, but enough about me. basically what i did, is set up times for homework. i would get home, and take an hour to get have a snack and watch tv or whatever, and the i'd do homework for an hour. then take a half hour break, and start homework again. it might take you a little longer but trust me, it definitely helps you get relaxed. also you could try doing yoga or meditating because if im wicked stressed i'll do that and, for me at least, it calms me down very much so. i just turn on my red light and listen to music and do stretches, but maybe its something different for you...either way you could give it a shot.
well i hope this helped somewhat, and goodluck with your homework babe.
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I started going out with this guy that I really like and he's turning 17 real soon and I'm his 1st gf. Well he sweet and nice and everything I like but he's missing one thing he needs to intimacy just like a LITTLE freak to him he's so shy and stuff and I want to just get something I mean he hugs me but I need MORE!!! How can I get that to him without me saying it .... HELP! (link)
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i think you should just take initiative and just start hugging him and being more cuddly or whatever. he might get the hint. if not just be like "im cold" or something like that, or if you watch a movie and the people start like making out or w/e you can just wink at him and be like "maybe we should try that" and say it like its a suggestive joke type thing...hopefully that works though
good luck hun
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ok so over the summer i became best friends with this girl and we did everything togeter. but since we started highschool everything has changed. she wont talk to me and when she does its aways negative. i really cant stand it anymore and my other friends are sick of listeing to me. i come home and go in my room and i dont want to talk to anyone except her and try to work things out. but i do want to talk to some one like one of my favorite teachers who i think could really help because she knows whats going on but i dont know how to approach her and as her about it. someone help! (link)
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well first, im sorry that your friend is being a jerk. it seems to me that she is acting different around her friends, maybe if you approach her when shes by herself she'll act the same during the summer. if that doenst happen and she still acts like a jerk, then she was probably just using you. which is sad, but it might be true. i would definitely suggest talking to a teacher or your parents maybe..if you feel close enough to him/her.
good luck sweetie
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