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Q: When I was six a firecracker went off next to my head and it permanently messed up my hearing. I have a constant ringing that never, ever goes away. It's been giving me insomnia cause it keeps me up, and I can't drown it out with music cause that keeps me up even more. Does anybody know something I can mask this with that won't keep me up at night? Thanks...

I think you should talk to your doctor about that, because he/she would have way more information.

Q: This might sound like a weird question but this always get on my nerves: ok i blush/my face turns red very easily and it gets embarassing because i just blush SO easily-even at things that are hardly embarassing! i don't mind doing it once in a while but how can i stop myself from blushing so much-because people notice, and they're like "why is your face always red?" yeah so as you can tell, it can get to be a pain. anyone have any tips? thanks!:)

I'm pretty sure there isn't a way to keep from blushing. But if you have that big of a problem with it, try make up.

Q: OK i want to throw a party at my house while my parents are gone. My house is too small so im thinking of using my grandmas house which is right next to mine. Does anyone have tips on how i can run this so i wont get caught...and ideas on what we can do at my party?

I'm not trying to be a bitch or anything, but if you have to ask on here, then you really shouldn't do it. Because if you can't figure it out by youself, then you probably wont be able to do it all with out getting caught.

Q: Okay today I called a "best friend" to see if she wanted to do anything becasue she aslways calls me with plans. She had another line and accidently forgot to press flash so she thought she was talking to one of her other friends. She was making fun of me and she made me look like a total idiot then shes like h.o god shes on the other line and she switched over and i didnt say anythign i held my hand over the phone so she wouldnt hear anything and i did that as she was saying hello over and over agian.. once she hung up i did and she called back she made up some lame excuse saying it was her sisters b-day and she would call me back with something to do around 3.. i dont know what to do i cant just switch firneds becasue i have always wanted to be firnedes with who i am firneds with now.

Its spelt 'friends' not 'firneds'.
Also, it sounds like she doesn't like you, so find some new friends.

Q: Hi,
I am 15 year old female and i am a freshman and for about a year now ive like a kid that is a junior. He is only 16 though. Anyway, recently he found a girlfriend, but everyone thinks they look really bad together. The worst part of all of this is,I CANT EVEN TALK TO HIM. All my friends ask me how i like someone i dont even talk to. Well the answer to that is ,I have no idea. lol..... But i reall really like him..... I CANT BUILD MY COURAGE TO TALK TO HIM..........please, i need advice!! what should i do?

Whats the point in talking to him, if he has a girlfriend? Just because they 'look really bad together' doesn't mean that they don't really like eachother.

Q: ok me and my x just broke up...i broke up with him actrully cuz i like this other guy and i was so stupid and now i cant stop thinking about my x...and its driving me crazy..!! am i in luv and how do i get back together with him cuz i miss him and ive never felt this way before....

I really dont think your in love, but then again I don't know you. But its normal to be thinking about your x right after you break up. If I were you I would more worry about getting this new guy.

Q: So.. ilike this guy but my friend also likes him. I don't think he likes her like that, i know this is going to sound concetied, but i think he likes me. if he does and i go out with she'll be mad, but i really like this guy. Me and hers friendship is sort of rocky and she has stolen my crush before and revenge is sweet...what should I do?

If you really want revenge then do it. But if your more worried about the friendship and you truly like this guy, talk to your friend about it, maybe she'll understand.

Q: Oh god, help! My friend Michelle is getting raped as we speak. I already called the cops. The worst to know if that the person raping her is Danny and she's lettting herself! Rada and I heard it while we were talking to her on the cell phone. Oh god, Rada is bleeding and I'm afraid that he might commit suicide because he told me never to forget this day. I was like ok. I'm crying right now and my arm is bleeding loads and so is Rada's. Oh god, help...please...what can I do to make her stop everything?!

Oh my gosh, if anyone acutally answers this totally fake question, they should be killed.

Q: I am 15 I had my 1st love and after we broke up I was down all the time and i cud never have a boyfriend cause they always reminded me of Joey then after 9 months of being single i got back with my ex CJ and we were happy i forgot all about joey then we broke up and he is with my bestfriend..I try to have a boyfriend to forget about Joey and CJ but it dont work..I cant find a guy 4 me...Whats wrong with me?? Please help!!!!!!!

Try 'putting out'.

Q: Is there a way so find out someones screen name (like on the computer) on AIM if you have there name?

(besides asking them...duh)

Thanks

Maybe you shouldn't be a stocker.

Q: i've heard alot of you recommend certain dri from sweaty underarms. i live in canada and i was wondering if you can get it here? i haven't checked but i don't wanna go and find out that they don't sell it. i live in toronto ON. and i was wondering if they have certain dri in like places like shoppers or main drug mart or places like that.. and if they do, which place is cheaper? thank you

They have it at main drug marts. I got mine at CVS.

Q: i want to re dedicate my self to the lord but i need helping makeing my way up becoming a better christian...i have tried to read the bible but i need an easier way to understand...can anyone help me

Don't.

Q: I'm really bad at starting conversations with people. I've been rejected by SO many guys because I'm "to quiet". I know i should be myself but the thing is that I don't want to be the girl that keeps her mouth shut all the time. If you could give me some good ways to start good conversations with people (Boys mostly) that would be great. Thanks!

Start by just giving a compliment. Okay, that might work more with girls. Hmm, if your sitting with the person in class or hanging out with a group just listen to what they are talking about and just join in.
Sorry, that could have been better, but all I can really think is to just be like hey and let it go from there.

Q: i'm 13 and a girl.i really need help.in 7 grade i went out with this boy named russ we liked each other since 6 grade but in 7 he asked me out. we fell in love with each other after 5 months we went out for 6 months. when summer vacation came we broke up. we did't talk for the whole summer untill in august he called. then when we went back to school we went back to talking like the best friends we were.then we both went out with different people. and he would come to my house to hang out but on day we kissed(we both were with somone).then he broke up with his girlfrined and i broke up with my man.then we went back out we promised each other that nothing was going to happen and we would be the best couple.so then i felt like i did't want to be in a nother relationship with him so i broke up with him. he never saw it comming and he felt soooo bad. then couple months later he went out with this other girl and he said he loved her after 2 months but i know he did't because the way he acted. i think he said that because he was missing me.then he cheated on her with me . he said he would do anything for me.and he still see me in his life for ever.now him and his girlfriend are not together. this boy named jay is talking to me now we have been talking for 3 weeks now and he wants us to go out. but i'm scared he might hurt me just like russ did.and jay and i are really close and i think i might fell in love with him.jay and i are going though changing . he gonna stop being a player. he just got of a relationship 3 months ago and he loved the girl. so i need your help please.

Okay, for one your only 13 your not 'in love' with anyone.
Second, your a total bitch because you let him cheat on his girl friend with you, and that is fucked up.
Third, like the other person said, just shut the fuck up, most of your question didn't make any since, you were just rambling on and on about shit.

Q: i am a freshmore(15) any ways moving on i have a boyfriend whome i love very much and i assume he loves me to anyways hes the greatest any ways we had sex recently for the first time and now evrey time i see him he i guess think he want s to go that far evy time but i dont know..... i love him (an dim on birth control and he uses condoms) but im still scared. ami i just over reacting... and i know its not cause im not sure if i like him because i know i would give up every thing for him and he would give any thing for me so what shouls i do.......
apoolgy for it bing so long

~lauren~

Oh my god, have you ever reread over whatever you type? Because you should, and fix your mistakes.

Q: I use Limewire. I like it a lot. But I'm just wondering if there is anyway that I could transfer the songs into my MP3 player.

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Shouldn't your MP3 player come with a program and maybe a UBS cable?

Q: i have this really good guy friend who is a year older than me .in fact , i call him my "big brother" and he calls me "little sis" . LOL . anyway , the other day when i was just talking to him , i reached across him to get something from the person sitting on the other side of him . ( we were sitting in a row , with him in the center ) and i sort of brushed against his chest while bending back . After that , i noticed that he got a boner and there was a lump in his pants . well now i'm kinda freaked out cos i never thought that he would like me ( especially bcos of the little sis big bro thing ) . i'm confused and don't know if i like him .. what should i do ?

That doesn't have to mean he likes you. Maybe he does but it sounds like he doesnt. Most guys in their teen years can get a boner if the wind blows right.

Q: ok me and my boyfriend hve been together a while. and we hve done most everything but, sex. alot of my friends hve already had sex. i know some people might say im too young but me and my boyfriend love each other and i know we are both physically and emotionally ready. well he comes over often but everytime im on my period [ kinda wierd? ] but we both hve tlked about this.. and sometimes i want to and others im jus like idk.. but i think i am ready but im so scared i might get pregnant but most people i know of hve had sex and used a condom and hve not got pregnant. seriously what are the chances. do you think im ready? and how would i let him know while we are together that i want to..? PLEASE DONT SAY IM NASTY OR NETHING IM REALLY NOT! please answer asap

You shouldn't have sex if you can't even spell 'have' right. Next time you ask a question, or type remember the damn 'a' key. Also reread your question, because you use horrible sentence grammar.

Q: okay there's this new boy in my town and one of my friends like him but she don't come to the same school as me and he's really cute. what should i do, should i go up to himand.... but i don't want to hurt my closet friend please help me!!!!

You answered your own question by saying 'i don't want to hurt my closet friend', then don't. Dont't date him, he's just some guy that is really cute, do you even know anything about him?
P.S.
You shouldn't have a boyfriend till you learn proper english.