hey guys :) 15/f.
I'm an extremely humble person. If somebody complements me and tells me how good I played a song on a piano or something, I'll just shrug it off like "nahh..I'm not good at all. You're better than me :)" And if we were to take a test, and I got a good score, people would be like "You're so smart :O" My reaction: "No no. Hah, I'm not smart at all. :]" And when I do this, I really do mean it! I don't think I'm good at these things at all! And I don't think I should be complemented..but instead *I* should complement people.!
I really hate this. I do it EVERYYY time somebody says ANYTHING nice about me or complements me. It's not bad or anything. I mean, I'm nice to people. But...How can I overcome this stupid reaction? >_>
Thank you very much :]
what the other columnist is completely true. not that you should do ANYTHING for another's pleasure. this doesn't only sound humble, but submissive, and it's not an advantage you want to give other people. this is the same reason people step on me sometimes without me even noticing. i understand you want to be nice, because its the best, but if you think you can't control yourself from doing it, take your time in answering. it may seem rude, but you can also say nothing at all until you're able to control the reaction. even though you shouldn't think this way, you can't help being nice, you just can't be too nice ALL the time. hope i helped
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I'm 15/f a sophmore. Ok, I'm not here to complain how I don't have a boyfriend (though it would be nice) However all the relationships I see in school are mostly based on if the girl "puts out" or not. I'm friends with mostly guys and I hear them talk about girls as if they are only sex toys it's disgusting. I think I'm decent looking and I wear jeans and a t-shirt everyday, but... is that the reason I don't have a guy, because I don't put out my body for everyone to touch and see?
Thanks in advance,
JJ
To be honest, in our times, it kinda is. Of course it's nothing to be ashamed of, and it's no excuse to fall into their category of "normal". This is why i myself chose not to have a boyfriend, but rather go to school to do what i was put there to do, and i walk around proud of being different. And yes, it does make you unique, no matter what others say. Think about it, if in any case you do put out, or start wearing over the top clothing, you'll just be one more for the guys to snicker and talk about your "attributes" at lunch. Keep in mind that even though you demand respect, you are also young and have a right to dress as sexy as you want to, and leave some to the imagination, as long as you're comfortable. Hope this helped
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I just feel like i really am. There were a series of events that just took me out of where I use to be, and I just feel like I've changed for the better. Yet, I'm falling apart. I can't concentrate. I just want to do well in school, but I keep getting distracted because I'm sad about certain things. Another thing is that small little things annoy me, and I get all this anxiety for no reason. Can I have a little advice here please? I just want to calm down and do well in school.
Thank you
I believe we may be twins. This is exactly how i get for the longest periods of time. Honestly, what gets me through is knowing that it's just a temporary phase and a better day will...HAS to come. About the smallest things getting to you, i know how that can be, and i know how stressing it is. Try and focus on the better things in your life, or find something you really love that'll keep you distracted [mine in baseball]. In school, even though it may sound corny, ask friends and teachers for support. Most importantly, live life according to you, so that nothing can bug you, and you can't be able to say "i didn't try".
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Okay,
i think this guy lets call him Leeroy really likes me! AND I LIKE HIM ALOT!! People ar elike oh he likes you so believe them maybe in omeone else's point of view maybe not. Anyone want to help me?
Well he stares at me alot and our eyes meet. Whenever someone asks oh do you like ashley he blushes like a cherry and he has never sed no but he says i don't know. I use to say goodbye and hug him but then i got shy all of sudden when i found out i liked him so i stopped. Everyday he always kind of waits and sees if i'm going to but he doesn't make it obviouse. Like his friend is by my locker so he goes their and talks to his friend but staring at me. Like he's waiting .. Does he like me?
Well if he does all of that, why are you doubting it? He obviously likes you. He's probably shy, or just unsure of how to express his feelings, specially now that you seemed to suddenly back away without a motif. Find a way to get closer to him, start by his friend [the key to a guy's heart], or just go directly for the gold. Instead of getting shy yourself, use this as an advantage to get even more comfortable to him, and don't get embarassed if people tease you about it. Hope i helped =].
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This may scare you and all but I'm fed up. nobody likes me and this guy said he hates when I'm around him so I'm going to starve myself until my body falls to the floor and I die. I have 7 more days of life what do you think I should do on those wonderful days of life that's left.
scared? no. why?? because if you had wanted to, you would've, but instead you chose the cry for help, because you want to be heard, and you deserve it. now, even you know it would be absurd to kill yourself, or even torture your mind, over whatever some dumb guy had to say. so what?! tell him it nauseates you to be around him as well. people are cruel, and they'll do anything to watch you break. and as one of the other columnist said, there are people who pray every night for your life. i dont know. i guess its all up to you. i'd would love to be of some help, so if anything, you can inbox me.
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ok just to start i am a man..ish lol (16 years old) but the thing the proceeds to allways piss me off is the way i see other guys looking at girls as if they are mindless sex objects, damn i hate it. one of my freinds freind today was lookin at a girl across the street going oh wow looka her ass i'd bone that bitch and crap like that. am i missing something? because its demoralising as hell and i hate it... how do i just tell him that he is doing something that pisses me off to no end without being so... oh how to put it harsh... well maybe a little to show him a bit, but i dont know ime confused about it i just need a good one liner that will tell anyone i meet like it in the future.
*EDiT*
Well Im really glad i was able to help out in something. If you need anything else dont hesitate to contact me, and if you have any friends like you, feel free to holler lol =]
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God, if only every guy was just like you. I can't believe there are actually MEN like you out there anymore. With your insight, it shouldn't be hard to find a girl. Girls want to hear that they're beautiful, not "hot". I'd advice you to simply not associate yourself with those kind of people, because i'm pretty sure any girl that knows him assumes you're the same way. Hang out with others like you, or the one's people consider "geeks", or "gay", just because they view women as actual beings. What you look for is what you get, and i can guarantee that you'll end up with one of the few women left with morals who respects herself and is respected, and who was considered "different" in her teen years herself. I just hope there's more of you out there for me =].
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i feel soooooo lonely.... i have, or had friends... but "my" values don't let me have any. outside people are strictly for formal favors and contacts u c.. but that is besides the point. imagine if you couldn't make any friends or you live on an island with a wild donkey or jackass. you can't talk to them you can't tame them and you u surely can't eat them.....
i am so alone and so many things are running in my mind and it hurts so much. and everyday i discover a small piece of glass in my hart that is pricking harder and harder.
my grandfather died yesterday... and i really love my parents but they and i don't get along.
i am hurting so much i feel like committing suicide in fact that is precisely what i need to do right now.
i can't keep things bottled anymore or else i would die a slow and morbid death.............. when i was a child i was capable of bottling years and years of shit... and now i can't control it its either thoughts of death takeover to get rid of those voices in my head or i just tell the world all the things i shouldn't be saying to shut those voices up..........
yesterday i was dancing to a song by nickodemus... and yesterday my grandfather died... but its not because he died i danced. usually i'm like that... one day i am happy and dancing and hyper and the next day i am about to throw myself off of a building... i get so sad when i am alone... because those voices arrive.... even if the jackass is the only option of not staying alone, i'd rather him run over me than those voices... and that jackass killed all the other prettier animals that i loved and left me there with it... i don't know why... am i a jackass too? like don't kill like...
i hate myself, i can't live with it... i do things i am not supposed to.. i have sexual urges i can't repress and i've never been intimate....and i don't want to.... i pick things that are "not fit for" me.... always things that are "beneath me" or out of reach.... i really feel alone and ugly from the inside.. i am want to throw up the puss... i need to cry... this is the millionth question i've asked...
but no one gets how it is... i can't find the damn answer i am looking for... but still i rate 5 to be nice to those who give a damn...
i am really feeling bad...
please someone just for a minute.... my heart is covered in shreds of glass.....
i hate myself. i hate the voices in my head. help...
i wish there were more important questions like this one. i don't know if i'll ever be able to help you, but i'd love to try and get through. i'm sorry to be the millionth person to tell you this, but going to a therapist or something of the sort IS the best solution, not suicide. i say this because i'm doing so myself, and just the thought and the probability of ever being happy and normal like others, and above all, the curiosity, makes me not want to give up. i know it sucks that you still haven't found the answer to your question, but better yet, focus on finding a solution. i'm ready and willing to talk about your problems whenever you want, if you want. just ask a question to my inbox and i can tell you where to reach me. i just hope you take my word for it: seek medical attention. don't let embarrassment or lack of hope and/or motivation keep you from happiness. hope i helped
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13/f, I love to sing, but I decided to some videos of my singing on youtube. Bad idea. There's this guy who been harassing(sp) me. He says that I'm the worst singer on Youtube. How can that be? Youtube is world-wide. I don't think that everyone in the world thinks that I suck. But, now I want to sing anymore. I love to sing in all. But I have no more self-esteem left in my body. It's all been chopped off one by one. I sound like a drama queen, i know, but I'm serious. I have no self esteem left. What should I do? Should I stop singing, or just ignore that one guy and continue singing now knowing if I suck or not? Please someone help me.
Oh my God, no! If that's something you enjoy doing, who cares what ONE guy thinks?! It's the same thing with me, only at least you had the courage to make a video, but if singing makes me happy, I do it no matter who's around, and if someone doesn't like it, it really helps to laugh it off. Personally, I think you should continue posting your videos and if it helps any, I'd love to listen and provide some feedback [I'm a really nice person], it would really be my pleasure, but only if you'd like. Don't pay attention to what one guy has to say. Who the heck told him to click on your video anyway? If I'm not wrong, I believe you can report him. Really hope I helped =].
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15/f
soo lately me and my best friend have been fighting..alot!
and now we kinda made up..but not really..
soo i like this guy alot and he always flirts with other girls and its really hard and i dont know how to react..
ive cried about 10 times today over all of this and i cant do it anymore..
i need to know whats wrong with me
but i think im bi polar or maybe im just having a hard time.
but ive been to the doctor about it and stuff and he said im fine..just a stage..
its been like this for four years, i dont think its suppose to be like this.
and i use to cut for awhile then i stopped b/c my friends wanted me too..
its really hard, i cant stand it anymore..
but its really really really hard to stop like this
thanks for reading
are you crying because of your friend, or because of your crush, or because you're bipolar, or because you used to cut?? i'd honestly love to help, but you need to calm down and explain.
in any case, being bipolar is serious, and ther's no reason for you to endure it for 4 years with doctors around.
writing like this can get you banned by the way, for next time.
talk to me whenever.
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i like this guy chris a whole lot.
he treats me like no one ever has before,
and i have been treated pretty well.
theres only one problem..
i'm 15.. and he's 26..
we met through my friend michelle.
michelle is in some kindof youth club and chris went one day because he's friends with the club leader.
chris tells me all the time that he loves me.
we've been talking for a whileee now.
and i keep liking him more.
he looks as if he's about 17,
so when he comes to the house and my friends see him,
we just say he's 17.
we've hooked up, and i really like him.
i have no idea what to do because he wants to be my boyfriend, but i know that we couldnt do that.
even just hookinh up with him is illegal.
please help!
It's only illegal if you have sex, otherwise Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy. I'm not trying to give you bad advice, but regardless of what anyone tells you, you'll keep dating him, because that's just what your heart wants. The only thing is him telling you he loves you, and you've only hooked up. It's a dirty mature-man trick to get what he wants, it's not new, but if you think YOU'RE mature enough to handle him, I think you should follow your heart [specially if your family accepts him, that's almost impossible to find these day]. Hope i helped.
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i got a pimple thing right on my lip and i dont know how to get it off i need help
buy some Abreva al Walgreens. its a little expensive but definitely worth it. also, make sure to ignore it and not touch it or lick it, even if it itches, so it'll heal faster. hope i helped =]
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I'm going to Yankee Stadium again for the second time. I wore all Red Sox clothes the first time (they are huge rivalry teams) and it wasn't TOO bad. I can take the food being chucked at me and the nasty comments. This time I wanna take a sign to Yankee Stadium. I wanna diss the Yankees somehow but I don't know what to put. Right now the Yankees are in second place and the Red Sox are in first if that helps.. any ideas would be great. =]
haha, ur not very smart are you? if you're really that much of a red sux fan, why dont u visit boston one day or something, INSTEAD of getting beaten up by New Yorkers at Yankee Stadium. boston isnt THAT bad, God, its the idiotic fans i pity. and by the way, there's no possible way you could "diss" The Yankees. dont you realize they make millions, and they're not interested in taking their sweet time to read your "offensive" signs. they dont give a damn, trust me.
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my hair is so dried out and gross how do i get it shinny and not dried out. like what products could i use?
Thanks
after you shampoo twice, you can use mayonnaise and virgin oil or margarine and leave it on for about half an hour [mayonnaise by itself is also usefull]. It hydrates dry, dull hair and is also good for splits ends. You can also massage mashed avocado in your scalp and leave it for about 15 minutes. I find these give my hair shine and volume afterwards. Hope I helped =].
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i was at school today and in latin, these boys behind me were talking with me and then one of them asked me if i would ever snob his knob. nob? i have no ideaaa...what does that mean!?!?
lol yea it means a blowjob, get it "slob" as in slobber with saliva
if it helps, download that sonq "Slob On My Knob" by Three-Six Mafia, thats where they got it from. even the girls in my school sing that.
hope i clarified =]
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i have constant suicide thoughts and know i must be checked into a hospital i went to crisiskids.com or whatev. and they didnt understand im seriously considering this. im 13 years old, female. i feel like im not wanted here, and no one even cares anymore. i constantly fight with my mother and father and sisters. how can i get the medical help i need before i seriosly kill myself.
I've always thought I was alone in those kinds of thoughts. Just today, as a matter of fact, all I could think of was getting home to kill myself. The first time I tried it I was actually only 12, and I would've if my mother hadn't stopped me. I try to ask people for help, or to get people to notice me, and I know they have problems of their own, but Depression makes it that much harder for me. I'm not trying to say my story is more important here, or to make you even sadder, I'm just trying to make you realize that running away is not the best solution, ever, and that we all have serious problems that we choose to keep to ourselves. So, try to think of it that way the next time you think someone is ignoring you to make you feel bad or because you're not important, they're probably dealing with problems of their own at the moment. And no, you dont need a mental hospital, just some understanding friends like these advicenators. Talk to me WHENEVER you feel this way again. Hope I helped
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15/f
ok well im really shy and all my friends and enemies have boyfriends they seem to get the guys. im not ugly. i dont understand it i am always myself smart,nice,pretty, but shy. what do guys look in for girls.
I am the EXACT same way. Im only 14 (but VERY developed) and the people i go to school with have all had sex and smoke and/or get high. It's really frustrating to be the odd one out, but it does not mean you have to lower yourself to their standards of "cool". This may seem like the end of the world rite now, but you also have to realize that you have waaaay to much ahead of yourself, and there's a time for everything in this earth. Kids of our days just want to do it all by the time they're 17. I just want you to understand that one day you will find the right guy, and he's going to appreciate you not for all of the boys you've slept with, or how good of a kisser you are (ur "enemies" may see these as THEIR priorities), but for being such a smart, nice, and innocent girl. Really Hope I helped
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So, basically this big drama has come up, leaving me with no school friends. I'm innocent, but if they want to treat me like that fine whatever.
So what do I during school? Like classes and lunchtime. If I could make new friends I would, but I can't as I go to a small school and I have a bad reputation (Not as a slut, as a 'loser') so no one goes near me in case they get picked on too.
Even if this all blows over (Hopefully it will) What do I do while I wait for it blow over?
Thanks for your time
Ughh...I'm going throught the same bs at my school...life can sometimes be...BLA!! well, the point is, I've come to realize, where ever you go, there's always gonna be someone to start drama, and someone who talks about you or puts your name in the situation. People are just like that. && I dont know what grade yur in rite now, but highschool SERIOUSLY makes ju realize what ur parents may have been telling ju all yur life: friends aren't good for you, you can't trust anyone with ur deepest secrets, and everyone has some evil in them, even ju when ju come to the realization...the best thing to do is either be proud to be a "loner", as am I (people respect you more when they see yur independence), make it clear to people that being alone does not affect ju in a negative way watsoever, or find a cousin or something. Blood is, after all, thicker than water. Good, trustable friends are impossible to find these days...if it helps any, no matter how surrounded of "friends" plp may be, deep inside they feel alone as well, hope I helped
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