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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
If you send question in my inbox, you'll be answered FIRST.
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well I was with this guy at the start of the year well we broke up and he still told people that he likes me...me and him had stopped talking for a while and then started talking again because we both hung around with this girl named millisa now when i sy talk i mean hi and bye in the hall she tells me he likes me but she lies alot..well latley he has been talking to me and giving me hugs when ever I ask for them..but whenever anyone else asks for hug he says no...and when any of my friends try to talk to him he walks away without saying much..now can this mean he likes me or am I just a cool friend
It sounds to me that he still might have something for you.
Unfortunately, the only way to get to the bottom of this is to see what happens, or just ask him.
Ask yourself what it would mean if he still had feelings for you. Would you try and work it out? Do you still like him, too?
If you still have something back for him, then it might be worth another chance, depending on the reason you broke up in the first place.
Let me know what happens! =)
okay so ever since i was little i would get cold sores, herpes simplex 1. i learned in class that 80% of people get them. But, i was just wondering, if i were to perform oral sex (when i did not have an outbreak) could i still give it to the guy on his genitals?
Yes, if there are open sores on your mouth it's possible to spread herpes to the person you are performing oral sex on-- and kissing.
Stay away from things that make your mouth hot--like spicy and acid foods/drinks.
Milk is a good home remedy that can also make the sores settle.
Hope I helped! =)
I am dealing with a huge weigh on my shoulders. Last year I went through the hardest time of my life. I had been with my ex-boyfriend on and off for almost a year and a half. He moved away for school but we hook up when he would come home. I ended up pregnant and he made me feel like there was no way to keep the baby. I was in a horrible state with my hormones running wild and all the added stress of school. I was 2 months away from receiving degree. But I knew it was going against everything I believe in.
I feel totally depressed. Its been a year and I still have the pregnancy weight, I feel totally guilty for what I did. It kills me inside to think about what I did. I have no one to talk to because its such a sensitive issue. My friends haven't been through this and I dont want to dwell my issues on them. I lost all my confidence i feel fat and ugly because of what I did. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel totally alone :*(
The decision you made what yours, and there isn't much you can do about it now. You're feeling guilty, and still debating with whether or not you made the right decision. Now is the time to start reliving your life and getting everything you love about back on track.
There's no easy distraction after going through something so painful.
Just know, that if your friends a friends-- you are never ever ever a burden to them. Feel free to tell them when you're having one of THOSE days when you feel rock bottom. They'll listen.
Maybe the more you talk about this, the more you'll learn about the experience. There's support groups for women who have abortions. My mom did after she was raped, and she's still dealing with it.
Mistakes happen, the idea is to learn from them and leave the rest in God's hands.
Take care. =)
This is gonna sound gross but, i have a problem when im at school i go to the bathroom twice a day but, i always end up smelling like urine or period blood and i dont have a period cuz i ont have any eggs and i always wipe really good and i change my underwear everyday and i dont wear underwear to bed so, whats should i do and could something be wrong.
p.s. i am a virgin
It's suggested that all women are seen by a gynecologist by the time they start menstruation. The fact that you have any kind of odor, says that you may have some kind of bacterial infection. It's always better to get checked out, but I will say that in the mean time-- there's home remedies that may assist you.
Depending how long this has been going on, this may just mean that you need a different type of hygiene product for your vagina.
Try an unscented soap for the mean time. If this doesn't stop the smell, it's definitely time for a check up-- just to make sure that everything is running smoothly down there.
I'm a virgin too, and I've dealt with some issues down there. But luckily, most issues you have can fix up on there own as long as there not bacteria of infection related.
Give it a week with unscented soap, no tight pants, and yes-- underwear to bed.
Good luck! =)
Heey!
the bottom layer of my hair is always so disgusting. it gets knotty and snarled with split ends all over. i condition it all the time and the rest of my hairs fine. how do i fix it? please help. thankss!
i have borderline wavy hair btw.
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If you're straightening your hair try Remington Wet to straight. Other then that, it's going to take a hair cut to fix you up good. Combs are better then brushes when your hair is wet, too.
Good luck! =)
Hi i have REALLY thick hair and it is naturaly curly, and I mean curly. It gets frizzy super fast. It is about shoulder length, so i want to keep it that long. I also have side bangs but they are growing out. If anyone has any suggestions or information about thining, de-frizzing, or managing super curly, frizzy, or thick hair, please write back. It would also be nice if anyone had ideas about side bangs because i like them, but they are hard to manage. And when i get my hair wet and let it air dry, or go in the pool and get out, it gets frizzy, curly, and uncontrolable soo fast. Its not very nice. Any suggestions would be wonderful!!
Ask your hairdresser to thin it out by using a razor on your hair, instead of scissor. By razor I told mean what you shave your legs with either. I went to hairdressing school, and it's a professional tool used specifically for your hair.
Good luck!
Does anyone know where i can watch full episodes of "I know my kid's a star"??
THanks so much!
My bad.. hun.
what are some symptoms of being pregnant ?
every pregnancy test i looked at at walmart says "you can tell 5 days before your missed period" so its too early for me to take one of those tests .
but every since me and my boyfriend had sex like my last day being on my period and he cummed in me a little bit - ive had this clearish white stuff come out on my panties everyday . my stomach randomly aches on and off . i have lost my appetite , like i dont eat as much as i normally do . i feel like im gonna throw up everytime after i eat but i never actualy throw up .
are any of those symptoms of being pregnant ?
i want to take a test but my period shouldnt be until around the 25th so the pregnanacy tests wont show up correct yet .
The early signs of pregnancy are morning sickness, tender breast, fatigue, tummy aches, headaches, constipation, and mood swings.
Keep an eye on those until you can grab a pregnancy test.
Good luck!
i am 19f and and i have been experiencing very bad jealous and anxiet attacks. i am overly sensitive as well and it GREATLY effects my relaitonships with everyone. my boyfriends, friends and family. it is not good and i cant help it. idk what to do. should i see a therapist
I suffer from anxiety, and it's harder then a lot of people know to get through.
What I did, is I found a PSYSCILOGIST.. instead of a psychiatrists. Drugs for anxiety aren't always nessecary.
Good luck.. and write me if you ever need a friend who understands.
ok so me and my friend are reallly close ill tell her everything. but she wants me to do her a huge favor she wants me to date her ex because he likes her but she doesnt like him. i mean hes cute but idk if i want to date him because idk how do i tell her i dont want to do this.
Ultimately, this decision is up to you. But you shouldn't be or feel responsible for doing her dirty work. If she doesn't like this guy, it should be her dealing with it, not you.
If you don't have feelings or even like this guy, then whats the point of wasting your time?
Be rational about this, and your friend should support and understand your decision-- if in fact she is a good friend.
My brother is a little wild thing when he's ready and today when i came home, my mom told me he knocked out one of his front tooth. It looks really weird, it is COMPLETELY knocked out.
should we carry him to a dentist tomorrow?
He's probably in so much pain, you might want to consider the Emergency Room.
But yes, ABSOLUTELY, get him to the dentist. They can probably give him a tooth crown, which connects one fake{porcelain}..to two others around the tooth that was knocked out.
okay so i got my first serious boyfriend in december... and we dated for almost 4 months...but he was the first guy ive ever felt that way about...all the other guys from my past its never felt right which is why i would never pursue a relationship...but with this one it was different. he was so perfect.
well we broke up about a week before our 4 month because it was a long distance relationship and the stress was just really getting to him. it was really hard for me because i love him. i tried to pull myself together but i cried all the time which only led to more fights with him.
then i decided that if i cant have him as my boyfriend i still want to have him as a friend because he knows me better than anyone. so i pulled myself together and acted like i was fine and things were going good, and we still talked all the time...probably just as much as when we were dating.
then we got into another fight and things were just bad. he told me not to call him or text him and if i did then i could delete his number from my phone. so it was hard but we didnt talk for 4 days. then he called me and we talked about it and he said he just needs to focus on other things and he cant have a relationship with me right now...but maybe in the future. i know he still loves me and i obviously am very much in love with him and he tells me that he doesnt want me to get over him but he doesnt want to be with me and we barely talk now which is super hard for me.
its so hard for me to be his "friend" when i still have all these feelings for him and he is so good at showing that he doesnt even care. anyway, i dont know what to do. im not ready to move on but its so hard keeping my feelings inside. i just love him so much but i dont want to keep making his life worse because of what i want.
It sounds to me like this boy is trying to hold on to you, but push you away at the same time. Pursuing a friendship after a relationship is one of the trickiest parts of love. It's hard to have a person break you heart and then try to comfort you, too.
But this is when you need to decide what's more important to you-- a friendship with him, or a relationship{sometime in the future}. Right now, you can't have both since he's not exactly working his feelings in your favor.
By being his friend, you're going to be more prone to hurting a lot of the time. If you really want this, you'll have to avoid conversation which leads to the relationship you once had.
If you really can't handle being his friend, because you love him-- you're just going to have to wait. But, it's not fair of him to give you false expectations and make you feel like there's a chance when in fact there may not be.
I really hope this all works out for you. Keep your head up and remember that there's a new beginning at every ending. Missing him is going to hurt--- bad. But, every day will become a bit easier.
Good luck!! =)
well, im 13 years old and i want a summer job but i still cant find one. ill work 3 times a week, no weekends. but the trouble is i cant find a job anywhere since im too young. i am in sunset park in brooklyn. do u know if there are any jobs around there that a 13 year old can work in?
When I was your age, I looked into baby sitting. Honestly, I was making $10/hour at my first job.
Look into local newspapers to find different families who are looking for a part time nanny for after school.
Brooklyn definitely has a lot of families up and around the area.
Other then babysitting, I don't know of many places which will hirer under the age of 15/16.
But I wish you the best of luck in your search!
Please answe if you've got personal experience from highschool:
This is my first year of high school and I need some studying tips and advice and methods that worked out really great for you. I was really smart at my old school but now I can't handle all the work in highschool and studying everything we learned for 4 classes at once for exams that determine a huge chunk of our grade.
Example: I had an 86 in geography before the exam and then after it went down to a 76!
I have a 96 in French and I don't want my marks to drop down in all my classes this semester like the classes in last semester.
thank you!
Flash cards can do wonders! Read them out loud.
Have a study partner. [not a kissy-face one though =)]
While reading, take notes by typing the important things, and creating a "review sheet" for yourself.
You can handle it-- teachers are well aware that you are in several classes, and won't overwork you.
Good luck! =)
17/f
i broke up with my boyfriend on monday. he was unsure of our relationship and was doubting and apparently "confused" about it. i decided to break it off so i wouldnt get hurt in the end. now, he's telling me that he never was gonna break up with me in the first place. im shocked and devastated. ive been seeing this guy for five months. well...now..even though he doesnt suggest we get back together (even though he shows it through body language) he flirts like CRAZY with me. i dont understand why. he points to places where we used to make out...touches me...all those things. i thought that breakups meant ignoring the other person. what does this all mean and how should i act? should i follow him around or ignore him? i dont wanna seem desperate. thank you in advance :)
It sounds to me like there is still some post-feelings lingering between you guys. Right now, it may feel good, but sometimes confusing to you-- but later these flirtations may bite you in the butt.
For example, even though you two are broken up-- he's choosing not to let you forget it by pointed out constant reminders of the relationship you used to bear.
This is quite normal for boys at that age-- who are still debating with whether or not they made the right decision to stay broken up. He's probably testing you, seeing if you still think about the places you've kissed and such.
If you're ready to let this relationship fizzle out, I suggest that you hold back on flirting back, and signaling to him that you miss him or what you had with him.
If you're okay with the though of getting back together, then it's best to just talk to him instead of having all these mixed feelings hanging over your head.
I wish you the best of luck. Keep me updated! =)
16/m gay
this is a very long story. i have had the biggest crush on this guy (call him bob) since i met him two years ago. well, me and someone else (call him bill) started goin out, but i still liked bob. well, now bob has finally told me that he wants to go out. so i broke up with the bill (which caused a BIG emotional scene), but i think it was the right thing to do.
but yeah, i really like bob, and he is finally giving us a chance. we are gonna see each other next month. we live a couple of hours apart, so we dont see each other a lot. my main thing is, that i dont wanna seem to desperate, cause i dont wanna scare him, but i dont wanna give him the impression that i dont care about us goin out, cause i have been waiting for this for so long.
also, because i really like him, i would probably do anything he wanted to do, even if it went against my morals. and i mean have sex with him. i want to do that, but i dont want to because i think it might seem kinda desperate after going out for only a month. he knows i have liked him for a long time, and he has liked me too. the reason he never went out with me before was because he didnt want me to have to go through all the pain of a long distance relationship (i had been through it before).
i need to know what i should do when we get to see each other. neither of us want other people to know that we are going out, so whatever we do will happen in private, which makes it more likely that we will go too far. i need to know how not to go too far. i love him, and he loves me. but, i dont want to lose myself to him after going out with him for only a month. i do eventually plan on losing myself to him, probably on his birthday (because he turns 16), but i dont want to before then.
i just need advice on how to go through all of this, because we only get to see each other a couple of times a year, and i want those times to be memorable for both of us, but not to the point where either of us will go to far and ruin the relationship
There are other ways to do things, that aren't exactly sex. Don't over think all of this. When you see him, read his actions and body language. If making out leads to other sorts of sexual activity-- then do what you feel is right at the time.
I'm very careful about the people I hook up with. I have never been with a person who I didn't love, or at least want to love. But I do know that hooking up can really bring two people closer together. It can strengthen a bond more then you ever knew.
When you do those things with another person, especially for the first time-- you're giving a lot to the other person. They're seeing your body, and seeing a part of you that they haven't before. It's special, and beautiful-- especially when you are in love.
I wish the best for you, but hope that you don't over-evaluate this date you have with him the future. If you love each other, then everything will fall together when you see him.
so im 13 & i want a boyfriend and all the guys that like me are ugly but thats my opion but yeah i really do want a boyfriend yett theres no one that really catches my interest really so what do i do ? and i want a guy to ask me out because to me its wierd for girls to ask guys out lol so yeahh HELPPPPPPPPP
please :)
Guys at your age are come off more shy then girls do. If you want to win over a cute guy, you're probably going to be stuck making a move.
Fine a guy who catches your eye first, and catch his right back. Once eye contact is there, focus on him asking you out. If he doesn't, don't assume that he's not interested.. he's probably just nervous.
Guys get a lot cuter as they get older, but only looking as a face can sometimes cancel out how wonderful they'd be to you in a relationship.
So what are some good ways to drive a boy insane? what are some ways to tease him in such a way that it annoys him but at the same time he loves it!?? What are some things i can say that will drive him crazy and make him really interested? im super curious! =P oh and most importantly of all, how do u tease a boy with a huge eho who seems to have an answer for everything and nothing seems to bother him?
Myyy specialty.
First of all.. Don't pay too much attention to him, but when you do, always come off both insulting and flirtatious at the same time. Act confident and sexy. Make yourself always appear as if you're on a higher ground, just kind of looking down on him. But don't act snotty in the same way.
When he teases you, tease right back. If he acts like he knows everything, assure him that he's not perfect, but you find that it's cute how he tries to be.
Boys who pretend that nothing bothers them, may have some insecurities. So when he's not messing with your head, have a real conversation with him so that he doesn't assume that you're not a nice person all the time.
Good luck!!
I have a Hitachi video camera, Model is DZ-MV580A. It did not come with a manual, as I did not buy it new. I have figured out most of it but need to know how to delete "thumbnails" from a video. Example I have a 30 min. video that I started and stopped 9 times. Each time I stopped the camera it created a "thumbnail". Before I finalize the disk and present it I have 3 thumbnails I need to delete. Any advise would be great!
Go to the Hitachi website, and look for a customer line you can call to seek out this answer.
If not, Circuit City, Best Buy, and Radio Shack are coorperations made to help people figure these things out.
Good luck!
okk so my boyfriend and i have been going out for a little over three months. and we've started saying "i love you" and all that. but all we've done really is make out. i want to do something to show him how much i really do love him. he's really shy and so am i so i dont really know what i could do. how do i take our relationship to the next level??
Well, since you love each other, you should be able to be honest and talk about taking things to the next level.
He may be nervous, or think that you're not ready to go passed kissing, which is normal for a good, respectful guy.
If talking seems out of the querstion, try making out more passionately, or just differently then you usually do. He'll sense the change, and maybe that spark something. Other then that, put your hands where you want his hands to go.
He sounds to me like a boy who has a great deal of respect for you and your body.
Good luck!