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uug parents looking trough stuff
my parents have the creepy habit of rummaging through my personal items and have read my journal and stuffs like that.(fyi i have depression cut myself and have for 2 years plus burning and bruising)yathere looking for razor blade drugs other dAngerous items i could harm myself with or commit suicide.i respect theyvalue my safty but hate that nothing can ever be personal again.soo umm,any hiding spots that would work for me???:p
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You really don't sound depressed or whatnot. It's really hard for people to come out and say they're physically abusing their own body. If your parents go through your stuff, honestly, I feel like they have a right to! They're worried about you and they feel like your journal is the best way to find out why you are doing this to yourself.
I'm assuming you don't tell them your problems and they have to resort to that as a means of trying to find out what is going on in your life to make you depressed like that.
If you want things to be personal again, you need to start coming clean to them so they can trust you! That's the only way you can get out the fear of them finding your journals. Your parents don't want you dead!
Just think if it was your child, who wouldn't tell you anything but you know she hates herself, wants to kill herself for whatever reason. Wouldn't you try to find answers to her problems to see if you can help her, considering she wont talk to you.
:) Hope this helps.
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Here's the thing if you have nothing to hide in a journal or otherwise than having them look and leaving being satisfied should be fine. The thing is with your mental health issue (and that's what causes self-mutilation, burning etc.) people don't know how deep in trouble they are when they're in it. I can say the same for my bipolar.
Them doing this and potentially saving you a situation in a hospital or intervention is a good thing and because of the past you need to sacrifice a little privacy to maintain 100% physical and mental safety. They're nervous and scared for you. They want you well.
I think the compromise here is to tell your doctor about this and that you understand why there's not much privacy but for an adolescent there should be some shown your way and have him iron it out with your parents.
One concession you might want to make is with the doctor to see your journal (and don't rip anything out) each visit and see that there's nothing amiss with what you have written. A psychiatrist can't share it with anyone but if you've gone off the rails or something can use it to hospitalize. But you sound fine.
Another thing you can do is get a box with a key and put things important to you to be private in it and tell them why and what it contains and if they think something is really, really wrong you will give them the key to search. Talk to them and the doctor about privacy and write up a contract and sign it.
Let them look around for razors and whatever else the more they look and find NOTHING and know you aren't harming yourself in any fashion the more privacy you'll find yourself with.
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