Okay everyone, my actual name isn't Maggie. In fact, it isn't even remotely close to the name Maggie but I use it as sort of an "alter ego".
I do this so that you can ask me any questions and not be worried that I'm actually your sister's boyfriend's best friend.
I am studying to be a therapist so go ahead and ask all the questions you want to. Topic doesn't matter: love, sex, friendship, passion, work, school, family. Anything goes here on Go Ask Maggie.
Website: Go Ask Maggie
Gender: Female
Location: New Jersey
Member Since: October 14, 2005
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My best friends parents just told her that they are getting a divorce. I don't know what to say to her. I basically said "I am soooo sorry" and "this should be happening to you" I also toldh er tha ti am always there for her she can call me anytime, it doesn't matter if its 12 midnight, and she can come over whenever, she doesn't hav eto call or nothin' i don't know what else to say. HELP!!!! (link)
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You can't really say anything else. It's honestly not up to you to give her answers, its just up to you to be supportive. Be a good friend and don't treat her any differently because of what she's going through. If she brings the topic up all you can really do is to be understanding to the best of your abilities.
Maggs&hearts
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my little sister is 11 turning 12 in a couple of months and is confused about what to be. Any ideas?
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Always popular choices:
-fairy (go big on the sparkles at that age)
-baby (pacifier&pajamas. hair in pigtails)
-cheerleader
-cat
-a disney character (tigger, tinkerbelle, minnie mouse are always cute)
Good Luck!
Maggie
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When I get made at my mom because of something she said to me or something she wont let me do I get really really upset and basically start talking back to her and saying things I shouldn't then storm upstairs. After a few minutes of being unbelievably mad, I realize that I over reacted and go back down stairs and ask her if she needs help or something. It happens all the time. And because I do it alot, my mom now thinks I have mood swings. But, I don't, I just always feel sorry about the way I talked to her. I know it's something I need to change and I'm working on it because I know I shouldn't treat her that way. But, while I’m working on it, how can I convince her that I do not have mood swings? (link)
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You can't convince her of anything. She will believe what she wants to believe and if that is that you have mood swings, you can't change that. I believe you, though. I used to do the exact same thing with my mother. You are just a generally sensitive person and you are able minded enough to feel for other people. You are also mature enough to admit you were wrong which is a good thing. True, you shouldn't treat your mom that way but as long as you apologize and own up to your errors and try your hardest not to do it much, its okay.
Maggie
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okay, so i REALLY like this guy.. and he says he likes me.. and we are liked "together" but not going out.. like we are basically dating.. but we have a commitment like we cant date other people. and he comes to my house every friday and he like kisses me and holds my hand and stuff.. but he will hardly ever hug me at school.. is he just playing a gam? (link)
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No, I don't think he is. I used to have a friend who had a boyfriend who flat out refused to show affection in public. Alot of the time, this is due to the boyfriend's fears of what people will say about him (not about him and you as a couple but about him specifically) Sometimes, guys just don't like to show affection in public at all so dont be concerned
Maggie
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i was just wondering...what does a spider bite look like? The other day I had this reddish looking thing on my chest...and now two red dots in a row on my pinky. Are these spider bites!??! (link)
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The one on your pinky is for sure a spider bite because spider bites create marks in a line pattern. If you could describe the reddish thing on your chest in further detail I could help with that too. Just drop one in my inbox!
Maggs
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i think im pushing people away but i dont know why. ive only liked a couple of guys in my lifetime (im 17/f) and what happens is i really really like them, but then when they start to like me back, i begin to find them repulsive. for no reason at all. i dont understand. nothing about them changes at all, i just decide that i hate them. why do i do this?? (link)
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Groucho Marks had a saying, "I don't want to be in any club that will have me." As a psychology student, I believe that what it comes down to is your own insecurities. Perhaps subconsiously you are thinking "if they like me, whats wrong with them?" perhaps you should look deeper into how you feel about yourself and how your self worth is doing. I think that's what this is really about.
Maggie
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How do you Know when your ready like iv had sex before and i thought i was ready but i guess i wasnt cuz i regreted big time (link)
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You know that your ready when you go into sex having no qualms about it and you come out completely satisfied (not neccessarily sexually satisfied but satisfied with your desicion to have sex)
Sounds like you weren't very ready
Maggie
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This sounds like a really childish question to ask but..thongs.
My mom thinks they give the wrong message across when a 14 year old wears them.
But I still want to wear them because I hate it when you can see the panty lines. They're just so ugly!
They make me feel weird knowing that you can see them! I hate it. There's probably nothing wrong with it, but I still don't like it.
I don't know what to do though. I wear boy shorts alot, they don't show as many lines but I don't really like them. I wanna feel comfortable.
My friend told me to just confront my mom and tell her that I don't like the lines I get with regular panties but I can't do that, LOL. I don't know why.
Any suggestions? (link)
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Confront your mother and explain about the panty lines. Also, assure her that you aren't doing it to look sexy, you just dont want panty lines and want to be comfortable.
Maggie
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I have been going out with my boyfriend for a few days now and what are some things I could do to show him that I am a really good girl to be with and stuff that would make his day? (link)
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Don't go too far, considering the fact that you have only been going out for a matter of DAYS but you can always be nice and do cute things for him. You can send him flowers ONCE IN A WHILE or write him sweet little notes just telling him you care.
Just don't go overboard and be yourself. That was the thing that attracted him to you in the first place!
Maggie
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my bestfriend that's a girl just broke up with her boyfriend today i really like her and have liked her for two years i don't want to be her rebounder but i still want to go out(m13) (link)
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Wait on telling her what's on your mind. She's still probably hurting a little bit from this last relationship so you should give her time. Possibly even up to 4 months. If you've waited 2 years for her, I think you can wait a little longer. By waiting, you will give her a chance to get over things so that your not just a rebounder.
Hope that helped!
Maggie
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what do i wear? the invite says "dressy casual"?
13/m (link)
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a nice pants suit. Slacks and a jacket will do. No tie required.
Maggie
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So me and my boyfriend are having sex and hes been going in me cause im on the pill. Yea I know statistics so please dont lecture me... and we lost our virginity with each other... anyways question is, how do you keep everything in without it all leaking out?
I also get this discharge and when I orgasm its like a waterfall, so it gets everywhere.. how do i control that too? (link)
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I hate to say, you really can't control it. Don't worry about it either. It's just like a guy's cum. Alot of guys find it hot so hopefully it won't be a problem. If you're really uncomfortable, do it in a bathtub or on a bathroom floor where it's easy to clean up right after you orgasm. Perhaps right after you orgasm and cum you could move into the bedroom and clean up later.
Hope I was helpful
Maggie
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Well i have this friend lets call him albert.. well okay (SORRY IF THIS IS LONG ILL RATE 5s FOR SERIOUS ANSWERS) so i have known albert since 2nd grade.. and well i need opinions on this.. okay so
1.) Albert is always flirty, touchy, smiley, etc. around me
2.) I asked his friend how he was around people he liked and he said that list above (but thats how he always is around me so im not sure)
3.) Me albert and melinda (other friend not really important) were playing in the snow.. and he always kept tackling me and throwing me in the snow and jumping one me and not letting me get up.
4.) Once i was saying about how no one liked me and stuff and he said thaat i was wrong and i told him he couldnt argue and he said he could etc.
5.) One day albert was preforming in some kind of club and he came over and was talking to me for most of the time and poking me etc. and then hugged me later on.
6.) One morning before school he came up to me and he put his arm around me (lower back not shoulder) and just stood there.
7.) Once when i was mad at him he asked all of my friends why and my one friend told me that he "flipped" out and was asking why he was mad and stuff like that
8.) He complimented me on my earings at my friends party
9.) He kind of kept moving towards me at my friends party and kept poking me and when he was sitting down he kept telling me to sit next to him.
10.) He told me that i should go to my friends party (more than once)
11.) I told him that some kid said to me i hate you you suck and he was like his life and face suck and that he hated him..
12.) He once told me if anything was seriously wrong i would be one of the first to know
13.) Once i asked him who he liked and he told me he couldnt tell me and he said his friend would tell me the next morning and his friend was like can i tell her can i tell her and he was like no.. and then he said something to him and he was like okay.. and he said some girl and then i found out he liked someone else too.. but he wouldnt tell me who that was.
WHAT IN YOUR OPINION DO YOU THINK? DO YOU THINK HE LIKES ME AS MORE THAN FRIENDS OR JUST AS FRIENDS?
thnx 4 your help (link)
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Trust me, girlie, either Albery really really likes you, or he's gay.
;-)
Maggs
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okay this is for girls but hey if your a guy and you know what your talking about go ahead...so i put eyeliner on and like by the time im at school its wearing off and when i get home its gone and like under my eyes..ahh what can i do..
il rate HIGH (link)
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Same thing used to happen to me. Try a waterproof eyeliner from Mary Kay or Revlon. They may seem more pricey but they'll serve you better in the long run.
Maggs
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im only 13/f and i have had 3 boyfriends but never done anything more than hold hands and hug?? i havent even gotten my first kiss! is there some way i can get it soon or do i just have to wait?? i rate high! (link)
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I didn't have my first kiss until I have fourteen. I wouldn't be concerned. I know that it seems like everyone is way ahead of you but trust me, years later, you will find out that they actually weren't. Don't rush things, it will all work out naturally.
Maggs
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hey i am 13 and i waz just wunderin how do u exactly dry a bra i rate well real well so...plz help me (link)
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You can dry a bra in the dryer. Either that or hang it out on a clothesline. In fact, you could probably dry it with a blow dryer if neccessary. No worries!
Maggie
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okay so i met this guy hes soooooo freaking nice to me, we talk all the time. and he told me he liked me and stuff but last thursday he hooked up with this BEAUTIFUL girl. and then on homecomign i hear he has a girlfriend and hes all over like every freaking girl.im the type who gets jealus real easy. but we made up or whatever and he came over again yesturday we didnt hook up like usual we just kissed. hes a senior and im a freshman. and i dont know why i belive him when he says he likes me. but hes soo nice. and he told my friends he liked me andd stuff but he is considered a man whore. people even tolld me its funny that i think he likes me, but i cannot help it. (link)
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Personally, I think that the whole senior-freshman thing isn't very good out of the strating gate. He's obviously looking just to hook up and have a good time so if your looking for something more stable and someone that will only have eyes for you, he doens't sound like your man. Sorry
Maggs
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there is this girl that i've liked since 2nd grade and i like her even more.i am now in 9th grade and i think she is the one but i am afraid to ask her out because i am afraid she will say no. so what should i do?i am a male. (link)
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Hi male,
Look, my personal experience is one of the same type of situation. You response depends on the following question:
Do you think she is "the one" for life or "the one" for highschool?
For Life: If you really think that she could be the one that you will marry, wait on telling her. It's too dangerous right now and you've still got time. Wait until end of sophmore year/beginning of junior year. You want to make sure that your timing is apprpriate. Then again, if she's really the one that you think she is, it will work itself out no matter what kind of timing you use.
For Highschool: Talk to her now! Carpe Diem! Seize the day! You only live once and if you think that she wil help to fufill and enrich your highschool years then by all means, tell her how you feel.
Maggie
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we're goin to the movies on friday and i wanna get close to my gf. any tips? i'm gonna kisser too. (link)
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Okay, this one's simple.
-Being nervous is okay. She is probably just as nervous as you are, if not more.
-Don't plan ahead too much. Sure, you can have that ideal about kissing your girlfriend but don't expect that everything is going to be just as you imagined it. Just see what comes naturally. If you want to kiss her and she wants to kiss you, it will happen.
-Hold her hand and cuddle with her and do all of that mushy gushy stuff that girls love and that guys hate to admit they love.
Hope my tips helped! Have fun!
Maggs
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I want to try out for cheerleading. I have never cheered before a day in my life. I just want to do it now, even though I will be tryin out when I am a sophmore cheering my junior year. Need some tips and fast. Do I need to workout? Please help. (link)
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I can't say that I'm a cheerleader, or that I can teach you a back handspring but I would suggest that you hit the gym. Perhaps even consider getting a private coach. If you've never cheered before and you have never done gymnastics this will be a difficult task but not impossible. If this is something that you really want to do and you plan on dedicating yourself to this sport, then go for the gold and reach for the stars! It will be hard, but rewarding.
Maggie
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