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why is everyone around me in a relationship
15/f
ok well im really shy and all my friends and enemies have boyfriends they seem to get the guys. im not ugly. i dont understand it i am always myself smart,nice,pretty, but shy. what do guys look in for girls.
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I am the EXACT same way. Im only 14 (but VERY developed) and the people i go to school with have all had sex and smoke and/or get high. It's really frustrating to be the odd one out, but it does not mean you have to lower yourself to their standards of "cool". This may seem like the end of the world rite now, but you also have to realize that you have waaaay to much ahead of yourself, and there's a time for everything in this earth. Kids of our days just want to do it all by the time they're 17. I just want you to understand that one day you will find the right guy, and he's going to appreciate you not for all of the boys you've slept with, or how good of a kisser you are (ur "enemies" may see these as THEIR priorities), but for being such a smart, nice, and innocent girl. Really Hope I helped <3
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I'm not a guy, but I do know that guys are always attracted to happy/cheerful women. Do you frown all the time? Are you negative? Do you come across as desperate? (which i doubt you are any of those things)
You need to overcome your shyness. You don't have to be loud and obnoxious like everyone else, but you must learn to strike up a casual conversation with a boy. (maybe you already do this?)
Join an activity of some sort such as drama (you'll find really outgoing, funny guys there). Or whatever you might be interested in. Then you can talk to a boy who has something in common with you. Talk to lots of boys- then they'll notice you're alive. Don't just pin yourself down to one.
Also here's another tip: really search for a shy, quiet guy. They're always the nicest and best boyfriends.
You could try putting on a good-smelling perfume, then people will look at you and notice you more because of the scent.
And finally: just know that I'm in the same situation as you right now- same age and everything. I'm pretty and nice, I'm not really that shy though... I've had two boyfriends that I got in the following ways: one was just attracted to my beauty, and the other was someone who I asked out myself.
I've been single for quite some time now, but everyone else around me has a bf. And it really sucks a lot, i know!
I want you to also realize that life isn't all about having a boyfriend. I've become much happier now that I was able to tell myself that. Relationships aren't that great- and dating isn't fun. It's actually really boring and pointless and dull, not to mention scary.
But I'm not saying that relationships are unimportant.
I hope I helped.
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