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Im a freshman in high school and this junior guy named Michael has been sexually harassing me. When he sees me he would grab at me and he would make disgusting remarks. Today i was leaving class and he pulled me into the bathroom and pushed me against the wall and put his hands down my panties. I tried screaming but he covered my mouth. I dont know what to do about him I'm to scared to go to school and I dont want him to hurt me for telling. Please help me.
You have to tell someone. That's the only way it will stop. You dont have to tell him infront of him but you NEED to tell someone. Do it fast before he does more to you that you will regret not stopping him sooner, For your own sake and for other girls' sake, please speak to someone!
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So my mom called me a bitch twice in an argument last week and we still have not been talking. Today she proved how immature she is. Our family was supposed to go on a boat today on the lake I already thought I was going my dad and sister already invited me. And this made me my mom angry, she turned into a high school student throwed a fit and said if I'm going she isn't going. She got all the attention on her in the house and played the victim. I was so over it. So she tells ny dad he needs more control and he then says I can't go. I went to her and asked her why she is acting like this she had no good reason. So we got into yet another disagreement. My dad doesn't know she even called me a bitch. She's asking like its all my fault. She knows she's wrong she is using her power as a mom to ignore the fact that she is wrong. I'm tired of her and I'm over it. I don't ever see us talking again and I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I'm just done. I'm the daughter yea and oh I'm supposed to respect my parents but she can disrespect me and get away with it??? That's serious bullshit.
I find it kind of odd that your dad and sister invited you to a trip and after you said you were going, your mom said she wasn't. I think you need to tell your dad what's going on. Maybe he can talk to your mom and maybe he knows what's going on with her. Are your parents married? You can't just leave the house considering it's a house to stay in and better than nowhere.
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my parents have the creepy habit of rummaging through my personal items and have read my journal and stuffs like that.(fyi i have depression cut myself and have for 2 years plus burning and bruising)yathere looking for razor blade drugs other dAngerous items i could harm myself with or commit suicide.i respect theyvalue my safty but hate that nothing can ever be personal again.soo umm,any hiding spots that would work for me???:p
You really don't sound depressed or whatnot. It's really hard for people to come out and say they're physically abusing their own body. If your parents go through your stuff, honestly, I feel like they have a right to! They're worried about you and they feel like your journal is the best way to find out why you are doing this to yourself.
I'm assuming you don't tell them your problems and they have to resort to that as a means of trying to find out what is going on in your life to make you depressed like that.
If you want things to be personal again, you need to start coming clean to them so they can trust you! That's the only way you can get out the fear of them finding your journals. Your parents don't want you dead!
Just think if it was your child, who wouldn't tell you anything but you know she hates herself, wants to kill herself for whatever reason. Wouldn't you try to find answers to her problems to see if you can help her, considering she wont talk to you.
:) Hope this helps.
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I haven't been to college, and don't have any immediate plans to. But I hear people often speaking of the "college experience" and how it's not just about studying, but also about finding yourself and developing both the mind and socially.
So, if you've been to college (or know someone that has), what have you learned? Both about your self, academically, etc.
I get the impression that it's about 1. the independence, and 2. discovering what you believe and so on
So what were these precious experiences that I've missed out on?
Maybe I can make some ground!
Thanks!
College is honestly what you make of it. You don't have to go partying or whatnot. A lot of students don't. It all depends on you and the group of people you choose to hang with. Not only do you need to worry about independence, you have to worry about how much harder the workload is on you. College is nothing comparable to highschool. Every student is for themselves. Not even your friends can help you. The independence is one thing, but you have to use it as a lesson to teach you to get things done for yourself and not rely on others to do things for you. It is definitely a time to develop socially if you have friends there and if you meet people you want to associate with. Just remember to be smart about the decisions you make because the consequences are really severe if you mess up really badly.
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Hey guys, so I'm in an unbelievably awkward situation. Let me explain.
My sister's boyfriend is basically a nightmare.
They are 23 and 24. and have an 8month old son together.
At first he seemed lovely and we all loved him. Then he started staying here like all the time and you know the saying "if you want to know me, come live with me" Well boy, did we see another side to him.
My mom and dad were firm and set ground rules on nights he could stay and couldn't as he had inadvertently moved in. But it never made a difference. They were doing their best to accommodate everyone without upsetting my sister as she wanted him around all the time when she was pregnant which was understandable. I wouldn't mind if he was actually helpful but he's completely lazy and has no job.
He sponges of his grandparents who raised him and are quite well off. He used to interact with us but now he comes in and goes straight to her room.
My other sister and him do not get on AT ALL. My dad hates him so much and has been biting his tongue for a while now. Me and my mom have made a great effort with him.
But it's like he throws it back in our face. He's completely clingy and always has to go everywhere with my sister. He's extremely childish like you wouldn't believe. && He does nothing for his son. My sister is the one who gets up with him and does everything. He lays in bed. He gets pissed off and frustrated easily with him when he cries, and he only takes an interest when people are cooing over him.
He is always telling lies and then lying about those lies. Back in May a close friend committed suicide. My sisters boyfriend made the remark to me alone "I wish I had the guts to do what he did" I replied "That is horrible, so you would leave your son and girlfriend like that?"
his response, yeah.
Trust me he is in no way suicidal. it's all for attention believe me. If I thought for a second he was I'd do something but he isn't. Of course I didn't tell my sister that.
He accused my mother of lying about something back in November, (long story) and basically caused a massive falling out between my mom dad and sister.
The other night, my sister overheard me and my dad talking about him & her. I was so angry and had so many vent up feelings. As I had spent the day with them and my nephew and all he did was bitch and act like a child. He lost his precious batman dvds and was practically accusing one of the family members of taking it! (my sister was giving out to him but he wouldn't stop) It pissed me off because he took some of my box sets without asking, LIED about it when I asked where they were, eventually admitted he took them home by "accident" gives them back and there are missing discs, and I don't even say anything! and he has the nerve to suggest I or anyone else had taken his.
I know you're probably wondering why I never expressed my dislike for him to her, it's because I wanted to be happy for her and let her see it herself. But I don't think she ever will and I know it's not my place to interfere. But when it comes to him walking all over her then it angers me. My sister is very hot headed temperamental and down right impossible to talk to sometimes as she goes on the defensive so quickly. She's not great at confrontation and does a lot of her arguments true text, which I refuse to do as everything gets misconstrued.
About jobs, first he was going to join the army, then he was going to do an EMT course, then a computer software course. and he still has done none of it and is sponging off of social welfare yet my sister makes excuses.
He just causes so many problems. I have a lot of issues with him and a lot of things he has done stored up in my mind. But I know if I express them to her now he will deny it and brainwash her. I don't want to lose my sister but I can't keep my issues with him hidden anymore. What do I do? he is so two faced and cunning. I only have her best interests at heart.
A while ago our other sister was dating a complete asshole aswell. But she's different I could tell her how I felt and she would listen and take it on board and respect me for it, and for trying to make an effort all the while encouraging her that she did deserve better. My other sister (the one in question now) agreed and didn't like him either and she knew how hard it was to try suck it up. So I just want her to see it's the same thing. Sorry this is so long. Any opinions welcome.
How do I approach this? I've already apologised for talking behind her back that I should have done it personally, now I don't know where to go as she just text and said she and her bf are hurt and she doesn't know how to talk to me yet.
help. :(
The fact that its your parents house and not her boyfriend's house is the first indication that he needs to start fending for his family. Technically him and your sister are responsible for your nephew, not necessarily your parents. Your sister needs to see that. I don't know I would talk to her personally about it, without your parents or anyone nearby and see what she has to say. Then I'd go to your parents. I think you should also talk to him too, and if he's serious with you, or even mature about it. I think you should see what happens from there. I hope things work out for your sister!
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ok so i am 13 and my brother is 3. a year ago i found out on my dads phone that hes going on to dating websites and talking with other women. and before that i found condoms in his car droor. and i just think he goes to other womens house and you know, does it with them. i dont know what to do. i told my aunt but she told me not to tell anyone. i think when my brother grows up to be my age one day, i will tell him and discuss what to do about it together, but now what do you people think?
Your mom has a right to know. And how is this aunt related to you. Is it his sister or your mom's sister?
Imagine if you were your mother. Would you want to find out later?
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Hello, we have three cats in our house and a recurring problem with what appears to be mange. The source seems to be a cat across the road, which my mum says has a bad case. Unfortunately, we don't know who owns him (or if he even has an owner) and he's only seen occasionally. They've been treated before, but two of them are now showing symptoms again. The third seems fine but I don't want to take any risks.
My mum seems hesitant to get them all treated again because 1: she can't afford it, 2: we can't stop them catching it again from that other cat and 3: she insists that they will 'get better', though what I've read suggests that is impossible.
I'm currently unemployed having just got back from uni, but still have a small chunk of my student loan left over which should sufficiently cover all three cats.
I just wanted to ask if anyone has advice on how I can prevent them catching it again. I don't have enough money for future treatments and unless we do something about the other cat there's no way of really stopping it recurring.
I've considered going to the RSPCA or something, but the cat's lack of address and sporadic appearances may make that useless. Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do? If you have any other advice for this situation, feel free to throw that in as well.
Thank you for your time.
Recurring mange is hard to deal with, unless treated with medication. Why not ask a veterinarian and ask what kind of medication you can buy to bathe the cats in, rather than taking them to see one. I'm sure a pet store might have a strong medicated shampoo. The best way to prevent mange is to keep the cats away from the other stray cat with the mange. I had a kitten who had mange and honestly, that was not a happy kitten. He was very angry all the time and always itching. Maybe you can call the animal control, not sure if the UK has that service, and they can pick up the cat with the mange. If the cat is a friendly cat, then surely, it can be treated. I really don't know the policy there, but in America, if the cat is domesticated, it can be adopted.
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14/f
I was just wondering why people say not to shave or use hair removal creams on your upper lip. If it's bad then what are some other ways to get rid of it? And am I too young to worry about it? My mom says I am but guys make fun of me.
People say not to shave it because once you do, the hair grows back a little thicker than usual. Honestly, if it's that much of a bother, consider getting it waxed. It takes the hair out from the root, causing it not to grow back as thick.
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and stop going to the computer, instead of running away from my problems to my comfort zone? i'm missing out on so much because it's so scary to put myself out there and get rejected for being different or do something and it not being good enough. but this is not the way to live. i'm 18 and i feel like most of my childhood from age 11-18 was a complete waste, except for the times I got to travel abroad. the rest of the time was mainly spent online cause i've never really been able to connect with most people offline, even when I try, and it's so frustrating
i also build walls because i'm afraid of getting hurt. it always seems like people are nice to me and wanna be friends and then suddenly turn on me, so i'm afraid of that happening if i tell others my deepest thoughts. i feel very regretful over not even telling a guy i liked him because i was afraid of rejection even though i really liked him a lot and i felt i gave him subtle hints but ugh.. it's not like i had any friends to discuss things with so idk what he thought of me at all. i just hate how in school i only had varying degrees of acquaintances, and never friends, not since elementary school
Maybe, and not to make you seem crazy, but maybe you should talk to an acutal person about this. I know the internet has people your age to help you out, nonetheless, but I feel like if you actively discuss this with someone face to face, it might be a lot easier for you to pick up visual cues on how to interact with people in a conversation. But honestly, to make a friend is to be a friend as well. Try helping someone in need. Try putting yourself in situation where you need to interact with people, such as a school club. With forced interaction, you're bound to talk to all sorts of people and see how it goes from there. It does get easier once you're accustomed to talking to anyone. After a while, an anyone can become a someone.
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I am a 14 year old girl and my cousin is 18. I live about 1 1/2 hours away from him and we don't see each other very often. We aren't that close, but close enough to have a nice conversation. Last week, me and my sister had to stay at my cousins for the week.
On the 2nd or 3rd day we were there, my cousin starting to getting closer to me, liking hugging me closely and putting his hand on my thigh. He would touch me under the sheets/blankets and sometimes even when his brother or my sister would be in the room.
Later, it got to where he was massaging my breasts over my shirt. He was very subtle about it, and I was too afraid to do anything about it. I felt weird and awkward, but I also felt pleased. But then, I feel like that is wrong and I feel guilty too.
On the 5th day, while my cousin, my sister, and I were watching a movie. He and I were under the same blanket and he started to rub my breasts and he moved my hand over to his.. area. I tried to escape from his grip but I couldn't. I didn't want to cause panic to my sister by shouting or anything. So I just let him do it. I was kind of in shock and curious. I didn't know what I was doing and at the end of the movie, he didn't say much. I was shaking that night in my sleep and scared.
Now, I'm back home, but I'm afraid about what will happen the next time I see him, which probably won't be until Christmas or Thanksgiving. Should I tell an adult? I really feel embarrassed and I don't know how I would explain this to my parents if I did tell them.
I think before you tell someone you should talk to him and tell him that you don't like it. I know it is natural to feel curious but I can tell that if you want this, you don't want it with your own cousin. Let him know he needs to stop it. He's 18 and you're 14! And he's your cousin too. Depending on his response, you should tell an adult. If he denies anything, then I think you should tell an adult. If he agrees to stop, make sure he does but if he downright says no, then tell right away. Also, I would try to stay away from him for a while too. I know you can't avoid not going to his family for the holidays but try to avoid any type of contact with him, conversation or anything.
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My neighbor is dating my ex-boyfriend.I dated this guy for a really long time. He even stalked me for awhile, and hes only dating her too upset me. I don't care what he does anymore, Ive moved on, but it kills me to see her get used. Ive told her everything but shes 15 and wont listen. My ex however, is 19. I'm not comfortable seeing the two of them together.
My question is, how can her to realize he's only using her?
Sometimes you have to ask yourself why you are trying to get involved in the situation. Attachment is hard to let go... Honestly, I think if you really feel that this is the situation, and she won't listen to you, then should just let your neighbor be. Eventually, she will figure it out and realize why he's into her.
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How do I wipe out my laptop if I don't have a recovery disk? Is there somewhere I can take it to or buy something to wipe it out?
You can take it somewhere but they will charge you a lot of money for it. You can probably buy a recovery disk. Inquire about it first before you pay someone to do it for you. Chances are, you won't effectively remove all of the virus though.
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ok well, i used to be friends with a girl who used to go to my school. she was forced to move because she was caught smoking on school grounds,keep in mind we were in 6 grade. anyways,she has had sex MANY times and has gotten pregnant 3 times. all of which aborted. how can i tell her it isnt safe or legal having sex at age13? at my school she has SOmany gross nick names please help.
She might not want to hear it from you since you're not technically friends anymore. Being 13 is very young and therefore, there has to be a reason why she is like this. Honestly, you need to seek outside help for her because she might not want to listen to you. I think you should try to talk to her but if that fails, you might need to involve some other trusted ones.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and we want to take it to the next step but we don't know how to. I am f/15 and he is also 15 we will soon be 16
Please help
To get to this stage in a relationship involves good communication between one another. 7 months is a long while and in order to take it a step further, you guys need to talk it out. Talking about things you want to do together is perfectly normal. It will help you become more close with one another. Keep in mind that you are only 16 and too much shouldn't be expected from each other at such a young age. Good luck. I wish you the best :)
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Ok so I just turned 13 and Im a girl... I reccently had my 1st kiss with this guy and I broke up with him because he was a jerk. I have a question...
1.Is materbating like fingering yourself for pleasure?
So, obviously by my question I want to masterbate for my own pleasure. I have almost done it (I think) in the shower because no one was home except me and I slipped and fell and while I was on the floor of the shower I leaned against the wall and I think I found my vagina but I dont know because I felt my butt (dont ask I can be strange) and I felt along my crotch and as I was feeling with my 2 fingers they went in a teeny tiny bit and I think it was my vagina. Is it wrong for me to masterbate at this age? Is it also wrong that I watch porn a bit sometimes because it makes me feel good? Should I actually masterbate? Will it hurt? Give me all info about masterbation and please only answer if you have done it... Thanx
Hun, it's not wrong to wonder about these feelings. To some people it's wrong and to some people, it's okay. What you choose to do with yourself is up to you. I personally think that being 13 is a little too young to be watching porn because I feel it leads to more and more youths becoming sexually active for fun with bad consequences. There is nothing wrong with wanting ot masturbate either. If you want to continue, make sure you stay clean,
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I like this guy he has a girlfriend but asks to see me and asks me to kiss him and I won't..he says his relationship is complicated. I finally told him I am worth more than a secret and we have to stop talking he acted like he didn't even care. I do want to b around him. Should I ignore him.. Help.. I think he has feelings for me as well
I think he needs to decide what he wants to do first. You should tell him that he needs to think it through on who he wants to be with. If his relationship is complicated, tell him he needs to not treat you like a secret and actually commit to you. The fact that he acted like he didn't care is a little fishy to me but just tell him that he needs to make a decision because you deserve a geniunie relationship with the person you really love.
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i am 24 male from south asia few of my reletives and friend went euorpe in last few years now they are facing so many difficulties there why not people try to work and earn in their homeland and why they try shortcuts.
I'm assuming you're probably from India. I have close friends who are from India, and as far as I know, the economy of India is very bad. There is also more freedom of education in Europe and the Americas. It's not a matter of shortcuts that people are taking by living. Just because you are born in one country does not mean you have to live there for the rest of your life. If South Asia is not the place that gives you the most opportunity to better yourself, then why live there? It is not easy to transition to a new country. My aunt is facing the same situation, coming from her homeland to live in the US. She does not have a stable job, and does not have a car, etc. But she is trying to make a living for her children, so they can grow up in America to have a better opportunity in life, than she did.
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my gf was giving me a blowjob..i got excited and splashed some of my sperms on her face.den i cleaned it with a handkerchief.after that i washed my hands and cleaned them with the same handkerchief.Then after a while i fingered her.Will she get pregnant.please reply soon should i tell her to take a contraceptive pill.Pls help me!
No she would not get pregnant. You washed and cleaned your hands and even if you didn't, the likelihood of you getting her pregnant that way, is pretty slim.
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I have a boyfriend who I really love,we have an intense and very active sex life,I mean we are used to arguing a lot but when it comes to having sex,I believe everything's perfect,what I'm also starting to believe,though,is that the only thing he cares about is sex,he doesn't wanna go out for dinner anymore for example,he doesn't say 'I miss you'anymore,I'm really worried about this,also he has started to hang out with his friends again like the way he was used to doing when he was a single ,I don't know what to do,nor do I know what to think,help?thanks!
You should really talk to him before it gets to your mind and the sex starts to not feel that great anymore.
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Okay so there is a school dance coming up semi formal and my boyfriend hasn't asked me..but my close friend did and I kinda wanna go with him but I asked my boyfriend and he suddenly wants to go! Who should I choose?
Don't you find it a bit odd that you have a boyfriend, yet you want to go with your friend?
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