Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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Age: 21
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what does it mean when you say a girl or woman is a gay man in a womans body???
lol i think it's really weird :S (link)
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It's just a saying.
It can be taken in a sarcastic way such as for instance:
I'm a girl and I like other girls so there for it's like I'm a guy trapped in a girl's body.
Lil confusing hehe.
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okay me and my ex broke up not to long ago...its not like we wanted to really its just that certain circumstance broke us apart we still love each other but cant be together right now. i still talk to him but he still calls me names like babe, baby and all the others we had is that strange since we broke up or do u think its okay since we technically didnt want the break up to happen
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Not at all. Obviously you two are still very close and have a lot of feelings towards each other. Calling each other these names is just a verbal affectionate way of speaking to each other.
There is nothing wrong with it, it's not strange or weird. You said you can't be together right now so there may be a possibility that you two will reconcile with each other in the future.
For as long as you have feelings towards each other the pet names should continue. It shows you still care.
Hope I helped :)
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my boyfriend and i have had sex twice. both times we were interrupted.
does anyone have any ideas on how to do it while his parents are home, but not be caught? if thats even possible.
DO NOT TELL ME IM TOO YOUNG OR TO NOT DO IT AT ALL. i dont wanna hear it. just answer my question or go away. (link)
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If you stay over night then wait until it is very late or early in the morning.
Or sit down and ask his parents to knock or give you private time alone.
You haven't actually said how old you are but if you are young, did you think that perhaps his parents are interrupting because "they" think you are too young?
If that's the case then you need to reassure them that you are both having safe sex and being responsible and mature about the sitation.
After all, it is their house and they may think that you are disrespecting them under their roof.
Talk to your boyfriend and see what he thinks...!!
Hope I helped :)
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I just found out that my ex boyfriend wants to get back with me. Im so confused becasue my mum doesnt agree with me getting back with him and my dad absolutely wants to kill him because he hurt me before. He dumped me for a girl id known for about a week and was his ex girlfriend. The thing is for some weird reason i do still like him a lot and somehow i have forgave him. It all started off on a rocky patch anyway because of the age difference. We started going out when he was 15 and i was 12, then 3 months later he turned 16 and i stayed twelve. I did turn thirteen two months after that but on my birthday he left me. I dont get it. He says he always thinks of me and that he has had 3 sex dreams about me in the past week alone!!!!! I am 13 now and he is 16. Yesterday he asked me for a hug and when i huggedd him he pulled me onto the sofa so that i was laying on top of him with my head on his chest and he said that he loved me, i could tell by his voice that he was deadly serious. And I said that i loved him. First of all i would like to ask if you have nay advice on getting back with him. Yes or no? And please please please can you give me some advice on how to tell my mum and dad without them going mad and saying that im not going to see him. I want to put it across as im going out with him mum but can you please let me get on with it and be by my side in case it goes wrong because that is all i want, i dont want a lecture. At one point he did mean a lot to me and im trying to make it work again. Please help. (link)
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Hey there!
Ok first of all, it sounds like you've already made up your mind :) you obviously want to get back with him.
Second, if he's ditched you once... it could happen again. Instead of rushing right back into it, why don't you just hang back for a couple of weeks and let him prove to you and your parents that he really wants to be with you. (He'll get in the good books with your parents then)
Third, why don't you sit down with your mum and/or dad and tell them that you still have feelings for him (always have) and your considering getting back with him but your going to wait and see how things go and see if he really can prove it to you that he wants to be with you. At least that way you've shown you've been mature about it and you haven't just rushed back into it. They'll respect you for that.
Good luck... Hope I helped :)
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alright im 18/f. im about 5'6"
i weigh around 115 lbs. i don't think im fat, AT ALL. when i wear jeans, i have this sort of fat on the inner part of my legs which does bug me and also when i'm wearing jeans i just feel more fat, like my stomach is bulging over my jeans. i don't know why i feel like this! when my stomach is flat? and my arms are so scrawny. i don't have weights at my house, and i don't have money for a membership so is there anything i could do at home for excercising? also i have a flat stomach but i wish i could have at least like a little 4 pack or SOMETHING! i do about 50-75 crunches at night, i TRY to do it every night but i don't see any results. and lastly i have a smaller butt, it's not completely fat but what are some exercises i could do to tigthen it up, possibly make it a little bigger looking. sometime's i'll do like wall sits, or i'll bend my knees and put my arms straight out as i go up and down but i feel like this is not working? well thanks, sorry so many questions but i don't know much about working out! (link)
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Hey there!
Believe it or not but... Power Walking uses up more muscles then what running does. A Half an hour at least 3 times a week of power walking will make your muscles heavier and you will becomes very fit.
As for toning.... dancing is the best source!!!
Good luck :)
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Before I started working where I am, a man's wife died in an auto accident in February. He has two kids from her, now he is alone. I feel bad for him as anyone would. I am married and have two kids of my own too but I have my wife. He has never told me about what happened but others have told me. I never asked, they just mentioned it. My heart goes out to him and I'd like to help him out or at least show him I care without letting him know that I know already. I've actually thought he was a cool dude from the get-go and we'd sometimes step outside to shoot the bull and have a cigarette together. I'm hoping he'll tell me eventually about what happened because I'd like to help him out anyway I can emotionally. I hate seeing people in pain. This guy is miserable and lost without her. What should I do?
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Hi there,
I guess first of all you could try to make this guy a closer friend. When you go out for an occasional cigarette, ask him to go out for a drink or something one night.
Have a BBQ and invite him and the "family" If his kids are the same age as yours that would be perfect. That there then might be a good opportunity for him to tell you about the loss of his wife. (He may not know how to tell you perhaps?!?)
If he decides to tell you then that's where you'll have your chance to help him. Inviting him to places might make him feel like he's still a part of something, especially if he doesn't know that you know about his wife.
Talk about your kids and his... there's at least one thing you have in common. I guess the idea is to not put too much pressure on the guy about the death. He may just want a friend to talk to who doesn't know or asks questions about it like everyone else does. He might not want to be felt sorry for by everyone.
Being miserable is obviously part of the grieving stage, I probably wouldn't incorporate your wife into too much of everything too fast... too many memories may pop up.
I hope I've helped and I hope you succeed. Your a good person for caring so much :)
Good luck!
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ok well my mom and the rest of my family been suffering becuase i have sister who is like 15 and wants to get her way and one day she didnt come home frm skool we got worried and we reported her missing so about late evening the police called and told us that they had her there with them so we were at church after church we went there they questioned us and my grandpa and we found out alot what she told them such as that my grandpa molested her wen we know its not true!!! my grandpa is a pastor and he very hard working who is hardly ever home and brianna is hardly ever home also she doesnt come striaght home frm skool well she says she goes to skool wen we get a call that she wasnt in skool wen she rides the skool bus so butt i guees she doesnt go...and she also said that my mom beats her wen its not true my mom never lays a hand on her and she also brought up alot of my mom history and the cps, people frm the court are taking her side and the sad part about all this is they took my brother away frm my mom he like 12 yrs old who we barely got to live with us wen he was living in bakerfeild with his dad cuz my mom and hid dad are divorced so yah and my other brothe who is like 5yrs old lives with his dad so yah my 12 yrs old brother lives in a foster home now wich is very sad they wont give him to his either cuz of some of his past also so yah we all miss my brother and are very upset at my sister for doing all this to us my family is very heart borken... i think its wrong that theyre not giving my mom to much help that theyre going agianst her and siding with my sister wen i know how my sister is so anyone out there could tell me some advice i will appreciate it thasnk you very much!!!!!! (link)
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Hi there
I hate to burst your bubble but did you ever stop to think that what your sister has said might actually be true??
Everyone deals with things differently and your sister skipping school might be her way of dealing with what could be happening to her.
I'm not accusing anyone of anything here but there are always two sides to every story.
You may not see this as being true because either you don't want to believe it, its never happened to you... and it could be happening when no one else is around.
On the other hand, if however, your sisters accusations aren't true then there must be a reason as to why she is making these sorts of things up. When you tell a lie, you end up telling another lie to cover that lie up etc, she could have been after some attention, told a lie and is now having to cover her story all the time.
She obviously needs help. Unfortuanetly there isn't much you can do until your sister comes clean if she is lying. If however she is not lying then the matter needs to be taken further.
Sometimes bad things happen to the best of people and it's the way things work. Just remember that none of this is your fault. You did not prevoke any of this and you shouldn't blame yourself. The situation was out of your control.
If your mum is down and depressed over the incident then suggest to her some councelling perhaps.
Hope I helped. Goodluck :)
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maintain my weight?
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Hi there,
You should eat healthy, a snack here and there wont hurt though, and excercise regularly.
Exercise at least a half an hour 5-6 times a week. If you wish to tone up then weights at least 3 times a week.
The more you fuss over your weight the more you will fail to maintain at a good healthy weight without making yourself feel bad.
Perhaps join a gym or go for a walk/jog early in the morning before the day starts... I find that always makes me feel really good for the rest of the day.
Hope I helped :)
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i run everydayy
im 13 years old and im like 5'4 5'5
i used to be 118 pounds [54] kilos
and i chekced toadi i weighed 120[55] kilos
do you think it could be muslce gain? cause im always runnin on my treadmille i couldnt stop crying cause i didnt wanna lose weight bt i wanted to remain the samee so yeah =[
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Hi there,
Yes it's more then likely that your muscles are growing and there fore it seems like your putting on weight.
It's not a bad thing because your not gaining fat.
Hope I helped :)
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Me and my bf of 6 months broke up about a wk and a half ago. i dumped him because he told my friend he was gonna hook up with other girls bhind my back while we were on a break. i was really angry becuz he told me he would never hurt me and all this stuff about he loved me etc. the other day (i told) my friend to tell him how she feels because of what he did and he got really angry and sed he wuldnt talk to me or her nemore and now he put up a quote on myspace saying something like ya i cheated but its because i didnt get what i wanted from it. im pretty sure its because i didnt have sex with him because i didnt want it. he also put some on his page bragging that hes single. he is acting so immature i didnt do nething to the kid but be honest about how much i though what he did was wrong. do i deserve this? it jus really makes me angry i trusted him so much and he has treated me like crap! i dont know what to do...i want to honestly go and kick his ass...any advice? (link)
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I honestly don't think that some guys have any feelings what so ever! They are sometimes blind to the fact that girls do have feelings.
As you said, you dumped him so he's trying to be the 'big man' now and want attention.
I know you trusted him and I know you may still have some feelings for him but the best thing for you to do is to try and completely ignore what he's done to you and move on.
You deserve so much better! Besides once people fine out what he's done, he'll be branded the guy who breaks hearts or a player!
Hope I helped!
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my boyfriend basically cheated on me, now i want to get REVENGE. i dont want to hurt anybody or vandalize property or whatever, i just want to get even and bring him to his knees. any ideas? please dont say oh be the bigger person dont do that.. yeah i am the bigger person im not the one who cheated.. i just need to have a little fun and this will certainly do it. its all in good fun. im 17 hes 18 and we both live with our parents. (link)
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You should get like some super hot chick to show a bit of interest in him, when he falls for her, get her to shut him down.
Make him embarrassed!!
Then he'll know what it feels like to be played with like some sort of toy!!!
Have fun but be careful :)
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I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now. And since, it is summer, we have a little bit of a slut problem. And the biggest slut, is his male friend. My boyfriends friend treats girls like shit and basicallly fucks around with a lot of girls, but this isnt about him, only my boyfriend is best friends with him, and since the summer started, my boyfriend has been going to partys, and girls houses that i dont know. Sure, I trust him, only to an extent. And I really just get so mad at him when he tells me he's at some girls house. And he's had some girls in his room before, with his best freind.
yeah, that crossed the line.
But I don't know if I should learn to accept the fact that he's an asshole and wont listen to me, when i tell him to have girls in his room and shit like that.
Or if I should really do something about it, but idk what. (link)
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Hey there...
I do not agree with what your boyfriend is doing. If he is committed to you and your relationship together, there should be absolutely no reason what so ever for him to be in a room with other girls.
I'm almost 100% sure that his cousin was getting down doing the dirty with some chick which could and is a possibility that these other girls may have tried something on your boyfriend.
Things like this aren't on. Trust or not!!! I know I would be absolutley furious with my boyfriend if he had girls in his room.
You need to comfront your boyfriend about this. Tell him that he needs to stop flirting with these girls and most definitely stop having them in his room!!
If he doesn't agree to this... Give him the flick. You deserve someone who is 110% committed to you!!!!
Hope I helped! xoxo
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This might be a silly question, but I just want your opinions.
When is the age that you should (well, not 'should'... you know what I mean) start dating. Like really be looking for a long-term relationships and even potentially a future husband? I've never really dated seriously before, and I would just like to know what a good age/stage in life would be to start looking for a potential husband.
I'm 17 and a half, and I would to get married at 21-22. (I'll be done with college when I'm 21, and I want to have a kid before 24... LOL I know I'm weird).
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Your not silly, the age you want to do things is perfect.
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, I'm 20 years old right now but I want to at least be engaged and a deposit on a house by the time i'm 23 and married with a bub by 25.
It's not strange to think about these things, I love thinking about it.
Everyone does things in their own time but you hear some people say that they did things the right way.
I interperate things the right way of how you and I would like to start our lives.
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im 14.i have really bad sreach marks on my upper thighs&&a little on my butt.how did they get there and will they go away?
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Sorry to say hun but your stuck with them forever.
Stretch marks usually start off a dark purple colour, eventually with time they fade and look like a scar.
They are caused by loosing and gaining weight (vise versa) really quickly.
Pregnany women almost always 99% of the time get stretch marks.
There are certain creams that you can get to help them fade a little bit faster.
Hope I helped :)
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i know what sperm is but what does this mean..ejaculates? (link)
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Sperm is what comes out of the penis when a guy ejaculates. When a guy ejaculates, he has an orgasm.
Hope that sums it up for you :)
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So I'm a bi guy and I like this one guy, is straight, but he just might be curious. He is so HOT but I can't tell if he likes me or not. So I heard from a really good friend and source (Luis) that told me that the guy I like (Stefano) his best friend was curious about being gay the first semester of school, and now, this semester (the second semester of school) Stefano's best friend (Dave)got Stefano to be curious about being bi this semester. Luis also told me that Stefano and Dave have been expirementing with each other and that they are doing it with each other. At first I was in denial and I didn't want to believe it but I realized that Stefano and Dave cry (like actually cry with tears) for each other and that when ever one of them spends the night at the other's house, the next morning the are both sore from their butts. So I'm not sure if they are curious and expirementing with each other or not, but I really like Stefano and I don't know what to do about it. Can anyone give me advice? Please? (link)
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Hang on a min... these two might not just be experimenting with eachother, they might actually have feelings for each other.
Especially if you know that there is sexual activity going on between them.
If you are absolutely certain that there are no feelings between these two guys then I would make a move, don't come on too strong. Just let the guy know you think he's hot!
If, however your not sure about their real feelings for eachother then i'd stay low for a while! Perhaps you could still become friends for the time being and flirt a bit but also take into consideration that this other guy might have feelings for the guy you like too.
You don't really want anyone to get hurt here. Try to sus out the situation before you make any decisions.
Hope I helped :)
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I'm 19, 5'8, and I weigh close to 180 pounds. I used to weigh around 200, so I've lost quite a bit. But I also used to weigh 150-- I had an eating disorder. I'm like up and down with weight and I hate it. How do I stay at a healthy weight, once and for all? Help! (link)
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First of all you have to stop making yourself think that you are bigger then what you really are.
Second, a half an hour of exercise a day (even if its just a walk) does absolute wonders.
Third, instead of eating chocoloate and lollies, have a piece of fruit.
Cut out the fats and replace them with yummy fresh fruit. Instead of having chips with your dinner, have veggies.
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Hello everyone:
I was recently told by a girl who I really do not like that most every girl before the age of like 18-20 has had sex. Now I know that it really isn't true and that there's girls out there who are still virgins. I'm a virgin myself and am 22. Do you think that this statement is true that almost any girl good or bad has had sex before marriage? Why or why not?
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Its everyone's individual choice as to when they have sex. Some believe sex before marraige is disgraceful while others don't believe in that.
It doesn't make them a bad person, it just shows that it was the right time for them and they felt comfortable in the sitation they were in.
I had sex at the age of 17 for the first time, with my boyfriend, who 3 years later we are still so much in love with each other. That doesn't make me a bad person.
I personally think that when a girl feels that she is ready to have sex, she should have sex. What's the point in waiting? It's eventually going to happen and it may as well happen when your ready!!
It's only something you can control!!
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well, i haven't had this problem for a while but now i'm getting worried. the last time i had sex was... about a few weeks ago. and my boyfriend said that the condom didn't break or leak, because if it did... he would've told me. I have a safe boyfriend so i trust him. My period has been coming on randomly, like in january i had it on the 6th, february on the 7th, march on the 11th, and april on the 12th. Today's the 13th of June, but i'm still kind of worried... is it just coming a bit late or randomly or am i pregnant? (link)
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It sounds to me that it is coming quiet regularly because it's coming within a few days of each other every month.
Stress causes your period to be late so therefore the more stressed out you are about thinking your pregnant can cause it to be late.
If you think for some reason you've had an incident during sex where something went wrong with the condom or something, take a pregnancy test.
Other wise just try to relax and it should be there very shortly.
Another thing to make sure your period is regular is to go on birth control. It also helps with the prevention of pregnancy but remember it doesn't help you with the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases so you still need to be careful.
Hope I helped :)
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Ok so Im a 18/f
umm well I like this guy hes 22 and he seems to like me back. we have a lot in common, we go to the same church and for me thats a big plus.
the thing is that well sometimes i get the impression that he really likes me and this kinda worries me sometimes because of the age gap.im afraid that hed either play me because im younger or want a super serious relationship because of his age. i really dont know what i would do if he ask me out. my friends tell me that guys his age already think of marriage and Im definitely not ready for that but I do have feelings for this guy but I dont know what I should do
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If you have feelings for this guy and he asks you out then by all means honey go for it :)
Just take the relationship easy and take things slow. If he wont respect you and do things when your ready then he's not worth it.
Don't judge him if you don't know him very well. Give him the benefit of the doubt and have fun.
I personally think your friends are wrong. It's very rarely these days that a 22yr old guy is willing to commit majorly and get married. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he's 21 and we've got a long way to go yet.
Although every girl has their dreams :)
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