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Q: Ok, so i was masturbating w/ a perfume bottle and the cap came off while it was " up there" i`ve tried to get it out but it wont work.& i can also feel it. Please dont freak out on me because i`m already scared enough. Please tell me things that will help me get it out. If nothing works , I`m going to tell my mom and get the doctor to take it out. I WILL RATE HIGH. thanks.

ok dont be scared. try taking tweezers and clipping on to one of the ends of it. if that doesnt work you should talk to your mom and see if she knows anything and if not go see a doctor. the longer its in the more problems that can happen.

Q: um, i am a virgin and all. and thats kinda the problem. most of my freinds arent virgins, and i get made fun of. even my father had sex when he was like 12. and its driving me practilly INSANE! im sixteen years old, and i "enjoy" myself almost daily. i am speaking the embarassing truth. one of the minor reasong why i bought a computer was so i could look up porn. and i tell myself all the time ill stop "enjoying" myself once i actually have sex. and thats put me at ease for awhile. i mean, other that that i ok, besides sucking my thumb.one time, a prostistute was asking if i wanted a good time, and as sad as it may sound, i was saeiously considering it. and thats when i knew i had issues. so the actual question would be: do i have problems? is this humane? shold i go out and see a shrink? please, this took alot of courage to admit this, so, please,dont judge me.

its perfectly normal and no, you dont need to go see a shrink. like someone else said, porn was here for a reason... a lot of people feel the way you do. but you cant forget that there are a TON of stds out now a days so whenever you do decide to do it, use protection. and while everyone else is making fun of you, put it aside. at least you havent put yourself up for major risks in life yet.

Q: ok ive never made out before and my friend just got on the phone with me and shes like yeah the kid chris you like is gonna come to the party and hes like i wanna make out with some one n shes like make out with raven(who is me) and hes like ok and i dont no how or like what to do but im NOT turing down this oppertunity

haha dont worry about a thing. just follow his lead and dont take/ do things that you dont feel comfortable doing, or just arent ready to do. but since you want to, you cant really mess it up as long as you follow him.

Q: in the summer i get freckles all over my face. its really annoying my face is more pale then tan. i look bad without coverup.. i dont like coverup because its cakey sometimes and thick and expensive..and also melts off your face. are there any alternatives to get rid of or cover up freckles?

well dont worry cause this happens to almost everyone in the summer, but once summers over they will go away fast. until then, dont worry because im sure no one will say anything.

Q: I had this horrible dream and cant get it out of my head. To make a long story short my 2 month old baby and I ended up in a truck stop when a nut came in with a big knife. He just started killing people left and right and when he came to me I said "please dont hurt the baby" he laughed at me and cut my throught. As Layed on the floor bleeding he cut the babys throught and the baby was crying and he laughed and said to the baby "ahh, are you crying, want me to get your bottle?"
It was so dramatic Ive been crying about it all day. I woke up with red marks all over my neck from grabbing my throught while I was dreaming.

wow thats def not to good... try watching tv or movies or hang out with some friends just to take your mind off things for a while. make sure that you go out and have a good time. and if all this keeps up, you might want to go see a phyciatrist for it. good luck!

Q: How do you get rid of blackheads? The strips don't really work for me..does anyone actually know what will work? Please don't just give me a product you saw on a commercial or something..Thanks..I rate high!!

Neutrogenia Black Head Elimidating Daily Scrub. Long name but it works really well, and it exfoliates!

Q: i dont really kno if i hav black heads or not bc i dont know what they are...im not sure what they look like...just black?? idk pleass tell..

there like a pimple cept there black and you cant get rid of them really easily. theyre usually around your nose or chin for most ppl.

Q: hey i was wondering if stridex pads really work...are they cheap?? answer soon! i rate!

they wont do much by themselves but ya they help. there only about 5-10 dollars at a drug store.

Q: ok so my boyfriends best friend died in a fire and hes beside himself plus im starting highschool and we dont live near each other so he keeps telling me he needs me the most now and he cant have me he thinks im unhappy with him and im not im extremely happy when hes sober truth of the matter is tho he tried to drink himself to death if it hadnt been for my friend hed be dead by now hes just so unhappy and im unhappy knowing i cant do anything to fix it but what worries me is that he doesnt care that im so unhappy now theres nothing hell let me do about the situation he promised me he wouldnt try to kill himself but hes still drinking weve broken up or whatever but i miss hearing from him " i love you" and i miss saying it yesterday i was talking to him and he just sayd i gotta go bye and it hurt me so bad not seeing the i love you more than anything at the end im trying to be there for him but hes not letting me its like hes trying to shut me out i dont know what i can do i love him to much to just let him go and be in this depression i want to help but he wont let me what can i do??? -broken hearted

wow im so sorry for both of you. as far as he goes, it sounds as if you need to get him some help. anyone could do it. a parent,teacher, or even a phyciatrist. try and see him everyweekend and talk to him whenever he needs someone to talk to. once he gets over it (which im sure will eventually happen) you guys can go on with your lives whether its seperatly or together. but as for now, try to give him some space and find somebody else. give him time alone to do whatever he needs to do (except drink himself to death or do anything else to him). but do find him help, it will be the best thing you could do for him. good luck

Q: This is so corny but i need help! I'm at a camp for my sport and there is this guy and all the girls think he is hot, and he is!! But he's so shy and doesn't talk a lot. But he talked to me during a drill and kept giving me advice (he's really really good) and then saying "that's really good" even when it wasn't and walking back from a drill we talked. he's a year younger than me. but we actually had a conversation and i havent seen him talk that much cept during the game to get passes and such. i'm not sure how to get is AIM s/n, phone # is a bit to foward for me... all the other girls are so much prettier how can i make him see me more?? how can i talk to him more without looking pathetic n how can i ask him for his s/n?! (hurry camp ends friday!!) thanks!!
signed-corny

well just keep doing what your doing! if you already got to talk to him and hes given you advice, keep asking for it! tell him thats hes good at giving advice and then ask if you could have his phone #, sn, or whatever so that if you ever need more advice, you can ask him for it. good luck!

Q: Does anyone know where to get all the old green day cds? i cant find them anywhere

some are...
Dookie
39 smooth
Kerplunk
Insomniac

Thanks Bundles!

usually borders has a lot of old cds and new ones and if you cant find them there then you can always look on ebay im sure youll find one there!

Q: okay i have a two-part question here, lol

1) wat a good hair straightener? as exact as you can get, please

2)how much does proactiv cost and how can i even get the stuff?

thanks so much :D

ok well im not so sure about the hair straightner but i do know bout the proactive! well it costs $60 and with that you join there little club thing and get a new batch of stuff every two months and you can just go to the website www.proactive.com and place an order!

Q: Hey.
Alrighty my boyfriend and I are constantly fighting over the stupidest things such as whos right and whos wrong. He hates Green Day but i LOVE them and when i got my ticket for the concert he got pissed at me. But i KNOW he loves me and i love him so much i dont wanna lose this. Our 3 month "anniversary" is in 11 days and im so happy with the relationship. But i think his trust issue is getting in the way. And i dont mean for that to sound mean cuz im not TRYING to be. But i NEED him to know he can trust me. Hes accused me of cheating on him with my ex who now lives in germany then felt SOO bad for doing it. He has had a rough time growing up and feels like he cant trust many people. What can i do to help him know he can trust me...with ANYTHING?
Thanks for any and ALL advice!!
=)
-*-Hanny-*-

P.S. SOrry its so long.=/

Well when you guys fight its only meaning that your learning what irritaes the other person so its kinda a learning exeriance if you know what i mean. this way youll know what not to bring up or talk about. and about the whole trust thing, well talk to him and tell him that you love him and have been with him for 3 months and would never even dream about cheating. its just wrong and he was wrong the last time he accused you. just remind him how you felt when you were accused and how bad he felt for doing it. dont rub it in his face to much though cuz that might just tick him off. also make sure to tell him your sorry about his past but it is the past and nothing can be done about it now. hakuna matata! good luck!

Q: hi well my mom works with this woman named Faith.And she has 2 sons and there in a band.And they heared I sing.And they need a lead singer.And I would like to now different warm up exrssies to get ready for my try out got any ideas?

i heard having honey b4 u sing really helps... good luck!

Q: im a 13 yr old black female in okc and my bf is 16 and my daddy found out everything about what me and him been doin he said if i end up pregnant he is throwing him in jail for statutory rape. im scared about that can that really happen i thought you have to be at least 18 yrs old for all that to happen please anyone look this up for the state of oklahoma

hey ya you hafta b 18 but your dad can still go and get some restraining order or something put against him. just make sure you guys use protection ;-)

Q: I'm 13, I've had very oily skin since I was 10 *including the black heads and pimples* I've tried so many products such as clean & clear, noxema, ponds, clearisil, (all those otc products) but nothing works to clear it up. I want to go to the derm. but we have no money for it, there for no money for Proactive either. What should I do, is there anything yall recomend ?

i was right there with you and then i managed to talk my mom into taking me to the derm. and he recomended a couple things. one are these pills call tetrocyclin and they work so good its scary and then anything that has the ingrediant benzyol peroxide in it with a high percent (around 5% is good)

Q: i have the hicups what should i do to get rid of them please help i really really need it and i need it bad because i have them for like fifteen hours

dude that happens to me all the time. wut always helps is if i swallow a spoon of sugar, maybe two. it might seem gross, but it actually tastes good.

Q: ok i have this really good friend(we will call her sue) who really likes this guy(we will call him joe) and has liked him for like 5 years and is seriously obsessed wiht him. but the problem is that i now like Joe and my other friends want me to go out with him but i dont want Sue to get mad at me. and i no for a fact that Sue would hate me for life for she wanted to kill this other girl that was going out with him for a while. Also my friends who want me to go out with Joe have been talking with him and they said that he said that i should not care what Sue thinks and i kind of have the feeling that He will never go out with sue anyway. advice on what i should do please? thanks.

Hmm. Well try talking to sue i mean cause if she really is a good friend of yours she should let you go for him. and if you do and she gets mad, shes your good friend and shouldnt b mad at you at all let alone "for life" if she still says no, wait a while and see if she becomes less obsessed. if not i guess you should try a dif guy because you should never let a guy go between you and your friends. the friends are there for the long run and guys can break your heart pretty fast (not that he will nessicarily but im just sayin) good luck!

Q: Okay so there`s this boy and i really like him. a lot. okay so i hang out with him a lot then one day i told him i like him and he blushed and changed the subject right away. so we were hanging out 2 days ago and he was being really sweet. not that he`s never sweet or anything but he was different. it was me and him. he was being really nice. he insisted on buying me food. when it started pouring on us.. he took of his sweater and gave it to me. everytime i look at jeff i catch him looking at me and he blushes and then he smiles at me. what do you think? do you think he likes me or is he just being nice because he knows i like him? you don`t have to be positive but i just want a few opinions. PLEASE help! i rateee =D

thats so sweet!! it def sounds like he likes you because usually (at least with the guys i no) if they find out they like you then they start to act kinda weird and/ or aviod you. i think that u guys would b really happy together! good luck!

Q: Ok..Im 13 ((almost 14))..and Im 5 foot 10 inches and like REALLY skinny..Is being tall like a turn off to guy..

High Rates for good advice

that is the same exact thing for me cept im a year older. i doubt its a turn off guys are just a little intimidated by it but they so get over it. like last year i was pretty much the tallest in the grade but this year everyone was about my size. so dont worry it doesnt last long at all. keep your head high and theyll all see you shining through!

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Hey guys! My name is Leah and I am 15 years old. I'm from Maine where it's always beautiful but for some reason, everyone here wants to leave it. I love playing basketball and just hangin out with my friends whenever I can. I am the advice giver in my group of friends and I always help them out with whatever it is they may need. When I get older I want to be a phyciatrist and have a huskey named Isabella. I don't know why but I do. If you have a problem, I am here for you and wont judge you at all. I never pass up on a question passed to me so don't be shy. I've been through a lot in the past 15 years and I'm sure I will be able to answer a majority of you guys' questions. Hit me up and don't forget to live for the moment. It's the most important thing you can do.