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Help with making new friends?
Well its my first year in college and I am like 500 miles from home and I only know 3 people up here at college. I have joined the softball team at my college and that has really been my only way off meeting people and all the girls on the team are really nice. My thing is, is that I would like to go and hang out with the girls on the team outside of practice and seeing them at school. But they seem to have their own little groups between them and me being a freshmen, I feel like they don't want me to hang out with them. They talk about going to parties and going out during practice but never tend to invite me, and I don't want to feel like a bug and invite myself or say anything about me coming along. But I am just getting sick of hanging out with the same 3 people everyday and night. I would like to have some other people to go and do things with instead of sitting in my room doing nothing. See my problem is, is that I am shy so I don't talk much while at practice or games so that might be why they don't invite me but thats just how I am for a while when meeting new people then after a while I open up. So what do you suggest that I do? Any advice would help. Thanks a bunch!
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Well, if you don't talk much, they'll just think you dont want to talk to them or go out! Having confidence is the key to EVERYTHING. invite yourself in a nice way, or go with your 3 friends. it's always good to have back up cause then it's like ure in a crowd and its more of a confidence booster. but as long as you know how to have fun.. you'll definatly find a way into the group!
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My situation is in high school but it was really similar. I hung out will all upperclassmen when I was a freshman and I woulden't get invited to their partys because I was younger, and also, I don't think they realised much, but I expressed my feelings to one of them and she said she totally didn't realise it and now I feel so much more included. I didn't guilt them into it or anything (I know it kind of sounds that way) I suggest maybe making plans to go to the movies with a group of them and then from there, you'll become stronger friends and you'll be included more. Also, joining other clubs on campus would help too.
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just start talking to the people who sit around you and if you have a roomate maybe ask her if she could introduce you to some of her friends!
hope i helped
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The logical thing to say would be to try and open up, and start talking more with people. But I know from experience it's easier said than done.
I was also very shy at school, even afterwards, I found it difficult to make new friends.
So the only thing I can suggest you do is what I did. I joined some new clubs, Drama, Art, Tennis, Swimming, SRC and Choir.
I soon started meeting new people and made new friends. Some of these friends I still have now almost 11 years later.
Try to expand your social activities by maybe joining a couple of new teams or clubs, you'll find it easier to meet more people.
The other suggestion is, if you are comfortable with it, then throw a party yourself. Invite your 3 friends, tell them to each invite a friend or 2. You would have already then met at least 3 new people.
Soon you'll have an abundance of new aquaintances and friends.
I wish you all the very best, and hope my advice helped a bit!
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Open up! Instead of sitting around waiting for someone to invite you, why dont you invite these girls you want to hang with, to go do something? Worst thing that could happen? they say no....Oh well, just find other ppl that you would think were just as cool if not cooler, to hang out with. You never get anywhere being shy and being shy serves no purpose but cutting your self out of all the fun your missing!!!
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Instead of trying to get invited to partys, why not have your own party? Invite all of your softball team and tell them to bring anyone they want. That way you can meet people and get to know your teammates better. Hope I helped, and good luck!
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