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Best friends boyfriend
I like my best friends boyfriend. I can't help it! I would NEVER date him, even if they broke up because thats just wrong and mean to my best friend. What can I do to get over him? He seems perfect and I wish that my best friend hadnt gone out with him in the first place. But I feel really bad for thinking that.
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You can't really decide who you like and don't like. You don't decide that nor does your mind. Your heart does so you can't blame yourself for that. I wouldn't suggest going and telling your friend this because it may make her feel uncomfortable when you're around him. I would just try seeing your best friend and him as the better couple verses you and him. Look for other nice guys (theres plenty im sure) but just relize he's with her, and if you two are meant to be then you two will happan. Just not right now. But keep your chin up kiddo cuz you'll find your prince charming. I promise. I hope I helped you a little bit. If not let me know i'll be glad to help & clear myself up a bit.
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Ok i just went through the same exact thing.
Don't tell yourself you could never date him because then your heart will like him more because of the "want what you cant have" thing.
i mean if they broke up you could go out with him like two years later.
First of all you need to tell a close friend that you trust (not his girlfriend).
Then just try to stop talking to him as much.
And relax, time will heal all wounds.
hope i helped, and if you have a more specific queastion just let me know.
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It's really great that you realize you shouldnt' go through with any of those feelings. Really, stick to that.
You may end up liking him, thinking about him, and admiring him more if you keep thinking about it this way. Look at some of the other guys in your school/ect, and compare him to them. Look at their good points, and try to search for his.
You dont really need to worry about thinking what you thought, either. It's natural for you to feel like that, but you, unlike some other kids may not have, have supressed any attempts to try anything. =).
Sorry if this hasn't answered you question right. Write if you need anything, though.
Kat<33
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i think it's so nice of you to not try & interfere with your best friend's boyfriend, some girls just don't care. this shows that you are a true friend.
just basically try & meet other guys. i promise you that there are tons out there, who you will consider 'perfect' you just have to keep on looking.
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It's very normal to like your friend's boyfriend. Basically, you like him because your friend does. It's a similar phenomenon to starting to like someone when you find out they like you after never even giving them a second thought. It's different of course, but similar. If she wasn't dating him, your feelings probably wouldn't be as strong as they are for him.
I think you should talk to your friend about it. Get everything out in the open. Tell her exactly what you said here. You would never date him, but you can't help but like him and it's making you feel bad. Telling her will make you feel a lot better. If she gets mad about it, she's a total bitch and doesn't deserve to be your friend. Friends, especially best friends, should be able to have completely open communication with each other. Telling her about it may even make some of your feelings go away. She should be totally understanding. Of course other girls are going to like him, he's a great guy. Maybe she can even tell you some really nasty things about him that'll turn you off from liking him. My guess is that she would be a huge help. :)
Good luck!
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I think at least one time or another, all of us girls have been in this situation. One thing I would suggest, is to go and talk to available guys, very often. Get to know them, and you may end of liking them if they're good guys. This could take your mind off of your best friend's boyfriend. Just make sure not to rush into anything you're not ready for.
Good Luck!
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