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Ex Boyfriend Issues
I'm going to be blunt with this question: the "physical tension" between my ex boyfriend & I has become insane over the last week. What I mean by that is we have the constant need to touch eachother/be close to eachother. I've had feelings for him since the breakup about 5 months ago but we went a while without talking, sometimes exchanging few words (hi, bye, etc). For some reason, something triggered in both of us lately and we've been flirting uncontrollably. I'm unsure whether this means perhaps he is regaining feelings for me as time progresses or if it's just friendly flirting. If anyone could help, it would be MUCH appreciated.
Thank You!
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i think it would depend on the reason why you guys broke up. if either of you cheated, or did something bad, i would think twice before going out with him again to make sure that doenst happen.
well since you guys went out,you obviously like the other person. you probably have things in common and such, but why did you break up? and if you think that would get in the way again, you should either (again) think over the fact if you really want to go out with him, and if you guys do, Great!! but make sure to not let it happen again.
if you do, make sure its for real. he might be missing you, you would be missing him, and you guys just would want to be around eachother. talk to him about it first and see what he says, and if everything works out, than i would go for it.
anyway sorry if this was redundant in any way..
but good luck!
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As with so many questions like this what jumps out at me is the fact that instead of mentioning how you feel and what you want, you focus on what his actions might mean he wants.
Face facts; unless you ask him, subtly or directly, where he thinks this flirting is going, you wont know for sure. So let go of those worries, his feelings are beyond your control, and he is not the only person whose feelings are important here.
So, leaving the speculation behind for moment, lets focus on what you want. Do you want these flirtations to mean something? Are you interested in returning to some sort of relationship with this guy? Are you attracted to him as a partner or is this flirting just satisfying some more basic need in you to be attractive and liked?
Any answer is good, but until you decide what you want, it doesn't really matter what his feelings are. Maybe he is interested, maybe he just feels good about flirting with you and this is the kind of friendship he wants to have with you. Examine your own feelings first and act on them. If you want to see how deep his feelings are and where this might go, step up from the flirting to the actual talking and going out. If you aren't interested, tone it down and keep your eyes open for someone you are interested in.
You don't need to wait around for a guy to 'pick' you, you get to pick them too.
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