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sort of love but not exaclty caring about her (i explain bet
ok my ex-girl freind is doing my freekin nut in, she still loves me but its been 2 years since we went out, now i am VERY tolerant i listend to her for the past 2 years of her tellin me she still loves me and i keep telling her my reasons (it ended badly and i dont wonna go back to what was once an unloving bullshit relationship) but tonight it grinded my gears, for today is valentines days. i walk around listning to popele go on aout what theyre gonna do with theyre bf tonight (im the only boy in a class of girls about 12 of them and me) the perfect day for my headphones to break ,haha, anyways. so tonight shes all like omg ime so depressed and u dont love me blah blah and saying all this stupid immature stuff like if yu dont want me im obvioulsy too ugly for you, the list goes on and i just wanted to ask you guys... i can understand why she's sad that today val's day an all but why is it she only thinks about her self??? every day its me me me and never oh you poor thing never mind ime not too great either. so i got all mad and had a go sayin its jnot just you ya know i got problms too, then i kept telling her i dont wonna know what shes gotta say so she keeps on typing blah blah this is why your such an arse an stuff like that. but yeh am going on now, has any one else been in this situation because ime normally good at figuring problems in eachothers views but im all uppity to really care and i doubt it will were off quick.
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I've sorta been in the same situation, but not as dramatic as this. Me and my ex broke up because I couldnt explain myself(don't ask please) and she kept everything about her past away from me(which is not the best thing to do in a relationship). And after we broke up, she claimed she still loved me and wanted me to know on a MySpace message. But after that, nothing happened. So...
Anyways, enough about my problems, lets deal with yours. She's obviously desperate for you, which means she won't get a clue anytime soon. There are two things you could do and only one I recommend. You could either tell her straight up in any manner you can, or ignore her and let her figure it out her own.
If you choose the second one, you'll still have to endure a lot of complaining. By choosing this path, you'll have to try to pull yourself out of her life and make her figure it out on her own which may take longer than you want.
I recommend the first. That way, you can not only let off some steam and get out your thoughts or the fact you can do it any way the world offers! But also, she will soon get it faster than leaving it as is. And if you choose to tell, tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Don't tell her "yea you ugly and I never liked you!" you never want to do that, it'll just lead to more conflicts and complaining. Tell her you tired of her complaining, your tired of hearing it like it was your(you) fault, to get over herself and move on with life. Or atleast something close to those from what I catch from your question. And also be sure not to sugar coat too much or over exagerate. The closer it is to being clear and straight to her, the better off you both are...
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Sounds to me as if she's looking for a guy to "fix" her and you are wanting some attention yourself but can't get it. Both of you aren't any good for each other. Sounds to me like the only reason you guys have tried to make it work/stay together/in contact is because it's convenient. She knows she can call you and no matter how upset you get, you'll listen. I've had a relationship or two like that. I tried to play the "sensitive" guy type but it never worked. I had to realize I was just a pawn in her emotional roller coaster and had to get off that one crrrrazy ride. It didn't matter how much I told her "you are pretty, blah blah blah" she didn't believe me. I kept thinking, "ok, maybe she'll see that I do care" but it never happened and I had to move along.
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