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Q: ok i figure im gonna have to start from the beginning i had a b/f and we went out for a little over 6 months then out of no where he text's me at 4 in the morning sayin he likes sum1 else and he wants to break up and that night hes all over this girl at a school game and i seriously wanted to cry the whole time i went home and cry then he comes on and tells me the real reason that he dumped me was cause i treated him like shit when he always made me cry and i gave up goin to cali to hang out wit him so now the girl he dumped me for dont like (if she ever even did) so now hes actin all depressed and talking to me when he knows i dont wanna talk to him and i like this other guy whos sooo swert to me and is so nice and hung out wit me that night at the game and listen to all the stuff i said about him and yeah no hes trying to ask me to hang out and stuff and the guy i like is starting to act kinda wierd what am i supposed to do i have no intrest in being my ex's friend cause of what he did but i cant help feeling bad for him SUM! HELP ME PLZ!!!!

Yeah you feel bad for him, but hey he was mean to you so screw him. Hes just trying to make you feel sorry, just try to get with the new guy that you like and forget about your ex.

Q: k well i am havin thi huge halloween party tomorrow night and i was wonderin if ne one knew ne good costume ideas (like cute &sexy not like disgustin)
thnx and if it help 13/f

A mean girl, thats what I'm going to be. Just wear a mini skirt, a tube top, makeup and just yah say your a mean girl:D

Q: what's a good brand for a hair straightener, and what's a good product to put on before you straighten it (that thermal care stuff, not the shampoo kind... bah, i wish i knew the name!)

Biosilk..it works great! Go to Sallys Beauty Supply to get Biosilk and to get a good straightner..usally the most expensive works best! Just ask the person that works there which one she would reccomend

Q: im kind of insecure about my private area. i have washed with plain soap n water, ive douched, used feminine wash..what else is there to do?

Shave it, or trim it? Take a shower everyday..I dont know?

Q: Alright, so a friend of mine's dad died on tuesday after a long battle with a brain tumor. i've known the guy for since like thrid grade (we're freshemen now) and his mom was my teacher. when i heard about this i was very upset. I couldn't bring myself to go to the funeral today, but i'm worried my friend's going to think i don't care about him, and that i'm not worried about him. I'm sending him a card and donating for the charity they wanted us to donate to instead of flowers, but is there anything else i could do for them? i feel horrible about not going to the funeral, but what else should i do?

Just be there for your friend when he needs a shoulder to cry on, or someone to talk to! Maybe you can go to their house from time to time and show them that you care and that your there for them. And if your religious, pray! I'll pray for your friends family if thats ok with you..

Q: i think i like this guy, we met at a summer camp. he is really nice and we like some of the same stuff. and when we talk online he says really sweet things, but i'm not sure if he likes me? o by the way we live like 5 hours away from eachother...

Since your 5 hours apart, my best advice is do not go out with him. If you do, you eventually will break up because someone new will come into your life or his life. The distance hurts, and when you start loving him you'll want him to be there for you, to hold, to kiss, and he wont be there. So you'll feel lonely and decide to just find someone around your town you know? Just talk on the phone and online and yah!! You may never ever see this guy again, so I dont suggest going out with him. But if you dont care what I say, and want to go out with him...have your friend IM him and be like "Do you like (your name) and then let her send you the conversation (thanks to copy and paste) and go from there! Hope I helped:)

Q: Ok, I'm 5'1 and 140 lbs!!! I'm a female, I don't look fat with my clothes on, I look like i'm like 120, i have kinda flat tummy, but when I see myself without my shirt on, I look really fat! I'm very dedicated to weight loss, but I don't want to diet and make it obvious, cuz I dun want my mom to know or anything, so do you guys have any methods, I don't want diet pills, I've stopped eatting sweats and soft drinks, I've been running daily (not to mention playing DDR2 :P). do you guys know any fast methods to loosing weight? getting a flat tummy? thanks a lot, I have a busy schedual, so hopfully the methods might not be too long? thanks, i give 5's!!!!!

How about your 3 meals a day, no junk food in between, drink lots of water, no soda and juice..and with that running you could lose a lot of weight! But it might take a few weeks to get results but dont count on the scale pay attention to how your clothes are getting loser:)

Q: I was just wondering if anyone has any good makeup ideas..like different shades with different skin tones (Mine is fair), different ways to apply it, Some hints or tricks (etc)..some help would be wonderful, thanks cuties :o)

A tip for eyeliner, if you mess up just apply lotion on it and it wipes off with a cloth or whatever. Because if you wipe with your finger or something it gets all messy! I am obbsessed with eyeliner so yeah thats pretty much it. If you go to a Mac store (www.maccosmetics.com) they'll give you tips!

Q: 13 - female

I started my period about 9 months ago and I know that it takes about a year or 2 to get into an exact cycle..but how do you know when you're gonna have your period..because I don't wanna have a leak at school or something and not know about it until I get home! Please help!

Well the day you get it mark it on your calendar then count 28 days(which is 4 weeks, one month) and make sure you have pads or tampons around that day. And you will get a feeling like your going to start, and you might get cramps, or your boobs will start hurting.

Q: i have been with my man for three yrs, im 38 and he is older. i want sex alot as that is what i like but not him. i have emailed him and told him this as i am too shy to say it to him for the most part. we have not had sex for three yrs. i am at the end of my rope dont say leave him cause i cant afford to do so financially. i do everything or at least 99 percent of the relationship he spends all his time online playing games mostly what do you ppl suggest i do i am serious about having an affair once maybe twice if i like it
thanks for any advice

Drag him off the computer and lecture him and make him listen. If you have to strap him to a chair, do it. You need to tell him that your relationship will be over pretty soon if he doesnt get his act together. You could even take away the computer from him, just take out all the wires and hide them...hope I helped, good luck!

Q: Well its my first year in college and I am like 500 miles from home and I only know 3 people up here at college. I have joined the softball team at my college and that has really been my only way off meeting people and all the girls on the team are really nice. My thing is, is that I would like to go and hang out with the girls on the team outside of practice and seeing them at school. But they seem to have their own little groups between them and me being a freshmen, I feel like they don't want me to hang out with them. They talk about going to parties and going out during practice but never tend to invite me, and I don't want to feel like a bug and invite myself or say anything about me coming along. But I am just getting sick of hanging out with the same 3 people everyday and night. I would like to have some other people to go and do things with instead of sitting in my room doing nothing. See my problem is, is that I am shy so I don't talk much while at practice or games so that might be why they don't invite me but thats just how I am for a while when meeting new people then after a while I open up. So what do you suggest that I do? Any advice would help. Thanks a bunch!

Sorry this is long

Instead of trying to get invited to partys, why not have your own party? Invite all of your softball team and tell them to bring anyone they want. That way you can meet people and get to know your teammates better. Hope I helped, and good luck!

Q: i am at my wits end as to what to do circumstances are such that i may not be able to get my kids that much for christmas i know that christmas is more than gifts so if that is your advice thanks but my kids are use to gifts for christmas i am sure i will be able to figure something out but any suggestions would be helpful thanks this is really getting me depressed

Well how about writing everything you spend in a month down. Like Phone Bill-$60, Food-$100, etc. etc. try taking out some of the things you dont really need. And go discount shopping for a while..you'll be sure to save money by December..You could even have a garage sale and sell some of yours and your kids old belongings and the money you get from that can go to christmas presents. I hope I helped!

Q: Hey Huns! This is advicenator: Strawberriilova92! Well, I know you probably have gotten alot like this. But, I'm fallin' for skateboarders all the sudden. And I have this best friend Sam, and he sorta likes me. He has skater blondee hair tha skater length, brown eyes tan and muscular. Tonight, we were totally flirting he kept hugging me, sitting on my lap, and sharing chairs. But I'm not sure if he likes me, how can I find out the truth without directly asking him!! Well im sure your advice will be great!!

LovieZ
MuahZ
XoXoZ

--Strawberrilova92--my sn

Do it the fourth-grader way, make a friend ask if he likes you:) haha yea its childish but it always works

Q: My brother got in some mess with some people.They are the type that do drugs have gone through lost of shyt in life.Well my brother did something and they took it very personal and came down to our house and began yelling at the door.but we have a gate so he couldnt come in but he was real ruff he also came with his older brother; i guess thay wanted to fight.Well the younger one which is 17 busted out with im gonna kill you or something like that and that boy is known to have a dangerous background.im really scared i dont know what to do.im very confused my brother tells me not to worry but how am i not suppose to.plz help me!ive thought about calling the police but i dont think i can go through with it until that boy took some serious actions.

You should call the cops, but make sure your brother knows. Their threatening you and your scared-which is enough to call the cops and get a restraining order or something.

Q: what does rofl stand for

rolling on the floor laughing..you know like lol..but rofl is if someone said somethin really funny :D!

Q: y isnt music allowed? if i do put it on is there a way i can be caught? thanx ~steph~

Music is not allowed because its another way some hackers can get onto your site or advicenators. Yes you can be caught, and I'm pretty sure moderators know I have music on my site..but they do nothing about it. So if you still want the code just ask me!

Q: how do u get music for ur advice column? i cant figure out how to find any websites for music to get on here. ill rate all 5s ~steph~

Music is not allowed but if you want to be a rebel and put music on your site, leave one in my inbox and I will help you.

Q: can u make me a glitter sig or whatever they are called? plz! i tryed but i cant do it! thanx and also how did u get ur music. i went to mklights or whatever and i pasted the alternate code but it didnt work. how did u get urs?

Yes, i'll make you a glitter sig but whats your name and email? For the music the code is: *bgsound src="URL HERE" loop="infinite"* ((Replace the first star with this < and the last star with this >) Put the code in your profile settings. If you need a site with music url's go to www.xanga.com/xanga_music, and right click on the song you want, and click properties. and then Just put the code in your profile settings where you put all your info in.

Q: how do you get the star fading thing when you leave someone's column? can you please tell me the site??
thanks so much
xo0x adriana

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?x=safe&u=html+.+help

Q: i need to get a halloween costume for halloween but my mom wont buy one and she wont take me somewhere to buy one! i don't really want to make my own costume because nobody will help me and i can't do it by myself without it looking really bad! i don't know what to do!! Should i just keep trying to convince my mom? Or make my own,really bad-looking, costume?

Well you could figure out who you want to be and try to use some of your clothes and accessiories to do the costume. Like I'm being a mean girl so Imma wear a tank top and a skirt and wear makeup and all..you know? But you could just do chores and get money that way and buy a costume. Or babysit or something..