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I am a 20 year old guy and was taking classes at a community college for two years. I have now transferred to a university. But every Friday instead of going to my university to study I instead go and study at the community college. I prefer to study there instead. I just like the atmosphere better, I like to still say hi or chat with some of the math tutors, I like to have eat lunch at the Thai place or other restaurants around it and go to the Barnes and Noble right next to the place or go for a walk around. I realize I am somewhat attached to the place. Is this bad? If it is, how do I stop feeling this way? (link)
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It isn't bad. If you are doing uni, you have enough problems without inventing more for yourself.
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Im a 13 year old girl and I took an IQ test the other day. I scored 133. Is this an average score? Im very nervous that it might be below average. (link)
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If your IQ is 133, then you would know perfectly well that 100 is average. By definition.
I think you are just here to tell people how awesomely intelligent you are.
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I think this guy that works at Starbucks is just so gorgeous, and I want to talk to him when I see him again, and I'm just so shy when it comes to guys that I think are cute.
how can I get over this, and be more confident and not so shy? (link)
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Just pretend that he's gay.
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For English we're supposed to rewrite a movie script based on a popular book and we need to recast the characters. I can't come up with someone at all for todays actors of who would play a good Peter Pan. Can anyone give me suggestions please? (link)
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Peter Pan is a pantomime, which means that Peter Pan is usually played by a girl. (Cinderella is also a pantomime, and the ugly stepsisters are usually played by men).
It's very traditional.
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I am 16. My bf is 19, we have been together for over 3 years. I love him very much, with all my heart. He has NEVER forced, pressured or even suggested we have sex, even though I've been 16 for over half a year. He always says, he is only ready when he is sure I am ready... but how will I know?
My mum is ok with it all, she really likes my bf, she says he treats me right. She has always said that when I am ready I will know, and as long as it is for love, and protected, she is ok with me having sex.
But how do I know? In my head it is like:
- I am scared (will it hurt? will I be good? what do I do? will i feel different after?)
- I am confused (we have done other stuff... I like the say it feels, i want to have sex)
- I am in love (I really do love him with all my heart)
But I seems to find excuses. Not excuses for other people, just excuses for me, in my own head. I don't want to regret it. Will I know?
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Your b/f needs to be aware that he could wind up in prison for statutory rape, depending on the laws where you are. For his sake (if not for yours), don't do it.
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Sex..... I'm 13, I'm a guy lol,I'm from USA (New York), and willing to have sex. if I ask a girl I really know well, she's sometimes horny and wants to have sex ; i think if I ask her, she will say no and she might tell her friends or say I'm a pervert and slap me. What do I do? ( if it doesn't make sense well my bad because I didn't know how to say it out ;) .) (link)
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Keep it in your pants, son. You are old enough to get a girl pregnant, and that's trouble you don't need.
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Hey guys
So i am 16 and moved to this state 3 years ago and one of my guy friends has had a crush on me ever since i moved here. I dated him once and it only lasted 3 months. I only see him as a friend and nothing more but he just cant accept that. I have had a few boyfriends since i last dated him and i am currently in a happy relationship with another guy. My problem is, my friend is ALWAYS telling me how much he likes me and how he cant get over me and stuff like that. He says that over texts although when we talk in person he just acts like a normal friend. I have told him a million times I ONLY LIKE HIM AS A FRIEND AND I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. he just doesnt get it -_-. Its been going on for 3 years and i want to keep him as my friend cuz he is fun to hang out with and nice but what do i do?? (link)
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Do you use him? Do you get attention from him when you are down? Talk about your feelings and romantic problems with him? Ask him to do little jobs for you - dive you places, buy you stuff? Is he your plan B when your b/f is to busy to take you out?
If so: knock it off.
And tell him to get onto advicenators and PM MrWombat.
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I went to the beach recently and returned home burnt pretty bad even with sunblock. So, a few days later, even though I've used lotion, my face began to peel. Now it's didn't skin tones and blotchy, and it looks hideous. Will the sun even it out, or what can I do to fix it? (link)
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Lotions won't fix sunburn. The skin is seriously injured and needs to eject the top layer. Slathering goop on the top won't fix anything, and might interfere with the process.
Avoid touching your face: hands are usually covered with germs, and your skin is vulnerable right at the moment.
Just leave it alone and give it time to heal, and be a bit more careful in future.
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What could be wrong with me, whenever i have a romance with my boyfriend and when he sucks my breast i feel some pains in the breast even after the foreplay. unless i stop for a very long time before it stops. what could be the reason? (link)
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Check for lumps (which you should be doing regularly anyway - google "breast self examination"). If no lumps, then I'm going with "dude is sucking too hard", too.
Every guy wants to be good at sex. He'll be embarrassed for a moment, then he'll get over it.
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Hi I am a 14 year old girl and I might be a bit of something you would call a hypochondriac. Almost every disorder or illness I hear about I look it up and start worrying that I have or will get it to no end.(they never came true) This past month I've been a lot lot better then I was last year. There's still a little bit of the old me still there and I want to be carefree(not completely carefree) but just to the point where I don't worry about silly things so I would like to change my perspective on life. I want to be optimistic and fearless but in order to get there I need to get past this obstacle, right? How do I do so? (link)
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Google "dealing with hypochondria OCD". You sound like a pretty mild case, and you are self-aware, which is a major thing.
I occasionally have "checking" behaviour - going back to make sure the door is locked, the stove is off. When I catch it, I tell myself "I'd rather risk the house burning down than become one of those people", and leave without looking back.
Nothing has burned down yet :)
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background: straight girl, 16 years old, sophmre in hs
Febuary of this year my best freind Lisa decided to introduce me to this girl Mia over skype. Lisa and Mia had met a concert, and Lisa thought me and Mia would get along pretty well. Side note, this wasnt for like a "hookup" dating wise, just as freinds.
Anyway, I started talking to Mia more than Lisa ever planned. Mia and I just got along very nicley, and had many simmiliarties. Only thing was, she is a sohpmore in college (age difference) and lives in a different state. Either way, i really enjoyed talking to her. Soon enough, we were telling eachother everything...including when Mia told me she was gay. this did not bother me tho, i am extremely confortable with my sexuality as a straight girl and my new knowledge of her sexuality did not affect me my view on her in any way.
But than, I started getting theese weird thoughts. It happended after a long skype girl with Mia I had had in which I was venting abotu some drama. I had a sorta "day dream" about us together. and I sort of liked it.
Theese thoughts continued on, but i just chose not to tell her. I figured why mess things up, and also I decided it was only natural to have a few day dreams here and there for someone if you care about ..and anyway, what if we never met? There would be no point to tell her I liked her if we would only keep it through the interent/ texting. So i just didnt
But last night, i messed up. and told her that i had a dream about us holding hands...and that that night, I had feelings for her.
Now, we are talking about "us" as an item, and she seems intrestsed. But i dont no. first off, i am confused myself at this. I can say that i really like her, but how do i fully know without meeting her? it also doesnt help that she is a girl, and before this, i would have never found myself interested in the same sex.
So.
what do I do?
Mia wants a relationship. She says i have to be optimistic.
But..
I dont no. I can't tell if i don't want one because I think long ditance things never work( what i keep telling myself)
or because i am in denial of liking the same sex
please help!
ps...if u need any more details..please include them in your answer, and i will reply back.
Thanks !
Gray (link)
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You are 16? Lesbian sex is still sex, and if Mia is over the 18yo mark, she could wind up facing a statutory rape charge. "Child molester" is a bad thing for a college sophmore to have on their record.
If you like her, then *for her sake* don't do this. If you still like her in two years, whatever.
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16 and already giving up. thats sad. the best years of someones life is right after school when you go start your own life as far from your old one as possible. then it all goes down hill in mid twenties and thirties. (link)
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The best years of your life is not right after school. Particularly if you are a guy. For a guy, the best years of your life are your 30's. 40's can be pretty good, too.
Stay away from getting tangled up with sex/women/relationships. Make money. Save - for God's sake - save some money. Find a job that you can live on. Avoid debt.
Ask google for "advice for young men". Visit mgtowforums.
(and for the love of God, don't get anyone pregnant)
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About two nights ago I went over to my friend micheals house, we ended up having sex. We didn't use protection but I am on the pill I have been on it for about 7 days now. Michael and I have had sex before, and the last time I ended up telling my mom the day after and the next day she took me to the doctor and got me tested for STD'S and put me on birth control my results came back clean, that was about 2 months ago. Ever since having sex with him again, I have realized that I have gotten red bumps on my leg I don't know if they have anything to do with what I did with him or if they're flea bites because I have also been dog sitting. I don't have any bumps on my vagina yet they're only at the bottom of my legs and they appeared the very next day after inter course, I put Neosporin on them yesterday but they haven't gone away they have only gotten worse, and more have appeared over night. I have also noticed that when I went to the bathroom this morning I had a dark brown discharge, I googled what that could be and the results varied from STDS, to signs of pregnancy, to just being blood mixed with the discharge. I didn't get a clear answer. The night Michael and I had sex was the night after I got off my period. I was thinking about going to the pharmacy and buying the morning after pill (which is what I did last time) but I figured the birth control was enough, but now after seeing the brown discharge I am having my second doubts.
What do you think the red bumps are from? do you think the brown discharge could be a sign of pregnancy? Could the red bumps on my leg be scabies? What do I do? do I have a bigger chance of getting pregnant since I had sex the day after I got off my period or do I have less of a chabce. I don't want to tell my mom about this again because last time she flipped out and I told her that what happened between Michael and I would never happen again, but it did and now i'm fearing every possible thing that could go wrong is going to go wrong. am I over thinking this or should I tell my mom and take yet another trip to the doctor. Also, I know nothing about Michael's past with girls, I have no idea how many he's been with or who he's been with, but he has been my first everything.. HELP! (link)
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Bumps at the *bottom* of your leg? Like, your ankles? Not likely to be sex - unless you were doing it wrong.
Oh - hang on. They are getting worse. Right. When you have something weird happen *that is getting worse*, you see a doctor about it. That's just the crazy world I live in.
It's ok to tell your mom, b/c bumps on your ankles, yeah, probably from the dogs. If it's an STD …
Sex after your period finished. Bad idea - you know sperm can survive for days?
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God, what a train wreck. Look, you silly, silly girl. The reason your mom flipped out is *BECAUSE OF THIS*. She knows what kind of guy Michael is, even if you don't. How bad are you going to let these bumps and discharges and god know what else get? Chlamydia causes permanent infertility, along with a bunch of other stuff you don't need. You cannot hide this forever, and the longer you leave it, the worse it will be.
PS: get rid of the idea that something just kinda "happened" between you and Michael. Like you had nothing to do with it. You had sex with him, it didn't just "happen". You are old enough, now, that you can badly screw up the entire rest of your life doing dumb things. You may already have done it. Tell your mom. See a doctor.
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My sister and her boyfriend got in a car accident back in November, he had a bunch of broken bones so they prescribed him perkaset (don't know how it's spelt) I believe he complained about how they weren't strong enough and called them "perk 5's" and a few times he had "perk 10s" instead of just taking the pill he crushed them and smoked them in aluminum foil I believe (the kind you use in the kitchen to cover food) he said it made them stronger or something idk. Anyways, to the point it has obviously been a long time since the wreck and he is still continuing to smoke whatever it is that he's smoking, and he's gotten my sister involved also. I'm not sure if they're smokin the same stuff or different, but I know it smells bad and still involves foil. Not that I can get much info about this with the lack of knowledge that I'm providing, but I'd like to get an idea of what this stuff is doing to them. About how much it's costing and etc. I'm assuming this is why she's always "broke" and his friend mentioned that he's had friends die because of it, and that he's told them they're addicted and need to stop and they both deny it.
Pretty much any info will help, just know this is for my personal curiosity, I can't help them or force them to stop what they're doing. Thank you for your time. (link)
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So you are telling me that your sister's b/f is smoking drugs, and now he has got her smoking drugs as well. And not just a bit of weed, either. These chemicals are hideously addictive even if you follow doctors orders, and they are smoking them to get a better hit.
They are always broke, and denying that they are addicted.
Ok. First: these guys are screwed. Absolutely boned. Sorry. This guy has killed your sister just as sure as if she was in that car accident with him. She'll go from smoking, to injecting into the muscle, to injecting into the vein. Crushed up pills.
Your sister is basically a junkie, or will be very, very soon. You need to protect yourself. They *will* begin stealing from you (and the rest of your family). They will become involved with people who also steal and live the lifestyle.
You have lost a family member to a guy that abuses drugs. You need to think about your own future.
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hi..i got my period on aprl 13th..on 19,20,21 i had sex and tuk two pils unwantd 72 and mistake pil..on 28,29 i hd sex and tuk postpone 72 pil..hd sex on 5,6th bt usd cmdm..got my period on june 8th..nw in july i havent got my date yet..wl i b pregnant or do u thnk due to pil overdose my body got afctd? (link)
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Not an answer, just a translation:
"Hi. I got my period on April 13. On April 19, 20, 21 I had sex. And took …"
"unwantd 72 and mistake pill"
Ok. First, you don't combine medications. Just because one pill is good, doesn't mean two pills is better. I just googled "72 birth control", and I see there is a "72 hour pill", so I assume that's what you meant. The "mistake pill" is probably exactly the same stuff with a different name on the packet.
Don't combine medications! Use them strictly as directed!
To continue the translation:
"I had sex on the 5th and 6th [of June?] and we used a condom. Got my period on the 8th of June."
Well, of you got your period on the 8th of june, then you are not pregnant from sex two weeks before.
"Now in July I havent got my period [on the date I expect]. Will I be pregnant, or do you think that I overdosed on the pills and my body got" [afctd? Attacked? I'll just go with "screwed up"].
If you haven't had unprotected sex since the 29th of April and got your period on 8th of June, it's pretty unlikely you are pregnant.
As for your body being afctd, maybe it's possible. It's pretty unlikely, though. If you started taking - like - one a day, that would definitely afctd you. But two? Naaah. Hopefully.
What is possible is that you might have picked up a disease. I mean, you were having sex with a person who has unprotected sex with people, you know? Plenty of diseases will screw you up a bit down there.
Everyone panics when they are a couple of days late, but no-one seems to change the life decisions that lead up to getting panicked. They just go "Whew! Got a way with it!" and go right back to having unprotected sex.
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I am a 24 year old girl who is dating a 25 year old boy for 5.5 years now.
in the last 3 years I have had mixed feelings for him. I have lost interest in our relationship and wanted to break up but I didn't have the heart to hurt him. I have thought about other guys and wanted to see what else was out there. we had breaks in the last 5 years and have suggested to break up but he didn't want to so I stayed and we made up.
we are currently on holidays and its still early into our trip and I feel Unattracted to him. I don't want to be with him but I can't tell him now whilst on holidays.
his a great guy. his nice and caring. doesn't get angry at me with me for whatever I've said and done. he puts up with me. but there are other traits I want in a partner that he doesn't have. when I am angry he doesn't ask what's wrong. he tries to pretend nothing happens. we don't talk as much as couples do. when I try to make a conversation I get short answers like "ok" or he just laughs, it feels like I'm talking to a brick wall most of the time. his not romantic or spontaneous. we joke a lot & that makes me feel that we're more like friends than couples. I know it's my fault too but I really can't see a future with him, not a happy one at least.
I don't know if I was even in love..
I don't know how to break it to him. I get emotional when I need to express it verbally.
is it too late to start over with someone new? .....
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Yeah, five years is about the limit. Seven if you have a kid. I'm sorry to say, but love ("limerence" - look it up) isn't forever. If you don't have anything else keeping you together, then its over.
Why can't you tell him while you are on holidays? There isn't going to be a good time to do it. As it stands, you are going to blurt it out sometime when you are angry, and that's no good for either of you.
"Woman up" and do it.
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I am sick and tired of being alone ; all my friends are avoiding me for no reason and even my family.When it comes to my family , my dad i did not see him for almost 9 years and this month i will travel to him and see him in USA , and my sister works 6 hours everyday,except on Friday ,i am just feeling very lonely and that kind of feeling causes a lot of sorrow to me , my annoying friends only talk to me when they want something , such sycophants ! , so i need to make new friends in USA so when i come I'll find someone to hang out with. so if anyone is interested just add me on Facebook .. my email is ahmedscater2@hotmail.com ... thanks (link)
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Get a hobby. One that involves other people, and that doesn't involve just sitting in front of a computer. There's heaps of stuff out there - google is your friend.
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i am 19 yrs old . i am a virgin . i and my boyfriend were having fun. i was wearing my panties . his pre ejaculation fluid touched my panties and i think it touched my vagina also . usually my periods are always late by a week or so . actually all this happened on may 5th and i was supposed to get my periods on may 10 th but i dint get them till now. i did home pregnancy test 4 times till now . i did the test today also . but the result is negative always but i dint get my periods yet. i am very very tensed . are there still chances of me getting pregnant ? plz help me . (link)
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Possible, but very, very unlikely.
The question is: after this scare, what will you change? Because if you keep going the way you are, you two will eventually have unprotected sex. It's kinda what "fun" leads to.
3 options:
1 - Stop fooling yourselves and being dishonest about what you are doing. Get condom, have sex.
2 - No more "fun". Probably no more b/f, either. If you are still a virgin for religious reasons, then this is the right thing to do. Stop playing "how much can I get away with?".
3 - play dumb, get pregnant for real at 19. Navigate your early 20s dragging around an infant.
You are old enough to vote. Take a little responsibility. Same goes for your b/f, too.
(oh, option 4 is get married.)
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I have to do semi-structured interview with single parents to get their lived experiences of being a single parent. REally struggling to come up with questions.
Got things like how have friends, family society treated you. tell me about your experiences of bieng single parent etc.
Its not about getting truths out of people just experiences of brining up a child as the lone parent lived it and experienced it or percieved it. (link)
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Isn't everyone a single parent these days? %40 of all kids were raised by a single parent, last I heard.
Topics might include:
Money. How much? Where from? Where does it go?
Time. Pretty much the same questions as money.
Child raising. Where do they take their cues from on how to do it? The media? Friends? Contrast their family with the family they grew up in.
Friends? Social networks? Religion/church? God?
The future. Where do they see their kids going, long term? Where will they be, long term? What will they do when the kids leave the nest?
Are they looking for a partner? Where? Why? What do they think of their chances?
Are they happy? Are their kids happy? What would they change, if they could?
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Why do guys always try to pull my pants/shorts down? Like no kidding this is the fourth guy now to try and do it. Like i will be at his house and then we go upstairs and he will just quickly reach out and try ro yank them down but i dont let it happen (link)
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You go upstairs? To his (or your) room? You are inviting him into your bedroom? And not just one guy, but one guy after another?
It's old-fashioned, but generally speaking, if you don't want your pants pulled down, don't be alone with a guy in a room with a bed in it.
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