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im 16/f ,,, I do not have acne or pimples, ThankGod, but for some reason in the past year my skin has gotten quite yellowish. I use be to fairskin but now it seems YELLOW/BROWNISH!!! so how do i get it to be glowing, vibrant and lighter again? help me plzzz ive been eating apples, and drinkin water..and eating healthy but ughh (link)
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are you eating alot of carrots? if so cut it out and see your doctor, carrots are good for you but they can change your skin color yellowish orangy. if your eating tons of it. there is another fruit or vegtable that can effect your skin tint but im afraid i cant recall it but if its not carrots its prolly the other,your doctor can find out if its your diet or something more serious. once youve got the discoloring taken care of, to get glowing skin try eating alot of salmon, and or shrimp.omega fatty acids are great for glowig skin. also if your fairskinned like myself, something i just tried recently and am very delighted with is jergens natural glow daily moisturizer, for fair skin. follow the directions...the results in just 3 days are beautiful. good luck!
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okay im skinny but i like obsess over diets like i dont know i love being on diets i eat like a pig but like ill either be on a diet with no slat or a diet with no saturated fats or something like that but like idk i need a website where it tells you things with no sat. fats and stuff or like what certain things do to you body like if you eat too much sat. fat you get pimples n oily skin and stuff like that and i LOVE fruit expecially oranges and rasberys what are the good things and BAD thing of eatin too much oranges like can i get like some acid disease or will it stunt my growth or something dumb like that? please help i rate 5's (link)
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oranges are very good for you in particular the vitamin c, an you wont get any acid disease, however too much citris in your diet can damage the enamel on your teeth.so long term over eating the citris fruits can be damaging to your looks. theres nothing wrong with wanting to eat healthy, and i can assure you, if you type healthy diet into your server tons of stuff will come up, just avoid diets that focus soley on one food group. for long term you want a well balanced diet. good luck!
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there are these kittens under my porch and i don't know what to do...i know to call the spca but,my mom says i can have because there is only 3..but here is the problem they will not come to me..i don't know how to get them to come to me...
can somebody help..i don't want it to snow one day really because i don't want them to get sick.
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well, wild kittens, can be tamed, i have one whos now two and spoiled rotton. but... you will have to catch them. get them inside and force pet them, if the mothers not in the picture this will be much easier, because theyll be hungry you may need your moms help, with this, dump a can of tuna(in water not oil) on a paperplate, get as close to them as you can, you want them to smell it, at some point they should be within reaching distance. go for the back of the neck an snatch them up that way. if you have more than one person, try scaring them towards the other. also this may sound awful, but if you can reach one grab it, even if you get its leg or tail, dont drag it by it just hold it long enough to get the scruff of the neck(the fat on the back of the neck)its going to hurt to be held by its leg or tail for a second(get the scruff as fast as possible dont prolong the pain) but it wont cause any serious damage at all, once youve caught it have it inside nice and warm an feeding it that monentary pain will be long forgotten.the reason i say if you want them, youve got to catch them is because the longer thier out and the older they get the harder it will be to make pets of them. my cat was an abandoned kitten, i caught him in the woods by literally chasing him, when i got the chance i grabbed his hind leg an then his scruff,took him home in a coat, he was so starved all i had to give him was half a can of tuna, and hes been purring ever since. also note if the mother is around only go for the kittens when shes not be very careful, wild cat mothers will tear you to bits! good luck!
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Is there a proper name for fake nails? (link)
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acrylic, or gel nails, depending on the type
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My mom just kicked me outa the house ... what am i suposed to do to get back?? or just do period?? (link)
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do you have a safe place to stay? if yes stay there and give your mom time to cool off, try talking to her on the phone about what you need to do to get back in her good graces. if not find a shelter in your area. either way (hopefully the 1st is true)let your mom know where you are staying, depending on what happened between you two, most moms, cool off in a day or two an will want you home.if your under 18, in most states she cant legally throw you out without a place to go, so if a shelters your only option and its not particularly safe you might phone a relative for help.
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Hey, this may be an odd question, but healthwise, is Iced Tea bad/good for you? I really like it and I was hoping it was better than drinking soda because I got too used to drinking that. So, I know it's only like 70 calories, but can anyone give me an idea here?? (link)
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iced tea is better than soda,only two downfalls,that can be easily fixed, 1st caffine, not so great-easy fix decaff. 2nd sugar, if you sweeten yours with sugar, try differnt flavers like green tea mint flavored or vannilla flavored tea, you can also use honey as a sweetener instead of sugar.green tea also helps boost metabolisim.
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okay so at my highscool in feburary were having a winterfest dance and its girl ask guys. and i like this guy and im pretty sure he likes me back since weve told each other that. and i wanna ask him to it, but the thing is i dont know how. i want to make it cute, but not really cheesy because we arent close enough for major things.. just something simple and cute that i could do but not over the top and i dont just wanna be like hey wanna go with me
so if you have any ideas at all then let me know please.. i dont want someone else to ask him before i do!
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well since you both like each other, hell prolly say yes, so just an idea, not cheesy, not major,an not just hey wanna go.....hmmmm try printing up a literal invitation to the winterfest, just inviting him to go....then make a joke at the bottom,or insidea card type, like yes, theres a catch,.....you have to take me with you duh! lol not too serious, not to light, hope you like. good luck!
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Dear Advicenators-
This year one of my best friends, let's call her amanda, went into highschool. See, I was always more popular and had more friends then her. (I'm in 8th grade now)And when she was in middle school, let's say she wasn't the coolest of the bunch. We were best friends until I was in 7th grade and she was in 8th. See, then I started hanging out with my friends from school on the weekends; and me and amanda's sleepovers every friday and saturday turned into once or twice hour hang outs once a month. Yet, sure enough, when school was out, we became close again, adn real tight. Now she went into highschool and started to make new friends, when i was still in middle school. She got a new boyfriend, got a new best friend, with a new life. Ever since school started we hardly ever hang out. And now, 5 months later, she straight up tells me she doesn't want to be that close anymore and really doesn't want to be friends. Now, at first I understood she was frustrated, I didn't think she was serious. But now i really now she is dead serious. AND IT KILLS ME! I want to cry so much and pour out tears, and to know it doesn't effect her at all, and she can let go such a great friendship like that, just crushes me. Like, think of your of that one friend were you feel %100 completely comfortable wiht adn can tell anything. WE were tight, when the two of us got together we had so much fun. And now she wants to blwo it all away, and means it! But i don't know what it is! Is it her getting back at me from when I started hanging out with my school friends more, or does she just want to move on with her life and forget me. Like rigth now, we had this huge fight adn she acted liek she did't even care about me, and afterwards her away message was "hanging wiht Bridget watchign American Pie, haha"(her new best friend. When i thik over all are memories I want to cry out my heart knowing that I can never have them again with her. i don't know what to do. Should I make the first step and start trying to be friends with her again. the thing is she really meant when she said she doesn't want us to talk anymore or hang out, or even become friends again! What should I do, I'm devistaited!Thank-you :( (link)
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i know this hurts, and is a hard time to loose a best friend. when i was younger my best freind was a grade up from me as well,wed been tight all thrugh childhood are moms were freinds, even our grandmas were friends(still are lol) when she went to middle school and then highschool seperate from me as i was always a class behind, we lost touch, she still lived near me, but we dident have much in common,and pretty much stopped seeing each other. we both made new friends, and had new intrests. i spent about 4 years never seeing her or just saying whats up when id see her, but.. when i turned 17 and she finished school,we just started talking agan out of the blue,weve now been best friends for over 5 years. the kind you trust with everything, because shes known you forever, the point to all my babbling, is that alot of times friends with even small age differences go thier seperate ways for awhile.i believe you and amanda will be friends again, if you dont hold a grudge, try to respect you prolly have different intrests right now. next time you talk to her, just let her know you understand that the age thing puts you in different circles and that youll always be there for her when shes ready.leave it at that. but dont sit around depressed get out there and enjoy the little break and make new friends.enjoy your life and try to have fun. if shes really your friend shell come around after she gets her fill of the high school drama. try to look at this seperation, as just another experience you two will share and laugh about later.srry for length. good luck!
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Okay to start out with, I have this friend named Shannon. I wouldn't really consider her a friend, because in the past she's really pissed me off & she's just not someone whom I can relate to. But, I still hang out with her, I don't like getting on bad peoples' sides. I'm always so nice to her, but sometimes she'll take it over the edge and yell at me about something so ridiculous & I just snap, but that happens to everybody.
Well, basically today this kid named Gordon that we had just met yesterday went up to Shannon and started physically pushing her around, and stealing her backpack & "strangiling" her. In front of every body at school, he'd literally just throw her up against the wall & it really scared me. Yesterday when I first met him he kept touching me physically just like around my stomach & butt and I felt so uncomfortable. I told him that he should leave me alone because I hate whenever people do that crap. But he tried to do it again today!
I left Shannon while she was getting pushed around by Gordon, only because she was laughing about it, and I thought it was all a big joke. I came back like 5 minutes later and couldn't find Shannon anywhere! Or Gordon, so I started to get worried. I eventually found her 15 minutes later hanging out with some people that would like protect her from Gordon, and he left. She's never ever came to me for anything, or ever told me her feelings before. But, she seemed so worried about Gordon like touching her & stuff and started asking me, why I left her. & She was explaining all the things that had happened.
I'm really pissed now, because Gordons really made me mad. I've never seen Shannon so mentally disrupted in my entire life & she won't stop talking about it. Of course I care about her now because of all of this. Tomorrow I'm going to see Gordon & I just want to know what I should say. I don't want to be too mean but then I'm going to have my good guy friend there with me, so if anything goes wrong or if he starts touching us again he'll get his ass kicked.
Sorry it's so long. But I promise rating & feedback!! :) (link)
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this guy is abusive, and sounds potentially very dangerous, confronting him with a few guy friends is the 1st step, you dont need to be nasty, just firm and to the point,if things escalate,(sounds like they might) you dont want him to be able to say you started anything. with your friends, as both protectors, and witnesses, tell gordon clearly not to touch you or shannon again, in any way shape or form. tell him its uncomfortable when he touches you and that his attentions are not welcome,to either you or shannon.if and when he attacks either of you again, you must follow through with your witnesses in tow, tell your principal, and your parents.your witnesses must be willing to tell the prinipal or anyone else it concerns that they saw and heard you tell him to stop.if his abuse persist, your's and or shannons parents, may need to take legal action.dont allow this guy to hit or suggestivly touch either of you without telling someone.good luck!
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I'm starting to breakout all over my body except my face! on my back, arms, and chest! I clean myself every-other day! How do I make them go away!
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witch hazel, cotton swabs, twice a day ,have someone get the breakouts you cant reach. shower every day. good luck!
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Hey, i am currently on medication to help make my pimples go away..it's not working all that great right now though..are there any ways i can make my pimples go away faster in addition to my medication? (link)
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ok 1st of all, i can tell you what cleared up my sister's acne, when, proactive dident work. but your on meds so be sure an check with your doc 1st.she got off proactive bought a bag of cotton swabs(the balls) and a bottle of white pure witch hazel,she wets the cotton swab with witch hazel an wipes the oils off her face with it in the morning and before bed. it worked wonders for her and she still uses it for the occasional breakout.good luck!witch hazel can be bought at any drugstore usually with the proxide and alcohol.
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ok well i'm on birth control. On Friday night of last week Jan. 6th i had sex. that was a week before my period was supposed to start. well on saturday i forgot to take my pill and didn't remember till late on sunday and by then i had started bleeding although it didn't seem menstrual. and then on Saturday night of this week, the 14th, i had sex again. now on the 13th the bleeding had stopped and i was on my pills again. well i had sex on the 14th and today, the 16th, the bleeding has started again. i'm not sure whether this is my period or the last one was or if i'm having two. Is it possible i could be pregnant or is the bleeding just normal after you have sex with a guy for a long period of time? (link)
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ok, your bleeding because your not taking your pills right, which causes spotting and messed up periods.you must take birth control pills everyday around the same time. your pack should have instructions for what to do when you miss them. if youve been taking them right for more than 3 months, an you only missed that one pill, friday night, chances are your not pregnant, however, im confused by the part where you said you were on your pills again, you cant go on an off your pills, unless you want to get pregnant. put your pills where you will see them around the same time everyday. take them correctly an make it your religion not to miss anymore, if this happens often and you have a hard time remebering them,there are alternatives, such as the shot. if you need to talk to your healthcare provider about your other birth control options.also, i hope your using a condom, as a back up, because birth control pills dont protect you from hiv, and stds.
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My guy friend likes my bestfriend, and shes likes the guy who play hard to get and he asked me how he should "play hard to get" and I really dont know? so is there any advice that you can give me to tell him.
sorry if its confusing.
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find out if she likes him, at all. if not, tell him not to waste his time, if she does like him but needs to feel like shes the hunter, you, tell her, he likes her, but he doesent think he wants a steady girlfriend right now. then have him go about his bussiness as usual, dont pay any special attention to her,tell him to always have other plans when hes asked to go out with her or you guys.to play hard to get, he needs to apear unavailabe to her. if possible even be seen around with alot of pretty girls, even if thier just freinds. to the hard to get gals, nothin looks better than a man who looks like he could take em or leave em. good luck!
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Hey 16-m. I'm terrible at keeping to a schedule and managing my time. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I could try to manage my time better? I usually have things to do after school, and by the time I get home I have just enough homework to keep me going late into the night. After I look back on the day, I spot out about half an hour at the least I could have saved if I did things differently. Any ideas? ...I used to have a tan line on my wrist from my watch, which might explain why I've been bad at this lately [would getting a new one help?] Will rate - thanks a lot. (link)
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well, a watch cant hurt.these things, you look back on, an see that you could have done differently, did you do them differently the next day? did it buy you some time? these things that keep you busy after school, are they things you could alternate days on?
if you can break down these things on paper an say ok, this is what i HAVE to do,monday,tuesday wedsday.....an so on. an then make a list of the things you do that you dont HAVE to do, but want to, like hangin out with friends, or if you have chores, things that can be changed like chores or seeing freinds should be situated on the days that you have the least amount of things you MUST do.also, if your a morning person, go to bed earlier and finish up the last part of your homework before school.and doing fridays homework friday night or saturday morning will buy you a free weekend. remember procrastinating kills time. good luck.
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Me and my girlfriend of over 2years have been having some issues lately. She says that she isent sure if she wants to be with me, and when she says this she cries and tells me how much she loves me, however, the reason she doesnt know if she wants to be with me, is because i dont hurry up and finish school. I love this girl so much and definetely see a future with her. Everytime we talk about this, we end up crying , so i decided to send an email, telling her how if she wanted I could brake up with her to make her decision easier, its been 2 days and i have not received an answer to my question, we still talk on the phone all the time and see each other, but no mention of my email is ever brought up. What should I do? How much time do i need to give her to make up her mind? its killing me knowing that she is contemplating braking up. (link)
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well you can either ignore it like she is, or attempt to get to the bottom of it all. my suggestion is to find out why. is it because of issues with you, and or school? or is there someone else? do not accuse her, but ask her if she wants there to be a future with you. thats all it takes, i speak from experience, no matter how bad things get if you both honestly want to be together, nothing will stop you. if she does want to be with you, she wont break up with you, and it sounds like she feels she made a mistake in contemplating it, you offered her a way out, she ignored it. when i was givin a way out i ignored it, because i dident really want to break up, i just wanted certain things to change. talk to her about whats making her feel stressed and if theres things you can do to help her deal with you being in school. small changes like an extra call,thoughtful actions go aloooong way!
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ok I really need some help,in the next few hours,I just recently ended a realationship but still love this guy,lets call him guy a but I have some1 from a preveious realationship and i kinda sorta love him 2,but he lives in bel air and not near me,but guy a is really close,turned out guy a lied to me and now i was really mad at him and my mom hates him,understandable,but i'm going rock climbing tongiht,and i want a guy to go with me,should I go with guy a or no1?? or bring my x boyfriend and his g/f?/ or just another friend of mine,ineed to meet guy! (link)
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ok, sounds like your pretty stressed. 1st calm down, depending on what guyA lied about, and why your mother doesent like him maybe he should be out of the picture for now. i think you should take one of your girlfriends with you explain your feelings to her(a good friend,lol) ask how she views your sitch. get someone who sees the whole picture. one thing tho that bugs me, honey, you dont neeeeeed a guy, as crazy as this may seem to you, you reallly cant depend on having a guy in your life (or to go rock climbing with) to make you happy.as far as choosing id spend some time alone learning to be happy without a guy, but if you must....was guyA's lie forgivable? something you can accept and forget? or something thats going to make you angry everytime you think about it? long distance relationships are nearly impossible unless you practically have an unbreakable bond and unfailing trust. i dont know everything so youll have to do a pros, an cons list on your own, but keep in mind, you honestly cant be happy with anyone utill your happy with yourself. its how you learn what you want from a guy, what youll put up with and what you wont.how you deal with a liar, included. good luck
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I'm a pagan (not wiccan) and I'm haivng a hard time finding religious books for my two year old. I'm looking for something like an illustrated book of Bible stories for her that simply illustrates the stories and the morals without trying to force Christianity. I'm also looking for a children's book that tells stories from a pagan point of view.
Can anyone recommend some good books like these? Thanks! (link)
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hello. resources for pagan youth. excellent website.keep in mind most childrens books include a moral, if nothing else hit a book store up like barnes an nobles grab a stack of childrens books sit down and read em. they allow this,lol. buy what you like put down what you dont, best of all most childrens books take only a few mins to read.also, just a suggestion, keep in mind, a two year old is not going to understand the full concept of religion yet, so most childrens books, that illistrate right from wrong will do,... for this year. good luck.
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I've been in love with a man for the last 3 years. I've never felt such strong feelings for a guy in my life. I believe that he loves me too. The problem is that he's married. I've never crossed the line with him. We've never even kissed but have exchanged loving glances. He knows how I feel and that I've been suffering in silence. We have so much in common and have similiar values.
He has a very rocky marriage. Everyone knows he and his wife arent happy. They work together at a cafe and they fight like cats and dogs. They have nothing in common and I've heard that she has several addictions, including drugs and gambling. They have no kids together but she has two grown children from her first marriage. They don't respect my friend and steal from him. She is abusive to him and takes his money to gamble or spend on cigaretes.
He is a gentleman and a christian and would never ask me to have an affair. I've already told him I don't believe in extra marital affairs because my dad cheated on my mom. But he has never indicated that he wanted to leave her for me. He is very shy and reserved, and sometimes I think he's in denial of his feelings for me, or scared of his feelings for me.
I am young (mid 20's) and have lots of guys after me. But I don't want to date any one because I am in love with my married friend. I don't want to have an affair either. I feel a lot of guilt because after my dad cheated on my mom I vowed to never do what my dad did. What should I do? (link)
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well cheating is out of the question, for both of you. your beliefs are strong and admriable. i think an important question here is, does he love his wife? in a marriage its easy to set aside your own happiness to keep it together. people of high morales(gentlemen/christian) i think may have an even harder time getting out of an unhappy marriage.he may feel guilty at the thought of leaving her with her life in such an obvious mess. i dont know if youve done this yet, but you might consider asking him how he feels about his wife. its hard to believe he wants out when hes putting up with so much. i wouldent suggest putting your life on hold for him to sort thrugh his marriage. even bad marriages can take years to fall apart, some never do. i think your best bet is to tell him how you feel, and ask him to lay it out for you just where he stands on a possible future with you. if things are not in your immediate favor, you need to move on, as hard as it will be, nice guy or not, you dont want to be anyones back up girl.
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