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I guess my boyfriend wants me only for sex
I have a boyfriend who I really love,we have an intense and very active sex life,I mean we are used to arguing a lot but when it comes to having sex,I believe everything's perfect,what I'm also starting to believe,though,is that the only thing he cares about is sex,he doesn't wanna go out for dinner anymore for example,he doesn't say 'I miss you'anymore,I'm really worried about this,also he has started to hang out with his friends again like the way he was used to doing when he was a single ,I don't know what to do,nor do I know what to think,help?thanks!
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It could be that he is secure in the relationship and is ready to have a separate home and social life.
If his lack of social activity is bothering you, you can suggest a 'date day' when you are both free and willing to keep things fresh and to talk about things that need talking about, plus its nice to get out together sometimes. I have been in a relationship for a while now and my fiancé and I go out every wednesday (providing he is not working) for a bar snack.
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When you ask this type of question it would be nice to know how old you two are and how long you have been together.
The reason I say this is because life is not a Hollywood movie, a fairytale or a romance novel. Their is more to life than just great sex and one on one intimacy. After a while one or both partners in a relationship are going to want sometime with other friends to do things they alone like to do. There is nothing wrong with this and in many cases it make a relationship stronger.
If a relationship is solely based on sex and 24/7 togetherness demanded by one partner; no matter how good the sex and intimacy may be, the other partner is going or may start to resent their time being totally monopolized by the other. We need interaction with other people. We need to do things that we like to do . A relationship is or should be a 50/50 proposition.
Besides the sex life you share you should do things together and separate that you both like to do. For instance I hate to go shopping but my wife loves to shop. I go with her when she wants to buy for then I can help her buy. If all she wants to do is shop to see what is in the stores to me that is a total waste of time. If I need to go buy something and she wants to shop while we are there fine then we shop and buy. Do you see the 50/50 part I'm talking about.
My wife is a great cook, I like to cook. My wife is not one to try new recipes. I like to try cooking new things so we do so together or I do so alone. She shops alone when she needs time by herself. I have a volunteer fire station I am a member of that I go to when I want to be with my friends. She has her friends and we have our friends. We have two TVs; why? We don't like the same programs. Why make one suffer watching programs they don't like. Okay we have been married a long time so the newness of our relationship has worn off. The same though holds true in any relationship. At some point you hit a comfort zone where you don't need to be together 24/7.
Consider what I have written in relationship to where you are in your relationship. Then reevaluate what you have written and see if you really have a problem.
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i think you have to read his meantal situation may be he is not feeling well and want to relax himself.
Sex is the necessary part of life and when you are young it give you blowjob.
you just clean your mind and try to understand him.
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You should really talk to him before it gets to your mind and the sex starts to not feel that great anymore.
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