im thirteen and i wanna masterbate. ive tried to do it before. do you just stick one of your fingers up ur vag. and how far up? like are you suposto get and oragasm? because iddint
There isnt any real way to do it... Firstly... find your clit... Its a little nub at the top of your slit under a little hood of skin. Find that and play with it and you may get that orgasm your looking for. Look on google to find diagrams of the vagina to find your clitoris...
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I was wondering about something really important to me. I have this boy that has been stalking me for a while and wants to do it(have sex) with me. I really don't like him like that and don't really know him but he still stalks me and looks at me in the wrong places. Can you give me some advice?
I had a similar experience. Mine went away when i got a guy friend of mine to call him and abuse him. But that's not always the answer.
Be firm and clear that you WILL NOT be having sex with him, today, tomorrow or any day in the future.
Explain that you are not an object and if he looks at you again and propositions you again he'll be spoken to by the police. Because it is illegal, what he is doing. Stalking, propositioning... If you told the police that you are fearful of him then they can speak to him.
Otherwise, tell your parents. They'll likely get angry and speak to his parents. No one wants their daughter treated as a sexual object!
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I have 3 children ages 6,2, and 4 weeks. This morning I was taking a nap with my newborn in his bassinet next to the bed. "Grandma" was supposed to be watching my 2 yr old daughter. I had woken suddenly hearing the baby cry, and realized the baby was not in his bassinet. I immediately knew something was wrong and called my daughters name and ran to where I heard the baby crying. My daughter had dropped her brother on a pile of laundry and ran to a corner when I called her name (she knows she isn't supposed to be anywhere near the baby without supervision). It turned out "Grandma" has fallen asleep watching TV, instead of watching my daughter. My daughter has picked up the baby by herself multiple times without out us even hearing, she does it very sneaky. She knows its wrong, but I can't seem to make her understand she can severely injure or even kill her baby brother. She has her own baby dolls we got her to play with, but she ignores them and wants to play with the real baby. Any advice please? This is very scary, it had me in a panic almost in tears.
One of the answers says that your daughter isnt old enough to understand... But i disagree. She is probably feeling jealousy towards the new baby. Or perhaps she just wants to play with him. You need to be firmer with your 2 year old, i think. She needs consequence and punishment.
I'd be seriously coming down on grandma. You're the one with the new baby, you're the one needing your sleep. Grandma should have been doing her job!!
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So... about senior prom. Will it be DEVASTATING if I don't go? My friends are really cynical about it and don't want to go, and no - I won't be able to convince them to go. My best friend is setting it up. She has to go. I could go with her... but I don't really know the other friends that she would be hanging out with.
The thing is - I don't really want or NEED to go. But I just don't want to go and have an awkward time because I feel like I'm OBLIGATED to go. Is prom really that big of a deal?
If i were you i'd go. You might look back 20 years later and wish you went and you can't take it back. You can go, and hate it and leave... But you cant turn around the next day and decide to go...
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for a girl, if you have sex, does your vagina stretch and stay that way, or do you have to have sex a lot. because ive heard my friends quote guys that say they get no pleasure of some girls because theyre so loose. is that true?
The vagina is designed to stretch and then go back to normal...
If a girl just has sex, it wouldnt be heaps loose... It wouldnt be as tight as a virgin's vagina but its definitely not loose enough to say that its not pleasurable.
People have babies and go tight again... There are exercises and stuff aswell.
If your friends say a girl is loose, maybe they havent thought about the fact that they might be SMALL...
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thank you for answering my question before about periods (I'm the 13 yr old girl). but i yet still have a question, i live with my dad because my parents are separated since my mum cheated on my dad last year. i am allowed to call her and see her but i don't want to and my big sis has a huge problem to deal with right now, so i don't have any1 to talk to even though my dad has noticed the discharge and talked to me about it I'm too embarrassed, i don't know what to do!
You should try and talk to your mum. Even though you dont want to, if you cant talk to your dad your mum is your only option. Unless you want to try talking to your sister because i expect she'd be more than happy to help you out. Or maybe you're just gonna have to suck it up and talk to your dad? I dont really know.
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Well there's is this kid David that Ive been crazy for ,for about 3 ish years.We have been reallly good friends and he has admitted to liking me on and off.We've been having sex for about that long as well and I just had a feeling deep deep down he had alot of feelings for me ,he just didn't show them or wasnt ready to show them or just didn't wanna ruin things..so i continued having sex with him even though we weren't going out .Then I asked him if he likes me and what not and he said he does deep down and he knows one day we will date but hes just not ready for a girlfriend so I believed that.Shortly after ,he started talking to this girl who doesn't even live in our town and whatnot.He started talking to me less and less and acted like he cared less and less each day.He's now going out with her and barely talks to me and when he does,its usually something mean.I tried talking to him about it and he said "that he didnt wanna spend his life with just one girl the rest of his life "etc etc. and from then on ,I just kinda pretend like I dont care but it's really killing me inside.I wanna know if he atleast thinks about me or what is going on.I would stop liking him but its hard and we've had a thing for 3 years so I don't want to lose it.Any advice would help thanks!
Oh huni... Dump his ass!!!
I actually thought you were a friend of mine because shes having the EXACT same problem but it didnt go for 3 years.
Dump him. Its hard to forget about him because you like/love him but you need to move on. All he wanted out of you was a fuck.
He is a sleeze and a liar. Sorry if i was so blunt.
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I am a female and have had sex with two different guys, but only a few times with each. They were both my boyfriends and were both virgins, so there was no pressure for me. Still, sex never felt good for me. Now I am with a new guy who had sex all the time with his ex-gf. From the beginning this made me nervous because I am not as experienced but I still wanted to. So, we tried, and it all went wrong. He tried to go inside me but for some reason couldnt and then went soft. I know its not cause he couldnt fit because I have had sex before with long periods of time between. I tried getting him hard again, but then he cummed and we couldnt try again. I felt like what happened was my fault and I am nervous to try again. I am also afraid that we will never be able to connect sexually, and I don't think i can continue to be with him if thats the case. Any advice for this sittuation would be appreciated.
You seem young, and its ok to mess it up when you're starting out. Just laugh it off and try again next time. Buy lubricant and use it alot. It will help with the non entry thing.
Good luck!
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So. this will be REALLLLY long! Ryan and i (16) have been going out for almost 4 months now. We hung out basically every day for those 4 months.. I really love him, no other guy has showed such real sympathy for me. Ryan is one of the most amazing guys in my life (hes 18). We had sex and he took my virginity. That was the most amazing moment of my life. Well. Friday night, he was giving me a pissy attitude, so i was kinda upset. Well, apparently my "best friend" told him all this false stuff and he believed it. Well. We fought ALL weekend.. and i cried ALL weekend. that song mad by ne-yo. we completely related to it. Sunday night at like 8:23, he called me.
(he broke up with me because he didnt want a girlfriend really but he still does.. he is going to college in a couple months and he really hasnt applied to any other colleges yet. he never did any school work and he has to get that in and get really good grades becuase hes failing 3 classes, if hes going to apply, he also is having problems with his dad and his mom)
me: *answers crying
ryan: ..
me: still crying* dont you have something to tell me
ryan: oi know you already know, this has nothing to do with you. for so long before i even met you, before last summer, before last winter. i never wanted a girlfriend. and then i met you. and i liked you so much. and i thought if i went out with you i figured that would go away. and i would want a girlfriend. this has nothing to do with loving you or not loving you. i cant do this. ill still be here for you. just ... i cant go on like this.
me: *scilenced for 5 mins.. i got to go.. i have stuff to do.
ryan: what?
me: i got to go...
ryan: ok, love you.
me: hangs up*
well. that was the most devistating moment of my life... it hurt so bad. i recorded it too.. i am proud of myself becuase i havent cried recently. but yesterday, he came over.. this is what happened. this is a convo with my friend..
Me
...he just left
that was the hardest thing ive ever done..
ever.
Friend
what happened?
Me:
hold on.. okay hey. he was just sitting outside of my house for a sec. so he got here. i was just sitting there. he tried to hold my hand. i took it back. he hugged me really tight. i just sat there and kept my head down. he went hysterical and ran out of my house and was likee i cant do this... and he left his jacket i ran outside barefoot. to give him his jacket he was sititingg in my driveway. and i go up to his window he rolls it open i was like well.. you want this? its kinda cold and like from his opened window he looked at me. and he was in tears. and i was like ...ryan dont cry. i opened his car and said come inside. and i held his hand and took him back into my house. and my feet were freezing so he picked me up we went into my room andi continued to hold his hand. and i thought to myself
"i thought that i would never hold this hand again" i almost started to cry but i closed my eyes and just thought about happy things like i have been. then i got up and he tried to kiss me. i turned away and he started crying again so i held his hand again. even tighter. so we were just talking. then all the sudden i find myself making out iwth him. and i thought to myself "i thought i would never taste his lips again.. ever again" so i was like almost about to cry. but then i grew a ballsack and wa slike... hapy htings. andi shut my eyes. well then we were just talking about things. not about us at all.
and he kises me and goes "i love you more then anything in my life. and im so sorry that this happpened.." and i go mmhm.. again im about to cry and i shut my eyes and just htink about happy htings. then i didnt say a word. and i guess he knew i didnt wanna hear him saying that.. he said i was breathing weird and i have been lately. so he was saying like oh when you have a sore throat you can breath differentlyy. and he started talkingabout random shit. i guess it was making him alright though. by just talking about random shit we had a like 10 min moment of scilence .again i had balls. almost started to cry. closed my eyes. and though about happy things. then we looked at the clock....5:25. he was like shit. i have to get home before my dad i was like ..... and i just like totally stopped looking at my phone put it down gave him the biggest hug ever and started crying. so when we left he kissed me on the forehead and wiped my tears and said ill go online when i get home.
..how sad is that? well. i know he still loves me. it hurts so much to walk past him in the hallways.. and to look at the clock and see that theres a min. left in class and know i am not going to be with him for the 5 min period we have in the hallways. can you tell me if this is normal? my other friend told me that clearly, were still madly in love with eachother and that we are going to get back together.. she told ryan that and he agreed (about the madly in love thing). this girl tel me every day how crazy this kid is about me..
so, this week i asked him "are we on a break, or are we broken up" he said "were kinda on a break".
- what does he mean by kinda?
- do you think that im allowed to hook up with guys? ..or should i wait a little while and see if he really wants to have me back.
- do you think that is a legit reason to go on a break/break up with your girlfriend?
- i already gave him a second chance after some girl got ontop of him and started making out with him, would you call this blowing his second chance if he asks for me back?
- last night, he also said being friends with benefits wouldn't help the situation, but he suggested we would. does that sound like hes trying to get with another girl? i told him no because i want him to chase after me.. was that the right kind of answer? no matter how much i love him im not going to bow down and show him how desperate i am for him back.. i want him to chase after me. is that right?
- on AIM and texting he still says i love you and he still send me hearts.
- the night he broke up with me he sent me an email that said I LOVE YOU LAURA
I dont doubt for a second that you love him. It seems like you love each other very much. However... Your first point was basically: if we're on a break is it ok to hook up with other guys... You need to ask him that. Perhaps you BOTH need to hook up with other people then get back together. Alot of people who are crazy in love break up for short periods of time to play the field and go back, just to they dont cheat.
He seems definitely to be playing games with you. Maybe not intentionally, but its happening. Ask him outright: "WHAT DO YOU WANT?!"
Dont get your friends to do the talking for you either because it shows you're weak.
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i am 13 and i haven't gotten my period yet but i get major cramps in my stomach down near my bladder.
when i get the cramps i get discharge. does this mean i will get my period?
It would depend on the kind of discharge. If it is brown or a similar colour it would be your period. I'd suggest that you talk to your mum and go see your doctor.
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u think what happend with u is most shocking part and u can answer anything
then tell me what have people in palestine done why are they being dealt like that what about innocent childrens and ladies and young men are being killed like flies and bees ..
I didnt exactly say that what i've been through is the most shocking thing in the world. I know there are far worst things that could happen to people, such as what you described. Im not sure how to answer your questions. Life is cruel. If it can hurt you it will and there are people in this world who are nasty nasty people. I dont deny that there are horrible things happening in the world, however I am not the right person to say why.
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Ok, so my eyes change colors in shades of brown. They're either a very dark brown, almost (if not) black, a medium brown, or a very light, golden, almost honey shade.
I'm not sure if that means I have a shade other than brown, haha.
But why does this happen?
Oh, and my eyes don't match. I have like a squiggly line that looks like a river in my right eye and a dot that looks like the sun in my other.
Why is that?
I'll post some links to pictures of the different shades they turn.
Black:
http://i40.tinypic.com/4qqumg.jpg
http://i44.tinypic.com/2zsvbic.jpg
Dark Brown:
http://i44.tinypic.com/29sec1.jpg
http://i43.tinypic.com/16bdg93.jpg
Medium:
http://i44.tinypic.com/11ln1j7.jpg
http://i42.tinypic.com/v7xe89.jpg
Golden/Honey:
http://i40.tinypic.com/1fg6j5.jpg
http://i41.tinypic.com/24gj5ua.jpg
Your eyes are BROWN!!!
How couldnt you know that?
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my sister in law really hates me... ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months and he recently got kicked out of his house and is living with my family and me...it wasn't entirely my fault though is friend was in on it to and he wasn't forced into anything...but his sister has been threatening me and saying that i fucked up his whole life and just making me feel like shit [[she lives in Idaho,were in Anaheim]] but still evrything she says makes me feel bad my boyfriend says to ignore her because she hormonal and pregnant but like i realy feel like telling her to shut the fuck up because she doesnt know what living in his house was like [[he was adopted..and hated it there]] so yea i kinda wanna yell at her but then i dont because my boyfriend and i would like to get married and i dont want to have an "i hate you bitch" relationship with her...so how can i tell her to butt out in a way that straight but no like fuck you kinda way??
Just ignore her. My man's sister hates me and bitches about me to all her friends, but she doesnt threaten me and shes really nice to my face. You dont have to deal with her on a day to day basis so just dont. Your boyfriends needs to step up and tell his sister to shut up!
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I have my L plates and i am going to Melbourne in about a week. I haven't driven yet so my dad says it's okay if i drive on the long straight roads. In Sydney, where i live, all L platers can only reach a maximum speed of 80. A few years ago though my cousins said that in Melbourne an L plater can go the same limit as the sign, even if its over 80. Does this still apply?
Thank you :)
Im pretty sure its the same all over aus... Go to the rta website anyway and look it up.
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So, I ended up losing my virginity to my boyfriend around Thanksgiving. Since then we've been having sex regularly. In early December we were having sex and he didn't pull out in time, and, well, you know the rest. After that I had an irregular and way lighter period that lasted longer than usual. But it was so off and different that it didn't even seem like a period. After I had stopped bleeding, we began having sex again. And, well, he didn't pull out then either...
My period has always been regular, always at the beginning of the month. And now it's Jan 13th and I'm getting worried.
What do I do? Am I pregnant?
If you do not use protection you can get pregnant. The signs are pointing to you being pregnant. Pregnant people can still get their period. No matter if he pulls out in time or not throughout sex he emits 'pre-cum', which is significantly less in quantity but far more potent. If you've been relying on the 'pull out' method of contraception then you need to do a test and if you're not pregnant, you're lucky!!!!!!!!! If you're not pregnant, get on the pill or get a shot or something. Or at least use condoms. Dont cry about being pregnant if you cant protect yourself!!!
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I'm a 21 yr old female who just got out of a 2 yr. relationship and I've finally found someone that can make me feel things I've never felt before. This guy is 22 I've known him since I was 5 we've been close friends on and off. He's asked me out in the past but I've rejected him. Well now that we started to reconnect We somehow found ourselves falling for each other.He is everything I've ever wanted but he has a girlfriend of 2 yrs. on and off. He claims they are doomed and he is trying to break up with her and he is also going to therapy for me to find a conventional way of breaking it off. They really do not get along, all they do is fight but he just doesn't know how to leave her. Well it's been a couple months and he is making progress. But I catch him in these lies all the time about everything. He claims I'm what he wants and we could be so perfect together. We are pretty much the same person in every aspect. Well I just don't know where to go with this. I can't seem to just walk away. I hate distancing myself. It just feels like we could be so right together but I'm scared this is a hopeless case and I'll be cleaning my heart up off the floor by time I am done. I'm just such a mess about it.
I've been there. I really have. You need to see how much of what he says is true. No guy would go to such extremes to "TRY" to break up with their girlfriend. Try to figure out if he really is doing therapy. How much of their relationship do you see, and how much is he telling you?? If he wanted you the way he says he does, he'd be willing to leave her NOW! Theres also another aspect. He's been in a relationship for, i dont know how long, but if and when he does get out of that relationship he may want to be single for a while. And you're going to have to acccept that.
I cant even say how much i have been in your situation before... Its scarily similar. Talk to him. Does he really need all this time to break up with her? Why does he need it? Why cant he just leave her. If he loved you more than he loves her he'd leave her NOW!!
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There is this guy that I am sort of "talking to" and tonight he was trying to upload pictures on to his myspace, but he was having some trouble, so he asked me to do it for him. Okay, no problem.
So he gives me his username and password so I log in and start uploading his pictures. Well I become more then tempted to look in his inbox see who hes been chatting with. So I do and theres about five different girls that he's sending messsages to.
He calls them "hun" and "baby", "babe", "sweetheart", "beautiful"... the works. So heres my problem with the whole situation. Tonight we were having a sort of "deep convrsation" and I said "listen, you know that I don't talk to any guys or hang out with any guys but you, so where do you stand with the same situation"? Well he pretty much said I don't call or hang out with any other girls. I dind't get the impression that he was haning out with any of the girls yet or anything like that.
I really wanted to say what about online, but i figured that would be too obvious. I just don't know what to do about it without saing that I looked in his inbox.
Any advice would be so helpful.
You two are "just talking" at the moment so you have no reason to get angry about it. If you were dating and he was doing that its a different story.
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15/F 10th grade
This guy has liked me since the eighth grade and he's asked me out before but I said no. So at the beginning of this school year, after that, he knows I've never kissed a guy so he's all "oh well I could be your first."
And I liked him too. He's my neighbor! And I'm not used to guys liking me I guess. So I ask him if since we like each other, does it mean we're going out? And he's like "Nahh that's lame. How about friends with benefits? But we'd hafta do stuff to like, the extreme. But nothing you don't wanna do. Promise!" He totaly contradicted himself!
And now, he's doing it all over again. It's my fault, though. My friend noticed his attraction and I said something to him about it.
Only now, he's asking for pictures. Just pictures in general. I said I'd give him a plain old myspace one and of course I'm suspicious because he can get it himself. But he wants a "a cute one, pweeeeeze, just for me"!
But I'm stubborn, and I'm saying no :]
Whaddya think? I REALLY want a boyfriend and that first kiss, but I don't want it to him. And I haven't had a boyfriend in two years! Can you help me :[
Dont settle for second best. If you dont want him, dont have him. Simple. It sounds like he wants something specific from you. Just tell him you're uncomfortable with the way he is acting incinuating he wants to have sex with you. Because thats what 'friends with benefits' means. And you're not a slut! Maybe he's had some bad advice though and thinks girls like that kind of conversation. Tell him you wanna be friends, without benefits and see how he likes that. But dont settle for him if he's not what you really want.
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okay well i had this crush on a guy who plays hockey at the rink i play at 15/f btw and i told my friend that plays hockey with him to find out if he was talking to anyone or anything like that bc i didnt no bc we dont go to the same school, and she ended up telling him i wanted to no and idc about that but then he ended up texting me and whatever happend and we started ''talking'' and that lasted like 2 days and then he didnt text me and i went to one of his hockey games when he played my school and i texted him after to say good game and he was like thanks and gave me this whole big bullshit story about how sorry he was he hasnt texted me bc he deleted his texts and never saved my number and whatevs i didnt ask and i didnt care why he hadnt texted me and then after that night i didnt talk to him for about another week and then he had practice before me and he was on the ice and i pretended like i didnt and walked by and after my practice he texted me and was like hey i saw you today you looked real good and all this shit. and again after that day didnt text me again and i saw him at the rink again and i tryed to pretend i didnt see him and just walk by bc i didnt wanna talk to him, but he like came over and tapped my shoulder and was like hey whats up and i just said hey and started walking away and walked with me and we were talking and whatev i was kinda bein a bitch.. and that night he texted me and we talked about whatever and thats the last time i saw him or talked to him and that was a week ago and i dont know what to do bc i care about him but i feel like he only feels it nessicary to talk to me on days he sees me and i no people are gonna tell me to text him but i feel like he needs to make more of an effert before i do... and im sorry that was so long and i'd apperciate sooo much if you would tell me what to dooo bc i dont know im lost on weather to stop talking to him all together or try harderr..
Maybe he just doesnt like to call or text. You could put yourself in places he would be, and instead of being a 'bitch' (your words not mine =]) talk to him, be nice, be yourself which is most important. Just see where it goes. It seems like he's keen when he sees you. So my advice... Dont stop talking to him, because it seems like he may like you. Just text him sometimes and ask him if he wants to hang out or something.
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i had sex yesterday without a condom. but i had just gotten off my period about 5 or 6 hours before, and he didnt cum. (we were interrupted)
is it still possible that i could get pregnant?
If you have sex without protection, you can always get pregnant. Thats it. It doesnt matter what time of the month or if he came or not. You can also get an STD. I advise to get on the pill (assuming you're not actually pregnant).
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