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am i pushing them away?
i think im pushing people away but i dont know why. ive only liked a couple of guys in my lifetime (im 17/f) and what happens is i really really like them, but then when they start to like me back, i begin to find them repulsive. for no reason at all. i dont understand. nothing about them changes at all, i just decide that i hate them. why do i do this??
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yeah i have the same problem i dont know about your previous relationships but if you have had a relationship where the guy dumped you then that might be the problem when you like them then they start to like you, you automaticlly think there going to let me down and break up with me i dunno if thats your case but thats usually whats the problem is when you push them away. next time you like a guy dont completly let your guard down but dont shut your self out from them and give them a chance because you never know if that one you pushed away could really be the "one" well i hope i helped if not dont be afriad to rate bad if you have any other questions drop by my column sometime! ♥ Kelley ♥
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Maybe you do this because you are scared of possibly being rejected or eventually being broken up with. Try to open up and allow youself to continue thinking of them in the same way. Good Luck!
Brandi && Alix
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Perhaps you just like the chase. Meaning, you like trying to get them, but not actually having them.
If this is not it, you could just hate letting people get close to you.
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Groucho Marks had a saying, "I don't want to be in any club that will have me." As a psychology student, I believe that what it comes down to is your own insecurities. Perhaps subconsiously you are thinking "if they like me, whats wrong with them?" perhaps you should look deeper into how you feel about yourself and how your self worth is doing. I think that's what this is really about.
Maggie
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That's what happened to me... so I went and I talked to a physic. about it and they told me that they had many situations like this before and that they learned that you just need to take your time and then the right guy will come along.
xoxoxo
p.s. that sounded really cheezy but.. w.e
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its normal everyone does that. i too push guys away when they get to close because i'm afraid i'll get hurt or rejected in the end. no one wants to be rejected but thats life everyone is rejected once on awhile. you probably do that to guys because you want to protect yourself and not get hurt which is totally understandable.
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I think you act like that is because you look at the outside of the guy. When you find interest in them you dont see anything wrog butwhen they find interest in you, they try they hardest to impress you which doesn't work. You should more deeper into a guy. What you might think is not cute can actually make you feel good in the end.
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