HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
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This girl who is 12, in my school, had sex with a 14 year old.
I don't know the details or anything, but I know she has done it like 10 other times with a 16 year old too.
She agreed to, and wanted to, but couldnt they be charged with rape or something?
I live in ohio. (link)
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I think the sixteen year old could be charged with statuatary rape, though I'm not completly sure. I thin the legal age difference is supposed to be three years, while in her case, it's four. If he was charged with statuatory rape, it wouldn't matter if she was willing or not. It's all an age thing in that case, and he'd end up in trouble, regardless of whether she even wants to press charges or not.
I'd just reccomend you and your friends try to get her away from older guys, so that she dosen't get in trouble, so THEY dont get in trouble, and so that no one gets hurt.
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I love my cat a lot. I spoil her. I spend so much money on her, including on food, treats, toys, and little cat furniture (like beds and such). But almost every time I feed my cat food, she eats a little of it, then starts kicking the bowl with her front paw, and scratching the carpet, trying to cover up the bowl (even trying to put stuff in it like a sock that was next to it, or her toys). I have no idea why she is doing this! I sometimes tried to stop her, but in a way I also think she has a good reason for doing it.. so I am not sure if I should anyway. What is my cat doing?? And what should I do?? Thanks in advance! (link)
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I'd say to leave her alone. Most animals, especially ones in a new house hold, love to play with everything around them. She may be covering up the bowl, becuase she dosen't want it taken away , like an animal would hide their food in the wild. You should be able to leave her alone on this, as long as the goes and eats the food later. If she's not eating properly, you should try a new kind of food, or try taking her to a vet to get a reccomendation on how to change her eating habits.
Scratching at the carpet is completly normal. You'll just have to try to get her to be trained to not to it. Most cats I know of do this, so dont worry abou that. =D.
Hope this has helped at all!!
Kat
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before answering,this question is not based on personality,so please don't answer..."if he has a nice personality"
i know this may seem like a wierd question,but i'm just curious,so thanks for taking the time.
do girls like classical or rock musicians?
and i'm confused,cause i hear girls say that they love musicians,but
1)is it based on skill.exp:the better the guitaring is.the more the girl likes the guy?
does skill affect?or do girls just don't care if he is a sucky guitarist or a pro,they will still like the guitarist as long as he plays guitar??
2)is it also based on looks,?or do girls love great drummers and vocals even through they don't look good? so which one would a girl choose? a kickass drummer with average looks or a sucky drummer with model looks?
thanks for answering,anyways,if you girls like any other type of guys besides musicians....like bikers,car racers or skaters...just feel free to say what talent you would love in a guy.although i hear that most girls are not really into guys that race,but more to guys that are musically or sports inclined,it that true???(this question is not based on looks or personality)
thanks a lot for reading. (link)
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Hm.. it really all depends on the girl. Although, in my case it would be more of the Rocker kind of musician, just because I love guitar, ect.
The girl most likely wont care on the skill, as long as they're somewhat good. Just enough to impress her.
I dont think it really depends on looks. Again, it all depends on the girl. =D.
To answer the last part of the question-I dont think it's a certain thing girls look for, I think it's more about the guy being able to do something others can't-something to impress others. =D
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I just started a new school this year,and I started dressing "preppy"/casual, and made lots of new friends with my outgoing personality and all. Well, on the other hand, my best friend (from a different school) is into the goth/emo scene, and for a little while a few months ago I was too. Now I'm back into it again, and when I changed my myspace to totally death-looking emo pics and changed my pop music to death metal, I'm getting so many more responses than I thought. And from the "preppy" people, they're not liking it too much and keep asking what's wrong with me and asking 'what happened?!'-and my other friends, including my best, love it. I want to start dressing that way, but I'm way too afraid of what the student population thinks of me. Any suggestions on what I should do about this whole thing? (link)
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Alright, as soon as I started reading this, I instantly thought of how this happened to me, and how people's reactions to what you wear are way more that I would have thought.
I'd definitely just say to dress how YOU want. You seem pulled between two cliques, so choose the one you like dressing to impress more. I personally find it more fun to dress more punk, because it's more individual, and frankly saves money in my case, lol.
But you COULD always dress preppy-punk.(A good few good stores for that are Wet Seal, Delia's, Hot Topic-take my word, lol, and suprisingly, Aero.) That's overall what I began doing. Wear pinks and blacks together. Wear a hollister/ect tee with a skull necklace. Or if you cant seem to combine the style, make your style very off/on. Dress what you feel like dressing for the day. One day you may be wearing uggs, preppy tees and cute little skirts, while the next day you may be wear all black.
Do what you feel suits you best. =D
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What are the requirements to become a level II moderator? If you feel like you are a really good Level I moderator, can you make an appeal to become a Level II moderator? I feel like I could do it! Thanks! (link)
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The other administrators personally have to pick you. Just make sure you rate alot, answer questions with good answers (not just to answer). Eventually you should get picked. =)
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Okay this is really weird, and I don't understand it. At random times during the year, for about..3 to 4 days, I wont want to sleep in my bed. I'll just feel like sleeping on the couch. Like, if I was forced to sleep in my bed on one of those days, I'd feel like you guys probibly would about being forced to sleep on the couch.. If you understand what I mean. It's deffinatly not that I'm scared of my room. And I know that for a fact. I love my room, and have no problem sleeping in my own bed. And it's not cause the couch is super comfurtable, cause it's not that amazing! I just don't understand why I do this. It doesn't happen OFTEN maybe like, 3-4 days every 1-2 months. Does this sound really weird to anyone else? It's really weirding me out. Cause I mean, who wants to sleep on a couch when you've got a bed? Well, apperantly I do. Heh, but that's not the point. Why do I do this? Oh, and if it helps I'm 16/f. I don't know what that would have to do with anything but, I thought I should mention it. Please tell me what's wrong with me! (link)
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This sounds pretty normal, actually. There's nothing wrong with you. It's just that your body probably gets sick of being in the same surrounding (aka bed, haha) every night, and wants something different to et comfortable. =)
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i have been fasting for a week now....i tried eating again but with just a few spoonfulls i felt full, but i at it anyways and that's what made me get sick. so every little thing i try to eat makes me sick and it won't stay in me.....why is this? (link)
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This is happening because you body is not used to eating anymore. It dosen't understand how to digest much anymore, and for a bit, you're going to have to learn to eat in very small bits. Try to eat very nutritious foods when you can eat. Set times when you eat, and set specific amounts, so you get used to eating again.
Really, you should go to the hospital. I'd really seriously reccomend going to get an IV put into your system. This will get your body back on track, and it's only a little pinch to get a needle put into your arm.
Please take that advice, so that you dont suffer anything.
Kat
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whats a pansey or pansie how ever you spell it like when someone calls someone a pansie what does that mean (link)
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They most likely meant something along the lines of 'chicken, whimp, scared of something, weak, ect'
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i have a friend that i like and she knows i like her but things are getting a little weird should i stay friends with her? (link)
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Just try to stay friends, but keep things at a normal, serene level. I'd say just not to try flirting for the time being, just wait until she adjusts to what she found out. =)
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Yesterday I ran away.
I've been ditching alot and I have plans in life with my friends and they are like everything to me.
I hate school.
I hated being home so much I asked my friend if I could stay at her house and my mom hates her. she said no because she didnt want the cops coming to her house.
She took me home and I stayed there for an hour and I cried and I stopped a realized I didn't want to be there
I live in las vegas so I pretty much walked 20 miles to my friends house and I stayed there.
I felt bad but I had nowhere to go and I just needed to be away for the weekend.
Well my mom found her number and called her and threatened to get the police on her.Well instead she told her to come pick me up at 530 and she did because I didn't want to do that to my friend.
I'm still so very miserable here.
What should I do? I'm just so confused I need someone to talk to
anyone (link)
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Things probably seem pretty bad at home, but things could also definitely be worse. Just think of how worse things could be happening somewhere else. Explain to your mom (in person or in a note, whatever works for you) the importance your friend holds to you, for one. Come up with a reasonable agreement (as in, you most likely wont completly get your way, just listen to the term 'beggers cant be choosers')for you to be able to see her more often/ect. This may solve a major problem.
Also, try to use that approach with other issues you two have. Talk EVERYTHING over. It really helps, and maybe she'll understand more of what you're going through.
Getting things solved is better that running from things. Just keep that in mind.
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How do you deal with a death from someone you didn't even know? There was a girl who had gotten into a car accident and was killed. The driver got out with minor injuries, but everyone's crying and even though I didn't know her, I still feel like crying. I've been crying off and on and I don't know how to deal with it. I don't want to go to counseling or anything either. Please help me if you can. Thanks. (link)
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You're most likely crying, because everyone else is. Usually, when someone else is sad, the people around them will feel the same emotion. It's the same with happiness, anger, ect.
And even if this isn't the answer, it may be that you're thinking the same thing could happen to your friends, or something like that.
I'd say not to worry too much. Your reaction is natural, and time will heal everything.
RIP to the girl. =(
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What does it mean when someone says XYZ online? What does is stand for? (link)
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I'm not sure if it really stands for something? Sometimes people (as in me) just type in random letters. So I'm not sure, but that could be it. It all depends on what situation they used the phrase in. =P
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13 - female.
I met this guy a few weeks ago.
We exchanged numbers and he called me and stuff.
the next time i saw him, he found out i was 13, and i found out we was 17!
then he hasn't called me.
i really like him a lot, and now it feels awkward between us when i see him...
any good conversation starters i can use that will make it more comfortable between us? (link)
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Well it's pretty obvious WHY it's uncomfortable. Just think about it from his point of view, before you try anything. You most likely seem pretty young to him, just think of it if it were you. That would be like you going out with a nine year old.
If you go tto a point where you exchanged numbers, ect, you must be pretty mature, though.
I'd just say to talk about major events that happened during the day. You could also try asking him a question. 'Hey, I was just curious/was just thinking about this, but.... ' That kind of line usually works. That will get him talking, and maybe you two will get to talking about things that have happened to both of you.
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I like my best friends boyfriend. I can't help it! I would NEVER date him, even if they broke up because thats just wrong and mean to my best friend. What can I do to get over him? He seems perfect and I wish that my best friend hadnt gone out with him in the first place. But I feel really bad for thinking that. (link)
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It's really great that you realize you shouldnt' go through with any of those feelings. Really, stick to that.
You may end up liking him, thinking about him, and admiring him more if you keep thinking about it this way. Look at some of the other guys in your school/ect, and compare him to them. Look at their good points, and try to search for his.
You dont really need to worry about thinking what you thought, either. It's natural for you to feel like that, but you, unlike some other kids may not have, have supressed any attempts to try anything. =).
Sorry if this hasn't answered you question right. Write if you need anything, though.
Kat
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Well, I am 13 and a girl, and I have these 2 friends, and they are supposed to be my really good friends. But about a month ago we all got in a reallllly big fight. First (lets call these friends 1 and 2)1 got in a fight with 2, and they were fighting (like wanted to kill each other fighting!) and then I left on vacation, and when I came back, they got to be friends again, and said that I had changed and I argued alot, and was rude, but they were the only ones that thought that. I had always argued a lot, and everyone knows that, but they said that it was getting annoying, and if got to the point that they didnt even want to be my friend anymore. We all had a 3 way phone call conversation, and there were tears, and we all "supposably" were friends again. But we still werent as good as friends as we used to be. After a while, everything was back to the way it used to be, but 1 kept on saying things like "no offense but your hair isnt cute today" and that would just get me mad, and then 2 got another friend, and wanted to be with her than with me, and then 1 and 2 had a birthday party together, and 1 got in a fight with another girl, and just other people just didnt want to be around 2! And just everything is just sooo screwed up! I just hate all the drama! I wish it was just like the old days with no drama! Do you have any advice for me?? (link)
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This is the really bad thing about the three way best friend kind of thing.. it's easier to get into a fight. Unfourtunately, this is common, too. It sounds like they seem to group up on you if anything bad ever happens. This also might mix into the fact that they're looking at other friends, and may be comparing you. I'd say that you should try to not overreact with them if anything happens. Be a little more care free, and maybe they'll get the vibe. Just do NOT, I repeat (hah) do NOT, gang up on one person, or anything like that. Maybe try to have a sleepover at your house with both of them, and do group activites that will get you all involved and having an awesome time.
If this dosen't seem to work out, though, I'd say to try to stay away from them for a bit, and even though it sounds hard, it may be for the best, if they're causing that much drama for you.
If you need anything else, please feel free to write me!! xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating. (link)
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OKay, so I'm not going to sugar coat everything. I need to let you know that life is deffinately hard. And know what? It will probably get harder at some points of life, but there's also amazing moments. This is the point of time where you're growing, emotionally and physically. You're going to go through amazing moments, and some really, really bad ones.
Why give in to what you're feeling now, for the rest of your life? This wouldnt' be fair to everyone who loves you and cares about you either.
Suicide is the cowards way out. And whether you'd care about being a coward or not, you need to think everything through.
If you need to find someone who understands, open up to others, and dont be so judging of who they are. Open up to others, and they'll see you're a nice person.
So much worse could be happening to you. Think abou the people who dont have a choice whether they live or die. Dont take this for granted.
If you want to talk to a friend (yea, I probably seem mean or something or here, but I need to try to get through to you) email me at xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75 (link)
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I'd have to say that you're very thin, and probably very underweight. I'd reccomend seeing a doctor or nutritionalist, so that you can gain some weight, and check if your metabolism is overactive or something.
Kat
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I'm a sixteen year old female. I have dark, thick hairs down the middle of my stomach below my bellybutton. I'm really self-conscious of it - I can't wear a swimsuit or anything. I've heard that shaving it just makes it darker and thicker (plus, I've shaved it before and it just comes back all stubbly). I've also heard that waxing does the same thing.
Is there any way to get rid of this hair or make it lighter? Is it unhealthy to bleach the hair there (like some people do to upperlip hair)?
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The hair actually dosen't come back darker, it's just that your mind sees it as that, because you've seen your skin bare for a while.
You should be alright with bleaching it. The hairs on your face should be more sensitive than your stomach, so you should be alright with that. =D
Good luck!!
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I have a project due tomorrow and we have to display our essays really creatively. Is there any project I can do other than just a poster or triboard? cuz everyones doing a poster. thanks
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You could make a powerpoint essay. You could also do something like handing out worksheets to your class. You could also use an overhead, to point out the main ideas in your essay.
Good luck!!
=D
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How can you tell the difference between a controlling boyfriend and one who just loves you a lot? (link)
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A controlling boyfriend will make you do things you don't want. Look out for this in ANY way.
For example...
A concerned and loving boyfriend would make you stop something if there's a bad reason
A controlling one would make you stop something without reason, or using a selfish reason.
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