Hey y'all. I started this whole advice thing cuz i absolutely luv people and giving advice. I'll try to help the best I can with whatever problem you have. I've been through a little of everything so ask away and don't be shy!
E-mail: e.sherhart@comcast.net
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Location: TEXAS!!!
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Would any of you agree with "a drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts"?
The other night, my friend, who had had a few, told me he liked me, he thinks it can work between us, even that im the girl he sees himself marrying. The next day I asked him about it. I asked if he remembered what he said and he said yes. So I asked him if he meant it, and he said yes. I really like him. but im scared to take it any further because I don't know it its true. (link)
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First of all, really get to know this guy while he's sober!!! If there's any doubts then it can't hurt to really find out what this guy is like. There's a good chance he probably does like you since he remembered and all. So just talk to him and get to know him and it'll work out!!!
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ok what do i do.... i dont like my current friends but i want to hang out with these to other girl emma n iris i mean i did hang out with them and we were like best friends and i said lets never fight and lets be best friends forever that didnt work ,,, they are the "popular girls in school" and i want to be friends with them cause i had SO much fun with them and we could like do anything and talk about anything unlike these friends i have now they FREAK OUT if someone is kissing on t.v. emma n iris always hang out with boys and thats something i want is some more guy friends too and if they saw like that someone kissing they would kiss which is so cute lol! so help meeeeeee please i might rate i dunno only if i get good answeres (link)
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If you want them as friends then start hanging out and talking with them more. Don't butt in cuz nobody really likes that. But if they're friendly enough then i'm sure they'd luv to have you around. Don't just like them for their popularity though. But if you just want them as some new friends and people to talk to, then just get involved with what they're doing and all. Talk with them and yeah, you know the drill. Hope i helped!!!
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Hey, I'm am musician, and i really luv what i play! But there is one problem. I don't know if i should do music in the future. I mean, I would luv to be a performer and travel, but only a small handful out of millions of musicians have that oppurtunity. Of course, being a teacher or professor would be more reasonable. However, I'm rlly confused if should pursue this career i absolutely LUV that might not provide enough for me, or to get a "real" job and just do music as a hobby. thnx! (link)
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If you luv what you play and you're willing to make sacrifices for what you luv then go for it!!!! Being an artist and musician is extremely hard because you are always traveling and playing. You have to be physically fit to play tours and stuff. Here's a quote that might help from Leonid Kogan (violinist) "where the talent is, the career will follow". If your instrument practicly defines who you are (like me!!!) then you won't even want to do anything else. To put it simply, you won't be satisfied with anything but music. If that describes you then you should probably become a pro. Yeah, you're guaranteed a pay-check with a teaching job but usually you get that more after you've had your career out there as a concert soloist. That isn't the case in everything but right now if you have time, just think about it!!! Explore your options and just have fun. Hope i Helped!!!
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Im 13 and im 200 pounds basicly and everyone hates me even my mom..Because im so overweight..my dad left my mom to go have sex wit another woman cuz theey wanted a "fit" daughter!!!!SO.....then like my mom had sex with another guy she waaas dating..and she took the pregnency test and shes havin triplets!!!!and she said shes givin me up..Cause im overweight..so im at my Grandmas house 4 now on.......so 2 make me happy my mom gave me 2 babys so..i was there NEW MOM!!! I feel like noone cares about me!!!Can you give me some things to say 2 my mom..about just dumping her children on me!!! (link)
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First of all, if you're happy with yourself, then so should your family. Try talking to your mom about why the heck she's doing this to you. Tell her it just isn't right legally and morally. I think you should refuse the babies since it sounds like she doesn't want them. Make her pay the consequences. And God will always care about you and love you. So He's always there no matter what you look like!!! If you need some more help or just really need somebody to help you through this my email is e.sherhart@att.net Feel free to leave one in my inbox if you need more advice. I'll pray for ya!!! God bless.
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i'm 13 and i've never had a boyfriend!!! so.. how do i get one??? (link)
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Gurl, you're 13!!! As in really young!!! If you want one that bad, start really talking to like one guy you might be interested in. Get to know him and see how things turn out. But for now, be patient and all with time!!!
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Hey! I'm 130 pounds,and 5'3,and i was wondering is this too fat? Well, some people say i'm not fat,but maybe they just say it too be nice,but i don't know.I sometimes see my self kinda'of fat in the mirrow,but there are days that and don't.it's maybe the clothes i wear.I don't have a big belly. Just kinds large thighs,and butt.Thanx for reading this.And hope yall give good advice.
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That's usually a good weight for that height. A lot depends on your body build too. I'm practicly like you with a muscular build and my weight works for me. If you're happy with yourself, then who cares about other people. They won't notice your weight if you don't. If you feel like dropping a few pounds, get a good diet plan and exercise. But it sounds like you aint fat at all, so don't worry!!!
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Ok well, im skinny. But my arms have like a flab where my muscle should be. You know the part under your shoulder. Well I was just wondering how I could get that to go away? Cause it really bothers me like when i move it jiggles (gross I know!). Also when I put my arms down to my side it like flattens out and makes my arm look big and fat. So i was just wondering how I could get that to go away!! Thanks to the people who arn't jerks about it. I'll rate.
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It aint funny at all!!! Try doing like pushups every day so you can tone the muscle better. Or you could do weights. Either one that you think will help better. Hope i helped!!!
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so i wanna know if i like this boy for real, or if its just a crush! SO HELP!!!, ohk well i odnt really talk to the guy i mean i've danced more then i've talked with him, we were at a party and he told me to dance so i told him he looked very cute & he said that i did to, the whole time we were dancing i got the vibe that he liked me & then we were holding hands cause that's how you danced the kind of music & i felt so comfortable... and we kept laughing cause there was this funny dude ... but anyways and when we did laugh we looked into each others eyes ... it was awsome & when he danced with someone else, i got so mad! so what i want to know is if i like this boy or if i think i do. remember i dance with him more then i talk to him! (link)
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I'm not sure why you don't talk to him as much. You might just be shy since you think you like him. Sounds to me like you BOTH like each other. But nothing is going to work out if you dont talk to each other!! Just start flirting and talking and i'm sure things will work out for ya!!!
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Hey so I have a boyfriend and hes really hot but I like him cause I like his personality. So my friend Allie kept on telling him to dump me and go out with her. She already has a boyfriend and I told him and we are both really pissed at her and we dont know what to do. Should I just ignore the fact that shes trying to steal my boyfriend or something else?
Thanks xo0ox (link)
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Try talking with her first. Tell her how it's just not right of her to mess up y'alls relationship. If she totally ignores you then don't worry. She doesn't sound like much of a friend anyways. Maybe even have your bf talk to her. Hope i helped!!!
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Hello. Well, when I make presentations at school or read a paper to the class, I always get nervous. I can't help it. I've tried everything: looking at the wall, looking at the people's noses, practicing a million times the night before, etc. My question is, are there any pills that help with that, or help with nervousness? If there are, are they expensive and do they actually really work? Please help soon because school is coming up. Thank you. (link)
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Don't take any pills because they're most likely going to mess you up even more. Try practicing in front of a few friends/family. Once you feel comfortable with that, add a few people. Just breathe and tell yourself you'll do fine. Alot of it is just a lack of self-confidene. If you think you'll do fine then you will. Just don't freak yourself out about it before you even try. Take it one step at a time and dont worry!!!
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a guy that i like a lot thinks i have lost interaste in him which isnt true at all. i tryed tellin him but he still thinks i dont like him as much and i need a way to prove it to him that i love him a lot can someone plz help me out?? (link)
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Keep telling the guy!!! The best way to prove things is just to open up with him and tell him. If he's just saying that to see how much he can get out of you, be really careful then!!! Some guys just do that if they want you to do something with them. But if this guy is honest with you and stuff, just keep telling him and he'll get it eventually. Hope i helped!!!
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Well This Is Goin To Be Long. I'm 15 a Female...and me and my ex just recently broke up we dated for a 1 yr and half..i did 1 thing wrong. i was drunk and selfish didnt no wat i was doin and we broke up..i swear up and down that i love him..he said were history were through he never wants to talk to me again...well i got a msg on icq last night..sayin him and his sister is after me..so i msged him back..and he threatened me and *ALL MY FRIENDS* which is pretty much the hole county. and he said for us to show up at his house and if we didnt we was pussys..well we didnt show up..cause we didnt have a way..and because half of my friends is on vacation. so now his sister said that she gets her liscence monday..and that i have it coming. and shes gonna stomp my ass..and she said for me to watch my back..well she said that i threatened her when i didnt..the only thing i said is if u come up to my house and try to fight me youre gonna get it..she goes thats gonna look great in the police records..well shes 18. and shes already been in jail once..and her brother (my ex) beated me and everything..what should i do???..bout the hole thing...the fight and gettin threatened..should i take a compliant thingy out on her and her family for threatening me..
PLEASE HELP
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I would really call the police or something!!! When people threaten like that, it's always safer to have somebody like the law help you out. And really think twice about this guy. If he's doing all this stuff to you then i would seriously recommend NOT even considering going out with him again. It just wouldn't work out after all this. If you don't want police involved, try talking to your parents. They luv you and want to help you out. And i'm sure they would have better ideas than me!!! Just don't go through all this alone because you dont have to and it's not safe!!!
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ok heres the thing....
im getting adopted and my parents have alot of trust in me...........
well iwent to my friends house and then i was goin with her brother and i did somethings(for the first time)
an now i think i might be pregnant!!!!
i dont want them to find out if i am but of course im gonna get fatter (if i am)
and u kno they will notice.
please help me asap????
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You need to tell them seriously. Your parents are going to trust you a lot more if you're honest with them instead of them having to find out your pregnant when you get fatter. But first, i would highly recommend finding out if you're really pregnant. You wouldn't want to tell your parents without really knowing. So if your parents trust you and care, which i know they do, then tell them so they can help you through this. That's what family is for!!! Hope i helped!!!
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Okay here is the scoop. I have a friend "Tory" who is pregnant. She didn't tell me her aunt did because her grandma kicked her out when she found out that "Tory" was pregnant. Her aunt wants me to talk to her but I can't bring it up until she tells me. But then again I don't think she wants to tell me because It is like a competition thing between us in her eyes, she always compares things. But I don't look at our friendship like that. But anyways when she tells me what can I say to make her feel like I will be there for her, which I will but I still don't know what to say Please HELP (link)
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In a way, i think you should bring it up. Explain why you know she's pregnant and really try to help. If she gets mad, just say that you really luv her and you're just concerned and you want to help. If she wants you to always be there for her then part of that is talking about things that she sometimes doesn't want to hear. Like her pregnancy in this case. Just be there for her and that will prove that you really care for her. Hope i helped!!!
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Okay I have had my period for like a year now, or whateva. So like last month and this month, it didn't stay on as long as usual. I mean it used to come on for 5 days now it comes on for looks like 7. Is this normal? I mean what is wrong with me. I couldn't be pregnant, cause if your period comes on while you are pregnant it is shorter right? SOmeone help me please. Rate 5 for all GREAT and HELPFUL answers.
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Since you're still pretty new to the whole period thing then yeah, it's going to be really inconsistent. It might be irregular for a few years depending on your body. But you're fine so don't worry!!!
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years..we have been recently getting in arguments about stupid stuff really..but he said hes starting to think that i dont care about him.. i really do care about him alot..How do i prove to him that i havent lost my love for him? (link)
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The best way to prove it is to say it!!! And if he still doesn't trust you, then really think twice about him. Trust is absolutely necessary in a good relationship. Without it, you might as well end it right now. But if he doesn't believe you, try telling him how much you realy care about him and try to stop fighting so much!!!
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Okay, first off, I'm one to listen to advice and take it, but usually what I end up choosing lies within me. Basically what I'm trying to say is, I know I should follow my heart, I just want to know what YOU would do if you were me. The question is going to be kind of long, sorry.:]
I was born in Singapore, and basically for half my life I've been shuffling between Toronto and Singapore living and studying with either my mom or my dad. I came back to Toronto again in November of 2003, and I guess you can say I was not happy about leaving Singapore. The reason me and my brothers are here is so that we have an easier access to university in the future, but I feel so sick here, as if there is no meaning to my life, nowhere I'm heading, at least in Singapore, they force feed you to do well in school and as sad as that sounds, I felt as if I was going somewhere. I had plenty of friends and I was happy.
Now I haven't been back to Singapore for 1 1/2 years, and everyday my mom is saying how I've turned into this..mentally depressed person. She said that she wont force me to stay here. The question is, should I stay here until I finish my university studies, or go back to Singapore and study until Grade 11, and come back for Grade 12 and university? The problem is, my little brother wants to stay, and we have a lot of family problems, I kind of want to protect him. I don't want him to have to grow up the way I did. If I go back to Singapore, I will learn a lot more education-wise and feel challenged, I will finally be around my family again, and it's not as if I can never come back to Toronto. If I stay in Toronto, I'll be able to protect my brother, I'll have an easier life, but it just feels meaningless. After all, it's not liek I can never come back to Toronto again, but I'm afraid, once I make my choice, I cannot turn back. I can't go back to Singapore and try it for 1 month or so, it is too expensive. I have to stay there until University. If I stay here, I can't help but think "what if?" I just feel so dreadful, it's as if all my happiness was sucked out of me the minute I left Singapore. What would you do? (link)
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If you aren't happy in Toronto, then talk to both of your parents about it, maybe even your lil brother. Tell them why you've been depressed and ask them for your opinion. I think you should go back to Singapore because you sounded happier there and more challenged. I can't help to wonder if your brother could possibly go with you?? Maybe you should talk about that too. But if you felt better in Singapore then your life is going to be a lot better there then in Toronto. Your Toronto life may be easier, but if it makes you feel meaningless then it's soo not worth it!!! Hope i helped!!!
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This is going to sound riiculous, but it has nonetheless made me upset. My mom is a very good cook, and she normally makes her own pasta sauce when we have pasta for dinner. However, if we are just having pasta (i.e. just my sister & I) as a quick meal, we just have sauce from a jar. I never really liked the one from the jar we used, but I just went to my cousins and found a different one I love. After looking in FIVE stores my mom found it. I have been waiting weeks to have it again, & my mom finally made pasta again tonight! When I asked her what sauce we were having, it was the new one from the jar, and I was SO EXCITED. Then all of a sudden (hours later) I am in the kitchen & see my mom unfreezing her own pasta sauce. I said to her "I thought we were having the new one tonight" and she replied "oh we were, but then I asked your sister if she would prefer that sauce or mine, and she said mine." I was very mad at this...it's not that I don't mind having my mom's (it's really good) but I have been waiting for very long to have my new sauce & then my mom decides not to make it because my sister wanted someting different. I guess it not only disappointed me that I wasn't getting to have my sauce, but also that because my sister wanted my mom's sauce that's what we were having. It was like it didn't matter what I wanted, only what my sister wants. How should I handle this? Just wait until next time I have pasta, or say something? I don't want my mom to think I don't like her sauce either by insulting her. (link)
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It wasn't exactly right of your mom to do that. Maybe you should mention that you would have prefered the other kind. Ask her if next time she could make what you like and see if she agrees. Point out that she made what your sister liked first so now it's your turn. I'm sure she'd understand as long as you're nice about it. Hope i helped!!!
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ok, where to begin..i have liked a guy for 2 years now..kinda on and off because my friends have tried to convince me that i dont like him anymore, but i end up liking him again b/c he's so funny...he makes me laugh...and fun to be around and hott.lol well anyways, im 15 and never had a bf and hes almost 16, but in the grade above me. i can never stop thinking about him and how much we have in common and just him in general :-)... i used to flirt w/ him a certain kinda way and ive noticed that hes doing the same stuff to me as i did to him, and im catching glances from him (but that could mean nothing).. I just really want to tell him so bad that i like him and i have for 2 years but i dont want it to ruin our friendship that has somewhat built up over the years. i really want to kno if he likes me back but..i dont kno.... If we ever got together i dont kno if i would fit in w/ his other friends, i mean i kno his friends, but i dont think i would belong. Please tell me what i can do! Thanks! (link)
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First of all, one thing at a time gurl!!! If you still like this guy, keep flirting with him. And if he keeps responding, then maybe you should drop major hints that you like him, or maybe even tell him!!! If he's kinda slow, i would suggest just opening up with him first thing. If y'all are really good friends, he should understand and still be your friend if things just dont work out. You've already been waiting for two years, so don't you think it's time to make something happen?? lol..Good luck!!!
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I know that to stop drinking soda is good if you want to lose weight. But is it okay to drink diet coke? (link)
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Diet coke is better but still not the best thing for ya. Water is probably the best. But if you still need that little extra, sure..diet drinks have no sugar and barely any calories.
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