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Q: My neighbor asked me to mow her lawn for $25. I mowed the front yard and the sides of the house and got $15. Now all that's left is the back yard.

I tried to mow it today and I looked down at my feet and ants completely covered my feet. So I took off my shoes and ran home, slapping my feet to get them off.

Should I tell my neighbor that I won't mow her backyard anymore?

15/f

If i was you i would tell her you wouldnt do the yard because there was ants. and to sugust ant spray or something to help with the ant problem. im sure shed appricate it since the ants will eventlly work there way into her house. i would also offer to give the money back because you werent able to finish the whole yard. good luck

Q: what can i do to stop arguing w/ my mom. Talking w/ her about it isn't helping anymore.
-i'm a 16yr old male

well i am a 15yr old female and i argue with my dad constantly. if tried stopping and the thing that seems to help the most is i told my father that im going to ignore him when he wants to start yelling at me or something i walk away or i sit there and ignore him. try going for a walk when you get up set with your mother. good luck i hope my adive helped

Q: my boyfriend and i have had sex with a condom a few times about a week before my period was supposed to start he broke my hymen and i did bleed for about three days, and the next time i bled more. i am 15 and my boyfriend is 16.
my period is not completely regular yet, i have had it for about 2 years. but, my period is late 11 days, it has been later in the past, but because i am sexually active, i'm worried.
is it possible to have gotten pregnant ?
what are some symptoms of pregnancy ?
i think that i've been stressed about it, and thats why i'm late, but i'm worried.
any advice would help =)
also .. if you go to planned parenthood, does it cost anything for birth control ? and will it be confidential ? will it be mailed to your house ?
sorry for so many questions.
thank you !!

some signs of pregnancy are, morning sickness, food cravings, you skip your period. what you should do is pick up a home pregnancy test. so you can stop worrying. the planned parenthood. i honestly couldnt tell you. besides look it up in the phone book and ask them. good luck

Q: My bff has not started her period and won't be starting it until another 2 years or so, (thats the expected time because her mom had her period at the age of 15)Anyways she is 12 going on 13, she as well as I are being pressured into sex by people from our school, from girls as well as guys saying its feels good e.t.c.,But i'm waiting til i'm married. She wants to have sex with her boyfriend and she said she won't get pregnant because she doesn't have her period yet.And I have been told you can only get pregnant if you have your period. Is that true? Can she avoid pregnancy since she don't have her period?I'm sorry this is long its just she's only 12 and I don't want her to get pregnant.Please help!Any advice or ideas would help!!

you can only get pregnany if yyou have your period. although they should use protection (condoms) shes only 12!! thats very young. im 15 and im pregnant. but tell your friend to think about what she is doing its her descion on what she does decide to do. but you dont want her sleeping around with alot of guys. she could pick up and StD. good luck

Q: I have been dating 'Fred' for 3 weeks now. We normally talk every day for like an hour, but recently Fred has been very 'busy'. Once he just didn't want to talk to me and other times he just had some stupid excuse. He never calls me back or anything like that. I haven't seen him in a while, either. He says he is not mad at me or anything like that, but for some reason I get the feeling that he is avoiding me. Am I overreacting or should I actually say something? Because I honestly don't know what's going on, and I can't help but be slightly worried.

yes i think you should say something to 'fred' tell him you trust him but your having feelings that something is up. if he keeps on actting this way its best off to end it.

Q: I am 13 and I still don't have a boyfriend. All my friends have boyfriends and I sometimes feel left out. I also go to and all girls' school so I don't really know alot of guys. But I go to dances and dance with guys. Please help me be flirty and likeable.

first off dont rush into something to quickly. but to flirt more just be your self. dont change your self so i guy will like you. Smile Alot.

Q: So there is this guy nick, and we met at a bat-mitzvah party in like september and had such a good time, joking around and laughing with my friend, Alita.
So the other day, we lots of my friends went to 6 flags. and like for the last hour, we changed groups almost...and i was hanging with nick ali and ali's boyfriend.
I was talking with nick a lot. And again, we were having such a good time. And I found out that Ali and him had talked over the year and stuff... but whatever. We were joking around so much and laughing like crazy people.
And I really like him. And I know this is gunna sound crazy but every time im around him, its just so much fun. Now my questions: How can I know if he likes me? And if he does, should I ask him out? Oh, and one more. If he doesn't like me, what should i do?
It's long... sorry!
thanks though!

i think you just tell this guy nick how you feel about him. go out on a date your self just the two of you. so you can talk alone. good luck

Q: I am 20, a little athletic but i could stand to lose 20 pounds (i'm just a shade under 6' tall, 221 lbs.). I show everyone respect, I'm always referred to as a 'great friend' or 'like a big brother', but no matter how much i try i cannot get past that image. i'm either not seen as a date-able person or everyone i try to get close to lies and leads me on instead of telling me the truth and letting me know why they're not interested or what i was doing wrong. Am i doomed to be forever in the hell that we guys call the "Friend-zone"?
Any and all suggestions are welcome, but I have had enough 'help' from other guys. please understand that i'm looking for the female's answer to my problem.
thank you,
Confused-&-Sad

You hieght and weight is nothing my 16 year old boyfriend is 6'6". i love it it makes me feel likes im safe and no one can hurt me when im with him. i think you need to find a great girl with a great personality. Then do a little flirting. Dont let things go fast. The movies, dinners, call her just because you miss her,etc.

good luck
Ashley

Q: My boyfriend, well currently ex, cheated on me a few months back. We were dating for over 1.5 years, almost 2 so when I found out about it, I broke up with him.

I really wasn't planning on getting back together with him because I was really hurt. Besides the cheating however, I thought he was amazing.

Yesterday he came over to get me back. When we first started dating, I used to make him these cute little signs but I always thought he just threw them away. Well he kept them ALL! :D He made then into a book type thing and showed it to me when he came over. There was at least a 100 of them!

I thought it was the cutest thing ever! So it made me think about taking him back. What do you guys think? Does everyone deserve a second chance?

Aw thats adorable.

i think that a second chance would be nice. but make him want you more. tell him you still have feelings for him and you want to earn his trust back

Good Luck
Ashley

Q: why do guys lead on girls one day then the next flirting with 3 or 4 other ones. i really thought this guy and i had something. i truly did.

The guy you choose, was obviously a player. you need to take your time. get used to getting hurt because its going to happen until you find the right one.

Good Luck
Ashley

Q: Okay well first of all I am 14/f and I have never had a boyfried. I have never even kissed a guy before. Well my question is why? I mean I'm not the prettiest but I have a great personality and I am fun to be around. Do guys only go for looks? What are some things that attract guys or what should I change to get a boyfriend?

Dont change anything about your self. it takes time to find the right guy or even a guy. give it time flirt with a few guys here and there.

Q: I hate my dad..I'm not joking. I honestly do and not just for some stupid reason.
My dad always is threatening my mom with a divorce and stuff she starts crying. I hate seeing her cry when she never even did anything to deserve this. He always is calling her horrible names and cussing at her and me. He hits her sometimes too..she almost called the police. He even hit me once..
I'm so scared of him and so is my mom and my brother. I haven't talked to any of them yet about this. Whenever I hear him yelling or something I'm usually in my room and I start crying because it really is starting to upset me. I can't even TALK to my own dad..whenever he says something to me all the horrible things that he has done to my mom and I in the past just flash back in my mind and I can't speak and I have tears in my eyes. Everytime I hear him screaming at my mom I just want to go down there and tell him to calm down and leave her alone but, I just can't..I'm too scared. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't talk to anyone in my family about this.
How do I help my mom and get my dad to stop yelling all the time?

Alright well i have been in the same position as you. Except things kind have gotten better. when i was younger my dad would tell my mom he is leaving and everyone would cry. well then for the past couple years he has been hitting us mostly me when no one was around then lied about it and my mom would take his side. i relized whats best for them is not to be together. my mother went to California for a visit to my older brother. and while she was gone i got along with my dad for the most part. and thats weriod because it doesnt usally happen try talking to your mom to getting you all to go to a counsler and if it doesnt work maybe your mother needs to break it off.

Q: I have always had a problem with friends. I used to have some reallygood friends but we had a huge fight and we aren't friends anymore. Right now I have only like 7 friends but only two really close ones. My question is how can I make some more close friends? I am going to be in highschool there and people keep telling me well you can make more friends in highschool and stuff. There is one problem though...I live in a small town with only one junior high that goes into te highschool. I basically already know everyone.Where do you think I could meet friends outside of school?

Thanks in advance

Alright my opinion is you dont many friends. Keep the friends you got. The longer you are friends the more of a chance you will be friends the rest of your life. or at least through college and so on. Im going into the 10th grade. and Last year in high school i made plenty of new friends but my old friends are still my best friends even though we tend to grow about a little we still keep each other close.

Good Luck

Q: im 14/f and i have alot of guy friends and also girls friends but i dont know how to ask my mom if i can hangout with my guys friends im always afraid she gunna say no what should i do?

Invite your guy friends over for movies ( i do bomb fires) so my parents get to no them and learn to like them. Now im allowed to go out and hang with them good luck

Q: Hey, me and a girl are going to the movies this weekend and i have a few questions.

1. How can i show how much i like her? (Yes i do like her alot, and i don't want to make out or anything yet...)

2. After the movies she is spending the night at my house, how can i get her to hang out with me instead of my sisters? (She and my sisters are good friends)

3.What are some things we can do while she is at my house?

Thanks in advance!

P.S. we are both 13

At the movies put your arm around her. At your house. play some games with her.Invole your sisters a little to (twister is always a good gamn to play) watch movies together. show her you want have fun and soemtimes telling a girl how you feel about them makes them feel specail and they'd come out to you good luck

Q: okay well i guess ill have to tell the past first but this summer i met this really great guy like perfect n we started talking n everything but school started up so we kind of stopped cause we didnt get to see each other much since we dont go to the same school. but then oct we saw each other again n like he called n texted me later that nite sayin he misses me so we tried again n still didnt work n i just cant stop likeing him n we still like talk regulary now n all.. but i dont know theres this gurl that im really not sure if she likes him or is just a close friend but like says love uu on his myspace thing n i dont want to be noise n be like does she like you cause i mean we arent \"talkin\" right now but i just really want to know n dont know how to ask n we might be gettin back n feb we both get our license n all.. i mean i know i seem jealous but im not i just want to know cause its hard not bein able to be with the person who you really like you know? i dont wanna share.. but i hope you could help?

thanks

i have liked my brothers friends for two years now and i just got up the courge to tell him that i have liked him and i no i could date him till i was 18 any way because he is much older than me just tell him you feel one day when he isnt talking about the other girl looks arent anything hun its the personality be your self. good luck i hope i helped

Q: My little brother is driving me crazy!!! He hits me when he gets mad and leaves bruises! and he wont leave me alone! i have a lock on my door except its a hook lock so he just unlocks it! I would tell my mom but every time i tattle she gets mad at "me"!!! Im 13 and its because h's 10 and her little baby! its driving me crazy and i need help please!!!

I will rate 5 answers

i dont know if this will help but im 14 and i have a 13 year old brother with bad temper. and my little brother tells on me hits me yells at me etc. well i got a lock on my door (save your money and buy one he cant get into) there really isnt away to make him stop id try when he is calm and relaxed talk to him in a soft voice be like how come you hit me when your are mad? like that and if he doesnt answer or hits you try the lock thing ignore him pretend it doesnt bothe ryou god luck

Q: We'll im kinda sick of my boyfriend. Hes getting really clingy & just acting like were going to get married. Plus im not sure I like him anymore. I want to be single again, yet I still want him as a friend because hes really nice & understanding. Im not going to be a jerk and break up with him online because thats just anonying, but can anyone suggest other ways I could possibly end it with him? i'll rate & im 14/f

if you seriously just want to be friends tell him that be like i think we should just be firends i broke up with my ex boyfriend like 3 weeks ago and it took him a ocuple days to under stand he still likes me and we have a few arguements i told him i dont feel the same way about him as he does me i hope i kinda helped good luck

Q: Yeah... so i'm a freshman (14 M) this year at FMHS in Flower Mound, TX...and there's this really hot senior girl that i only see in the hallway, but i don't know how to meet her. What do i do?

hey im a freshman to 14/f well my advice to you is while your walking down the hall just be like Hi im _____ how are you .and whats your name.

Q: Ok well there's this guy at my skool who acts like a total retard...like all the time..he's mature looking but he acts immature. Well he likes me...and he's always going out of his way to get in my face and act retarded...literally..im not just usin retarded as a way to say actin like an idiot! Like I never even noticed him until he started appraochin me and,,at first I was like ewww...but now im so0o confused..it's like i cant wait till I get out of my class to "run into" him in the hallway....idk if I like him or what..like it's so wierd...i think about if he were to ask me out..nd my first reaction would be no..but then why do i think about him and want to see him??? I'm really confused and I'll rate 5's if you even try to answer my question! thx!

hey well i think you like him deep down but his imaturity level as proved to him being a good enough boyfriend yet but being imature isnt to bad i was in the same situation but it turned out alright because he was fune to hang with good luck

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.