I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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17/f
okai so i've gotten a bit suicidal recently. i've lost all my friends & now it seems to me that there isnt really a reason for me to live anymore cause there is noone who really cares about me & i dont know .. if i die noone would really bother you know?
i just feel like i'm worthless & i'm always alone & just sit in my room. i mean it wouldnt really make a difference if i sit in my room or 'rest in peace' cause either way noone cares.
everyone just walks by me & ignores me & i seem to lose every person who i was ever important to. i fail at everything.
i dont want you to tell me how to make new friends or whatever.. i just wanna believe that even without having friends life is still worth living & that i'm worth something. and telling me that im still young & can still have a great future doesnt help either cause i've tried telling myself that loads of times. help? i just hate this feeling.. i always cry & honestly just wanna kill myself... & the feeling that noone would care if i DID is just horrible. (link)
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K you can think the way your thinking your family and friends do love despite what they say or do but they do there way of showing it must be different but that doesnt mean you should end your life. I know at the age your at now things are confusing im basically the same age as you and ill admit sometimes i feel the same way but if you just get out of your house and start hanging out with your friends again or make new friends or join a sport or get a job or something that involved making new friends and meeting new people you will have a whole new look on life you just have to tell yourself that ending you life isnt going to do anything but hurt those that love you it isnt going to make you feel better plus do you really want your family and friends to be the reason you want to kill yourself. I dont know what else to really say to you but i hope what i have said is enough to make you realize that killing yourself is not the right way to go there are other ways to handle the situation your in. Anyways im always here if you want to talk just send me a message :D
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are there any products I can use for covering a mole that don't make it look bad? Or are there ways that a mole can be removed and if it can be removed do moles ever grow back? (link)
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You can try concealer and foundation and if that doesnt work i hate a doctor remove a mole of my hand when i was younger i cant remember the process of it because i was really young but the doctor did it right in his office and if was quick it didnt hurt that much but ya i suggest going to you doctor and asking him/her about it im sure they can take care of it for you.
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Okay I am completely new to the whole tanning thing, I don't know anything about spray on tan, tanning gels, tanning lotion etc. I was thinking of trying it out..However I DON'T want to end up orange! and Tanning Salons are out of the question..
I am extremely white and I have never had a tan before..My question is does anyone know of any good spray on tan stuff or lotions that won't turn me orange and that are not too expensive?
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I really suggest taking a look at the link below i sent you they have awesome tanning lotions im also very pale and i went on youtube and saw a girl talking about this product and i was amazed when i tried it out so just take a look and the website of the product and the video from the girl who talks about it and shows you how it looks and stuff so here are the links below enjoy :D
Product website
http://www.sunlabsonline.com/Scripts/prodView.asp?idproduct=21
Youtube video about product:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrq7-ChUMKI&playnext_from=TL&videos=190qmF2upWI
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14/f
It's not so much as I hate my school as I hate my peers. I'm actually considered one of the better known people in school and sure I like some people but it always turns out like they all just annoy me. My best friend I wouldn't consider my best friend because she's always bringing me down by telling me stuff I don't want to hear. And whenever she's with boys she ignores me. I don't think she knows she's doing it but it ruins my day. What are some things I can tell her?
Also, I really just want to transfer schools. I will be in high school next year and I wouldn't at all mind going to a new environment. I just can't stand my school. I talked to my parent's but they said "no, because it's not in our district." Are their any loopholes? Any scholarships to other schools?
I live in Illinois by the way. About thirty minutes from Chicago.
And I know I sound kind of whinny but I just wanted advice and this is how I feel. Does anyone else feel this way? (link)
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Okay well to answer the first part of your question about your friend ignoring you and not treating you like a friend i suggest you tell her how you feel and tell her that you dont like how she brings you down all the time and ask her how she would feel if you did the same things to her im sure once you tell her whats going on she will understand and quit being a bad friend. Now for the last part of your question about school well i know its hard to stay in a school where you find everyone annoying i actually left my highschool because i hated the people and then went to a different highschool that was in my area and ended up hating that even more because i couldnt make any decent friends and it was just different then what i was use to and eventually i ended up wanting to go back only to find out i wasnt allowed back because the school is full this happened 2 years ago and now for my final year im going back to the school i wanted to but my point is dont make a decision too fast you might think it will awesome to switch and go to a different school but the truth is what your expecting the other school to be like isnt what its going to be like. I think you should just stay who knows maybe if you just look at the people in a different way you might like them. Also there arent any loopholes unless you live in the district of that school you cant go there unless they say you can. And there are scholarships but you do have to sign up for them in a year or two advance you might have already missed the deadline and out of everyone else trying out for the scholarship your chances of getting it might not be so high.
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So,my newest best friend, Lance is basically everything you could ever want in a friend. He's sweet, understanding, helpful, compassionate, and all of that crap. I have liked him for ohh i say about a year. But i never really bega to get serious about my feelings for him until now. He knows i like him, and he doesnt make i big deal about it, but i feel as if he looks at me just a bit different. Although he doesnt act like it. He definetly does flirt with me though, i know this for a fact, and we also have personal texts. But he has a girlfriend and they have been dating for about...5-6 months now. I dont like the girl not just cause she has lance...he really likes her though, and i dont want to really come between them. But as soon as she's not around its all eyes on me.He doesnt touch me most guys try to do. He just talks to me a bit more sweetly. Does he like me? Or am i just the flirt girl??
-Olie (im 14/f he's 15/m) (link)
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Well i think since he has a gf he might just be flirting with you or just kinda being friendly with you i wouldnt mistake it with liking you. Unless he tells you or dumps his other gf for you he doesnt like you your just kinda like his flirt girl who he feels is always standing there for him to just go up to flirt with i think its best to just keep the relationship to friends and try not to flirt with him because you could get hurt at the end thinking he actually did like you. I suggest keeping a distance from him and his gf until you find out how he feels about you.
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18/F
5'6" 120lbs
I take birth control so it's harder for my body it gain muscle. I'm not fat but I'm just not happy with my love handles. I've been eating healthier and have been exercising but my love handles don't seem to tighten up. Is there anything I can take to tighten my muscles like Quicktrim or something like that?
Thank you :) (link)
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To tighten up those love handles your going to need to focus on exercising more i mean eating right is important to but so is exercising i suggest running for 30-60 minutes or doing side lunges or sit ups or im not sure what this exercise is called but ive heard it really helps its wear you twist your waist/hips side to side. Anyways all these things will help you tighten them up theres no need to try any company branded things they never seem to work anyway and i know you dont want to lose pounds but you might have to so you can tighten those love handles but you can always gain it back after i guess if you want minus the love handles. Good luck :D
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Hello Pavan,
I was just looking at your account while changing the rating you got on the parakeet question, when I decided to invite you to a test program.
First things first: The user who rated you badly was banned for 5 days and warned not to repeat the ratings abuse.
Secondly, would you like your column name changed? (No charge)
Thirdly, you answer a great many questions and I know you frequently run out of things to answer, so I wanted to ask you if you have taken advantage of the random question link since I modified it never to show questions you have already answered?
Lastly, I have considered opening up the time limit on the random question program from 7-14 days to a greater time limit. Something like 30 days. Would you be interested in beta testing that for me?
Thanks for your work here,
DN. (link)
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Thank you so much for taking care of that rating and yes i would like to change my column name if you wouldn't mind if you could just change it to Pavan that would be great and i haven't actually tried the random question link in a while i think i tried it like a month ago and it took me to a question that was already answered so i didn't bother using it but i will definitely try it again and lastly i would love to test it out for you just let me know what i have to do. Thank you :D
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so i've been dating this guy for a couple months and he seems to have this "friendship" with this girl. she always writes on his facebook and she texts him ALOT. like whenwe're hanging out he'll get a text from her but he'll just ignore it. idk though cause she writes things to him like "sorry for falling asleep on you last night" so like they text at night and idk do you think i'm over reacting or would you be concerned if it was your bf too? like i have my guy friends that i text too but not like late at night..should i bring it up? i don't wanna sound crazy and stuff (link)
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Well i think if you feel kinda uncomfortable with him doing that and just cant get it off your mind you should bring it out and see what he has to say I think you have the right to know whats going on after all he is you bf just ask him without sounding too suspicious im sure he will tell you the truth :D
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I like my best guy friend alot.. but the thing is i set him up w/his g/f and shes a friend of mine.. and i have a b/f who i also like.. what do I do? (link)
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I wouldnt be right to interfere i mean think of how you would feel if your friend tried stealing your bf besides you have a bf so why would you hurt your friend and ruin her relationship. Also its karma if you hurt her you will get hurt back and you will also lose her as a friend and will feel guilty for hurting a true friend.
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So i went to a friends relatives house and her cousin had said he wanted her to hook him up with me before he even saw me. So, i get there and he is there and acts very uninterested but so did i and when a dog ran out i walked out of the house and told my cousin to get the baby seat out of the car because i was leaving. He then later told her I am not his type now is it most likely because of the way I look are my demenaor/personality? (link)
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Maybe looks because im guessing you didnt talk much because he seemed uninterested and if you didnt talk he probably wouldnt have found out much about your personality so maybe he just didnt like the way you looked but dw that doesnt mean your bad looking or anything hes just a jerk and guys who are only interested in looks arent even worth your time or effort.
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17/F.
I have always been the friend that people bug or make fun of just for the odd giggle. I know I am not ugly, and Im not stupid, and I know my friends care for me but sometimes it really hurts. Any time I do well on a test, people get really mad at me and call me a nerd and say that I must have no life. It is not like I wave around my marks either, many times I try not to tell anyone but then they take the paper out of my hand again. I would not say I am a victim of bullying, more playful teasing that repeats enough to actually cause hurt. I am the only asian girl in my school, (we are a very rural school and therefore everyone is white) and I hear alot of dumb racist jokes. The odd time I get upset people say they never mean to hurt me, which I know they dont, but I am not sure what to do. I do everything I can to be a good friend. I help people when they need it, and when it comes to school if they are desperate, ill help them when it comes to test reviews as well. The problem is, people take advantage of this and pretty much say I "have" to and get upset with me if I dont.
I want to be helpful, I want to maintain good relationships with people, I just dont want to be made fun of or used by the people I care about. How do you think I should fix this? I know I need to be less of a pushoever and stop making myself "easy to make fun of". I just don't know how.
Thank You. (link)
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You need to stand up for yourself you cant have people teasing you or treating you the way they do stand up and say no when they try to look at your tests or help them and tell them to stop when they make fun of you start ignoring people and that will make them realize that your not gonna take everything they throw at you weather it be comments or hatred if that doesnt work ask your parents if you can switch schools or tell your parents or teachers about this and have them help you sorry if this doesnt help but in this situation this is all i can think of doing.
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my best friend really likes this guy, and she never told me that she liked him, so i had no idea! And now she like hates me because, i started liking him. She thinks that i started liking him just to piss her off, and that's not true! How am i supposed to convince her that i had no idea she liked him? (link)
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Just tell her if she doesnt believe you shes not a very good friend because a good friend always trusts her friend tell her she told you she didnt like him so you thought it was okay to like him and that if she had told you before then you wouldnt even have considered liking him so basically its not your fault and if she doesnt listen then w.e you dont need a friend like her that doesnt trust you who knows maybe in the future she will blame you or accuse you of doing something else you didnt mean to.
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I did not know what category to put this under...
Ok it seems that I'm always at least half way depressed. I just stay stressed out. School, friends, family...and mainly this guy. But also, little things happen. I spill my drinks all the time...cut myself shaving all the time...trip and fall...stuff like that. What are some things I can do to take my mind off this guy? B/c he's what makes me so stressed out. So what can I do just not to worry so much and to be in a better mood? And not let little things get to me? (link)
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Just try relaxing yourself listen to music, bake, read, write just do whatever makes you feel relaxed and just have fun with friends or join a team of sports or dance or something that will keep you occupied and once you do that your mind will be diverted also try getting a job or working on hw or something anything to keep yourself busy should help also try going out and meeting new guys who knows maybe you will someone new that will make you feel special and will love you.
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do all girls masturbate and some just dont admit it? or do many really not do it? (link)
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Well its kind a part of nature i think a lot of girls do it but just dont want to admit it because there embarrassed or scared that people might make fun of them or whatver and some really just dont do it because they dont feel the need to or just dont want to or dont have the time but i think after any girl hits puberty its kinda natural.
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My toes are hairy.. what should i do about that? (im a chick) (link)
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Its very natural for girls to be hairy its okay just keep waxing and eventually the hair will just go away. A lot of girls have hair on there body and toes because its a part of there genes and maybe you mom and dad went through the same thing or maybe it has to do with culture whatever it may be waxing is the best way to get rid of i wouldnt worry about it too much your not the only one.
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k so there's this guy that i've liked since 8th grade(i'm going into 10th).He's been going out with one of my good friends for about 11 months. She went out of town for 2 weeks and the other night, i snuck out to meet this guy at his house and we got drunk. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex.He and his girlfriend havent even had sex yet. We haven't mentioned it to each other since. Do you think he was using me for pussy? because we've been like bestfriends for awhile now. should i feel guilty? because i feel bad for what HE did to her not for what I did to her...please answer this-i really need advice (link)
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Well i guess he could like you but if he has another gf i wouldnt really suggest going out with him because i mean he could cheat on you with someone else too if you guys start to go out. I think you should just be friends nothing more because its not a serious relationship with this guy hes seems more like a player.
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Where are good places to meet nice wholesome friendly guys besides school..cuz all the guys at my school like the sluts (link)
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Join a youth club or some other type of club or team or something that has both guys and girls or just have friends introduce you to guys they know that dont go to your school also gyms and resturants and stuff are a nice place to meet guys or even the mall.
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what is the meaning of life? (link)
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for me, the meaning of life is to live, and to discover yourself along the way. Every single day is precious, so maybe you should do something every day that makes you happy, that makes it worth it.
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Yeah..my gay dad is always telling me that im gunna live with him 10,000 miles away from my friends i REALLY dont wanna go what should i do to make him change hs mind (link)
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Well i mean he is the adult so its his choice but tell him that you dont want to and just give him reasons and if it doesnt work maybe try finding someone else to stay with during school or the summer or just until you want to like maybe a relative or friend i know it will take a lot more convincing then this but just keep trying to tell him how much it would mean for you to live and if he doesnt listen then tell him he has to bring you back and let you hang out with your friends and if that doesnt work then i guess you'll just have to move and thats okay as hard it will seem at first you will be fine after you will make new friends maybe even better friends and who knows maybe you'll like it there more just give it a chance if not then theres always compromising with your dad to find a silution that makes both of you happy.
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I am an 18/m and I was "with" this girl for about 6 months until she misunderstood something that I had done in bed (our first time) and ended everything. We got in a huge arguement, and stopped talking for a few months. Lately, she has got a new man, but has constantly been asking me to hang out even though I was always the one to ask to hang out when we were in a relationship. I love this girl with all my heart and want to be with her. What are some subtle hints I can give her to help sway her my way? (link)
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Well before you say or do anything you want to make sure she doesnt love the other guy but im guessing if shes asking you out she really cant be all that into him so what i suggest is just giving her a good time and telling you that you like hanging out with her and that shes pretty and all basically make her feel special and loves and just happy and she will want to get back together with you because no girl can resist compliments.
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