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my boyfriends overprotective ex girlfriend
My boyfriend is the nicest person I have ever met and he would never tell someone that he didn't want to see them any more or say something in a way which could be offensive or taken the wrong way. But his ex is sooooo overprotective of him and her family puts alot of pressure on him and gives him death stares and stuff coz he broke up with her and he's now going out with me. She tries everything she can to get between us and both their families do alot of things together so it isn't like he can't just stop seeing her. Sometimes we just want to be alone but she is ALWAYS at his place, every single day guarenteed. Their families are pretty close so he doesn't want to cause problems and even when we do want to be alone my bf is too nice to just ask her to go away or whatever. She's always hanging around him and is so jealous and tries so much stuff...my bf is so stressed out and I don't know what to do...
can anyone please help me?!
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well maybe you should talk to her for him but ask him first because what if he didnt like that and say to her that your not his girlfriend anymore i m now his life has changed IM SORRY but we wanna spend some time together alone but do it in a nice way dont get in a cat fight wit her... i think shes jelious and is trying to make you mad so that you'll give up BUT DONT GIVE UP hes yours he likes you feal specialer than her because he choses you you no that hes wit YOU...
Merissa x3
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He is going to have to set some boundaries. Every choice we make is like saying yes to one thing and no to something else. You are putting up with him saying yes to being nice to her, while he is saying no to the two of you having time together without her interruptions. His stress is caused really by himself and not her. She is the outside annoyance, but if he wanted to feel good about setting a boundary he could and then there would be no stress. Stress comes in when we are CONFLICTED. In other words he can't make up his mind and he is doing to typical guy thing...avoiding conflict at all cost! This is not about her, as much as it is about his ability to deal with conflict, and if she magically disappeared tomorrow, there would still be his problem. It may not show up for a while, but it would again and again in different ways, unless he changes. If you want to be with him, you either have to put up with his fear, and call it being nice and keep blaming others, or call him on what it really is, and support his making steps to set boundaries and demand respect for himself. Otherwise people will always take advantage of him and he will choose to let them. (You will want to steer way clear of this kind of man in the future when picking a husband.)
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well this is a difficult situation.. i mean she is his ex but she is also a family friend. You or your boyfriend could try talking to her and letting her know you need some space. You have to realize though that its hard for her.. i mean how long were they broken up before you came along? She is probably having a tough time seeing him with another girl.. it can be hard sometimes but she might still have feelings.. don't be afraid of it though.. just give her time or have someone talk to her about it and see what she says and feels. good luck!
-Bess
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my boyfriends ex girlfriend was always in mine and my boyfriends buisness. Always calling him and flirting with him. Then trying to be my friend. i asked her politely to just let us be. and it worked for awhile until she started calling him again. i told her more angryly to just leave us alone. with your situation maybe the three of you should have talk . tell her how you feel.
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