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Ok i know this kinda sounds wierd but my friend allison has out of body experiences....like she goes to sleep and then like her soul will wander does any one have any thing they know about something like this? I am fifteen year old female and so is she....

no..but maybe go to www.sleepmoods.com
there you can post this and have people respond. Its a whole website about dreams and stuff..but go ahead and post that on the site. You`ll have to register though
-melissa

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Hey so i had this really really weird dream it went like this:
Me and this person were in the car and hes one of my friends and he said that he just like broke up with his girlfriend { they are still together in real life} right so then like i put my leg on him and we were just like talking and stuff and it was like we liked each other or something, then the dream changed to me and all of my guy friends were like standing in the road and we were just hanging out when one like ran down the road super fast. I have no idea what this all means.

im not so great at deciphering dreams..but i`ll give it my best shot lol. Do you have any feelings for the guy you put your leg on? The dream might mean your looking for a guy and you really want a bf..maybe it represents the opportunities out there for you.
-melissa

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Hey well i have a problem, this guy that i really liked my freshman year(know a senior). He lives with his girlfriend but his girlfriend, but she doesnt give him any sex and he comes to me. How would i know if he is using me or not? Please let me know i am desperate to know, he tells me he loves me and i dont know if i should believe him because he says he says that he will never hurt me. I dont know if he is just using me for sex or not. i need help. i really like him and i like when i have sex with him too but i dont know.

I really think hes using you. If he werent, why would he still be with this other girl? Love isnt when you come to someone just for sex...love is a relationshp and its more than that.. so if this guy really does love you..he would break up with this other girl in a heartbeat. Your being used...talk to this guy about how u feel and see if hes willing to break it off with this other girl. if hes not..forget him
-melissa

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ok heres the thing..I'm 15 years old..and I have an ex thats 20 and well I love him soo much..but it's just the fact that hes 5 years older than me and well..hes been asking me back out every day on the phone only because he knos that i do want to be with him but if my parents found out they would kill me..and well he told me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me..I mean yea i want to be with him but not for the rest of my life..i love him so much i dont even no what to do about this its so hard..should i be with him or not..it kills me every night on the phone to say no him and then to hear him cryin sayin how much he loves me..i dont even no..he was goin to kill himself cause i wouldnt be with him..

this guy is way way too attached! Think about what matters more to you..following your parents wishes or going against it to be with him. If you feel strongly enough and want to be with him..go for it..but if you think about it and decide you really want to not be with him..dont back down. In fact, taking a break..maybe even a permenant break from his might be a good idea. This guy is 20 ..maybe its better for you to let go and let him find someone his own age. It all comes down to your choice..think about your past relationship with him and think about which means more to you and which way you want to go. Make a list, that might help. But if you decide to keep away with him..dont let him whine to you like that..its not fair to you at all. Whichever you decide..good luck.
If you were wondering my personal choice if i were in your shoes..i would keep away with him..but thats just me. I just dont go out with older guys like that.
Best of luck
-melissa

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well you see my dad just got up and left last night...he didnt tell anyone where he was going or when he would be back, we didnt even know he left...so after awile i called his cell...he answered and when i asked where he was he told me driving...i asked where, he siad the mountians when i asked when he'd be back he said WHEN I FEEL LIKE IT! and hung up!...i havent slept in my room becuz im scared he'll show back up and hurt me...hes a drunk and a very mean drunk...im really scared and upset becuz im daddy's lil girl and i want him home for christmas but aty the same time i wish he would leave forever! i dont know what to do anymore...plz if you have any advice plz tell me!

I know you want to be close to your dad right now, especially since its the holidays, but i think staying away is the better answer. You have lots of other people who love you like your family and your friends. Stick by them and let your dad unwind and figure things out. Dont let his problem get to you..its his issue, and he needs to deal with it. For now try and have a great Christmas :)
-melissa

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My parents keep the house so so so so so cold...I'm always freezing and it's the middle of the winter...it's always like 60 in here, and I've told my parents so many times that I'm SO cold when its that cold, but they don't care. They say that they are comfortable that way, and that if they turn it up they will be too warm. I'm not the only one who thinks its too cold...friends or relatives who come over say its so cold! But, they don't have to live here!!! I DO!! What do I do???

Hey, definately wear sweatshirts and long sleeves..stay bundled up in blankets. Also, keep your curtains closed when your cold. It will prevent the coldness from your window to circulate! If you feel your window i bet its pretty damn cold lol.
Hope it works
-melissa

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I'm a moderately happy person. I'm in love, I have really supportive friends, and I have great artistic outlets for my emotions, but for some reason I keep having these reoccurring thoughts of suicide. Every time I sit by my window I think of diving headfirst into the driveway three stories below. I don't know what to think of it. Is this normal?

I think its normal..(espcially for a teenager) to be depressed for awhile and have slight thoughts about suicide..but when it gets kinda far like that...i would consider going to get help. You probably wont need much..maybe just a cunselor to talk to. You`ll be fine.. just go to someone professional to talk to. even the ppl who seem to have a great life get depressed..
-melissa

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Ok, I am 14 and turning 15 in a couple of months. I have not started my period and I wear a size B bra so I'm not sure why i haven't started yet. My sister and mom started when they were 12-13 years old, is there something wrong? Thanks Alot!

nothing is wrong at all. It can start as early as 10 or 11 and come as late as 16 + Usually you get it by age 16 or 17..until then be happy you dont have to worry about it!

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help....my name is lola and i strip in a strip club. ive been in porn movies and different clubs. i have a hard time finding a guy who can just accept my job and love me for who i am. if i ever do find a guy they turn out to be real asses or just treat me like im a nobody. Just b/c i show my body doesnt mean i dont have feelings. idk it just seems like something needs to happen. porn is the first job i ever had and ive been making good money. should i quit my job and start over or just follow along with porn. if i start over again it would be rlly hard and it would be a long time before i make money again. i dont know what to do anymore i need help...

consider which is more important to you..your job..or finding someone to settle down with. If you truly love your job then stay with it..but then again..if you really want to settle down with someone..quitting might be the answer. Its a hard choice..but keep in mind that money isnt everything..and even if you have to work in a place that doesnt pay so well..maybe its worth it. I mean you would more likely find a guy to settle down with. There are some things to think about there. follow your heart
-melissa

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ok im 13/f and my bf always asks me do u wanna make out and hell yea i do but i dont know how how? i mean idk.i really like my bf but i am kinda prude and i wanna atleast make out so this is kinda a stupid question but how do u make out with sum1?
ok i need advice asap bc my bf is starting to get annoyed bc i keep saying not right now not right now...any1 have any ideas? im afraid he may break up with me?

Hey first of all..if your bf really likes you..he wouldnt break up with you over this. Well making out isnt bad..just go with the flow. Believe me when i say it comes natural..because it really does. If you go with the flow and simply make sure you dont do some things ..you`ll be fine.
Dont shove your tongue down his throat..bite his lip..(sucking his lip between kisses is sexy but maybe try that after making out a few times) and make sure your breath smells ok. Thats all there is to it! You`ll be fine! :)
-melissa

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Is oral sex considered sex? Do you loose your virginity if you have oral sex?

No, its not considered intercourse..which is vaginal sex. But its a form of sex..well lets put it this way..you havent had sex yet. No, you dont lose your virginity by having oral sex..losing your virginity is when your hymen breaks..which requires vaginal sex.
-melissa

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My best friend is pretty than me, more popular than me, smarter than me, funnier than me, just BETTER than me. And the thing is...I'm EXTREMELY jealous of her, to the point I get MAD at her when she gets more attention than me!! I mean I don't show it, but inside of me I wanna yell at her. I don't know whats the matter with me!! Today, my band teacher offered to my best friend that he would loan her the skill sax if I wanted to teach her how to play (the saxophone) so then she can join the band. I want her in band because it would be way FUNNER, but now I'm thinking I DONT want her in band. She'll be better than me, prettier than me, funner than me, and nobody will care about ME anymore! I'm so worried. But most of all I'm mad at MYSELF! I dont like getting mad and being jealous of leille but I can't help it!! Any tips on how to stop myself from getting jealous, then mad, at leille?

Its natural to be jealous..not to worry. try and always remember that there are going to be thousands of people that are simply BETTER than you..and at the same time..there are going to be thousands of people who ARENT going to be better than you. This girl is your best friend..its not like she rubs things in your face, right? Having your best friend join the band is a good thing..si what she might be better than you..so what shes prettier? There is always going to be that girl whos prettier than her. Sometimes i get kinda jealous cuz i have pretty friends too..but it doesnt get to the extreme like that..maybe talk to a guidance counselor..i know it might sound dumb..but thats what they are there for right? Im sure this will pass :)
-melissa

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Is is normal for the average teenager (only child) to cry at least once a day when she's by herself in her room. And being an only child has a big issue. I came to realize that I cry everyday. Sometimes more than once. I do it in private though because I don't want people to see me. I guess my biggest reason is my parents, and the fact that I'm sick of being the center of their lives...I've gotten to the point where I feel a lot of pain in me, but I can't take it out on anyone but myself. It all seems really stupid, because it all comes from my parents. They don't beat me, and they're not necessarily "overprotective" or anything, I just hate being the only one they have to worry about... I've gotten to the point where I don't know what to do. I can't even tell them I want to seek professional help, which is what I really want--thats how distant I feel. I don't know what to do....

Your depressed..and professional help is definately the answer. Im glad you WANT the help though..thats a great sign. Its the first step out of depression. You dont have to necassarily tell your parents you want professional help. In school, talk to the counselor or psycologist..whichever you have. Its confidential. If your school only has a guidance counselor..and not a psycologist..perhaps see if they can arrange for a specialist to come in and talk to you confidentially.
Best of luck..and i know you`ll get through everything ok. Stay strong
-melissa

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Okay well here it goes.I have a friend named Jordyn and she is a girl.Well she tells everyone everything that she hears or what you tell her.It sucks cause i really like her but i have to watch what i say around her or what happens cause she isn't also afraid to change things around and make things worse than it really is.Is this really a good friend to hang around or no?Also is this a true friend?Please help me!!
Love always,
XxshortyxX

Having a big mouth is something thats simply apart of people. Maybe shes still a good friend dispite that horrible quality. If you like this person and think shes cool to hang with..then yeah keep hangin with her..but you`ll have to be careful of what you say. It will probably be hard to hang out with this kind of person a lot..but sure i guess being friends with her is ok..just be careful....
-melissa

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Okay this may sound really dumb or something but it really needs to be answerd cause i really need the help.My friend had wanted to kill herself and then her mom had put her into a center to get the help that she needs(good for her!!).But the problem is that she is on drugs and she drinks a lot and she is only 12 or 13 years old.Well i tries to kill myself a few weeks ago and now i'm fine but my question is that should i be her friend still and hang out with her even though that she wanted to do something that i tried?Cause my fear is that she will want me to think of doing that again?Plzz help.
Thanks again
XxshortyxX

You both went through the same thing, so maybe you can help each other. But the minute she starts to try and bring you down..let her go. Its not worth it. But hopefully it wont get to that.
best of luck
-melissa

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me and my boyfriend want to have sex.. but we want to have it somewhere where there wont be any parents. we aren't old enough to rent a hotel room.. have our own car.. etc. any ideas?

Well..do you have a romantic spot anywhere around? Like a pond,waterfall, etc where its pretty and clean? Maybe try there..or a friends house...your house when nobody is home..on a football field at night..lol or maybe in someone elses car...even tough thats probably a weird idea. You never know tho..one of your friends might leave youtwo in there..and tell u guys to have fun..but i doubt that. What if you get an older friend to rent the room for you? You guys can give him or her the money..he can pay for it..then leave you guys and pick you up later? Its a possibility.Good luck!
-melissa

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iz ther a certain wayy to makeout? like how DO you makeout?! someone said to bit they guys lip or like stick their tongue ACTUALLY down their throt? im sooooooooo stuuuck!

Stick your tongue down his throat? no no..dont do that..believe me when i say this..but it all comes naturally! Your first kiss will never be a hollywood professional kiss..but you wont be horrible if you go with the flow. When that person told you to bite the guys lip..she probably meant suck it slightly between kisses..but thats a little more advanced. For your first kiss..stick with the basics and dont shove your tongue down his throat..thats the worst thing you can do.Move it around gently..
-melissa

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i was gofing around with my boyfriend while all of a sudden he got all wierd and started grabbing covers and all. so i ripped the covers awayto get him goin again and he revealed... well, he had a giantic boner. instead of laughin or bein grossed out i just ran away and haven't talked to him much. im 13, and i dnt knoe... i wasn't expecting it. why do you think that happened?
i rate 5's if you answer quick!

Why do i think what happened? The boner? Guys cant control their boners..he was just turned on, thats all. No need to run away..its not like you need to have sex with him or whatever everytime he gets a boner. He probably went under the covers because he was shy. You ran away probably because you werent expecting it..but dont worry its all perfectly natural. Next time dont run away :)
hope i helped out
-melissa

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My boyfriend was living with me for a while, and he just "moved out" today. I can't call him, but I really miss him a lot, I don't know, I just need a way to miss him less. What do I do? We're still going to see eachother and stuff, it's just going to be less than when he lived with me. (He had to move out because my dad never knew he lived here, and he was really mad)

Aw, hey its not the end of the world. You guys are still gona hang out lots. Maybe think of a good memory of him before bed..call him..give each other pictures..etc. Pretend hes your blanket and cuddle into it maybe? Not to worry..it will probably take a week or 2 to adjust to not having him there..but im sure it will come easier for you.
-melissa

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ok so, what do you do if you're stuck in this situation:

your dad had an affair for 3 years .. without telling your mom or you or your brothers

sounds bad enough, right?

well .. he's still with the whore and expects me and my brothers to warm up to her... be nice to her .. accept her into the family and what not. oh right, and to add to that: she has a 2 1/2 year old son who is annoying as hell.

she comes with us on vacations, and i know my dad spends the money ...that he needs to 'save' before we're able to buy a BASKETBALL HOOP? ... on her

thats not right.. and i've tried having those long serious chats with him. he thinks i'm just doing what my mother does ... hating her for no reason. she screwed over my whole life, why shouldn't i hate her? ...what should i do? and don't say i should try to like her .. cause thats not happening .. other than that i'm up for any ideas

helllp me

I think your dad is getting too tied up in HIMSELF. He needs to see that this isnt working for you. If he really loves you (im sure he does) he`ll listen to what you have to say. Write him a letter,email,talk to him..anything! Get your feelings out..this isnt fair to you and i completely understand that you hate this lady. I would too...but always remember it wasnt only her who ruined your life..your dad played a big part too. He messed up. Make him listen to your feelings..its crazy that your dad expects you to warm up to her..he needs to realize that. If communicating to your dad doesnt work..talk to a school counselor..guidance counselor. They will listen to you and its confidential! Get out your feelings and you`ll feel so much better trust me. Hopfully your dad will see how distressed you are..and hopefully he`ll DO something..but its all up to him...hes the one who messed up..and hes the one who needs to make things right. Tell him to go to marriage counseling maybe. Whatever you do..dont keep your feelings bottled up! Best of luck and i hope he listens to you!

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