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Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years and I love him alot. Things are pretty good in our relationship, we don't really fight or anything.

Anyways, he recently got a job and he got a cellphone. I was putting my parents phone number into his phone and noticed there were two girls numbers in there that I've never seen or heard about. As I was doing that, he got a text message from one of the girls. And it simply said "Hey". Then the next day I went to use his phone to text message my sister and noticed that his inbox had been cleaned out. So of course, I get the feeling that he's hiding something..

Basically, it this harmless text messaging that's going on between them or should I be concerned? It's really none of my business who she is, but I'm curious as to where he got the number. I don't know if it's my place to ask him, let alone even know how to approach him about it.

Any advice/help would be great!

well i went to text my brother from my boyfriends phone and there was a couple texts from his ex girlfriend. and i asked him about him. i mean you could try asking him just tell him you were just wondering were you meet her or how come he never mentioned her. if he gets really angry theres probly something hes hiding.

Q: Someone likes me. My friend told me that he only likes me because he probably thinks im easy. -- What makes a girl easy anyways? And how can he tell?

in a guys eyes girls are easy if they sleep with alot of guys or will do anything with them right away

Q: Im getting bored of it. It either goes straight down, or i scrunch it. What other possible hair styles can i do that takes less than 30min. ?

you could braid the top half leave bangs down if you want. and curl the back part.

Q: its my boyfriends bday next weekend and i wanna do something special and i was thinking about how we had a really crappy homecoming bc we were both pissed about something and i wanted to kind of recreate like our own little hc lol like go out to eat but i dunno where to go after. i was thinking like in the middle of no where somewhere and play music outta my car and dance n stuff lol i got a truck and we could like sit back there watch the stars( he's into all that camping star watching stuff)ya know but i have no clue where we could go that wouldnt be on somebodies property and i dont know anyone with land and im kind of the inbetween town between country and the city. I live in houston tx please help.

try like a parking lot to a park or beach or something.

Q: I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 19. I want to get him something for Christmas, but he keeps insisting he doesn't need anything. I still really want to get him something and I am frustrated that I don't know what to get! Please help me with some ideas.

i am going throgh the same stuff with my boyfriend almost same ages. so i bought him a promise ring and had something engraved in the inside that ment something special good luck

Q: So one side of my body, My hips are curvey. On the other side, its not, at all. I dont know if its bc i have like more dat on the one side or what. But Im in basketball, so Im running, and Im running after practice too. But to me it seems not to be getting any better. Is there anyway I could get the one side to be like the other? not as curvey?

Im not positive if this will work but i think is will... lay on one side andyour arms above your head and your legs one on top of the other. raise the top arm and the top leg together slowly and slsowly back down do it ALOT

Q: okay i really like this guy but im 15 and he's 17. im not sure if im getting a message or something from him. he's brought me home from school monday and friday (today). and we were talking about serious relationships and how they are hard to find. On out way to my house there was this guy in his car staring at him, and i said "looks like he's checking you out" and he was like nah, i'd much rather a girl check me out. then he was like he was probably checking you out, your the pretty one in this car, or something like that.

i love the conversations we have. like its just, i feel so comfortable around him, around most guys i would have to have all my makeup on or partilly (sp). around him i could care less, and he still talks to me as if everything was still on.

any advicee?

Age doesn't matter. You should throw some signs like flirting slip in the words do you think age matters in a relationship? good luck

Q: i really really like this guy in my grade. he's completely hilarious and he always makes me have a good time when i'm around him. i want to tell him i like him so that he will ask me out. i'm almost positive he likes me. there are so many different signs i cant evem list them. do you still think i should tell him? or wait and not bother?

Totally tell hiM!!!

Q: were getting our yearbooks in a week and i would like to put in my boyfriends yearbook that i want to kiss him(accually kinda make-out) but i dont know how to tell him in his yearbook. im to afraid to ask him in person so i want to put it in his yearbook. we have been going out for almost two months and we havnt kissed yet and im dying to make-out with him.it would be my first time making-out(ive alredy had my first kiss) and for some reason i really want my first time to be with him. can someone give me some ideas about what i could write?i have one idea and that is to put after p.s. im still waiting for my kiss but thats all ive got.thanks to anyone whoe trys!

I've spent about 15 minutes trying to think of a good quote for you this is pretty corny but it is cute, if i guy wrote it to me id diffently kiss him...

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Making out with you
would make all my dreams come true

Q: okay i have this ex bf who i still like so much its not even funny. out of all the guys ive gone out with, i alwyas wish i was with him. ive gone out with him about 5 times already this year
well hes mad at me for like the bazillionth time and i hate when hes mad at me because we dont talk or anything
and so i really screwed up this time because i acually started acting tough to him. i have a lot of guy friends that are in a gang so whenever i have a problem i tell my guy friends and they usually just scare the person. so my ex was calling me slut, dumb drunk, and other words i dont think i can say on here and coming from him it means a lot to me so i said he should watch it, and that got into this big deal and how im a fake and all this stuff.

i dont wanna act tough. i just wanna act like i dont care, because i cant really talk to him since he wont care and hes one of those guys that when they say they dont care. they mean it.
but its killing me not talking to him.
pleasee help me. i think about this 24/7 and just thinking about this deal makes me acually tear up.

me and my ex went through the samething you are. were just friends talking things out. but you need to tell him how you feel and how when he says those things to you, you take them offensivly because you really care about him and you never felt that way for someone. talking it out always works but dont raise your voice... with my ex. he yelled at me at the bowling alley and wouldnt quit he pushed me and stuff and hit my head on the wall and i cried and he finally relized how much he was hurting me. dont let it get that far. try talking it out first GOOD LUCK!

Q: me and my boyfriend got in a HUGE FIGHT bascically he cheated on me but wont admit it. So to make along story short im planning on fighting the girl this friday . Anyway i never got in a fight before and i wanted some advice like lol what to do should i hit her in the eye like what lol i feel stupid but im not really a fighter.. haha advicee would be nice

okay so every person answered your question with dont fight. i dont think you should fight either. but i fought girls that hooked up with my ex but when you make a fist.. curl your first three fingers from your pinky. have your point finger down like your nail touching the botton of you thumb and your thumb acrossed thatto pop out your kuckles to puch between the eyes.

Q: i don't feel like i am pretty enough to get a b/f.....i mean i wish guys would go for personality instead of looks......i would have a b/f but every guy that attends my school are into the same girl.....do you think anybody will ever like me....because i want somebody real and somebody that will treat me special....and just love me.....do you think there is such thing as him out there....??

Yeah you will find a guy who likes you for who you are. it takes time to find a guy. older guys tend to look more for personality because they are looking to settle down. good look sweetie

Q: 16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.

hey sweetie i understand exactly what your going throw. i never really had many friends and the friends i did have or hung with i didnt fit it. people were always talking about me behind my back in school. i didnt do well is school because i was worried about everything. things got alot better. but i messed them up by getting pregnant, my parents split up, my grandpa wont talk to me, i never see my boyfriend, i lost the friends i did have. i cry nightly and started cutting althought i stopped for the baby. you were brought to earth for a reason hun thats how i look at it and when there is a reason for me to leave ill be sent away. but until then you need to stick out. dont judge people to much and try talking to more people i no its hard to get back out there but youll always have people who care about you. if you need some one to talk to email me please. hyperchick1258@yahoo.com

Q: how do i break up wit him?!! he luvs me alot but he luvs another girl 2 and im srry but i cant handle that!!! how do i let him down easily? im a 15 year old girl in a crisis!!!

you need to talk with him and tell him how you feel. tell him that you dont like being with someone who is in love with someone else as well. tell you two need a break to think about things.

Q: My boyfriend is the nicest person I have ever met and he would never tell someone that he didn't want to see them any more or say something in a way which could be offensive or taken the wrong way. But his ex is sooooo overprotective of him and her family puts alot of pressure on him and gives him death stares and stuff coz he broke up with her and he's now going out with me. She tries everything she can to get between us and both their families do alot of things together so it isn't like he can't just stop seeing her. Sometimes we just want to be alone but she is ALWAYS at his place, every single day guarenteed. Their families are pretty close so he doesn't want to cause problems and even when we do want to be alone my bf is too nice to just ask her to go away or whatever. She's always hanging around him and is so jealous and tries so much stuff...my bf is so stressed out and I don't know what to do...
can anyone please help me?!

my boyfriends ex girlfriend was always in mine and my boyfriends buisness. Always calling him and flirting with him. Then trying to be my friend. i asked her politely to just let us be. and it worked for awhile until she started calling him again. i told her more angryly to just leave us alone. with your situation maybe the three of you should have talk . tell her how you feel.

Q: I dont have a best friend, I never did, I am not in a clique, and I dont have many friends. Sounds fun, right? Yeah right. There is a major clique problem in my school-- I figure, If i cant fix it, find the clique I fit in. Idont fit in any clique. The popular kids rule the school. I'm friends with indivudual Pop ular kids but together, i'm a no one. Most kids in my school dont like me, dont ask me why but i really want more friends. I tried out for cheer. and kick. and didnt make it, I was dissapointed because I really wanted to be part of a team. And have those girls to sleepover with and have my 'group'. Help?

I rate high!

(13/f)

your really dont need that many friends. i have three friends i really talk to and hang out with. my boyfriend, his sister, and my guy friend rob. you dont need to be part of a group be your self. and you will make plenty of friends. you want to be part of a team try out for different sports team i did soccer and made a few girlies to talk to. good luck

Q: Theres this guy.

And rumor has it hes liked me briefly three times.

I really like him and I want him to ask me out but I think he likes another girl now.

How can I get him to noticed me?

Tell this guy that you heard a rumor that he likes you and you want to no if its true because you have a crush on him.

Q: all my friends are ragging me that i don't wear any thongs i was wondering why people wear them anyways since they so uncomfortable and what should i do about my friends

i dont think there uncomfortable. before i started wearing them i figured they would be uncomfortable. try different kinds if you want to start wearing them other wise tell your friends how you feel

Q: My mom and dad are having some problems and I've been pretty upset about it. My mom basicaly told my dad that she doesn't like him much anymore just because of their arguments in the past. My mom, dad and I always used to go out on Satudays and do things like go out to eat, go to movies and things like that. Now, my dad and I are the only one's that do that while my mom is out with her new friend drinking at bars and things. Most of the time she even just spends the night at here friends house. I've tried talking to her but its just to akward. What in the heck should I do? Is she mabe having an affair? I don't know what to do or think. Any good advice would do me some good right now. Thanks everybody!

i am going almost throw the same thing but all i can tell you in the end my parents separted. and things are starting to work out i was upset at first until i found out what was bothering my mom try talking to her it maybe akward but your her child she cant just ignore tell her how you feel about it.

Q: ill try to make this simple. so me and this kid went out for like 2 months and became good friends. well we broke up but still talked but one day we got into a fight and he made me mad so i told him to stay outta my life and never talk to me again. that was in the beginning of summer. so we havent talked. well during the summer i messaged him on myspace and was like i miss talking to you and he said get used to it and then i was like whatever fuck it. well now that school has started im a freshman and hes in 8th grade. so different schools but they are right next to eachother. but we see eachother everyday and like we just stare at eachother & i really miss him but idk how to start talking to him again after that. but i really miss him alot. i was thinking online just send him a chat invitation and then close it and say sorry my computers messed up and then see if that just starts a convo but idk what to do. i miss him so much. please help.

i think that you should apporach him when you see him at school. tell him how much your sorry for telling him you didnt want to talk to him ever again and that you miss him. im sure he misses you to good luck.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.