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I'm at a loss.
Normally, I always know what to do when it comes to boys. After a nasty break up and a long term relationship its been hard for me. I really like this boy, Ben. He's the popular guy at school that everyone loves, but I'm just average. He's nice to me, he thinks I'm pretty, and he flirts. But I don't know how to tell if I'm different to him then all of the other girls at school. I've liked him for a while now, but I have no idea if I should tell him or what I should do.
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If you want to know if he thinks your different from all the other girls, you should observe how he acts around other girls. I know it sounds kinda stalker...ish. But that's where you come in. DON'T MAKE IT SEEM LIKE YOUR STALKING HIM. Best thing to do is to hang with him and act normally from there while watching him. Can't do that? No problem. If you sit in class from behind him(area where he won't notice as easily that your looking at him) is a good way to watch his reactions with other girls. If you happen to be in a coversation circle and you spot him, position yourself in the circle where you can pay attention to the conversation and watch him... any other option you can think of would help you too...
Obviously you see him "flirting" with you, but from what I've seen, heard and read, flirting has different definitions. So look for signs of him doing other things like smiling all the time when your around or stares at you for a long time or constantly. Change something about your appearance, something that isn't obvious but isn't totally hidden out from sight, and see if he notices or gives you compliment. Just try not to force him to do it or over do anything. Cause then you won't get the correct results you want in the end...
BTW be yourself and only yourself
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Oh trust me, I have been here. Many times. Ben sounds like a lovely guy and the fact that he flirts means he has noticed you. How does he act around other girls? Does he flirt with them too? I think you should at first try and become better friends with Ben. Find out what he's interested in, show him how cool you can really be. Inviting him out with friends as well is a good idea just to the cinema or out to town or something.
Once you've got to know him a bit better, see how he acts now, if you see something happening between you two in the future then go for it. Tell him. And if he doesn't return your feelings, then he clearly is not worth it and doesnt deserve you.
Good luck!
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