17/f. i'm very shy, & so is this boy that i kind of like. (well, i really just think he is insanely gorgeous, and want to get to know him, but yeah.) he is an art aid, in my art class. i really want to talk to him, but i don't know how. haha. like, how can i flirt with him? how can i even start a conversation with the guy? i was thinking asking for help, & i go up to the art teacher when shes busy, & i hope she suggests that he can help me, but this girl i know always says oh i'll help her. -__- & i ask a billion fake questions, hoping she'll tell him to help me, but she doesn't. hahaha. i catch him looking at me sometimes, he seems like my type, & i mean, what can i do to get him to maybe come talk to me...?
Goup to him and complament him on something like: nice hair, nice shoes, nice paintings. Say that and walk off or wait til' he sais thank and say no prob. Or you can just say hey or hi. Be flirty about it. In your like most cute voice or sexy voice whatever you think he's into. Just say something to him.P.S. when you say something wear nice clothes.
Lillian
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so basiclly im a 16 year old girl. in an all girls highschool. and there are only about 35 girls in my grade, and like 6 or 7 of them have their little "popular clique" which i am like right on the outside of . i have known them all for a long time and i am freinds with most of them. but im not really part of their group. how do i join in? i warn you they are quite exclusive and rude.
and please dont tell me to "just be myself" because im not planning on making a bunch of ridiculous changes to fit in. i just want to join their group.
please help me!
Then just hang out with them more if thats the case. Whatever they invite you to go. And you don't have to change yourself to fit in the group "be yourself". Jk Jk haha. but just do what they do if you feel good about it.
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so i am 5'2 and i was like 106 pounds before the summer. now i am 115 pounds and it keeps getting higher. ive been eating healthy latelty but its not helping!
how do i get back to how it was before??
is there any other explanation for this??
Exercise and eat healthier. Your metabolism is probly slowing down. So your going to have to do a little bit more than just eating better.
Lillian
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so i am 16/f and have never had a boyfriend. i don't really talk to boys that much and im a little awkward. but boys have liked me before and people tell me often that im pretty. how do i gt boys to like me more?
Your personality will make them like you more. If its in you to flirt,flirt. You also have to hang out with guys to get them to notice you. I'm sure you won't have any problem doing that. So go ahead get you a guy. haha
Lillian
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today in math class i overheard two girls talking about this overweight girl who got pregnant and they were saying things like "who would have sex with a fat person" i felt offended because i am an overweight person myself. i am hoping to lose weight and when i do, i would never make fun of overweight people because i know it hurts. and i've been there but i was wondering. do the overweight people who become skinny tease other overweight people or not? or does it just depend on their personality
It's definatly the personality. It can be if the overweight person that lost the weight is still insecure about themself they tease. They feel bad cause they know that their hurting them. And it also depends on who you hang out with. I'm over weight but im 5'10 so it doesn't show as much but I still get those little laughs every now and then but I know I look good. haha. But it depends on how the person views him/her self.
Lillian
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For 15 years I was a happily married homemaker with a wonderful husband. "Duncan" and I attended church together, frolicked through the fields, even exterminated rodents together. He was my best friend. It was bliss.
Last year I found out my father had had an affair with Duncan's mother the year I was born, which makes him my half-brother! The news was too much for my husband. He had a fatal heart attack not long after.
What should I put on his gravestone -- "Loving Brother" or "Loving Husband"?
Loving family memmber. I love you
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ok. im going to get straight to the piont. me and my boyfriend use protection (birth control)but i didnt realize that the medication i was on causes bc not to work. so we usually use a condom but we ran out. my last period was aug 30 and i ovulated the 10th through 15th of september. we had sex on the 7th 10th and 15th (and he came in me)
i have been feeling sick having cramps headaches my boobs have been hurting ive been gasy and feeling sick. idk if im pregnant because i have felt all of those things before without being pregnant. i am waiting for my period on the 28th of september but i just wanted some advice on the issue. has anyone had an experience like this pregnant or not? thank you for the help :)
Go ahead and take a test. Never heard of all these symptoms coming so soon, but you never know. Every one is different. And try to use a condom, not trying to be a parent here. Wish the best of luck to you.
Lillian
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UGH! Ok, so one of my best friends and I just got into a HUGE fight. Like, I have never ever ever told her to fuck off and leave me alone. Basically, she was with this guy last christmas for like a month. She broke it off with him because she thought it was really awkward and wasn't working out. Then for about 5 months, she realized she "still loved him" and was like a pathetic little puppy following him around and always begging him to take her back. During these 5 months, he dragged her through hell and back, dating other girls while claiming he liked her, claiming he liked her but "wasn't sure if he wanted to date her". He was like waving hope in front of her face and everytime she was almost happy, he'd snatch it away. It was terrible because I had to hear about it basically every freakin day :/ So, now they're back together even after all the crap he's put her through, and they're just SO strange. She claims that they're "in love" and they're planning all this stuff about their "future together" and stuff :/ keep in mind, we're only sophmores in highschool... I know some highschool couples make it, but they are both just SO incredibly immature. Well, recently, another of our guy friends started to like her. She keeps telling me this over and over and I said "well that's ok, as long as you don't like him back because you're "in love"". She just gave me this blank stare and said "well I kinda like him...only a little..." I was like what?! You can't just be flirting with other guys when you claim to be "so in love" with your boyfriend...So yeah, fast forward to the fight :/ We were texting about how she got really mad at him because she said "bye" just joking around, and he said "bye" seriously and didn't stop her from leaving (yeah, I know :/ really stupid) so, trying to be a caring friend, I brought up a question... all I said is "Hey, are you absolutely sure you love this guy?" and she was like "Yes. Don't ever question that again" so I tried to justify why I asked that and she goes off about how "everyone is always judging her" and how "a real friend wouldn't have asked that" and stuff like that :/ So I kindof got really mad because, in my opinion, she is just really really really far into denial. I mean, I know I cant really feel what she's feeling, but I am not completely clueless. I've been through a lot of my own personal problems, and I have this deep gut-wrenching feeling that she is going to get REALLY hurt. Anyways, I told her I thought she's in denial about something and she's just being stubborn because she NEVER listens to ANY of my advice, even though I am almost always right about it! And then she said "Well maybe I'll just break up with him because you want me too. Will that make you happy?" and I'm just like "I NEVER said you should dump him! I didn't even say anything remotely close to that! Why are you trying to blame it on me?!" then she starts bringing up all this really really emotionally painful stuff that is very hard for me to talk about and is actually none of her business because she won't ever understand the stuff I went through. At that point, I just told her to "Back the F*** off and leave me the hell alone because you are in absolutely NO position to bring up that particular memory." So yeah, I got her to stop talking to me. I seriously am shaking because I am so angry. If she were here, I probably would have punched her in the face a LONG time ago. I really regret even bringing it up, but I honestly didn't know she would freak out that much about it. I just don't know what to do. Any advice is helpfull. I'm going to guess that some of you will say it's partly my fault, so just give me your honest opinion and help me get through this :( thanks...
A fake friend wouldn't tell you anything.A fake friend would just run with anything. You are the TRUE friend that is trying to tell her she's missing up. If she is the friend you know she is she'll relize that but if not maybe you guys can work it out another way. Don't try to lose a bestfriend in this process, but it might be beneficial to you to cool off for a few days. The worst thing to do is to talk to her while your still hot headed. I wish you the best of luck!
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I have a friend who I'm not sure if I should keep in my life. We've had great times and she can be really sweet and funny sometimes, and other times I feel like it's a bad relationship.
She lies, a lot. I've learned that it's easier to just roll my eyes and not confront her about it, because getting in a fight with her isn't worth it. She says a lot of things that I (and other people) think are complete bullshit. It just gets to be too much. It's not like I lie or exagerate or go on and on about how I have this great life that she has to live up to, so I don't get it.
Lately I feel like she ditches me for better plans and when I confront her about it she tries to turn it around and starts yelling at me. It's like she doesn't have my back at all. She wants to hang out when she needs a ride somewhere, or something like that. She'll call me one of her "best friends" but doesn't treat me like it at all.
Part of me wants to cut her off, but I'll miss what we have and it would be awkward because we have a class together soon and were involved in some of the same things and have some of the same friends. I don't know what to do without causing an argument or mess. I'm just tired of self-centered people right now.
Thanks
Read back what you sent. Tell me what you would say to this person that feels that her friend is treating her like dirt. Are you ready to let her go? If so cut her off. People that use you like you describe won't make anything positive out of your life. Your friends are suppose to lift you up not bring you down.You listed all the bad things. If you felt like you could've made this work you would have listed some of the good things too.That's not the case.But be sure that what ever you do, don't be mean about it. And if she starts to argue tell her thats one of the things you don't like. Even if you don't want to be friends. Be respectful, even if she's not. It shows you that you are better than her in many ways.
Lillian
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15/f
Well,me and my bf have been together since last month.But then he had to go back to London,where he lives,because of school.I live very far away from him,but he insisted on trying the long-distance relationship thing and we both agreed.He's 16 btw.He started college recently and I think it could be a problem (if he meets another girl,he won't have the heart to break up with me,he's like that) which will basically result in him cheating on me,and I really don't want that.Also,he's seems uninterested in me now.When we chat on Facebook,he would suddenly log out and not come back online,or finish the conversation without telling me he loves me.To be precise,I don't trust him.I'm really getting fed up.I love him,but I feel this just won't work out till when he comes here (July next year).But I don't really want to dump him,it's just that I don't know what to do.Should I be patient and give him a chance,or dump him for good?
In the end its your choice. But don't let your doubts let you two break up. Let it be the choices you two make determine that. To get to the bottom of it, point blank you need to ask him do you think we can do this any more and be honest. Tell him all the pros and cons.
Lillian
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15 Female, He's 18. USA
We've been best friends for a few years. I've had crush on him about 2 months now and well yesterday while we were hanging out I started to get so irritable with him (dont even know why). I blurted out "I have a crush on you..." he just seemed so proud of himself then he said "I'll have to think about that for awhile." then he had to leave... What does that mean?!
-Gabriella
Guys are very different. He either needs time to think about what you said and teasing you a little. Or he just needs you to cool down. It can go either way, but don't let this answer ruin your friendship.
Lillian
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17/F.
Okay so i jus started datin this guy from another school cause he asked me out n i like hiim so i said yes...well that was only a week ago but i dont like datin. at all. i like to be able to do what i want when i want to n talk to whoever i want. i like the "im not datin you but basically am" kinda thing bc it doesnt restrict. dont get me wrong i like my bf a lot but i dont know!! we talked for bout a month before we started datin n i saw some odd things he did but didnt think he was a weird kid. Well now im thinkin he might be on the weird side. ahh! i dont know some things he does is jus straight weird n immature n im thinkin really? the times i really like him is when its jus me n him wi no one else round cuz he doesnt do all that weird stuff. i mean if he does its not over the top. i have my weird side too but i dont want him to scare me away wi all of the weirdness if u understand what im tryin to say. Its jus not like me to date but i like him a lot n didnt wanna lose hims so jus said yes but now i dont know if that was a mistake. AHH! help please!
Think about this question. When you were not dating, was it the same weird stuff? Or is it because now your dating you want an exuse to kinda brake up with him. If thats not the case then tell him that instead of dating, call it like really good friends. So you won't be so guarded you know.And tell him its to much weird stuff! haha
Lillian
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alright, this doesn't happen EVERYTIME, but sometimes when i pee, i feel like i have to go again, so i do, but nothing comes out or needs to.
it's just a weird feeling cus i keep thinking i need to go, but i really don't.
so, is this a problem or just minor?
I don't think its to big of a deal. But if you think it is tell your docter. When I was little my friends use to talk about this all the time. I know weird. but if it was some thing really serious then we all had it.
Lillian
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Okay, deep breaths as I type this out.
It's very long, but I felt I needed to give all the facts.
16/f
I'd been best friends with this guy since we were seven. We were crazy close. We'd talk about anything and everything, always be around each other, it got to the point where when I went someplace without him, I felt like I was forgetting something. And people would always ask whenever I got somewhere "Hey, where's John?"
Well, you know how things go. We were so connected to each other on a level much deeper than anything you hear teens talking about, that pretty soon we fell in love and crossed that line. And then we REALLY were inseparable. It was so easy, everything was easy. And I loved him. God I loved him so much.
Last year though, everything changed. One of my friends got into a little bit of trouble, and ended up pulling me down with her, not intentionally. She got wasted at a party and didn't want to call her parents, and so she called me. I went to pick her up even though I was only on my permit which was stupid of me, and we got pulled over by the police because I was driving a little fast. He saw my friend, and he also saw an open bottle of beer in her hand. The final blow was when he went to check my license.
I live in a small town: word gets around. And the rumors twist out of control. John's father heard about this mess, but he heard it as: I had been drinking and driving, and I was totally wasted that night, going for a reckless joyride around town. Which was not the case.
I told John the truth and I told his dad the truth, but his dad wouldn't listen to me. His dad has never really liked me for some reason. I was thinking it was because I always had pulled away his son from him, you know, because John spent so much time with me. =\
His dad is a very religious person, very moral and stuff. He doesn't drink or smoke and since his wife died I don't even think he's had sex. And he doesn't ever want John to drink or smoke or any of that stuff either. So upon hearing about that misunderstanding of mine, he forbade John to see me anymore.
You can imagine how devastated I was. I'm barred from seeing John, the guy I'm in love with, my soulmate. I was in such misery, and when I'd be in misery, I'd talk to John. But he wasn't allowed.
But the real hurt came about a week after his father laid down the law, saying I was a bad influence. I caught John at the grocery store downtown and I walked up to him to give him a hug and just have a moment with him, because there were no parents around. But he just looked at me, blankly and turned and walked away before I could reach him. There was no hurt in his eyes or anything. Just a blank stare, nothing like the way he used to look at me.
Another two weeks passed and he had been on a few dates with this girl from our church, well his church now. I don't go to church anymore.
It's been about a year since I've spoken to him, and the only time I ever see him is glimpses of him around town. And we've drifted so far away that sometimes I can't even remember what it was that made us so close.
Okay, deep breaths.
Saturday when I got home from school I had a message waiting for me. It was a friend of mine telling me know that John had been involved in a really bad car accident. He'd damaged his spinal chord and he probably won't be able to walk anymore.
You know that feeling when the world comes to a stop? Here's this boy, my first love who at one point in my life I couldn't breathe without, and now all of a sudden he's hurt, really hurt. And I just can't wrap my mind around it.
It's been so long since we talked. And I'd finally moved on from him, stopped hating him, but never started loving him again. He hadn't even crossed my mind in a month or so. And the whole 10 months I spent trying to get over him, I was thinking about how much I hated him for killing me inside. How much I wanted him to hurt. How much I just wanted to get even with the way he broke me. Did I do this to him? My first thought.
I haven't been able to concentrate all week. I'm sick with grief and fear about what might happen to him. What did happen to him. I can't wrap my mind around it and I'm feeling so confused.
My mind keeps telling me that this is a person who hurt you and the warning flag goes up and says, "You shouldn't hurt this much. Yes, it's bad that he got hurt, but you don't even know him anymore. So just relax, pray and push through."
Then the other side of it, my heart is telling me that old feelings never go away and it's okay to suddenly know that the connection is still there. There's so much running through my mind right now that I can't sort through. It's too heavy. All of it is just way too heavy.
I'm in shock, and I'm being selfish I know I am because here's John, hurt in a hospital bed, and I'll I can think of his my pain and grief.
My friend is taking me to visit him on Sunday. We haven't seen each other in so long, and all that deep history between us...I don't know what to say to him or what to do.
What do you say to a person in this position who once meant everything to you? I don't know what and I don't know how to process all these feelings.
Please, advice. Of any kind.
Your are not a lone. Many people are i a similar situation.No questions asked you should go see him. Let him know that you never forgot about him nor you will never forget your first love. Be onest tell him that he hurt you, but that pain is gone. Pray for him. Just be there.
Lillian
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im 16/m
thers this girl who ive known for like a week. we've been talking alot and everything is going good, but i dont know how she really feels about me,rigt now its just chill.
but homecoming is like in 2 weeks...i asked her if she was going, but she said that she might be busy on that day, but for some reason i dont wanna let that stop me. i dont wanna give up.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Ask her out! Ask her out! Go ahead even if she's busy I'm sure that she will be flattered.And who knows she might not be able to go, but might want to go out another time.
Lillian
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i am a seventeen year old girl, and i have a girlfriend. she's my first girlfriend, and right now i'm not so sure about my sexuality anymore. i thought i was bi; maybe i was just bi curious. anyways i have landed myself in a situation. the thing is, i think i might be straight after all. this whole thing is different for me, and maybe she might not be the girl for me. she's really awesome though, and if i break up with her, i want there to be someone there for her to fall back on. hopefully she and i can remain friends afterwards. i'm not so sure i have the heart to break up with her; i don't want to hurt her. i do love her; just i think it's more in a friends kind of way. i am attracted to girls, but i think a man is more compatable for me. i don't know what i should do, or where i should start.
Start by being sure about yourself and you decision. You don't want waking up in the morning and feeling like you made the wrong choice. If you don't have the wrong choice, then sit her down and explain to her that you don't feel the way you thought you did. That you love her, but not in the way you thought. Friendship. Tell her you clicked as friends not lovers.
Lillian
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I hate the place I'm living. I complain about it all the time but there's nothing anyone can do about it because whether I like it or not - I'm here for another 2 years (about). Anyways, I hate all my friends. I had one really close friend; Camilla. But she totally changed. I don't even know her anymore. I'm a freshman in High School, so is she, and now she's friends with all the sophmores and the juniors. It seems like she forgot all about me. I feel so angry, like I hate her, and everything is her fault. But maybe it's not her fault, maybe I'm not used to this idea of her not always being with me. But she's never with me, not in school, not in weekends. She was invited to this movie night and now all the upperclassmen like her, and it's so annoying. Maybe I'm just jealous, but I can't take it. I can't let things change with us because I know it'll ruin me. What should I do?
Another question -- I'm depressed, and it's killing me. I always do research but there's no way I can explain to my parents that I'm depressed so I need therapy/anti-depressants.
Is there another way to cure/better my depression?
Why this ruin you. You don't have to be like her to have her friends. Have new friends and be yourself. Now if the problem is her friends are the problem find people you do like. I'm a freshman too at lyman and all my friends went to lake mary. I am different from a lot of people. Trust me when I say different. But I jioned a sport and found a lot of people who have the same likes as me. Jion something. It might help.
Lillian
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I'm so depressed.I can't bear it anymore. I've donea lot of research but it's not helping me.
What's other ways I can treat/better my depression without anti-depressants or therapy.
You can keep a diary or a journal. Write about your feelings and how different situations make you feel.And write about the things that can make that situation better. And what my mom told me when I got a full length mirror is to put little sayings about yourself around the mirror. Things like: your beautiful,nobody is like you, God loves you. Things that will lift you spirits.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now 9 on October 14th. He's 18 and I'm 16, we clicked the instant we met, only thing was he was a bit of a flirt. I've know him for about two years now, we'd flirt around and what not but I never took him seriously because of all the other females that were after him. He said he'd give up his flirtatious ways if I agreed to be his girlfriend. So I did, I liked him a great deal.
We "fell in love," or I did atleast. Everything was going well, we ended up having sex 5 months after we started going out, I sortah regret it he was my first.
Anyways, we've been having small problems. Well I think he thinks everything's ok, but he doesn't call me much. I'm always the one to call, usually.
At night, after 9 when he has free minutes. :/
Anyways, sometimes he acts as if I bore him, or he doesn't like me or love me...he gets annoyed and irritated with me for no apparent reason.
I want to know, does anyone think he's with me just 'cause of sex?
I mean he lives in chicago and I live in Aurora, he sees me once a week or so, we talk every night usually.
When we're together he seems to push onto sex fairly quickly.
I don't know what to do most of the time, I want to make him happy so I go through with it most of the time, we use protection of course.
But afterward I sortah feel sad, I feel kindda upset with myself, not sure why. Has this happened to anyone else?
I kinda get the feeling that's all he wants, but I do think he loves me, or did atleast at one point, but lately I been feeling as if he only likes the sex.
What should I do?
Am I wasting my time?
I love him alot, but (is this wrong?) love me more, and I've been hurt many times before and don't want to get hurt in the end.
He began to change since he recently started college...I don't know, could he be stressed?
Any help would be useful thanks. :T
Well, this is not that unusal. You might want to try taking a brake from sex for a while. For a month just get back to what you were doing before you guys were having sex. If he loves you like you say then he should partially understand. But lets face it he's a man.
Lillian
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well you already answered one of my questions and I like the advice you gave me about the game that guys play you fucked with my heart now I'll fuck with yours.well here we go I've always liked him I mean I've always loved him and now that I don't have him as a boyfriend I feel empty and weird inside cause I don't have him anymore.I'm always wondering about him and I told you that my mom found out that I went out with him and she was trippin about it so she doesn't let me go out anymore cause she doesn't trust me.like I get made because he did this to me and he's out having fun and messing around with other girls while I'm here at home because of his ass.I get jelouse I guess you can say because I feel he has a life and I don't.I feel like I got screwed in the ass and he doesn't care.well what I want to know if you know is why do I feel this way cause I obvisiously don't know and may be you have an idea.I guess I'm resenting him.
You use to like this man/boy. So obviosly there is still going to be some feeings, even though your the only one that feels them. Your going to have to release him and move on. Even though its going to be tough. And You aslo feel this way because your still not over him.
Lillian
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