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I want things to be different.
17/F.
I have always been the friend that people bug or make fun of just for the odd giggle. I know I am not ugly, and Im not stupid, and I know my friends care for me but sometimes it really hurts. Any time I do well on a test, people get really mad at me and call me a nerd and say that I must have no life. It is not like I wave around my marks either, many times I try not to tell anyone but then they take the paper out of my hand again. I would not say I am a victim of bullying, more playful teasing that repeats enough to actually cause hurt. I am the only asian girl in my school, (we are a very rural school and therefore everyone is white) and I hear alot of dumb racist jokes. The odd time I get upset people say they never mean to hurt me, which I know they dont, but I am not sure what to do. I do everything I can to be a good friend. I help people when they need it, and when it comes to school if they are desperate, ill help them when it comes to test reviews as well. The problem is, people take advantage of this and pretty much say I "have" to and get upset with me if I dont.
I want to be helpful, I want to maintain good relationships with people, I just dont want to be made fun of or used by the people I care about. How do you think I should fix this? I know I need to be less of a pushoever and stop making myself "easy to make fun of". I just don't know how.
Thank You.
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The next time they go to far say "Ha ha! Very funny. Okay guys, its funny for a minute but after a while it gets annoying. Can we make fun of someone else for a while?" If they get upset or ticked walk away. If you're at lunch, move to another seat. They'll get the message. It may feel "mean" to you, but you're not being mean. You're not being a downer. You don't mind joking to a certain extent, but it can be a bit much sometimes. That's normal. You just need to get your point across. It may mean feeling a bit lonely sometimes while they get the point, but I know they'll figure it out eventually. Soon you'll move on from high school and you'll be in an environment where people have a more sophisticated sense of humor and will have more respect for you. Stick it out. You'll be out of there soon. Hang in there!
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You need to stand up for yourself you cant have people teasing you or treating you the way they do stand up and say no when they try to look at your tests or help them and tell them to stop when they make fun of you start ignoring people and that will make them realize that your not gonna take everything they throw at you weather it be comments or hatred if that doesnt work ask your parents if you can switch schools or tell your parents or teachers about this and have them help you sorry if this doesnt help but in this situation this is all i can think of doing.
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