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I'm falling apart
I just feel like i really am. There were a series of events that just took me out of where I use to be, and I just feel like I've changed for the better. Yet, I'm falling apart. I can't concentrate. I just want to do well in school, but I keep getting distracted because I'm sad about certain things. Another thing is that small little things annoy me, and I get all this anxiety for no reason. Can I have a little advice here please? I just want to calm down and do well in school.
Thank you
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You answered your own question: You are having aniexity over something. The best way to remove the agitation is to find out why you are agitated. If it is something you can solve, then solve it. But if it is beyond your control, then (are you Christian?) pray about it to God and let Him handle the situation. Remember: Your focus determines your outcomes. If you say: "I am a quitter" then you WILL fail. But, if you say: "I am a winner" then you will succeed.
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The best way to concentrate is to probably break what you have to do up into little bits. Like if you know that you are really going to have a hard time concentrating in a day, and feel like you can absolutely do nothing, do one thing. Not a huge things. Just one thing. Think of everything you have to do, but also go through and find the things that aren't as important/due the next day, and don't worry about them until you can be less worried and can actually focus. Once you have done that one little thing, don't beat yourself up about how you still have so much more to do, only did this one thing, or aren't that great a person. Celebrate. Eat some ice cream, maybe? Make yourself really happy that you did something. It helps to start with little goals. If you start beating yourself up, get a notepad and write down every bad thought (ei, I'm falling apart) and then underneath it write all this positive stuff that will counteract that idea so that you can feel better about yourself.
When you are feeling sad and having trouble focusing, try to do something that makes you feel centered to distract yourself for a bit, to make you feel better. Do you have anything you can do that makes you happy, that you are passionate in? It can be anything: listening to music, drawing, sculpting, writing, horseback riding, running, whatever makes you feel better. Once you have done this for a bit, hopefully you'll feel better enough to do something.
Sometimes, if you get really sad, it's okay to just let it all out, to listen to a really sad song and just cry. If you ever need to do this, don't try to get yourself to hold it in.
Also remember to see your friends, to talk to people. This may help you feel less sad and may also center you. As well, sports often do produce chemicals that create happiness, although it may be hard to do them if you feel like this.
It sounds like you may have some sort of depression/anxiety disorder. This isn't really something to be ashamed of; it's actually really common and often just some chemical imbalance in the brain that is really not your fault. If you are concerned, talk to a guidance councilor or an adult you trust, who can help you go seek help from a variety of different professional peoples. In the long run, this can really help. However, because the helpfulness of these services really does take a while, try to muster up part of yourself each day to get through it, one small thing at a time, and don't ever forget to enjoy the little things that make you happy - the sunsets, the dewdrops, the way the sky looks just after the sun has gone down, even the unpoetic random sparkly object. Everyone does fall apart at some point in some sense, and once it is over you will be all the stronger coming out of it.
Best of luck to you.
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I believe we may be twins. This is exactly how i get for the longest periods of time. Honestly, what gets me through is knowing that it's just a temporary phase and a better day will...HAS to come. About the smallest things getting to you, i know how that can be, and i know how stressing it is. Try and focus on the better things in your life, or find something you really love that'll keep you distracted [mine in baseball]. In school, even though it may sound corny, ask friends and teachers for support. Most importantly, live life according to you, so that nothing can bug you, and you can't be able to say "i didn't try".
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Sounds to me that you have an anxiety problem. You should try talking to your family doctor about this possibility because if you do have one, you will need to start taking medicine that will help it before it gets worse by making you depressed. Hope this helps.
xo-Whitney
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