when im around guys, I all of a sudden get really hot and start sweating and that also makes my face all red, and its embarrassing...anyway to fix this even a bit??
Thanks:)
I know this is going to sound like a load of crap and I know if it seems like it would never work but hear me out please...
Really, you have to hang with guys more often. Best to start with guys you aren't attracted to or ones you know very well and feel comfortable around. Cause your mental tolerance of being around guys is at the moment low, and you need to build up that tolerance by exposing yourself to more guys. And the more often your around them, the less your body and mind is going to react in the way you described.
And being nervous is ok and totally normal. There is nothing wrong being nervous and its ok if it shows, but if you really feel uncomfortable, say you have to go to the bathroom or something and take a breather. And the sooner you start doing this, the sooner you'll gain better tolerance at being around guys. Just be sure to also hang with girls as well...
[view]
okayy so my ipod is the new ipod nano
so i'll stick it in to charge and it'll be fine and everything
but one day i stuck it in and something weird happened
like it synced all the songs on itunes into my ipod
and now i can't delete any of them
like you kow when something on the comp is the thing light grey color that means you can't click on it
when i add a new song to i tunes then it'll automatically sync that song
that's what it's doing
and it's really weird like when i plug it in sometime it'll sometimes say you ipod os having some problems you may need to diconncet then reconnect
and then sometimes it'll say you need to restore it
and i'll click okay
and it won't restore
if it helps
on the summary page where it says
options
it has open itunes automatically and sync only checked songs and videos checked
and i tried to uncheck that and click on manually manage music and press apply
but it does'nt work
Check the manual on how to restore your ipod, you may need to set up your settings to find automatic updates
If you have anymore problems, check Itunes.com for information. If you can't find anything on site, contact them via email or phone.
If you seriously have to, try fixing or replacing your ipod. You might have hardware disfunctions...
[view]
Okay this dude flipping got my number (i dont know how!) and he thinks i like him but i DONT!!!! He is really making me mad and said "you know you want me and im gonna pimp you next"...What does pimp mean?? this guy rides my bus and he touches me on the shoulder and my hair and i tell him to stop but he is just in my face even more!! How do i get this freaking wacko job to stop!? Thanks
That is disturbing. Seems like ignoring him would just make him feel full of himself so that's not an option...
Telling him to stop won't work...
Which means its best not to be alone at this, what you need is friends with you at the time. And by "friends" I mean those that will support you and help you get rid of this guy and discourage him from doing things to you. Keep his number and give it to your friends, when that's all done and said, you can contact your friends to tell them he's bothering you and get help into getting him off your back. After awhile, you'll want to probably ask your service provider(cell phone company) on how to block phone numbers.
Don't use violence unless you have to. Try to find a Judo class or martial arts class incase something(use your imagination) does happen. If you can, avoid taking the bus. If you can't try sitting where he can't. If you can't even do that, get some pepper spray and give him a warning, again, don't use it unless you have to, cause I know you'll want to really badly. If that doesn't help, use the buddy system. Continues, find a couple of guy friends. Its best to discourage him as much as possible.
BTW, "pimp you" might imply having sex
[view]
I dont know if this is really your "style" but i need a boy's point of view...You see this guy that i like (a senior 18) was really flirting with me on friday. But about four weeks ago i overheard him tell somebody he was in a relationship. But i was excited because he was flirting with me you know, and then i started thinking about the girlfriend thing, and i asked someone on here and they said that he sounded like a player, and since he was a senior and i was just a freshman, he just wanted me for sex. But he just dont seem like that kind of person, and now i am worried. And i just don't know what to do right now, i am excited that he likes me but the reply to my question has me worried all at the same time. I dont think it makes him a player or wanting me for sex, but what do you think? thanks
From wha I've heard(HEARD), older or higher grade guys tend to do this a lot. Cause they believe Freshman Girls are easy targets to have sex with, if you know what I mean... But best to be sure is to (1) think do you really want a relationship with a guys whose going to graduate when the years over and he's off to college(I won't answer that, you'll need to figure that one on your own) and (2) look for signs of such things.
Signs like, flirting with other girls, hangs with other guys who have the same kind of rumors, constantly looks at othrer girls, etc. Best thing to do is to observe and keep doing what your doing. The thing is, they'll try and hide it and do it quite well. But if you look hard enough, you'll definitely be able to tell.
If(if) he asks you out, the choice is yours. Deny it, and if he is a player, he'll immediately move on to another girl(asshole) or he'll keep trying to flirt with you and stuff, or continue to try to get in your pants.
Accept and many things could happen. But from they way you ask, your worried about giving into sex and having him leave. Best thing to do is just say no. He'll either go "ok" and wait. Or he'll be overeactive and try to get you into sympathize into doing it. Again, best to say no, don't experiment, don't fall for all the tricks of the seducer. Cause if you do, the consequences can be greater than they seem.
[view]
I know that determine you IQ you must take an IQ test, I get that part. A lot of people like telling me their IQs and I feel pretty dumb because I don't know mine, nor have I ever taken a test.
Is there any type of free online IQ test I can take? I've tried googling them but I haven't found what I'm looking for. Also, do these tests tell you what they average IQ is. Or, you know, what's good/bad/awesome/average, etc.? If not, how do you know?
I feel pretty lame asking this because I should be old enough to know all of this (17/f), but I don't. Anything is helpful.
To tell you the truth, an IQ test isn't the best thing to take. It usually has generalized questions that poeple believe other people should already know by common and general knowledge taught in schools. When, in fact, everyones mind thinks in its own unique way. Usually there is a subject that someones mind will overall perfect while in another it shuts down completely. So, in other words, its most likely better to check out test sites that test you in SPECIFIC subjects. Because trust me, even a person with a extremely high IQ can struggle in certain areas in which the brain can't seem to comprehend when its actually so simple.
[view]
Okay pretty normal story I guess I like this guy we go to school together well we go to the same school. I don't have any classes with him but some of the people he talks to are in some of my classes (so I guess they hang out or something) every once in a while he will like stare at me and when ever I see him in the hallway he will look at me then start talking to the closest person near him I don't know how I should talk to him I am pretty much the shyest person ever I have no clue how to ralk to anybody so what should I do???
Your problem isn't uncommon, its actually the most common. so what you want to do, is start out small and slowly build up. Begin with notes and stuff to lockers or via friend. Usually that will get communication going. If all goes well, two things will happen. Number/email exchange or meeting place to talk. If number/email exchange happens, it'll most likely be the same as note sending, just much faster. Now when you reach a place to meet and talk, that's when you'll most likely want to back out. Cause talking via text/note/email is easy, talking face to face is hard.
So when you meet the guy and he says "Hi" in some form or matter, don't faint on him. I've got to admit, being nervous is normal and a good thing. It usually doesn't allow you to hide anything that you feel you should hide. It shows your you. And when you talk, don't prepare what you want to say, cause the topic can change in seconds and you'll spend too much time on what to say instead of saying it. So just go with what's on your mind at that moment. If you feel uncomfortable about saying anything, say your uncomfortable or don't want to talk about it. Be yourself and express yourself your way.
And shyness takes gradual increase in expanding your comfort zone or even leaving it for a time. Take it all slow and small and work your way up. b(^_o)
[view]
Normally, I always know what to do when it comes to boys. After a nasty break up and a long term relationship its been hard for me. I really like this boy, Ben. He's the popular guy at school that everyone loves, but I'm just average. He's nice to me, he thinks I'm pretty, and he flirts. But I don't know how to tell if I'm different to him then all of the other girls at school. I've liked him for a while now, but I have no idea if I should tell him or what I should do.
If you want to know if he thinks your different from all the other girls, you should observe how he acts around other girls. I know it sounds kinda stalker...ish. But that's where you come in. DON'T MAKE IT SEEM LIKE YOUR STALKING HIM. Best thing to do is to hang with him and act normally from there while watching him. Can't do that? No problem. If you sit in class from behind him(area where he won't notice as easily that your looking at him) is a good way to watch his reactions with other girls. If you happen to be in a coversation circle and you spot him, position yourself in the circle where you can pay attention to the conversation and watch him... any other option you can think of would help you too...
Obviously you see him "flirting" with you, but from what I've seen, heard and read, flirting has different definitions. So look for signs of him doing other things like smiling all the time when your around or stares at you for a long time or constantly. Change something about your appearance, something that isn't obvious but isn't totally hidden out from sight, and see if he notices or gives you compliment. Just try not to force him to do it or over do anything. Cause then you won't get the correct results you want in the end...
BTW be yourself and only yourself
[view]
16/F
8th grade :[
I dropped out of school last January, and i started homeschooling because i was failing all my classes in public school. Ever since i've started homeschooling, i never want to do it. and alot of the times i don't. I really need to get motivated, but i think i need help from somebod. Problem is i don't know who. My parents work all the time so they are out of the question. any advice on how to get motivated because this can effect my future. I'll be 17 in the 9th grade and i feel so embarrised.
You shouldn't be embarrassed about your age when you get into high school. You won't really be any different from anyone else.
And I know how hard it is to be motivated to do things in public schools. I suffer from some intense procrastination problems. But to make sure I get things done, I try to do them IN school. That way I have less distractions such as TV or computer time. Extra curricular activities also help get you to do things because most require a certain grade level or something else.
Also, getting smart friends and friends who will always support you are the best frinds to look for. Fun friends are great and all for weekends and breaks, but in school, its better to get serious ones who care for you and your future.
Motivation is hard, but all you need to do is slowly get yourself going and making friends with those who will also help you on your way to success
[view]
ok my ex-girl freind is doing my freekin nut in, she still loves me but its been 2 years since we went out, now i am VERY tolerant i listend to her for the past 2 years of her tellin me she still loves me and i keep telling her my reasons (it ended badly and i dont wonna go back to what was once an unloving bullshit relationship) but tonight it grinded my gears, for today is valentines days. i walk around listning to popele go on aout what theyre gonna do with theyre bf tonight (im the only boy in a class of girls about 12 of them and me) the perfect day for my headphones to break ,haha, anyways. so tonight shes all like omg ime so depressed and u dont love me blah blah and saying all this stupid immature stuff like if yu dont want me im obvioulsy too ugly for you, the list goes on and i just wanted to ask you guys... i can understand why she's sad that today val's day an all but why is it she only thinks about her self??? every day its me me me and never oh you poor thing never mind ime not too great either. so i got all mad and had a go sayin its jnot just you ya know i got problms too, then i kept telling her i dont wonna know what shes gotta say so she keeps on typing blah blah this is why your such an arse an stuff like that. but yeh am going on now, has any one else been in this situation because ime normally good at figuring problems in eachothers views but im all uppity to really care and i doubt it will were off quick.
I've sorta been in the same situation, but not as dramatic as this. Me and my ex broke up because I couldnt explain myself(don't ask please) and she kept everything about her past away from me(which is not the best thing to do in a relationship). And after we broke up, she claimed she still loved me and wanted me to know on a MySpace message. But after that, nothing happened. So...
Anyways, enough about my problems, lets deal with yours. She's obviously desperate for you, which means she won't get a clue anytime soon. There are two things you could do and only one I recommend. You could either tell her straight up in any manner you can, or ignore her and let her figure it out her own.
If you choose the second one, you'll still have to endure a lot of complaining. By choosing this path, you'll have to try to pull yourself out of her life and make her figure it out on her own which may take longer than you want.
I recommend the first. That way, you can not only let off some steam and get out your thoughts or the fact you can do it any way the world offers! But also, she will soon get it faster than leaving it as is. And if you choose to tell, tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Don't tell her "yea you ugly and I never liked you!" you never want to do that, it'll just lead to more conflicts and complaining. Tell her you tired of her complaining, your tired of hearing it like it was your(you) fault, to get over herself and move on with life. Or atleast something close to those from what I catch from your question. And also be sure not to sugar coat too much or over exagerate. The closer it is to being clear and straight to her, the better off you both are...
[view]
hi, okay well my problem is about confidence. now everyone tells me without confidence, youre nothing. so i try to convince myself 24/7 to just be confident and comfortable. my main problem- no one ever asks me to be their girlfriend. ive basically never had a boyfriend before. now all of my friends tell me im so pretty, and i guess you could say i fit in with mostly everyone, and im pretty populaur. but if im so pretty, that why doesnt any guys ask me out? i mean everyday at school, atleast one person A DAY that comes up to me, says im so pretty. my bestfriend always gets guys asking her out, so being around everyone who always gets asked out, right infront of my face, kills me. it really sucks to feel like somethings wrong with myself. but my bestfriend also acts a little slutty. now dont think shes a slut, because shes not, shes just a "flirty person." so i thought that maybe if i was a little bit more flirty too, guys would consider me. well that hasnt worked, and now im just starting to realize thats not the kind of person i want to be. so im myself, and thats that. but i just dont get why there are no guys who ever like me.
i dont know what more to say.
please help,
thanks for reading.
One thing to know is that most guys go for the easy girls. Not saying you should be easy, I'm saying they go for the mot naive. Others tend to have really high standards. And others just aren't interested.
Point being, just wait for "Mr. Right" I know its painful to watch others get a guy in minutes(exageration) because I have to see my friends get girls all the time and have to deal with the crap they spew out about their GF and then later they break up. One of my friends constantly complains he "needs" a GF. So don't think your alone.
So just be yourself and he'll come around, the right guy I mean. You don't want to be like everyone else who dates, breaks up, and goes for the next target. They are the people who won't ever know what makes a good relationship work. And you don't have to be confident all the time, sometimes a little hesitation and nervousness is good. But being as confident as possible is even better.
[view]
on my poster for D.A.R.E i need to put things that drinking alcohol can cause. I have death, arrested, bad grades,no job/ money, and car crashes. anything else i can add?
*thanx*
violence
Financial issues
addiction
loss of relationships
records of alcoholic events
anxiety
stress
loss of control in brain function such as choices or judgment
domestic violence
unwanted pregnancies
unexplained injuries
constant tiredness
etc...
List could prolly go on
[view]
Whenever I go to the mall with me and my friend (hes gay), he always gets hit on and talked to... even by girls... and I'm a girl, and I don't get why no guys ever hit on me? And no girls talk to me either?
What is it about someone that makes you talk to them? :( I'd say we're both the same in looks and we're both approachable...I don't get it.
Simple answer... Hes gay.
Im slightly kidding, guys and girls perspectives on the other sex(gender) can be quite different on not only the sex(gender) but also just the person in general.Girls just might seem to find a good vibe from him and approach him. You might be slightly jealous from the attention he gets and are beginning to get pessimistic thoughts about yourself. (no offense)
The point is you really shouldnt be bothered by this. He might just have a better reputation than you, or maybe a better vibe. Really could be anything! Ask him what he does that attracts the attention. Then hell either give a straight answer, arrogant answer, or simply doesnt know how. How you react is up to you.
If he doesnt know though, just watch him and see what he does, it could just be a natural affinity of his.
[view]
15/f
ok so i can be really outgoing but only when i'm around certain people. mostly when i'm with my best friend or a group of people or sister. but when i'm with my boyfriend i get so quiet/shy and i can never think of anything to talk about. i think he's kinda shy around me too because he doesn't really say much either but it makes me feeeel sooo awkward and stupid. i don't really want to tell him that but if it come to it i will. how can i open up more to him and think of what to talk about?
i think the reason is we've been dating 4 months almost and i dated him the day after i met him. i know that was dumb and i normally NEVER do that, like he's my first real boyfriend and he's awesome. any advice on that would be great!
also is it fake to act different around other people? i'm just really self concious around some people and quiet so my real personality doesn't show. i'm only loud and outgoing to people i've known for a long time,,is that like fake? i don't mean to be.
again thanks for any advice! :D
First of all, its not fake to act differently around certain people, as long as its for the right reasons. Most people tend to do it to hide some dark , disturbing secret. But if its just an involuntary complex, then its pretty much normal.
Best way to get a convo started to to simply ask, "how are you?" or "How was your day?". Most of the time, the other will start talking and give a good enough answer that you can relate to, and continue in an in depth conversation. If that doesnt work, get a prop. And by prop I mean, like a present or something. Go to some place social, like a fast food place or Starbucks(X3). You want to create a social environment, which can be hard at time. Sometimes, friends can be a great help in figuring out what to say. They start the conversation and you listen and figure out what to say to relate.
And take your time at this, it takes practice getting over shyness. And even more to build up Charismatic skillz to get someone to talk.
Hope this helps. b(^_o)
[view]
Hey.
I think im seriously mentally disturbed.I get very happy,jumpy and talkative.But then I suddenly get depressed for no reason.When I get depressed I kinda run out of energy and come off as kinda boring.Its hella crazy!Also my logic is a bit twisted.I think being racist or homophobic is wrong..but I dont think killing innocent people is wrong...I mean,I was tellin my mum about how I think selective breeding would be good for humans [to b perfect].And she looked at me like I was nuts!Maybe I am crazy...Anyways.My question is:Am I legally psycho or just have different ideas about life?
Psh, please, you arent Psycho. Not only do you have different ideas about life in general, but you also just tend to find a loss of interest of things quite quickly. Not that your emo or totally apathetic(emotionless), but simply once the events over, nothing seems to impress you till another event occurs that once again catches your interest. If I could think of a mental illness that describes what Im telling you, it would be some sane form of autism(thinking differently than normal people). Its all just a sub-conscious thing.
But if it seriously bothers you, see a psychologist or therapist or some doctor, cause I am not professionally authorized to give mental help XD
[view]
I desperately need a way to get things out of my mind. I replay bad memories or moments in my head millions of times a day, I obsess over boys/friends, I can't handle being yelled at, I strive for order, and I get overly stressed all too often.
I have good grades, play sports, and eat healthy. Still I can't help but feel like everything is always going crazy in my head.
What can I do to get my emotions and this stress under control. I can never let go of grudges or let anything just 'roll off my back' Any ideas?
Do(try) not worry about whats going on. Its normal for your brain to go on emotional overload. From what I read, your kinda like me, you replay the bad memories wishing you could change them, learning choices you could have taken after its already over. To cope with that, I let my mind drift off. Whether it takes the path to happier thoughts or continue to show that possibilities I could have chosen is upon my mind alone. Writing out things in a private journal or blog tends to help too. Ill admit, therapy is a good choice, but I know too many who say it doesnt help much.
Your strive to order may also lead to your emotional overload because, no offense, but life is never in order. Your constantly surrounded by chaos and you dont have complete control over everything that happens, so you stress out when things lose out of your focus. Next best thing is learn to work with the chaos. Find the flow its going and take that flow and curve it to your whim.
Good grades, sports, and healthy habits are all great factors that should be practiced. But its not all that good if your stress management skills arent up to speed. Use that strive for perfection(order) to pressure yourself into working harder, grades and sport. It adverts the stress you experience to stress your releasing to improve.
Another thing to take in is to take all this slowly and gradually. Dont shove it all at once. Thatll cause more stress. Slow and gradual. Slowly push yourself to do better and gradually improve. You have to learn how to deal with stress your own way that seems effective to you. I cant really tell you whats best, its all a matter of what option you take and feel is the best way to deal.
[view]
you can have me but not hold me
i am easily betrayed but when u have me its good i can be broken.
What am i
Trust
a friend of mine left me that, what exactly does it meann??
Like anyone would say, its a riddle. Trust these days is a hard thing to achieve for most people. And keeping it up together is like making a bridge with just toothpicks alone for supports. And losing it is worse, once it starts it all soon fall apart unless you try to rebuild it.
Just because I happen to have it on my mind, your friend might have sent it to you because he or she does not believe you trust them or someone else enough. Or maybe just to give you a simple riddle. What you do with it is your prerogative.
[view]
is it true that you have to wear your retainers 24/7? even when u sleep and eat? cause the people i know that get their braces off never wear their retainer even though they have one but then agian i only see em skool so they could be wearin em at night.
Usually your Orthodontist will tell you, but your suppose to wear it as often as possible. 24/7 is stretching it. You cant really eat with them and wearing them at night tends to be the next best thing. People just dont like to wear them in the day because it looks weird and you tend to speak with a lisp. So no one wants that kind of embarrassment. But its their choice on their method.
[view]
Hi!
I recently became friends with somebody really awesome.I knew him last year but he intimidated me alot.I never talked to him because I was a bit afraid.He changed in the past year.Hes nicer and we talk on myspace alot.But I cant seem to talk to him at school, I get really shy!But I feel its a bit silly to not talk to a friend you see almost everyday...The question is...how do I ease up and talk to him? [Also I might add that I have a tiny crush on him]
Grrrr...
This is a toughy. BUT I WILL GIVE YOU THE BEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE!!!!
Ok, there are two types of shy that I know of, by-yourself-shy and in-public-shy. By-yourself-shy is your basic nervousness when you get close to the person in a private area. In-public-shy is when your nervous to be seen around in front of many people. If you are either of these, participate in the opposite event. Private shy, go public WITH friends, they are important(trust me). If Public Shy, try setting up a place to meet and hang out.
Now if your both, we got something serious to start working out. Shyness is something everyone has to figure out on their own. Why? Because everyone has a completely different event needed to trigger the loss of shyness at different times in their life. I personally dont know(or remember) what my trigger was but after it happened, Ive made many new friends.
But back to you, best thing to do is to plan out some time you could hang with him(whether with him or to yourself(but that might make you feel like a stalker(but thats just my thoughts))) and learn to get over your shyness gradually. Dont do it all at once or it might come back to bite you. Slowly and gradually is almost always the best choice.
[view]
Bascially my friend is rele nice. But she gets what she wants alot of the time-spoiled. She gets away with alot of BS. She curses at her parents often, even when her friends are around. And I know she is jealous because I have invited my friend over who is one of her best friends, but not her b/c she acts like a jerk alot of the time. But I mean she is fun to hang around with. She is bossy. And recently my best friend told me that she called me a bitch behind my back and meant it. I like her and all, but shes always been like this and it's getting worse. I am 14 by the way and so are my friends. Gurls-USA
Like most would say, ignoring her would be the best option. Don't try to over power her, don't start anything about her, just don't. Of course, there is a possibility your friend made that up because she doesn't like her(the friend not liking the bossy friend). But your likely to say, "No! SHe wouldn't do that! Shes awesome..." so don't even think about that. Just ignore it, and if its true, talk to her about it. If its not, don't think or worry about anything.
And BTW most people tend to be like that these days. So its actually a very common thing. Especially the "bitch-behind-the-back" story. Its all just to try and piss you off. Whether it works or not is upon your tolerance level. And everyones level is different. So if your tolerance to that sorta thing is low, then you need to learn to build it up. If your tolerance is already pretty high up, just do what you do.
[view]
I am not Christian, but an answer from Christians or non-christians will work. Why is it that many things in the bible tell you to do and believe things that in America are illegal and also seem VERY immoral and hateful. I thought we were supposed to love our neighbor as ourself? For instance; deuteronomy 21:18-21; it is saying basically to kill teen girls for no reason; and Exodus 35:2; it is saying that if you work on sabbath or sunday then you should be killed; also deuteronomy 22:13-21; it says that girls that are not virgins when they marry are to be killed, what about rape? and plus, just because someone makes a mistake they should be killed? I am so confused. I was once Christian but not anymore...
Thanks for your advice, if you can answer these...
Ask and you shall receive.
You cant base experiences off of the Old Testament. Most of those rules actually worked at the time as a way to scare people into submission. In addition, Deuteronomy is at the beginning of the Bible. So the rules and laws were extremely old and aren't used in our time(except in third world countries). In that time, every punishment was death simply because everyone fears it. Thus, control over the people.
If you really want to see the good of the Bible, you have to read the New Testament. Jesus teachings are the base of the Christian faith. Reading the Old Testament is simply a way to show us how powerful and amazing our God is as well as the origin of our Faith. The New Testament is to show how we should lead our lives from the time of Christ on. The parables are the best things to read, because they tend to help a lot in such situation. If you do continue to read the Old Testament, don't look find the things that are negative, search for the good that the Bible truly shows. Seek and you will find, my friend.
Knock and the door will be opened for you.
[view]
|
