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what did i get myself into?!!!
17/F.
Okay so i jus started datin this guy from another school cause he asked me out n i like hiim so i said yes...well that was only a week ago but i dont like datin. at all. i like to be able to do what i want when i want to n talk to whoever i want. i like the "im not datin you but basically am" kinda thing bc it doesnt restrict. dont get me wrong i like my bf a lot but i dont know!! we talked for bout a month before we started datin n i saw some odd things he did but didnt think he was a weird kid. Well now im thinkin he might be on the weird side. ahh! i dont know some things he does is jus straight weird n immature n im thinkin really? the times i really like him is when its jus me n him wi no one else round cuz he doesnt do all that weird stuff. i mean if he does its not over the top. i have my weird side too but i dont want him to scare me away wi all of the weirdness if u understand what im tryin to say. Its jus not like me to date but i like him a lot n didnt wanna lose hims so jus said yes but now i dont know if that was a mistake. AHH! help please!
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What you described, would be called 'friends with benefits'. I understand how you feel though, because that's how I kinda feel right now. But you should've gotten to know him better before you went out with him. I know you really liked him and all, but 'hooking up' isn't the way to go when it comes to dating. What kinds of weird things does he do? It would have helped more if you said what he does. It depends on what 'weird' things you're talking about, but if you truly like him, then you should just accept him for who he is. Again, you should've gotten to know him better before you said yes to him. I was in the same situation as you, a few months back. I had a boyfriend, but I couldn't help but to think he was an immature douche, and really weird. o.O Just think about this. Do you REALLY like him? Ways you can tell, are by if you can imagine spending a long time with him, you absolutely adore him, you get a nervous/excited/anxious feeling whenever you think about him or whenever someone mentions him, you get butteflies in your stomach just thinking about him, you think about him all the time, you like him for who he is.... You know, stuff like that. There's a lot more ways to tell, but I'm assuming you get the point. :) Now, it IS possible for you to be attracted to someone, but not 'like-like' them, if you get what I mean. You might really like someone, but it could turn out you guys just don't have chemistry or anything.
I hope you can get your mind straight, but just take time to think about it. Don't rush, and don't avoid the situation.
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Think about this question. When you were not dating, was it the same weird stuff? Or is it because now your dating you want an exuse to kinda brake up with him. If thats not the case then tell him that instead of dating, call it like really good friends. So you won't be so guarded you know.And tell him its to much weird stuff! haha
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ok hun,.. I don't know what kind of weird stuff you're talking about that he does... =& .. it's kinda vague,.. maybe if you wouldn't mind giving some details... =&... have you talked to him about what is bothering you..?.. If you are willing to be understanding and accepting of him maybe you can talk to him and get him to open up more and trust you so he can be comfortable talking about his feelings.. I'm not sure of the situation but if it's about how he acts toward people it could be about a facade type thing and he doesnt want people to see the real him because them he feels vulnerable or something of that nature.. or maybe he just needs someone to understand him.. =&
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