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Q: 16-f

ive always been unhappy about my nose. i think its kinda big and i dont know! i know i have to live with it but its something ive always been self-conscious about. and it made me even MORE tonight. you see there is this adorable kid and hes really sweet and hes always thought i was hott my cousin said. but then tonight he came up somehow and my cousin was like he said you werent so hott anymore and because you had a jacked up nose or something. this made me feel really bad about myself because i thought people were getting past seeing my nose. everyone thinks im soo pretty but i just cant get over my nose and sometimes i just think im overreacting but then when people start saying stuff i know its true. i just dont know what to doo.. =(

Don't worry about it. I am sure you really are beautiful. Try to concentrate more about your best features and your personality. That guy was an ass to say that anyway, so he couldnt have been worth it.

Q: I had sex with my boyfriend. When he went to go to the bathroom he saw that the condom wasnt on anymore we looked all over for it then he suggested it was inside me. I checked and it was it was really deep but i pulled it out. I didnt look at it or anything i just flushed it but now i think there a possibility im pregnat. What do you think?

Oh gosh. Yeah there is a big possibilty that you could be. Get yourself a pregnancy test and check. Next time you have sex, make sure your boyfriend hold the condom in place when hes you know, pulling it out.

Q: Do guys dig chicks with glasses? I need to get glasses I think, and I'm already short, fat, and kind of ugly. Now I need glasses. Now will the boys think I am uglier than before?

You are not ugly. Don't say that about yourself because I am pretty sure guys dont like girls who call theirselves ugly. Just make sure you get a very cute pair and try getting contacts so you can wear your glasses only somedays.

Q: How do you get rid of acne scars?

I can't tell between acne and a scar.
My acne is sometimes just red without a bump.
So I think it's a scar until weeks later.. when I see a whitehead.

I need help.

I have been trying to get rid of this acne on the side of my chin/cheek. It's been there for years. It's not scars because they get white heads.. but the pimple/bump itself never goes away. i have red bumps all over the side of my cheeks.
Acne washes, etc don't work. I have a wash from the pharmacy but its making my acne worse and it stands out

I think it might be acne scars but you are getting zits on them. I would go to the Dermatologist. I am not in the same situation as you, but i did have bad acne and i am currently on medicine and its working wonders for my skin. But for the acne scars, i hear microdermibrasion works. Try getting an at home kit.

Q: I've recently started dating this great guy. The problem is, he's black and I'm white. I'm against racism to the full extent and so is my mom, but my dad and brother don't feel the same. I know they won't accept this guy and I'm afraid to bring him home. My dad will look down on me and I hate feeling bad for liking such an amazing guy. What am I supposed to do? (18/F)

I personally say fuck 'em. If they can't except your choice in who you date, then i wouldnt try to impress them. If you like this guy, then continue dating him, but tell your family its better to tell them than to lie to them. Just before the guy comes over, tell them that he is black so they dont get suprised and be mean to him. Talk to them rationally about the good qualities he has.

Q: Theres some guy who likes me and i only want to be friends. he asked for my number and I didn't want to be rude so i did and he texts me everyday and it kinda annoying since i don't like him. and he told me that he wished for me and yeah its sweet but I don't have those feeling for him.

Any advice?

Oh I've been in situations like that. You could either lie and tell him that you cant use your cellphone anymore because your parents took it away or you could just tell him the truth and say that he is coming on a little to strong and you dont feel the same way.

Q: ok this is very complicated but here it goes: there is this guy who rides my bus and he is the cutest sweetest guy i have ever met.but heres the thing he does not really ride the bus anymore so i barely see him and he is not in any of my classes. but now here is where it gets complicated he told my friends that i was really pretty and really hot and he was thinking about asking me out and i really like him but he has not made a move and i really want him. all i can think about is wanting to kiss him and i just really want him and i am so sad please know one tell me that there are other guys out there because i just need advice about this one.

Make the move yourself girl! You can do it. Like he said, you are pretty and hott so dont be shy. Just ask him out or tell him that you like him. Otherwise you will be stuck waiting for who knows how long.

Q: I try to be myself in school.. but after getting advice and stuff, i still cant. if im not comfortable, then i kinda freeze or beocome kind of like.. twitchy a little. then like little things happen like me getting up to get a paper, and i dont want to do it, cause im feeling uncomfortable, then i end up embarassing myself.. well in my opinion. i mean, i believe that i like myself.. but i dunno what else i could do to get more comfortable. picture everyone in underwear? not so funny. uh.. treat the people as family? i guess so.. i've tried it but it kinda doesnt work. im more outgoing and stuff when im at home or not working.. sometimes i appear to be serious and really shy when i know im not like that. i've had this problem for like a couple years now.. i'm 13 in middle school. ehh.. any advice if there is any to solve this problem? thanks if you do :)

Also, when im outgoing like in school or something, then sometimes i get a little too carried away, cause maybe im trying too hard when i am, or something. how can i learn to control it without being too out of line or too.. in the line? like, with still having my dignity and stuff. :/ HEEELP!

I used to be like that, like sometimes i didnt (sometimes still do if i dont feel like trying) have fun around certain people who i may not know very well and theres a lot of them. I know how you feel. This year i got like a bajillion times better and i think you can too.

You just need to remember that you are a pretty, nice, funny girl. (Unless you are a guy because you didnt say. If you are a guy i feel really bad now) Just be how you are around your closest friends and have fun. When you think something funny, say it. Don't be shy. Just remember that you have nothing to worry about.

About the sometimes getting out of control part.. just watch yourself and be careful about how crazy you get.

I hope I helped, if you have any more questions you can ask them.

Q: PLEASE HELP ME! ok. I HAD 5 BFFs. Then, I liked this guy and one asked him out 4 me when I told her not to. Then, my "BFFFF" keeps ragging on me about wut I wear and stuff like that. Also, another is turning the "wrong corner". Another talks behind my back. The last one is pretty much all I have left, because she does NONE of those things, and is the most like me. But, what should I do about the others?!

The others dont sound like very good friends so i'd just forget about them. But it you feel like you dont want to do that, talk to them about their mean behavior. Tell them how its bothering you.

Q: hey guys(:

I got a haircut like, last year and loved it. But the problem is everyone copied me. Maybe they didn't exactly copy me, but whatever they did EVERYONE has it. So my point is i want a new haircut. Right now i have medium length, angled and layered hair with thick side bangs. What can I do to it to make it, err, unique?

You could dye it or highlight it. If you dont want to go that extreme you could cut it shorter or wear it different ways, curl it, scrunch it, straighten it, wear it up, wear it half up, do whatever.

Q: what's appropriate to where with flats? i just have simple black flats and i'm not sure what will look okay with them.

Anything. Just be fun and creative and wear whatever with them.

Q: 14/f

Well i'm in the 8th grade, and I dont have a best friend... is that bad??? I'm not saying that I am lonely and I have no friends, I have plenty of friends.. just none of them are actually my BEST friends. Arn't best friends supposed to be there for you when you're feeling low? and they always come and sleepover and you always share secrets with each other? welll it seems like whenever I go up to my other friends, they are always busy with 'their' other best friends. It's like they have no intrest in me anymore. My brother just moved away to college and my cousin is staying with us for a while. I have a dog, could that be my best friend? I just feel like I have a lot of depression going on in my life and I really need somebody to talk to. yes, i know.......... I can talk to you on advicenators, but I need somebody not only for talking... but to share my happy moments with, a best friend
and I know you'll say talk to your family.... but the thing is.. both of my parents are ALWAYS working... they leave the house way earlier than I do... and the next time I see them is when i'm asleep. Its just not fair. My brother is in college, and my cousin is always hanging out with his friends or finding some excuse not to be in the house. I'm really sad that I dont have a best friend, and I'm a very busy person.... could that be the reason why I dont have a best friend? cause i'm always busy and they never have any time with me????????
You might say join a school activity and meet friends there... but TRUST ME! I dont make friends easily, lets just say I get SUPER SUPER SUPER nervous when I meet new people, or give a speech to a class. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!! I FEEL SO ALONE.... I always see kids in the hallway, hanging out with their best friends, and I am really sad that I dont have a best friend there by me. WHAT SHOULD I DO????????????
OH AND IF YOU COULD: ANOTHER QUESTION= HOW DO I GET RID OF THE FEAR OF MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND GIVING OUT SPEECHES??????????????? THANKS SOOOOOOOOO MUCH... I KNOW THIS WAS LONG, BUT THANKS

I didnt have a best friend last year, when I was in 8th grade either. I had many close ones but not a best one. You have to trust me, you'll find one eventually. Just pick one friend you like the best and try to hang out with her (or him) a lot. Try not to show any annoying habits at first. And hopefully you will have a new best friend.

For giving speeches.. i hate that too. You just need to relax and remember that everyone else is just as nervous.

For meeting new people just be yourself. Try to be more outgoing and start up a fun conversation, make a few jokes, and be nice. And remember when you are meeting someone that they could turn out to be your new best friend, or a new friend!

Q: ok this question might seem a bit weird. when i do my hair in the morning, i usually straighten it & wear it down. basically, by like 11 i have to put it up. it annoys me so much. i just can't write and have it down because my hair is thick and i have a lot of it. i put it up in one of those cute little messy buns but i dont know. for some reason i think its prettier to wear it down & if i wear it up i feel boyish. im basically just wondering what your opinion is. should girls just wear their hair down all the time?? or is it pretty to wear it up too??

thanks!!

I have a similar problem as you. My hair is so thick that its a pain to wear it down all the time. I try to wear it down because i feel i look better. Yes, sometimes wearing your hair down does make you look more feminine but its okay to wear your hair up once and a while. Try to wear your hair down (all day) for like two or more times a week and wear your hair up the other days.

Q: i want some ripped lookin jeans but 50 dollars boy isn`t that expensive.
actually i can`t aford clothes so expensive at the moment..
maybe 20 at the most for jeans so do you know any sites i can look at thanks.
keep in mind not expensive..

Just buy a pair of cute jeans at a department store or whatever for cheap or and old pair of jeans you have. Then rip them yourself! Get a cheesegrater or sand paper or something if you want them distressed and get some scissors and put a small hole in the knee and rip it so its bigger.

Q: I color my hair a lot...but next week when i get it done i would like to just do it one color. Right now it's brown with dark brown, black, and blonde streaks. I don't have a picture of it but i want like a shade of brown that's dark but not really dark. I have fair skin and baby blue eyes. So what shade of brown is right for me?? Pictures would help!!!!
THANKS.

I love love love the combination of dark brown hair and blue eyes. I say a shade like Alexis Bledel's. (http://www.celebritydesktop.com/images/actresses/alexis_bledel.jpg)
If you personally don't like it, pick ot a shade that you think will be best

Q: hi :]
16/f
well me and my mom were talking yesterday and shes like i think i might know something else to get you for christmas! and im like what? and shes like have you ever heard of the CHI straightener? and im like yea the one that costs like $200. i heard its suppose to be good but for anyone that uses it does it really work good or what because i will feel bad to have her like spend so much and have me not like it!! well thank you.

I dont have one but a lot of my friends do and sometimes they straighten my hair for me with one. I am hopefully getting one for christmas too. They are really good! If you feel bad about your mom getting you one with so much money, just tell her not to spend too much on other things.

Q: so i party alot and so does my boyfriend and recently i walked off with my friends boyfriend and my boyfriend freaked out like saying he wasnted to kill her boyfreind so i broke up with my boyfriend ))who i really liked(( in front of everybody like cusing at him and the works and so i left ((this was a 3 am ) and he called a million times that night and the next day and he still thinks we going out but i clearly stated ITS OVER but i dont thin he gets that> how should i tell him i want to be friends nothing more and also its hard because we are going to six flags on saturday with his family ugh what should i do?

Well... Tell him directly to his face, calmly, "I'm sorry, but I just want to be friends." If he asks why, tell him why. But do it nicely! About the six flags, ask him about it. Ask, "Can I still go to Six Flags with you, as your friend, or am I uninvited?" Good luck!

Q: what kinds of phones work for verizon? like nokia, or is that its own network? what about motorola? and any others please

Nokia is just a brand of phone. Same with motorola. I believe Nokia is more with cingular, but if you ask to put your network on a phone, they should be able to do it.

Q: There is this girl in my town who whenever I run into I feel just utter contempt for. The problem is I'm not even really sure why because she's become such a loser.
Well first of all she has a bad reputation in town. She used to be a prostitute and got pregnant two years ago. No one knew who the father was and after she had the baby social services took it away. She also was a drug dealer and got banned from the volunteer centre I used to work at. I think the main thing that upset me was that she dated my first serious bf after we broke up. She would spread rumours about me and would flaunt their relationship in front of me. She also used to be really skinny when I was overweight.
Well since she had the baby she's gained atleast 50 pounds. She's also unemployed and the last time I saw her she was dancing at the bar with her big gut sticking out and being a complete slut.
Everyone (my friends) said she was gross. I have so much more going for me than her; I'm employed and have my act together and I don't sleep around and I'm a LOT prettier than her because I've lost a lot of weight.
So my question is why does it still upset me when I see her? Because she's turned into such a loser? Can anyone give me some advice?

The past. You are still hooked into the past. Is that it? Because if not.. you have no reason to be upset with her or whatever. I would just sort of brush it out of your mind.

Oh, it could also be that your disgusted by her :)

Sorry. I didnt give as good of advice as you probably expected, but just forget her. Shes obviously not worth it.

Q: Is it possible to gain 2 lbs in two days?

Yeah haha. Its kind of pathetic. I've gained almost a pound in a day. But, hey if you like food (like me) its possible.

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I absolutely love giving advice on advicenators. When people ask for my advice in real life, its probably not as good as my responces on advicenators because advicenators gets me thinking. I love helping people and I try to give the best advice I can.