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I been on what I call a diet for the past 8 months. At first everybody was amazed I lost so much weight so fast but now they always tell me I'm TOO thin. I want to be skinnier and I think I still look FAT. I did a BMI calculator and I'm like a number 15 (the thing said 15.1 actually). I don't eat allot. Somebody told me they think I have a eating disorder called anorexia. I looked it up. I might have that. I haven't got my period in a couple months even. I don't want to be sick? So does it go away on its own or do I need to get medicine? Im kind of confused about what to do? I didnt tell my mom because shes already upset Im still dieting and I dont want her to freak out again on me. What do you think I could do to be normal I guess? Thanks you

Hey there :)

Medicine isn't what you need. You should seek counseling ASAP.

Hope everything works out!

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Do they teach people how to spell anymore? My time on this site shows me that they stopped. Alternatively, are gorilla-finger sized people using this site? I'm quite curious.

aha!
I think I love you!

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Ive been wanting to commit suicide for the last 3 years, i think ive not done it yet because of fear. Im 23 i live with my parents, my 2 brothers and sister. My family are nice to me, ive been trying to tell my mum about my situation, all she says is dont do it u will go to hell. I dont get love from my family the way my sister and btothers do. im a very shy guy, i struggle to make friends, ima student at uni, i just hate going there. ive told my family i dont want to study and i will get a job somewhere, but they are forcing me to study! Ima muslim my parents want me to have an arrange marriage with my 1st cousin, which i find disgusting because ive always treated her like my sister, ive got a feeling i might have to marry her because i will get emotionally blackmailed. for the past 6 months ive been constantly getting headaches, i get chest pains, i know that im not wanted, i need to take big deep breathes all the time and i jus want to kill myself. i can leave my family, but i dnt want to do that because they raised me.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME?

If your family is willing to emotionally blackmail you...why would you feel obligated to stay with these people? Who cares if they raised you. A loving family wouldn't do that.
If I were you, I would move away and make a new life for myself.

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Should I send in an application to a job that I'm REALLY interested in but think I'm underqualified for? I found this particular job that I think sounds AWESOME. I told my mom about it and she said I should apply anyway because most jobs will train you how to do something before having you work for them. I don't want to look like an idiot applying for a job that I have no qualifications for or experience in though. What do you think?

Yes. Apply! My dad always tells me "let the employer decide you're underqualified...don't decide it yourself."

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i think i have an over-eating issue.
im a skinny girl. 5'1 110-108 pounds.
but im obseed with being skinny.
i do a lot of starvation diets then i binge and eat ALOT.
ill have like 4 chocoalte corissants, 8 oreos and a lot of nuts and pasta.
then ill take laxatives.
and i do it every day. it goes in cycles
once im in the mod i cants top and i just eat for weeks liek this!
im scared for my health and im scare dimg una gain weight.
what do id o.

Over-eating is a definite problem, but the bigger problem is that you are purging yourself of calories by fasting and laxatives. You have an eating disorder and need to see a medical professional for a treatment process.

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Hello,sorry for asking the most random question of all times. But i really need some advice,sort of.
I'm 14 and i weight around 176 lbs. I fear that if my weight keeps on increasing to 200 lbs so just last 2 months I start a daily working out schedule and I'm wondering if you can give me some advice to improve it.
1.Run 4 kilometers 5 times a week.
2.Avoid drinking or eating any high sugar food
3.Eat a lot of high fiber and vitamins vegetables and fruits
4.Decrease my intake of calories to 200 per day(I read some article in the news and it said that woman need 200 calories per day in order to stay active,is that true?Mostly i just eat vitamin pills)
5.Lower my fat intake by avoiding any fast food or snacks
6.Drink lots of low fat yogurt juice.

Although its kind of hard when I first started,but I was able to follow it for a month without any distraction.
So I'm wondering,if i keep on doing my schedule every month, how long will I'm able to weight around 110 lbs? And is there anything thing in my schedule that need improvement or something?
Just to make sure that none of you confuse,I'm a Singaporean and in my country gym are hard to find especially ones for teenagers so i can't really do any decent work out that is not at my home whereas I'm only able to run around the backyard and ride the exercising bicycle(or whatever that is).
So... help? Cause I really am fed up with all the fat insults and i really want to be slim by 15.

I don't know where you got the number 200, but 2000 is the number of calories that most women need to maintain their weight.
Make sure you're getting enough protein, also. Lean meats...egg whites and low fat milk products are great!
If you need a snack on the go...try packing some almonds and raisins.
Anything else, just inbox me! :)

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Hi! anybody know some examples of Persuasive Speech? if you guys know please let me know..Thanks :)

When I had to do a persuasive speech, I wanted to do something really motivational, so I persuaded people to "live in the moment". It seemed to bring all my classmates together and I actually learned some very special things when doing research.

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I'm changing my style to become more classic and preppy. What are the key items for a preppy look? Also, what outfits can you wear with Sperry Top-Siders?
(I'm talking about the true preppy, not fake, Abercrombie public school preppy.)

Plaid prints & pearl necklaces!

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I cant afford a vocal teacher. But what are some ways to get better at singing. Give some examples and sites. Or even techniques you use. Thanks.

-Work on raising your soft palate. When you yawn, notice how the roof of your mouth rises. This is the kind of sensation you want to feel when singing to create an open sound.

-When you breathe in, your stomach should noticeably expand. When you sing, it should slowly get smaller.

-Look at the muscles in your neck when you sing. They shouldn't move up and down very much. If they do, you're forcing the sound.

Hope these help!!
:)


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I know everyone is just going to say "eat!" but that's not what I need people to be telling me. I think I need serious help. I haven't been "starving" myself yet but I have begun to try to limit myself to only eating once a day to lose weight. I know that starving yourself is bad for u obviously but I'm so desperate at this point that I don't even care anymore. I'm not overweight I dontthink but I hate the way I look. I'm 5'8 and 120lbs. I can't look at myself in the mirror without wanting to cry and have found myself browsing through pro anorexia websites and pictures. I have nobody to talk to about this! What do I do?

Wow. I'm being completely honest here...I have had these same thoughts and if my thoughts were still this severe, I would have reached out for help from family, friends...anyone...but now I don't obsess as much. I saw a documentary on eating disorders and instantly recognized one of the patients in the rehabilitation center. She taught at my school a few years ago and to see her struggle was like an awakening to me. There is so much to live for and obsessive thoughts about food takes away the joy in life. Please ask for professional help. It's very necessary at this point.

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This summer I went on a diet and lost 40 pounds. I ate healthy and exercised. I'm not eating a ton of junk food or anything now and i havent gained any weight back but i'm not losing weight anymore either. Everyday I tell myself I'm going to start my diet back but I never do it. I weigh 146 and I really want to lose just 25 pounds.How do I get back on my diet?

Plan 3 meals a day without snacking in between unless it was just fruits or vegetables. At each meal, make sure you are getting enough protein, carbohydrates and good fats. Don't cut out any food groups because you need them all. (Except for sweets)

Only eat the healthy foods you truly enjoy. If you eat a food just because it's healthy and not because you like it, you're going to feel deprived and that could sabotage your diet. Good luck!

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was i bad today?
i recently gained 5 pounds and im desperatly trying to loose it.

today i had
breakfast- quaker weight control instant oatmeal, in mayple and brown sugar- 160 calories
lunch- grilled chicken with a drop of goat cheese
dinner- quinoa,very little chicken soup broth, sum green beans 3-4 cups of red wine

im freaking out about the wine... i hear its very high in caloires....

You honestly need to eat more. Eat a more balanced breakfast such as some eggs with toast & a bit of butter with a glass of orange juice. For lunch try some nuts and raisins with a glass of milk and maybe even a banana. Eat a normal portion size for dinner minus extra glasses of wine. I understand you're trying to lose weight, but it can be done while eating a reasonable amount of food. You particularly need more fruits and vegetables to get an adequate amount of vitamins. Good luck!

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how do i stop bingeing?


if i eat somehitng fattnieng i go all out and rather then having a normal amount or a little bit.

how do i have self control? its so hard for me.
i want to stop my fattening food cravings.
i need help.

I've been there and binging is such a stressful process. What helps me is to plan three square meals a day with enough protein and good fats to keep me full, so that I won't want to binge. Try eggs, greek yogurt, milk, whole wheat toast with some butter and meats to ward off hunger and any desire to overeat. Also, add in some whole grains. Try to balance the food groups, so that your body doesn't have an intense craving for any particular one.
:)

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I hate high school. I'm 18, I'm more mature then people in my school, and I'm in all these boring advanced classes that are jokes. I'm not learning anything, and I hate my friends! They are annoying and we've grown apart. I want to try to graduate early or take my English class online or at a community college. I'm wondering, from people who have done this.. (basically taking an online class) is it easy, is it hard, is it a lot of work, anything you want to tell me about it would be great:)

I'm taking 3 online classes this semester and found them all to be very easy. Like the other person said, you have time to look up answers. I usually just use Google them and don't even bother reading the textbook if I'm not interested. As long as you have an organized teacher, it should be much easier than going to class. Make sure you look the teacher up on ratemyprofessor.com to know just how organized the teacher is according to past students.

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what are song good country love songs?

I'll Be- Edwin McCain

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Lets say I sing for half an hour a day. WIll I get better? I mean I suck at singing but rock at guitar and I write powerful songs, but my voice makes it sound bad. If I sing 30 minutes a day will I get better?

There's no way for us to know if you're doing it right. You can practice however long you want, but unless you use proper technique...time means nothing. Consider posting on YouTube and ask for people's opinions.

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I'm not going into detail because I would end up writing over 10000 words. Short story.. I really dislike my life. A lot is going on and i cry myself to sleep almost every night because i don't like my life right now. I'm a senior in high school and a girl. People are usually stressed about college and where they want to go etc. but I have that figured out. SO i guess thats alright since i already know my future. I'm just not happy...

I have a boyfriend. BEen going out for a few months and he's great. sometimes he gets on my nerves and irritates me and we have some fights. but other times he's there for me and he's the best boyfriend i've had. he really cares about me and whenever i'm in a bad mood he knows how to cheer me up. i dont get to seem him often outside of school because i'm involved with other activities and so is he. my bff is irritating me. lately we havent been on the same page and been fighting a lot about random crap. parents are getting more annoying. i'm 18 so i am pretty sure i have some freedom and independence but according to them i dont because i still live under their roof :( a lot of people i know get to do things like drive downtown and go to parties and hang out at peoples houses until midnight but my curfew is still at 9pm or even 8. they wont let me do certain things like go to a friends house they dont know. or sleepovers. or go to a concert. or go to a friends cabin. or drive outside of my town.. pretty much no life and living in a bubble.. to make things worse, i dont really have many friends. i mean, i have friends but they're the people who i say "hey whats up" to in the hallways and then dont talk much outside of school.

i just dont know what to do anymore. i really dont like my life and no matter what i do to change it.. i end up making things worse. i guess all im asking for is some advice on how to be happier and cheer me up? i dont have much time for myself so my options are limited. dont have a job which equals no money. parents keep me in a bubble life. i feel like i'm suffocating and just hate my life right now. please help.

Well, my parents are the same way and although it's annoying, I don't fault them for being protective over me. I agree that when you live in their house you should abide by their rules.

If you want a little more freedom, you should offer information on where you'll be, who will be there and what you'll be doing. They feel responsible for your well-being, so it's important that they are very informed about your life.

You can also try inviting a few friends to your house, so that your parents can decide if they are good influences. If they are, your parents should feel at ease letting you go to events with them.

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Well i am currently getting vocal lessons and electric guitar lessons, and I've really been wanting to take gymnastics too. But unfortunately, i have to chose.... and i REALLY want to do both. What should i do?

I personally would choose music because you can do it all throughout your life. At some point, you would have to stop gymnastics as you age. Just a thought...

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i'm 18 and still a virgin. i'm definetly not ashamed of it, actually i'm kinda proud. its not like i'm ugly, actually alot of people are surprised or don't believe me that i'm still a virgin i just refuse to give my virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it and i haven't met anyone worth giving it to yet (i know i'm old fashioned but whatever). i've had a few boyfriends and definetly many opportunities but i just didn't want to. but i feel like everyone my age and even a little younger has had sex. when i hang out with certain friends thats all they talk about. i mean somethings i can contribute because i've done everything else except actual intercourse. but i just feel like i'm alone. is there anyone out there my age virgins?

I'm 19 and haven't even had my first kiss. It's no big deal.
:)

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About a week ago, my boyfriend Scott and I (we’re both 18) were hanging out and we saw this guy jogging, and Scott said to me, “his boobs are bigger than yours!” For some reason – perhaps I’m just being neurotic and silly – my feelings were really hurt by the comment. Since then I’ve just been feeling really ugly and self conscious. He called me this afternoon and he was all like, “hey, I noticed that you’ve been really quiet lately. Is everything okay? You can always talk to me if you need anything.”


Am I justified in feeling this way? I know that this is a completely ridiculous thing to ask for help about but... I’m kind of at a loss of what to do. I don’t want to talk to him about it because it’s so embarrassing, and I won’t have him think I’m an insecure, hypersensitive wuss.

I can totally understand why that comment bothered you, but it doesn't seem he meant it that way. If anything, he was insulting the guy...not you. The fact that he noticed you weren't being yourself lately shows that he is a good friend and has genuine concern for you. I would just let it slide. If it happens again, speak up...but just one time isn't a big deal.

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