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E-mail: Kam98@rcn.com
Gender: Female
Location: PA
Age: 27
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Member Since: November 1, 2005
Answers: 157
Last Update: December 25, 2005
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a few times a week i'm sitting on the floor, get up the wrong way, fall back to the floor in extreme pain because i've somehow popped my knee out of place. I can't even move and i can't get up or fix it without having someone pick me up from the underarms up.
Is this normal?
Is there something screwy with my knee?
Shoudl I see a doctor?
How should I handle it if it happens at school?
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no this is not normal and yes there is something wrong with your knee. You should go toyur family doctor and explain what is happening. they may want to do an x-ray. As for school if it happens in school you can only do what you do at home-there shouldnt be an embarrassment-but yes you should have it looked at.
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when you have sex and your pregnant and you have it unprotected..
is there a chance of like getting twins or something??
like you know you have the chance of getting pregnant when a guy gets in you
but when you're pregnant and a guy gets in you is there a chance of getting pregnant again??
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No sweety once you are pregnant you are pregnant. twin is something that comes from a sperm and it is genetic-if it runs in your family or his there is more of a chance. Hope i helped
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i have a problem my bfs a i guess you could say wigger. and im i guess a "rocker" im not all that into labels but ive been dating him 4 2 mouths and everyone keeps saying it wont last becuz we have nothing at all in common and latly ive been thinking about it to i mean we cant talk about anything and the one thing i talk about the most he doesnt like ((whitch is Rock music)) he listens to rap and i hate rap but i realli dont no what i should do i mean i like him but we cant talk about anything and he a little on the shy side and i normaly dont like shy guys (( dateing whys)) im so confused about this. (link)
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You cannot have a realationship with no comminication--you need that. Opposites attract. Did you ever try giving rap a chance? Did he ever try giving rock a chance? Ii never liked country but as time grew with my fiance i listened to it and realized it wasnt that bad--now even though he left me i still isten to it once in awhile but not often. The main thing is its not the music that is the issue--its what you and him want in each other and sweety you have to be able to talk more than about music.--hope i could help
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Okay, I went out with this guy right, and we broke up and everything and then we went out again and then we broke up again but i still really like him and now he has a g/f and we used to talk all the time and now that he has a g/f we don't talk ne more and i really miss it and everything and i don't know what to do should i just forget about him and move on or should i try talking to him again?
HELP
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I know happiness is hard to find--trust me i know-my finace just left me almost 1 month ago now and that was the man i was suppose to marry-and right now we feel there is no happiness and we are miserable-but it will get easier when you let it-if you dont let it--it wont--and i know b/c i am not ready to let go -and when you are you will-and even if you never let go at least you know in your heart you did what you could.
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i know i am depressed,between family problems,friend problems,and being home sick from my old town.im not the same happy person i was..i just want to become something..should i ask my mom if i could get singing lessons or acting classes? i want to be one of that and im looking forward to going to a collage for singing and acting..and how can i do this how can i become a happy person again? any tips?please help..no one can tell im sad,i hide it..my friends arent good enough to tell that stuff.. (link)
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Hunny missing something is the worst pain you can have--no matter what it is your missing. You have to be strong enough for yourself to day I am going to miss them things but am going to find new things to cherish. While your spending your time missing them things the things you want to do are being put on hold;which is "torturing" your feelings. You will find that once you step forward you will be happy and the things you miss you will still miss but it wont be taking over your life--hope i could help
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im a boy in 8th grade and i am getting f's in l.a. lit and math and report cards are coming out tommarow friday and i wanted to know if any one could give me advice on how to show my parents my report card with them tearing my head off
thanks
mike (link)
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Well the first thing you can do is say to your parents you know your not doing too well in some subjects and the grades are not the best but you want to do better and are asking for thier help--maybe that will at least show them you want to try to do better but you need thier help-hope i could help
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my boyfriend wants me to things (not sex) that i dont really wanna do but i want him to be happy. what should i do? (link)
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Your boyfriend should respect your decision to not want to do something and remain happy. If he does not respect that decision then he does not respect you
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okay well lately the area around my vagina has been really itchy. like since firday (today is wensday). its like really sore and pinker than usual. i told my mom but she didnt think anything of it. she thought it was a reaction to the soap so i tried the kind i used before and it still is like this. before my discharge was just white but now its like yellow and smells gross. should i go see a doctor and if so what do they do? and what should i do/not do before going?
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Yes you should go to the doctor. You have an infection and you need to have it taken care of. You should just make the appointment and other than dont have sex-theres nothing you can do.. Just keep in my the obgyn has seen it all and this is not new. He is there to help you
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My girl and I have been together for 2 years we have a 1 yr old the past yr has been hard for both of us we have been fighting very verbally and sometimes physically about 2 months ago her mom who we lived with told me to get out my girl and I agree that we need the space and have been trying to work things through. We both started seeing counslers and since then things have been alot better well to make it short last week she decided that she doesnt want to be in a serious relationship with me and that we can be friends and need to be friends before we can be anything else she says she loves me and will still support me and let me see are son we hung out yesterday and had a great time but i am confused because we was all over each other in a good way. My question is should i try doing the friends thing and show her that I am responsible and continue to do what i need to do (she wants to marry me and be a family one day still but right now we need to work on are own mental issues she says) I just feel that everything i have done recenlty to show her that i love and care about her was not good enough i have stopped the name calling and am not so moody thanks to the counsler and some meds. Has anyone else broke up becasue of problems and worked it out in the end??? Her and my sone mean the world to me and I love them both dearly and want to be in a stable family home with us together (she says she wants this to but we cant becasue of are problems) is there hope??? thank you for readint this and respnding (link)
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Let me start by saying-i give both of you big props for taking the steps you did-going to a councelor and working things out. That is a big accomplishment. As for the abuse it is a very scary thing-i was abused my my sons dad(RIP) and it not only becomes a physical abuse but mental also--to this day if a guy puts a finger at me i jerk back--she may be feeling that "what if" it happens again. On the other hand if she says she loves you and is willing to work things out then yes there is hope. You both have to be willing to try to work things out. If for some reason they dont work out(and i hope they do) you can at least day I tried. It will be painful if it doesnt but whats more painful is if you didnt try and wish you did. I on the other hand just had my fiance leave me and i wanted to try and he walked out the door and there was nothing i could do--and i wish i could of. So just do what you can and be the man and father to your son and the love with take you where you need to go. I hope i could help if you need anything let me know I am here to help
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can you have sex while your pregnent?(serious question, no smart answers please.) all fives. (link)
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Having sex while pregnant--of course you may its even better when you are pregnant=not only physically but hey your already pregnant-cant get pregnant again--the man loves that part b/c he dont have to worry-he can leav it in!
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ok here the thing. i have a girlfriend and i love her to death. but, i got an ex girlfriend who doesn't know when to let go. my ex always talks about how she misses me & wants to kiss me & all this other crap. so my question is, how do i get rid of my ex without hurting her feelings & without breakin up with my current girlfriend?
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You just need to tell your ex you hare happy an din love and she needs to leave you alone and there is no way you will be with her. She needs to respect your feelings and your decision on who your with-right now your girlfriends feelings matter so if it means hurting your ex's feelings to protect your relationship now then you have to do it. (who knows she may back off then) Hope this helped
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my sister is always making me babysit for nothing no money what so ever what should I do? (link)
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Your sister is your family;however you also have a life too. You need to let her know you love her and dont mind helpingher out but you also have a life and need to do things for you. Just let her know that sometimes it is toomuch and you will help when you can but you need time for yourd=self;and if she loves you like she should she will respect that you approached her and will not take you for granted-b/c thats what she is doing. My sister and I both have kids and we help each pther out when we need to and we dont rely on each other. She seems to rely on you too much and you feel obligated -it shouldnt be that way. Just talk to her and let her know how your feeling and you dont want her mad but she needs to respect your decision. Hope i could help.(and i know its easier said than done)
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ive been in love with my boyfriend and hes in love with me for about a year now. but now were starting to fall apart, over the summer we used to hang out everyday now we hang out like once a month. and hes the kinda guy that flirts with alot of girls, but i trust him. yesterday i told him i was mad at him (because i was infront of him talking to him nd he was ingoureing me and ran to another girl) and he was like i dont care. that hurt alot... then today i was asking him why he said this and he was laughing about an inside joke. then he came online, and this was ower convo.
HIM: do you think its time time for a change?
ME: what do you mean...? 'change' of what
HIMME: no tell me
HIM: nvm
ME:k
ME: well your really acting like ur gonna break up with me... just get it over with if you r gonna.
HIM: jump to conclusions muchh?
ME: umm... well your acting like your gonna
HIM>: how does somone act like there gunna break up with somone
ME: they act like they dont like them....
hIM: well
>HIM>: do you wanna break up?
HIM: or take a brkeakk
ME: if i wanted to break up.. i would of broken up with you already....
HIM: o
ME: whatever
HIM: k?
ME: if your gonna break up with me then just do it now cuz im leaving soon...
HIM: fine
ME: fine what..?
HIM: uhh i dont no
then i signed off. but i dont no if i should break up with him, i love him to death and i really dont wanna break up with him. but it seems like were falling apart.=( should i? or no?
--confused.
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Sounds to me like he wants to move on but he also doesnt want to hurt your feelings. The main punch line is "take a break" thats what he wants. He is interested in other girls-and wants to explore-he sounds young and if not immature-is that some YOU want to be with? I dont mean to sound harsh sweety but its the truth I know my fiance just left me after 2 yrs-im looking for same advice so I can give it better than i can take it. If you need anything let me know and i will be here to help you
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there is this boy that i have liked for ever and he always tells me how he likes me too, as a friend. well he is preppy and im preppy but turning skater and im scared he wont notice me at all if i change. what should i do because i really want him and his attention? (link)
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If this boy really likes you he will notice you nomatter what and he wont stop noticing you if you changed-your changing for you not for him and if doesnt like your change--its ok b/c you do and although you like him and if he wouldnt like the change someone else may--but it all boils down to if he likes you he will like you for who you are. Hope i could help
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hey, i'm a sophomore in high school and i attend an all girls school. I've been at this school since freshman year and it's a really great school. It's great academically and the activities are great, but their's one problem.. and that's the social aspect. I've been thinking about transferring because I really don't fit in at school at all. I am in honors classes and i take an AP class and i've been in class with basically the same girls and i don't fit in with them at all. They are so different from me and i've given them a chance and it doesn't work. I've talked to a lot of people that aren't in my classes that i'm in theatre with, but it isn't working for me. THeirs another school in my area thats a boy/girl school that i coudl transfer to. i don't know if maybe that would be a better option, i could start over and make new freinds .. i just don't know if its worth risking my good academic standings at my current school and the awesome extracurriculars. does anybody have any advice?? i seriously dont know what to do anymore i've been crying all week. it really sucks and it just wears on me not having any friends at school. please please please help... and let me know what you would do in my situations. thanks. any advice is appreciated-- all advice will be rated a 5. (link)
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If everyone was the same life would be boring. Of course they are different from you as you are them. Maybe they need to give you a chance! You should never transfer b/c of comebody else b/c one day you may become something more then they will become and you did it for you! Dont take school for granted and just keep up the good work-friends are friends but your life is what you will survive on. I hope i could help
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17/m/lonesome
Ok there is a girl at work that i have feelings for, but I dont know if she likes me or not. I mean whenever I talk to her she alwasys gets a smile on her face, or starts to giggle. I will tell you this right now I'm not too good at reading the signs to tell you if someone likes you or not... no its more like i trip and fall into love., but I am a hopeless romantic at heart and I've alwasy treated women with the highest respect and dignity, and I think I could build a very long relationship out of this but idk, PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
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Try to keep things going slow. You never want to rush into something or push an issue. Things will happen when they are ready. Did you ask her to go somewhere with you like to a mvie or out to eat? Just try to keep making her smile and eventually she will see what a great person you are so when your ready and confident ask her out on a date. If she for some reason would say no--say ok maybe another time.Dont let kher know it bothers you. I was always told people want something more if they cant have it. So dont throw yourself at her--take it slow. I hope this helped.
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15/f- Its really long but if you would take the time, I would really really appreciate your help.
Okay I have 2 best friends, shelby and christa. Well shelby recently got a boyfriend, and all of a sudden started acting very distant to me and christa. She never hung out with us anymore, and barely talked to us at school. She was trying to change herself to fit in with her bf's friends. Well Then she started telling people that me and christa abandoned her and that we were mad and jealous that she has a bf. We never said anything to her. So then we heard it from more people, so we asked her about it, if she said it. She denied it, and got mad at us and walked away. We let it go. Then my friend found a note from her to her bf that said " I dont know what is up with HER (meaning me) lately. If she doesnt knock it off quick, Im not gonna talk to her at all at homecoming because I dont want my night to be ruined by HER". So then I called her and asked her about it. Now Im not a mean person at all. Im too nice at times. Well I must have said "Now Im not trying to attack you or be mean, I just wanna talk" fifteen times, and she was like "Oh I know" She made up some lame excuse, and I was like whatever, so then we talked for about an hour like normal about our day and whatnot. The next morning she came up to Christa and I and hugged us to make sure we were okay. Well afterschool a friend came up and said "shelby said you called her and yelled and bitched her out for an hour and then she cried after you got off the phone" I was so angry, and I was tempted just to not talk to her anymore, but I gave it one more chance. I went up to her before lunch at her locker and asked her why she was saying that, and that she knew very well it wasnt true. I was being wayy too nice. She wouldnt look at me, she kept her eyes on her locker and was like "yeah... whatever.. sure" while I was talking, so then she was like "IM DONE okay? IM DONE WITH YOU" and just kept saying it, and I walked off, and then she went and told her bf that it was the otherway around. So then she comes up to me like 1 or 2 days later and says I was being a bitch the otherday, I dont know what was up. Blah. And I just said yeah I agree and walked away, then she wrote me a 3 page note and the first page was an apology finally. Im the forgive and forget type, but I dont really wanna forgive exactly, but she sits at our lunch table now, but everyone is like "why are you talking to her, she doesnt deserve your time"
Should I forgive her after all she did?
Am I right about this whole thing?
Should I talk to her still?
What should I do?
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Let me first start off by saying this:We all know when we get boyfriends we are more into them than our friends because it is something new and different. We push our friends off and dont realize we are doing it because we are happy and sometimes in love. She does not realize this b/c she is that person. If you are a true friend you will let her be but still talk to her(as it seems you are doing,so good for you) Hopefully things work out for her and her boyfriend but if they would not she is going to turn to you-b/c now she does not have him which is okay b/c she realizes now that she should not push her friends off for no man(and i know this b/c it just happened with me and my fiance)I know now your friends will always be there the man may not. So yah girl you keep talking toher but also let her be with her b/f. Life is too short to not be happy and that is for you and also her. One day all this chilness between friends will stop and you will look back and say wow werent we stupid for that. I hope this helped you
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