I'm Suki. I love to see the first bloom of a wild rose, to smell the salt spray of an ocean breeze, to hear the laughter of little children at play. Oh no, wait - That's somebody else.
Gender: Female
Location: United States
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Member Since: September 5, 2005
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Last Update: August 29, 2006
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my friend is a freak how can i stop her from going out with this guy who is bisexual? (link)
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You can't.
Fucking deal with it.
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Sometimes I like a guy for a while, then I REALLY like him, then I don't think I like him at all and I see him again and I like him...agian. This all happens in one day. Is this normal? (link)
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Yeah. Most teenagers think like that.
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i think im pushing people away but i dont know why. ive only liked a couple of guys in my lifetime (im 17/f) and what happens is i really really like them, but then when they start to like me back, i begin to find them repulsive. for no reason at all. i dont understand. nothing about them changes at all, i just decide that i hate them. why do i do this?? (link)
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Perhaps you just like the chase. Meaning, you like trying to get them, but not actually having them.
If this is not it, you could just hate letting people get close to you.
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ok well i really like this guy and he wants me to go over his house and i want to (hes been to my house before and lets say me n him kissed **a few times**)but everytime he hangs out with a girl something happens weather its just a kiss or sex. and i wouldnt have a problem with this but after i found out that he only likes me as a friend and that he likes my cousin things changed...a few weeks ago before i found out that he didnt like me or before i found out that he liked my cousin he told me he wanted to finger me and i said ok but now that he likes my cousin should i go over his house when i no something is gonna happen? (link)
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No. He isn't worth your time.
I hate womanizers.
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I'm having a Halloween/ Birthday party today and I rented Amutiville Horror and Texas Chainsaw Massaccre. I was wondering are they really scary, like should I be watching the,? (i'm 13) (link)
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No, I did not think they were scary at all. My friend actually fell asleep during the Amityville Horror and we live about two towns away from that house, so yeah. I'm a horror movie addict, and in the world of horror movies, these weren't frightning.
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really long story but i need all the help i can get!
well my X-friend, sarah, has a popular friend.
well they just became friends.
heres the story:
sarah and i made plans wedensday to do something thursday, she cancelled plans saying she was tiared and wanted to rest so i can come over tomorrow and she can by hyper.
so i said okay.. shure. tomorrows fine! but my sister is going up to look at colleges and so i need to know.. around 1045 or 11? and she said OKAY
and so we had plans and i was waiting for her to get online around 11 am because thats when shes always online.. so i said to myself "oaky she must be still sleeping"
"mom im not going to look at colleges with you and melissa, sarah can probally pick me up, worse comes to worse i wont get there." they said okay and left.
s0o i waited around untill 9oclock at NIGHT waiting for her to sign on, i called her moms house multipal times (said to call her dads house), her dads (no answer)and her cell phone millions of times. with no answer.
so then she finallu signed on about 10 o clock at night.. and
i said "WHERE WERE YOU!!!"
and she said "Katies house with tori, whats up?"
and i said "dude, we had PLANS today!"
she said: "no we didnt....."
i felt her tention of freaking out because she knows we did
she said: "it wasnt offical plans!"
i said: "well yes it was u said ill im u around 11 with the time you can get picked up!"
she said: " so that doesnt mean i can pick you up!"
i said: "well yes it does it even says it!"
(i was sending the real convo)
and then i got a IM from katie, she has never talked to me Before on AIM so i was trying to act like nothing is going between us, but wait. SARAHS AT KATIES HOUSE!
kaite: hey
me: whats upp
katie: why you messin wit my b1tch?
me: shes "messin" up "wit" my "l1fely" plans!
katie: so what she wants to hang out with popular people and not people like you, who are posers and infact fake their lives second by second.
me: my life is all true, but i got to go theres a emergency in my family, bye.
katie: yep, whats what i thought, there aint no emegency in yo family cept that im going to mess you up.
Me: you rnt going to lay a finger one me.
me: i have to go bye
katie: thats wht i thought.
Katie: your just scared
then Tori ims me
tori: whats going on with your family?
me: my grandma is about to die i have to go BYE!
Me signs off at 1136 PM.
then some reason i got a message saying "your screenname has been signed on in 2 locations and youve been kicked off" or something like that.
then my friend, mike left varies of messages and caling my cell phone. saying "your online but you rnt talking to me whats up"
me- im not online im at the hospital.
him-really what happened?
me - my g-ma is teribally sick and is about to die.
him- that sucks tell her to feel better, quickly.
me-thanks but it wont happen.
him- sarah imed me saying to calm you down
me- WHAT? im not even iming her
him- holy crap shes sending me the messages... its like I HATE YOU FOR CANCELING LIKE THAT!
and so on.. please help me and tell me if shes worth the friend i should get back (tori and sarah) and maybe a new fiend katie. but i dont know help!
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People change themselves to be popular all the time. It's life, unfortunately. Even if Sarah was once a good friend, you are going to have to let that go. It is obvious that she doesn't want to be friends with you anymore. In the real world, bitches like Katie and Sarah and them aren't going to get -anywhere-. I can almost guarantee it. Plus, if you hang out with assholes like that, people start to assume that you are like them. Ignore them. If they start shit with you, talk back. Then just move on with your life.
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i got mi period last month and this is my second month and it started up again last night and there is a lot i mean ALOT of blood from my period it seems to be uncontrolable is that normal!? ( and when i woke up in my pad the blood was all over the place)! sorry this is kinda gross
ill rate 5's!!!! (link)
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Yeah, this is normal. Some girls just bleed more heavily than others. Plus, since you are only starting, it will take your body time to have a regular period. So yeah, completely normal.
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when i get my period there are dark red goey blobs in my pad is that normal?
ill rate (link)
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Yes. Most, if not all, people have the same thing.
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I'm turning 16 soon and I've never had a boyfriend, never been kissed. It's making me wonder if there is something wrong with me. Is there anyone else out there around my age who has never had a boyfriend? I know this isn't exactly an advice question, but it'd make me feel better if I knew there were other girls out there like me!! (link)
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Yes. There are many people who have never had a boyfriend. It is just that most teenage girls are whores. Don't compare yourself to them.
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i feel that im being abused by words.. is that possibal?
and im 13/f and would i be able to call a abuse line? and get my mom taken away from me?
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Well, it depends on what the words are. Verbal abuse -is- a form of abuse.
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so yeah this might be a long story so apologies in advance xx
ma best boy mate *bob* told me that he was bisexual and he also told him best male friend *fred*. ... btw he hasnt told his family because he dad is extremely (sp?) homophobic aslo fred is really homophobic, he hates bob for it but i cant see a problem. but why do i feel so heartbroken? i mean me and bob are very close friends and we talk about anything. i burst into tears. but i have a huuuge crush on fred :| and i had to tell bob. i was going to get with fred at a party on monday. i just feel so stuck in the middle, bob hates fred and never wants to speak to him again, but i like fred.
what should i do?
-stuck in the middle :(
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Stay with Bob. Tell Fred that Bob is still the same exact person he was before he mentioned he was bi, only now he isn't hiding a big secret from him. If Fred is an asshole about it, he isn't the kind of guy you want to hang out with.
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Hey advicenators! =P
What do you think should be the curfew for a 15 year old girl? I'm asking this because I'm going to the movies with my guy friend and my parents want me home at 10pm. I'm a very trustworthy person and I WON'T have sex with him, that's for sure. He's only a friend. I'm kinda pissed about this because I want to stay out later, but they're strict & say only 10pm. I know I'm lucky because some kids can't even go out with friends yet. But, what do you guys think? Thanks. (link)
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It depends if it is a school night. I guess I would say most people I know had curfews somewhere between 11pm-12am when they were fifteen. However, there were the extremes (such as my friend who couldn't even go out alone with friends). My parents were never strict on curfews, I never had any. I could just come home at 5 or 6am and no one would say anything. I think that curfews are overrated, but everyone has their own opinion.
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Sorry, this is something of a long story, bear with me...
To cut a very long story into a long one, one day in Maths I was tired and didn't have a lot to say. My best friend took it that I was ignoring her (I would speak if she spoke to me though) and decided to ignore me for the next week. Things were a little iffy the next time I had Maths with her (a week later) as I had started to realise she was being off towards me. I was tired again though, and would happily have spoken to her if she spoke to me but she never bothered, and so nor did I. When she had been ignoring me for a week, why should I? I was still talking to her over MSN later in the day (although she barely replied) so I don't know why she thought I was ignoring her.
After that 2nd Maths lesson, though, she made it incredibly clear that she wanted nothing to do with me. She was supposed to be coming to my 16th but instead organised a party herself on the same day and asked a bunch of my friends so they couldn't come to mine. She never bothered to tell me about this - I found out through other people. As far as I was concerned, she could have still been coming to my party as she had never actually said she wasn't going to! It was really rude if I'm honest and it upset me a lot.
So one night I told her over MSN that I assumed she wasn't coming to my party anymore as she was now having her own. She basically accused me of ignoring her for three weeks and acting like I 'didn't want her there' whenever I did speak to her - when she was the one who hadn't started up a convo with me for over a month! Once she started ignoring me, I realised I was the one putting all the effort into this friendship and, true to form, I ended up apologising for ignoring her when I hadn't just to get our friendship back. She didn't apologise at all to me and actually went off to watch TV in the middle of the convo, not to mention calling me a geek about five minutes after she deemed I had grovelled enough! Yes, I was a doormat, but I really liked her as a friend and missed her. At that point I would have done anything to get her friendship back.
The next day was Maths again and she sat with other people.
Needless to say, I was very hurt and asked her why later on. I got back 'I dunno, I told *name* I would sit with her'. I still kept convos going on over MSN and smiled at her in school at stuff but she's gradually been ignoring me more and more once again.
The next Maths lesson (isn't it funny how it all seems to revolve around Math?), a girl called Nic was moved over to my friend's new table for talking. Nic is in my Drama class and later called me over to ask if me and my friend were mates. I told her we had fought a bit but made friends about a week ago. Nic told me that that wasn't what my 'friend' had being saying in Maths that day.
I just need to point out that Nic must be telling the truth because *name*, who I mentioned earlier and who sits on that table, looked very awkward when I asked her what was said and replied 'she was just saying what you said to Nic, but more complicated.' Which means she was bitching about me. Nic also would have no way of knowing about me and my friend falling out if my friend hadn't said something herself.
This has really upset me! She is supposed to be my friend. I want to know what she was saying and why she was saying it. As I only sit a table away, I'm simply considering saying 'Oh btw what were you saying about me in Maths?' as it's quite plausable that I could have overheard her. My question is: what do you think I should say to her? Should I say anything or just forget it? Is it really worth forgetting when she was so lovely before all this? And what happens if she denies ever saying anything? I don't want to drag Nic into it because I don't want her to get in trouble for spreading stuff.
I'm truly sorry for the length, but it all needed to be in there to fully explain and trust me this is shortened lol!! xxx (link)
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This has actually happened to me many times. Do -not- try to get her back as a friend. Even if you had a great time with her previously. People change. They come in and out of your life all the time. If she is a bad friend, which she sure as hell sounds like, get out of it as soon as possible. Either just completely drop it, and do not say anything to her. She won't say shit to you either most likely, since she is ignoring you. Or, you could confront her, and tell her to stop bitching about you to other people. Make it blunt, if you do that though. Do not be her doormat.
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Okay, my friend (we'll call her mary) and I are about the same size, except i'm a bit leaner because i'm tall and stuff. But she ALWAYS wants to borrow my clothes. I didn't mind at first but now it's coming to every day -- she sees what i'm wearing and says "I'm borrowing that." Also, our other friend is like 2 sizes smaller than us but "mary" has even borrowed clothes from her. "Mary" has worn my petite friend's favorite hoodie more times than she has!
Its really starting to get on both of our nerves. During the summer I let her borrow one of my coolest skirts and she got a stain on it. Yeah, it's tiny. But I mean, come on. Also, she always says I can borrow any of her clothes whenever I want when she borrows mine. But the truth is, her fashion sense sucks. All she does is buy brand names and the clothes are usually the wrong size for her because shes in denial about being a size xlarge. So, she gives the clothes to our small friend who could practically wear them as nightshirts their so big on her. Anyway, so should I just keep kinda ignoring her requests to borrow my clothes or just let her borrow them once in awhile to keep her sated? Or just outright tell her that she stretches out my clothes? WHAT? (link)
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You should just tell her the truth.
If that is too hard (which sometimes it is) make up an excuse. Say you need to wear it later on that week. Or say your parents won't let you lend out clothes anymore.
Slowly start to let her borrow clothes less and less. Sooner or later, she'll find someone else to borrow from.
I mean, it is okay to lend people clothes but only once in a while. Not every day.
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I got a lunch detention for saying "dumb". I was teling my friend about how this girl said to me "omg how did you not know that your so dumb!" and he told me I had a lunch detention. Does anyone think this was unfair? I didn't put anyone down or anything (link)
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Yes, that was very unfair. Teachers never give people time to explain. --".
Actually, yesterday a similar situation happened to me. My friend and I are complaining to the school about it. You should also. Get your parents to complain if possible, because complaints come off better when they are from an adult. Schools do not take the students seriously, unfortunately.
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who sings the song with the lyrics, i like big butts and cannot lie...? (link)
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Sir Mix A Lot.
And Throwdown did one also.
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A guy who i REALLY like left me a message on IM saying HEY HOLLA HOLLA HOLLA! (link)
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It could mean a few things, depending on the context:
-A term used to talk or try to hook up with someone of the opposite sex.
-A term meaning to talk to someone or telling them to talk to you later.
-Annoying way to replace punctuation in a sentence.
-A word used to acknowledge the presence of a fellow companion.
-To contact via telephone.
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hey do you know where papaya is in orange county? (link)
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1600 S Azusa Ave # 361, City of Industry, CA (22.65 miles away)
626-965-6200
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This one girl invited me to her birthday party I dont want to be mean and say no because that'll be men does anybody know any good excuses and PLEASE HURRY. (link)
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You have other plans.
You are punished.
You are sick.
You have a family emergency.
You are going to a funeral/wedding.
You already said yes to another party.
Your family is making you go somewhere with them.
Or you could just say the ever popular "I don't like you and do not want to go."
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idk wut category this goes under. :oP
BUT
is it bad to sleep with eyeliner/maschera on? (link)
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Yeah, it could irritate your eyes and give you an eye infection. However, I wear very heavy eye makeup and occasionally fall asleep with it on, and nothing like that has ever happened to me.
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