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Q: 14/f

There's this guy (who I'll call Dylan) who I really like. But he's really immature, he's like a 13 year old in an 18 year old body - you know how 13 year olds are obsessed about fart and sex jokes. So I keep telling myself NOT to like him but my body feels otherwise. In other words, my mind is saying not to be with him but my heart wants him.

sighh. what do i do?
PS: he likes me.

thanks in advance

id say go for it.
you only live once, and if it goes wrong, or you dont like it, then you can just break up with him.
lifes all about taking chances, and you know what will happen if you ignore your feelings, nothing. but if you take a chance and tell him, a whole new door opens for you =D

Q: I really like this guy on my swim team, which is the only place I see him (but it's eight times a week so it's not like I never see him). I am not sure if he likes me, and we rarely talk, but what are some ways I could flirt with him to hint that I like him. We can't really have a conversation because of sets. I am also kind of shy.

All I can think of is squirting water at him. Lol. Help?

well, in disagreeing with the person below me, its easy to flirt underwater. im also on a swimteam, and i do it all the time, and seeing as i have a bf from swimteam, it worked. haha

you could like wave to him underwater while your swimming breaststroke ( its the easiest stroke to wave to people during) and maybe while kicking with your kickboard you could wink at him and smile. If your feeling outgoing, after practice, you could go grab his towel and run with it so he has to chase you =D thats always cute.
anyways, that should work well enough.
hope i helped =]

Q: I've seen pictures where it's black and white and has like a spot of color or a little bit of color.
Is it something you can make, like a code or something or photoshop. Or a setting on people's camera? Please tell me. If it is a code, can you tell me it? Thanks.

its only on photoshop.

Q: 22/f

Not sure where to put this so I am putting it in both

Hey guys, would you ever be able to have a live in relationship with your girlfriend but respect her wishes in not having sex till she‘s ready( which probably wont be till marriage)? And keeping faithful??? Or would you not live with her? I was curious if you guys would be able to handle it because I might be moving in with my boyfriend but I want to get a good estimate on how many of the average guys would go for this. Would it drive you nuts sleeping next to your girlfriend and not having sex? Or could you tolerate it? I would really like to know. Thank you. Girls feel free to respond too

well, i dont live with my bf, seeing as im 14. but hes 16 almost 17 and doesnt want to do anything outside of marriage. and hes suppose to be a horny little bastard at his age, so im sure your bf will be able to constrain himself. =]

Q: ok um when im giving my boyf a handjob do i just slip my hand down his pants and do it there or do i actually have to take it out?..hehe i know this s a weird question im sorry:P

you gotta take it out.
cause if you leave it in, he'll get hard, and since hes probably gonna wear jeans, it'll hurt like crazy. so if you want him to scream in pleasure and not pain then you should take it out lol

Q: What are the bases?

1st is kissing
2nd is handjob/fingering
3rd is oral
home is sex

but somepeople say that 2nd is feeling up. depends on whatever you want it to be.

Q: This is a silly question but I am gettin braces 2moro. And I was wondering, can you still kiss when you have braces? Does it hurt? Thanks in advance.

not at all.
as long as when you can control your teeth, and hold them back, then its great.
of course, you need to hold your teeth back when kissing without braces as well, so it shouldnt really make a difference.

Q:
people on this site think they are so mature and know everything but they don't know shit. (some do, most dont.) first of all, alot of people on this site believe that if they live a simple life and dont care about electronics and huge houses that they are better than people who care about their appearence and want nice things. just because i have some designer stuff doesnt mean im not a good person right?!! i shop at all of the expensive stores but its because i LIKE the clothes. if you like walmart thats good for you but i dont. and i dont give a f*** what the "popular" kids think. i do what i want and just because i want nice stuff and care about my looks doesnt mean im immature. alot of people on this site are prejudice. and prejudice means PRE JUDGING. you guys are pre judging teenagers just because they give a care about how they look or what they buy. and usually its the adults who critisize teenagers. but if you havent noticed alot of teenagers are smart and they dont always follow the crowd... these uninformed people give us teenagers sterotypes when they havent even met all of us. i say i shop at abercrombie and fitch and suddenly i have all these people calling me a follower. i know how i am and i dont follow. i lead. wow, so i like the same stores as other people. BIG DEAL. i dont smoke and drink and im not a slut. i just CARE about my appearence. deal with it! stop judging the teens on this site wrong and calling them whiny bitches because its not us, it's YOU.

opinions please. =)

we arent judging you. we give our OPINIONS on what people do. if someone thinks your a follower, than they think youre a follower. if they dont, then they dont.
we say whats on our mind.
or what we feel is right for the situation.
so dont insult us, cause your basically giving us ALL the impression that YOUR a whiney little bitch. and totally contradicting your own statements.

Q: Hey guys,

I am 16 years old, and I will be 17 in about a months time. So, I can get a license this summer. It is a ridiculous to ask my parents to buy me a car, and there is no way I can save up to buy a car either.
So I am deciding to buy a motorcycle. The thing is, there is NO WAY that my mom would ever let me go buy a motorcycle if I tell her ahead of time. So I plan to save up on my own and just buy the motorcycle w/o asking her first. What do you guys think of this?
Also, I would appreciate any advice on how I can convince my parents to let me keep the bike once I buy it.

uhmm, i think its really dumb.
motorcycles are not only incredibly dangerous, but cost about the same as a car, and you might was well get a used car, cause its your first one, and you dont wanna wreck a brand new one. its kind of inevitable if its your first car that youll wreck it.
plus, lying to your parents is bad. cause theyll find out, especially if you show up one day witha motocycle, its hard to hide them in your pockets.

so, i say, dont lie to your parents, and just ask them to go half on the car. or something like that.

Q: what does this translate to be in english??

"britney a perdu sa soutien-gorge et sa culotte sur le plancher de la salle a mange"

i really want to know.

please & thanks

britanny has left or lost her undergarments on the dinning room floor.

Q: Okay well. Every night my babe and I talk on the phone telling talking about how much we love each other. Then we mouth it to each other during class and stuff. But I want to say something different. Something more than "i love you." Something that would make smile and feel good. any ideas? ;] thanks.

instead of whispering across the classroom, maybe write him a little poem and pass it in a note.
i wrote my boyfriend a poem and he loved it, im sure yours will too =)

Q: im pretty sure my boyfriend likes this other girl. i know she likes him and he knows it too. he talks to her all the time and i always catch him staring at her and trying to catch her eye. i told him that if he likes her, he should break up with me. but he gets mad and says he doesnt like her, that he loves me and doesnt want to break up. its so confusing! i just know he likes her, so why doesnt he just break up with me? sometimes i think i should just break up with him, but i feel like HE should be the one to break up, becuz first of all i dont want to (i really love him), and second of all if i break up with him i know he'll go out with her and that would just about kill me (i know, id have to just deal with it, but still). i just dont understand why he keeps saying he loves me when its obvious he likes someone else. why would he do that?

guys usually like more than one girl at a time, well, the normal guys anyways. usually they like many and hope one works out. but theres always one girl that the guy has the strongest feelings for, adn its obviously you. he might have a little minicrush or w/e on this other chick. but if he does love you like he says he does, then itll go away. so its quite alright, and im sure that it will go away. so dont worry. =D

Q: I'm curious about something. Well being a girl I know that we like to talk to our female friends about guys we like. So is it the same for guys? Do they talk to their close male friends about girls they like? The reason I"m asking is because they is a guy from work who has a crush on me (who I like back). Well in the last couple of shifts I've noticed that this other guy (who is friends with him) has been staring at me and then looking away when I look at him and his been being alot nicer to me then normal. So I think they have been talking about me. DO you think I'm right?

yea, my boyfriend claims that he and his friends talk about girls way more than we talk about them. lol
so yea they probably have been.

Q: Hey what do y'all think this quote means? "Everything has a price, but only humans have worth" like i understand it, and like it to be honest, but i dont get what his point with the quote is, what was he trying to prove/say with it? Like is he talking about how if it costs a lot of money to save someone's life you should still choose to waste all tthat money cause the life has value? or what exactly is he trying to say?

i think its trying to say, that you can pay for anything with money, but you cant pay for a life with cash. "worth" meaning something sentimental, and "price" meaning money or cash.

so its saying, you can pay for anything in your life, but your own or someone elses life.
life is the most valuable thing people have.
and its worth more than all the moneyy in the world.

Q: I'm taking English with the most annoying people on earth. They frustrate me to death, and I strongly believe that some of their oppinions that come through our class-disscussions are wrong. My teacher on the other hand agrees with them and says I need to realize that my way of seeing things is..well, a minority. And that the majority of people would agree with my class. So, I need to find out what YOU guys think, honestly, don't agree with me for a high rating, dont disagree to piss me off, just give me YOUR HONEST OPINION PLEASE.

Because I don't want anyone to agree with me for the sake of a high rating, I wont tell you what my opinion was, I'll simply ask for yours, that's fair right? So.. my teacher said "I think that a society like ours that makes economy such a high priority in the end looses it's humanism" and then let us discuss this quote. What are your opinions about this? Do you agree? Or can you find examples that show that that's not quite true?

Thank you!

i agree with what your teacher said. the economy of america makes everyone concentrate on money so much, that people of today, have no time for their families and sedimental priorities. money turns people into animals, and i think the majority of america, if not now in a few years, will all be striving to make the extra dollar, rather than help fellow co-workers and neighbors that need the money more make that dollar.
money turns everything into a callosed cometition.

Q:
what word goes with tropical beginning with a "T" ?

Like ex. (tropical twist, or tropical breeze)

tropical tangle,
tropical tumble,
tropical tango..
idk, thats all i got

Q: I've liked my bestfriends boyfriend since before she started to date him. And now after two months they broke up. In fact shes even going out with someone new again. So I have my chance to go out with him. And I took it. I told her and a lot of different people that I was only going out with him to hurt him, which I would never do. I even about convinced myself that I didn't even like him. Now he said he loved me and at first I was hesitant to say I love you too, but I said I love you. Everything would be great but I know its just not right to go out with your bff's ex, especially when she says she doesn't love him when she really does. Also summer vacation just let out and she is going to a new school next year so she'll probably never see him again but I will. I just want to know if you think I made the right decisions in what i did. and if you think otherwise don't be afraid to tell me becuase I don't want to make the same mistakes twice.

i think that you should be able to date him.
if she really IS your bestfriend, she should let you date whomever you want, because she wants you to be happy. even if it is her ex boyfriend, she had her chance with him, and it didnt work out, so she should know it wont work again, and move on.
especially if shes dating someone else. and if she does still like this guy your going for, then she should break up with the guy shes dating because its not fair to him.
hope i helped. =D

Q: ok first of all for 2 years now, people have been spreading rumors about me saying that i am bisexual and IM NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! today i got this really rude note from a girl named " hilary" ( i dont really think someone named hilary wrote it)

this is what is says:

Shelby,

you are a hore. some people even think that you are bisexual. i know thats what i belive. i know this because of last year. by the way, your ex boyfriend tyler said eww when he heard that you like other wemon.

Chow,

hilary

this is really making me mad and depressed. I DO NOT LIKE WEMON~!~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM STRAIGHTER THAN A BOARD!!!!!!!!! I HATE THIS!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

dont let what people think get to you. i know you hear it alot, but thats because its true. what they think doesnt matter, its what you know about yourself.
some guys even like bisexuals, cause they can be involved in threesomes, so dont worry about it. youll be fine.

Q: 15 (almost 16 =]]) and female..

recently i've been like wanting to do bad stuff. its really weird. but first lemme tell you aboutmyself. i've never kissed a boy or done anything with besides hug. i've never smoked pot, cigarrets, or draken beer. but then recently i've had like this weird wanting feeling? like i want to just like walk up to a guy and make out with him and do crap. but i really want my first kiss to be special but the older i get i worry its not gunna happen so i should just forget about it and just mess around with boys and have fun. and i've never had a bf so i've always been single and noothing good had come out of it. and then like my father smokes and i hate it. but i wanna smoke and i don't understand why. and then like i really wanna know what its like to get high and shit. but i KNOW i don't wanna do that but for some reason feel like i want to. same thing with drinkin i really wanna go out and just get wasted. and ugh idk why. can anyone help me. idk what to do i want this "wanting" feel to go away case i wanna be a good person.
thanks for reading

i think you want to expirience something that you arent used to, your bored with your life as of now, because you know whats going on in it. but on the other hand, you have no idea what would happen if you strayed from the usual. so your just questioning your life choices.

you should stick to what you have now in my opinion, because once you start doing bad stuff, youll get bored with that, and want to move on teh something else. thats usually how good people, end up doing bad stuff. so wait around for the right guy, stay away from alchahol and smoking, and everything will fall into place whaen your ready.

Q: Please!!!!! help. I am a 13 year old girl. I am pretty small (5 ft, 87 pounds). I want to know when I will get my period. I have had pubic and armpit hair for like a couple years and I have had discharge for probably a year. I feel so left out because all my friends have had there period and I have heard that your breasts get bigger when you get your period. WHAT ARE OTHER SIGNS OF WHEN I WILL GET MY PERIOD BESIDES THE BASIC ONES! I am so insecure at this stage of my life and I do not know what to do!! HELP! Thanks

you should be glad you dont have it yet, it basically ruins your life, the only thing its good for is making babies, and im pretty sure a 13 year old doesnt want a baby.
so be thankful your late on this, itll be better in the long run.
just dont worry about it