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Depression and Friends
I hate the place I'm living. I complain about it all the time but there's nothing anyone can do about it because whether I like it or not - I'm here for another 2 years (about). Anyways, I hate all my friends. I had one really close friend; Camilla. But she totally changed. I don't even know her anymore. I'm a freshman in High School, so is she, and now she's friends with all the sophmores and the juniors. It seems like she forgot all about me. I feel so angry, like I hate her, and everything is her fault. But maybe it's not her fault, maybe I'm not used to this idea of her not always being with me. But she's never with me, not in school, not in weekends. She was invited to this movie night and now all the upperclassmen like her, and it's so annoying. Maybe I'm just jealous, but I can't take it. I can't let things change with us because I know it'll ruin me. What should I do?
Another question -- I'm depressed, and it's killing me. I always do research but there's no way I can explain to my parents that I'm depressed so I need therapy/anti-depressants.
Is there another way to cure/better my depression?
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deal with it. thats life. friends fade away every once in a while. make some new friends, its not like the six billion other people on the planet aren't interested in being your best friend. let her go, she obviously found people more suited to her tastes, and you should do the same.
as far as depression goes, there's two ways to solve it; copious amounts of excercise, or copious amounts of drugs and alcohol. anti depressants are too risky.
now have an especially pleasant fucking afternoon.
-Gunner.
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i have a similar situation witha friend and the worst thing to do ir make her feel guilty. dont make it seem like if shes friedns with you she cant have other friends. jsut join her and her other friends. maybe try maknig older firends too. and about teh deoressants why not tell you rparents? or set a meeting wit e guidance councleor or therapist or doctor and take care of it yourself.
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Why this ruin you. You don't have to be like her to have her friends. Have new friends and be yourself. Now if the problem is her friends are the problem find people you do like. I'm a freshman too at lyman and all my friends went to lake mary. I am different from a lot of people. Trust me when I say different. But I jioned a sport and found a lot of people who have the same likes as me. Jion something. It might help.
Lillian
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Well I would try natural remedies first. Here are a few that have good results with mild depression. Sunlight! yes it works,and it's free. St.John Wort an herbal remedy, and Sam-E an other herbal and vitamin supplement that is very popular in Europe. Less expensive than drugs and you don't need to see a doctor.
It is also very noticible that you are unhappy and there is nothing more of a bummer than being with people who are down and/or negative all the time. Some people are just like that, they complain all the time. But it does not help you win friends or influence people. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has their own problems. You may think yours are worse, but believe me, there are those much worse off. And maybe even some people you know. But you don't know about their problems because they don't want to waste other people's time, they know that no one wants to hear it, and they want to forget about their problems for a while. Especially when they are with friends.
Try being up beat and try to look happy. Even if it kills you inside. For a while it may feel fake, but when friends come back, or when people seek out your company, then maybe you will feel better. You sound young and not in a position to be making decisions about where you can live and where you can go to school. Well suck it up. We all went thru it and we all survived. When we finally did get to the age where we were in charge of our own destiny. We were happy, but we also realized that we didn't know as much as we thougth we did when we were younger. So hold on, be patient, you'll get there. Try to get there happy. This is a time in your life when you should be enjoying yourself. Make sure you are not standing in your own way to a happy life. Soon enough, you'll be an adult in the eyes of the law, and you be in charge and then you'll have to worry about, paying rent, making car payments, paying for insurance, utilities, phone, etc. etc. You have to work to pay for all of this, and you'll hardly have time for friends. Then you'll think back on the days when all you were responsible for was school work, and wish you had them back.
Good luck to you.
- Michele
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