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16/f. I just found out that my mom cheated (or wanted to cheat) on her boyfriend of many years. He is in rehab for drinking and driving and has been in there since about late fall of last year. My mom is 36 yrs old and likes to party on weekends with my best friend's mom and some other people. That doesnt bother me, I like seeing my mom have a good time but my best friend told me last night that she overheard her mom talking about how my mom wanted to hook up or did hook up with my bfs mom's boyfriends friends. (Sorry for the confusion lol) And I've been thinking about it since she told me and it really bothers me. I never saw my mom as a cheater. My mom lives with in my grandparents basement but has an appartment that is for her boyfriend when he comes home and she tells my grandma and I that she stayed there after partying but now I'm starting to think she brought these guys over or stayed with them. I just don't know what to do. I can't even say she did cheat but I am about 90% sure.
Damn. I am so sorry to read this. I know it hurts to hear about it or even think about this. I am first going to encourage NOT to question your mom about her actions or rumor(s) you have heard, because your mom is an adult.I do understand your concerns and embarrassment from this, as I too would be embarrassed and concerned. Usually I encourage openess and communication; however I am not this time, because there are some other issues going on that I have picked up on from reading your question.
Your mom is 36, not 56. That means that she still has some youth in her, regardless of the fact that she has birthed youth. (I am talking about the partying only). She is going to kick it sometimes, and that's cool but why not suggest that she spend some time with you on some of the weekends - (this is encouraging her to slow down a little bit instead of just pointing a finger at her causing a defensive response).
Also, it is important to watch the company kept, regardless of age. From a child to an adult the type of people hung around with do have some influences on lifestyles. I believe in accepting responsibility for actions, however if not around situations, what's the likelyhood of getting involved or being around it?
We as people do develop curiosities to try new things,if she is in deed going through this, then there is nothing wrong with asking her to keep her personal life away from you and your friends as it is concerning at times. Without going into detail about it with her out of respect. I know you like seeing your mom have a good time, but get this - you are her daughter. Wouldn't you feel better not being around her when she is having a good time, just to know she's happy should be enough? depends on what you're use to seeing. I used to kick it in front of my kids, with my friends, drinking, grilling, playing cards, talking Shi*, but you know what? I stopped b/c they were hearing TOO MUCH and I felt stupid doing things and talking about things they talk about at that age. How can I be a role model if I am not setting the example?
My mom NEVER kicked it around me. If she did, she respected me and herself to do it on her time without me around which made me respect her much more.
The cheating thing: If you want your mom to be happy then you understand that she shouldn't have to wait on someone who is locked up, in rehab or flat out isn't available to meet her needs (even if it's just taking a walk in the park) if she doesn't want to, She isn't married. You feel me?
She may have communicated with him that she is going to do her until he gets out, you never know - so try to not question your mom's relationships or judge them. We as mothers don't always tell our children everything and we don't intend on them over hearing everything either.
You must focus on yourself, your life and set goals to strive to be more in life so you get more out of life. The only thing to do, is keep your grades up, be happy and know that you are ONLY ACCOUNTABLE for what YOU do and what YOU get out of life. I can't say your mom is wrong or right, but we can say that she is an adult and old enough to make decisions for herself. At some point, her decisions and thought process may change, but only when she is ready for that change. There are things you can do to promote that change without forcing that change.
Asking for more time
Asking to go to the movies
cooking together
movie night at home
encouraging to move out of your grandparent's basement to start a new daughter/mother relationship all over to make it better.
Stop allowing your mind to make up scerios for you. :"I'm starting to think she brought these guys over or stayed with them" - don't focus on what if's, or what you think you thought, focus on what you know that you know! feel me? our minds are so tricky, hell they make you think things happened with your own self that never happened if you stay on the thought long enough so don't even play the game mentally with your self girl. Focus on improving your mind, spirit, soul and your self and there you find peace!
good luck darlin'! you can email me if you want to also: sophia_pettus@yahoo.com
okay well before you read this. i realy need help. so dont make fun or make rude comments. okay so i made a few fake myspaces just so i could talk to this boy whos older then me and better looking. ive been a fake for about a year without getting caught. i really like this guy now. hes like all i think about. and all i think about it the girl in the pictures and him being together. like fay dreaming. i would always stay up late to talk to him and not do my school work and miss school just to talk to him. now i have to go to summerschool because i failed 2 classes. he just found out i was a fake. but he doesnt know my real identity, which is good since i live in the same town as him and my life would be over if people found out it was me. but anyways i want to think normal again. and NOT think about him. like i forget what its like to be normal, think normal. i miss when i could jsut be ME and not some cyber fake chick. PLEASE HELP ME IM IN NEED OF GOOD ADVICE.
What you did is understandale. No one is perfect we all make mistakes and honestly, it takes maturity to realize a mistake, and admit it and desire to change it for the better. So, first I want to commend you for your question and honesty.
If you have missed school and failed classes, the first thing to do is what you are doing, correcting it. Great job on deciding to go to summer school. While going to school the focus has to be on that while concentrating on not failing again.
The second thing is living in a small community, people are MEAN and judgemental. I lived in one too. Next, because people are already mean and judgemental, they are going to judge you anyway at some point. Seriously. So, You shouldn't give a hoot about what anyone thinks of you, because whatever you do or decisions you make from now on should be about you, your life, and your happiness. With me so far?
Now, the word normal is the opposite of abnormal and you were never that,so let's remove that word from thought(it lowers self esteem)"smile". So, you want things to return to the way they previously were. Right? Now, previously you didn't like him the way you do now, and you have grown attached "to a certain sense" to the communication with him. This must be reversed in order to move forward. We are going to erase the things you want to erase and replace with permanent ink of the things you want to do to feel good about YOURSELF without thinking of what others think or will think of it. It's about YOU.
If you don't wish to be a cyber chic, then don't do the things that cyber chics do. Delete those pages and promise yourself that you done with that chapter of life. I would make NO contact with the guy you were communicating with either, regardless of what you feel. Close that chapter too, because it started off fake, and will end fake. Relationships tend to end the way they start, real talk. PLUS he may have a girl already from what you wrote in your question.
Good Luck and remember: NEW BEGINNINGS COME TO ALL WHO SEEK THEM. You can do it! make it a good one girl!
it is summer of my junior year and I am getting a lot more serious with my school work. My grades have increased, my gpa is finally currently a 3.0. Though my cummulative is not as high I still am working on it. I am visiting UT chat with my mom and girlfriend at the end of july and sort of nervous. I took latin
1 this year but had to drop it due to other things. I am now in summer school voluntary because I need a language credit. The point being, is there any idea of what I can do to stop being nervous for my senior year? I am afraid to lose what I have built, and gained these past years. Especially with my girlfriend, and success in school/family/behavior.
You will not lose what you have built because you have already set it in your mind that you didn't want to lose it. "smile"
Being nervous about going to the 12th grade is perfectly normal and expected. I was nervous too, and even when going to college, I was still nervous!
First, take the classes that you have interest in and the classes you need. With a 3.0 GPA, you are fine. Study, concentrate, and still make time for interests outside of school. Look at it as rewarding yourself as you have remained focus and passed tests by studying. Set goals of attempting to increase your GPA even if it involves extra work for credit, extra research, so on so forth. Invite your girlfriend with you to the library, do homework and studying together. I am sure she has school work to do too. Studying together really does help relieve much stress, I have found and makes it intriguing and exciting to have your partner with you and you with them giving support to one another. Once you have completed the task, take time to go for a walk or do something with eachother, it gives you something to look forward to and relax your mind a little after reading, studying and focusing on classwork.
I have built up a lot of cofidence this past year.
Especially with school and relationships. My girlfriend has almost all this power from me and I have no idea why I let myself give it to her. she's incredible and extremely nurturing. Though she broke up with me for not even a day and then the whole time we were apart it seemed extremely wrong. I realized she was my best friend and my girlfriend.
She cried the whole time she left my house to her best friends. We saw each other that next day and talked the night of all of this. She said it was a mistake. We just had our 4 month and are extremely pleased with each other.
My only issue is..what if this all happens again because I use to be suicidal but now as I have grown it's been something different. When she was there I even broke down I tried holding it in for when she left. Sure, i am emotional but I try my best to make sure she knows it's alright. I am just so scared to lose it all. I think were fine as of now, but if I do end up in that situation again what are some ways I may be able to handle it?
I am SO proud of you for being able to admit and express your feelings so well!! I am also proud of you for being man enough to break down in front of her, it doesn't show weakness, it actually shows strength!
Should she break up with you again- understand that it's more important to deal with your mental first,to prevent suicidal or hurtful thoughts. You must realize that what goes up must come down. What has life, does die at some point. All good things do come to an end eventually, even if you married her later in life, life does end.
Ways of handling it should it happen again-
-taking time to write your feelings in a journal.
-taking time to think about different things you -have interest in doing and go for it.
-Getting more involved with sports or working out, walking or running.
-Meditating
-Not thinking of the hurt, but thinking about the lessons of love and understanding that love does hurt sometimes. It's rain, sunshine, pain, happiness, joy, sadness,and many more emotions all balled up into the mind.
- not communicating with her for a little while until you heal. You said you were best friends, which means you will still communicate off and on which causes more emotion and confusion too.
- tell her up front that she can't run in and out of your life and make sure that what she wants next time and if it is, then respect it.
- spending more time with family, friends
- joining social clubs or community events - use time wisely to help others if you can.
-volunteering at shelters, church, soup kitchens, something that makes you feel good about your self as you are helping others that need you and appreciate you as a person.
-go on chat sites to discuss your feelings and expereince with other people who are going through the same thing as a support group - they help a lot!!
- learn from it so you can use it as you grow more in your life and you can help someone who goes through it. "smile"
Don't worry about that right now, as it can consume your thoughts and play with your mental. right now focus on where you are, your happiness, and set goals for YOURSELF now so that you have something planned out to work on, while in the relationship, and even after the relationship should it happen,write those goals down and cross them out as you accomplish them.
Good luck dearest!
14/f
my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost six months. and i still love him. but he never calls. he never texts. he never emails. and he never offers to hang out. its always me who calls first. and its hard for me. like the other day, i was talking to him, and he's like, "sorry i havent called you in a while, ive been really busy." and i was like, "oh ok, well what have you been up to?" and he goes, "oh nothing." so i was kind of upset that he didnt even come up with an excuse. he always says, "i really love you!" or, "i love you so much" but he doesnt PROVE it. i love him, but i cant keep doing this. i am his first girlfriend, and, even though i cant wait to get over him, i dont want to crush him. so how do i break up with him? i was thinking about doing it over the phone, but is that wrong? i dont think that would be a good way to do it. if i do it in person, what do i say? where should i go to break up with him? i really need help.PLEASE help me!!
Being that you are considering breaking up with him, I guess you don't feel the need to work it out or try communicating your needs and wants to him?
Breaking up with someone is hard because of their feelings. It's also hard not to break up with someone if you are ready to do that so you must focus on what you want and what you don't like.
Calling, texting or emailing someone to break up is petty and gets no respect in my opinion, but it's about what makes you comfortable. If you don't think that over the phone isn't a good way to break up, then follow your thought and ask him to meet you somewhere. Don't beat around the bush about it when the time comes, just stick to your points of how long you have felt ignored, avoided, or negleted. If you have talked to him about it before, mention that you tried to work this out with him, but for whatever his reasons were for not responding or acting like he loved you, has pushed you away and that you are breaking up with him immediately as a result of it. Let him know that there are no hard feelings and you wish him the best of luck in his future. Pause - to let him say whatever it is he is going to say: which is mostly likely going to be DUH.. UM... OK.. nah, but seriously, listen to what he has to say and then leave.
Good luck and always do what is best for you and what you want to deal with. If you don't want to deal with it, then don't. Also remember this, you can not change a person, they have to change themselves.
15/f/usa/165lbs/5'4
hey. for some reason ive felt lately that i dont "belong" anywhere. Like I do alot of activites, swim team, 4-H, ride horses, play violin, ski. But truth be told, im not like good enough at any of these things. Im good or ok, i do alot of activities but not really super good at any of them. Anyways, I have friends in each of like everything i do, but i always feel left out. At swim team, my friends like ignore me, in 4-H, im left out of what my best friends do together, in orchestra no one talks to me, and i try to bring up convos and such, im rele talkative. And skiing, same thing. I feel like really lonely. And there is only like one person i can tell anything too. But it seems like i dont belong anywhere. And I know i like attention, i was first born, so. I'm starting to think I dont even belong with my family. I guess it doesnt even matter. I have really low-self esteem when i talk about this stuff. And im not exactly happy with myself, im trying to lose weight and look better, i want to be a normal teen, even though there is no such thing as normal. I feel like no one in the world cares about me at times. I feel like an outcast...
You mentioned that you were first born and like attention - is the fact that you aren't being approached first or consulted with pertaining to opinions or certain subjects with your friends, part of feeling ignored? Or are you honestly being ignored? (you walk up, they walk off? you talk, they don't answer you.)I know you said you are real talkative, so what happens when you are talking? Are you talking about things they know about or subjects that require input or are you just talking?
I am asking you this because I was an only child and also was used to attention and being the center of attention without doing things to get it, when I got in high school, I realized that it wasn't like that anymore, and then I started doing things to get the attention, which caused people to outcast me, and ignore me - as I look back on it, I don't blame them, I would've ignored me too!
Something you said bothers me: You said-" im left out of what my best friends do together" - If this is the case, then why are they still considered as your best friends? Being that they USED TO BE your best friends, ask them what their deal is, and why the sudden change or has it always been this way and you are just noticing it? just because you consider someone your best friend, doesn't mean they consider you their best friend. Been there done that, and it hurt like hell, huh? I had to cut them off because they were making me question and feel bad about myself, like I wasn't good enough. I remember trying out for the cheerleading team one year with all of my so called friends. I didn't make the team, they did. They completely ignored me. I was devastated and considered a nerd, a loser and I wore their opinions and actions towards me on the outside. I tried to kill myself, honestly. Finally upon not succeeding, I came to this conclusion: I am who I am. I will be who I am and set goals for my future because I AM GOING TO BE HAPPY AND DAMNED ANYONE who tries to prevent it even unintentionally. I had to deal with self. I went to counseling, and I encourage you to seek counseling too, especially about the low self esteem thing.
You are a normal teen already! If you lose weight or wish to change your appearance, do it for yourself girl and not to fit in with some A holes who you think don't accept you. I am encouraging you to go on line and look for sites dealing with self motivation. Self encouragement, self improvement, how to increase self esteem. Time to take time out for self and STOP worrying about people who are ignoring you. If you are to attention, just as I was too, learn to give it to yourself. You will find it to be a beautiful thing to attend to self while learning to love who you are as a person.
Sure, you belong with your family. Why not suggest a family activity together? Family is your safe haven. Family is your confidant. My best friend today is my mom. I didn't realize it as a teen but as I went through BS of life, I realized how important family was and is. I thought I didn't fit, but it was my own personal issues that I had to face and address. It wasn't them not fitting into me, it was me not fitting into them because I was lost myself and didn't fit in with self.
There is a such thing as normal. The opposite of normal is abnormal and you are not that, which makes you normal! Try making new friends, try joining new clubs, try going new places! go on chat lines and meet people your age to see what you all have in common. Start being more selective with who you consider as a friend, especially a best friend! If no one talks to you in orchestra, talk to them! if they don't wish to talk to you, cool. talk to someone in Algebra or Trig! You do belong somewhere, you just have to experiment and try out new things to determine which piece fits the puzzle perfectly. Before doing anything, first please learn to get happy with self by loving self first and foremost.
should you feel that you want to talk to someone, you may email me at anytime you want. sophia_pettus@yahoo.com
Well, I've become close to this guy, I can tell him anything and everything and I trust him with all I have. The only time I saw him was school and outside of school too. But now that its summer, I haven't seem him in a while, and it's driving me nuts because I like him more then a friend, and he knows that, he likes me too but we're not dating. So that means, he can do whatever he wants. I know he cares for me and wants me to be happy and see me, but, lately, him and his friends have been hanging out with these girls they've known since summer has started, which was only about two or three weeks ago. And I'm afraid the guy I like is going to fall for one of the girls and forget all about me. I don't know what to do. We've known each other then he's known the girls, but I can't help free will. People always say guys go to bed and wake up thinking of the girl they care about, it used to be me, I know it, but what if its not anymore? What do I do?
I don't understand why you haven't just straight up told him how you feel, even about the fear of losing his interest. Ask him if it is possible that you guys can get together this weekend and do something just the two of you because you need to talk to him about something personal. Once he accepts your invitation, tell him that you like him very much and that you think of him all the time,and that you realize you like him for more than a friend. Tell him that he makes you happy and you want to make him happy too. Ask him for a relationship if that's what you want out of the friendship. You already know each other so it should be no problem. Tell him that you get concerned when he is kicking with these other girls and that you want to be first in his life, and that you trust him but want to hold that title of his girl. GOOD LUCK
Ya, I already know that. I tell myself shes just missing out on what a good person i am. I do think of all the things I can do on my own now,i spend a lot of alone time, i really just miss the friendship part in my life. Im like a wheel with a peice missing,going rolll..thump..roll. When im with my other 'friends' im usually the odd one out since there are three of us including me(i do not always see myself as this). but thats how they usually treat me. threes a crowd I guess. We were friends the whole 9 years. I accept that she is dating him,but it just bugs me seeing her making out with him in my house right in front of me. I referred to myself as gr8fruit earlier because thats my login name on here. I do not use any nicknames. I do understand that things just go the way they do. Church I had been going to, but lately I stopped because of other probs. Not church,just the going there part.She goes to this church as well. Things are very complicated in my life. My parents split up,my mom got remarried,only to find out that he was using her,they divorced,we already switched houses (sort of in the same sort of area) three times, my dad is a very nice guy its others that screwed up their marriage on purpose (My moms first marriage), he only comes around every now and then because he works in other places,theres this mentally handicapped kid at school who wont stop hitting me and kicking me(because he likes me which is pretty annoying),my sister loves Jess more than me,i try spending time with my sis but she gets frustrated with things pretty easily (we do have our good days), my mom i know likes Jess more than me because she talks about her enough and uses her as a replacement for me (i do talk to my mom about this, she tells me to ignore them and whatnot) Another thing that really bugs me is that whenever I do something,Jess has to copy me. Its a good feeling knowing someone wants to follow in my footsteps, but sometimes its rediculous. I bought a laptop,and when her mom found out i got one she went and bought Jess one. When I got a dog,her mom went and got her one.They have way more money then us,that doesnt bother me,but it seems they are jealous of us. When i made this cookbook for Foods class,i bought a special cover for it and she had to get one exactly the same.When I got a job at the local grocery store she had to get a job where i did. The latest one, is that i got my hair cut,her mom found out and had to take her the next day to get her hair cut-and streaked. The difference between us is that i actually earn what i get,and her parents just give it to her. I think everything really is a competition to her mom. And i know that that is just how she is. I just dont like spending this much time by myself. I do like to dress up still (im not much of a make up person),do my hair, whatever. i sew (stuffed animals,quilts),draw,do crafts,im very artistic,i play instruments,see people when im working (i love my job),go play cards with the elderly,bake. I really just want someone close to do stuff with,someone my own age. i know you are just going to say im bringing myself down,but what i said here is how things are.Im not saying i cant change things,i know i can. Im pretty content with what i do. I try to keep the positive things in mind, but theres to much clutter building up,if you know what i mean. Art is my one main thing that keeps me going besides my pug :) Like I said, I really just want someone close to do stuff with,someone my own age. For the last few months i have had no one really :/
Wow.. this is much to go through and I am sorry to hear that. First, are there any kids in your neighborhood that you can befriend? If so, why not befriend other people your age?
I understand that you don't like spending time alone and that it's boring at times. If you can identify that there is much clutter, then move it out of the way as it is preventing your happiness. I too love art, crafts, painting, drawing,playing the organ and piano, drums and guitar. I have always been different and didn't fit in when I was younger. I had moved to the US from Colon Panama. It was different. I looked different, I acted different, I spoke different and no one liked me - I found out later due to jealousy. I was teased all of the time, finally I began to just do me, and soon people wanted to hang with me, not me trying to hang with them. Why not ask to change schools, and start all over.
NO one should be hitting or kicking you regardless of handicap or not - please address this so that it is corrected. It is abuse, regardless of age, and with him being mentally challenged and no correction, he thinks it's the correct thing to do, and needs to be taught that it's not. If Jess doesn't wish to affiliate with you, don't force her or the situation, let it go sweetie.
My 'friend' Jess also told me this, word for word, "i really do miss being friends with you, i have no real friends either right now. Don't tell anyone but i have started cutting myself" I am 99.9% sure she stopped this now.She also said "I really wish we were friends again, i feel so lonely I cry at night sometimes." and yet she chooses not to hang out with me,or anyine else really besides my bro, or seem to want to make a change. I talk to her, but she shuts me out majority of times.Oh well i guess,its her choice :s
Yes, it's her choice and you must respect it. Upon doing that realize that things happen for a reason, it's never understood now, but you will understand it later, as God will show you that too.
Good luck and just be yourself, you will find TRUE REAL FRIENDS, I promise.
Okay, you need to get a reality check.
Kids are stupid when there young teenagers.
Let them make their own mistakes. You are not responsible for them. They are curious, answer their questions. There can be true love as young as 14, I would know. And love can happen when you are mature enough to understand it. Some are mature, some aren't. But you can't judge that just by a question on an advice column. Don't lecture about how they are too young. They have parents for that. If they are doing it with someone they really care about, I don't think that is too stupid. But I totally understand where you are coming from. Some are stupid and go around giving head and getting fingered and such. But kids are very curious at this age so I think answering there questions will get you better ratings. Just because they ask a question, doesn't mean they will get to do it. I'm sure many many things have changed about relationships since your teenage years. Horniness level went up. And you cannot do anything about that. It's the 21st century. Reality check hun!
Thanks for your response. I too understand where you are coming from as well. I won't go to the extent to say they are stupid as teenagers,for the fact that they are way too sexually advanced today, especially compared to what I knew about sex at the age of 14. The good part about this site is that I have the right to reject a questions and/or simply not respond to it, which is what I am going to start doing. I am honestly not concerned about the ratings, nor am I here to be rated, which is why I am very comfortable with receiving a 1 as a rating when telling the truth of what it is. Society has changed so much which saddens me deeply, however I am determined not to encourage, advise, or promote sexual activity within our youth just to conform to society's opinion. I respect everyone's opinions, but being the person that I am, I don't support wrong acts or doings, especially with children. If society would set better examples by being role models, there wouldn't be so many teen pregnancies. Everything is sexual today, even cartoons and truthfully it's sad, sad, sad. I wander what the adults would say if a parent pressed charges against them for interacting with sexual conversation with minors. Of course, no one really cares until it happens to them!
I am 17 years old. I was 16 when this happened, i went to Andover, Ohio with a friend to get her computer fixed. (an hour and half away) My father new, who i was with, where i was at, and had a number to get a hold me at. He called the cops on me because i didnt get home until late it took for ever to fix her computer. He told the cops he didnt know were i was he didnt have a number to reach me. ( it was in his cell phone and written on the board at my house.) basically claimed i was missing. when i returned home i got out of a car in my parking lot and walked to my door and a cop pulled up who had been sitting in the parking lot waiting. well now i have to go to court on monday.
OK. What's the question? If you are asking if this is legal, it is. You were 16. If the city has a curfew or if you are a repeat offender who violates staying out late or an unruly teen then your dad has the right to handle the way he did. If you have previously been to court for it, they have instructed your dad to follow these instructions which involve calling them, regardless of where you were or what you were doing, you weren't at home.
Can you prove that the number was in his cell or written down? Not that it will change the outcome especially when it comes to minors. Surely this isn't the first time something as this has happened and your dad reacted this way.. if it is, then you will be OK when you go to court, if it's not the first time, then get ready for possible community service based on a court order or maybe even worse based on if you were already on probation or not. Good Luck
btw before you read this im 13/f
ok i added this boy on my cousin's myspace.
so then he messaged me "your hott would you fuck me. ?
and i go" why.?" and he goes cuz "your hot and i will definatly fuck you."
than i go " are you virgnin?"then he goes "yeah i am.. if you r i would make you not a virgin.=]"
and i go "yeah" then jokingly i go "okk. good. "
he goes" how big do you like them" and i go i d ont know and he goes "well mine is 7inces. thats big enough for you baby =]" and i dont know him. my cousin knows him .
is he joking.? would he know i was joking.?
You already know the answer to your question coming from me because I have already told you my opinion of these type of questions coming from someone your age.
what is stimulate mean.?
& i know what masterbate is ..i think but wat exactly do the boys do when they do that.?
You already know the answer to your question coming from me because I have already told you my opinion of these type of questions coming from someone your age.
what is gving head mean.?
"man ejaculates" what do these mean.?
You are 13 years old. Are you serious! I have honestly checked out most of the questions that you are asking because of the type of questions you are asking- and most of them are sexual!
This makes no sense to me for someone your age to be asking these type of questions or to even give a care about what these things mean. I hope you aren't involved with anyone sexually and if you are, I hope you stop because of the risks associated with having sex. Honestly, due to the content of your questions and the age of someone who may answer it, you could get someone in legal trouble if someone wanted to press the issue or if your parent(s) found out about that type of communication. Is that the reason you ask the questions here instead of just doing a web search for these type of questions? ALL info would be found there. Someone else may answer you in detail, but I won't! I think it's a shame that someone who could be doing so much in the community, with other kids, or in the church is on an advice page asking the type of questions you ask ALL THE TIME!
tonight my girlfriend is sleeping over and I am scared to try new things with her.
Where only 16 and it's weird to think but I really know I like her. Also she is one of my bestfriends
if not the best. I guess what i am trying to ask is
how should I approach her with telling her how much a want to do more things and also why do girls get really offended when you try randomly grabbing their boobs?
I too am going to answer the last question first - because it's their boobs, and if they wish for them to be touched, caressed (NOT GRABBED AS THAT HURTS!), they will let you know and invite you on their timing and not your timing. You are 16, boys grabbed boobs as children, you are a young man, so step your game up a lil' bit.
If you really like her, that's cool, nothing is wrong with liking your girlfriend and her liking you, however the whole sleeping over thing, really shocks me. Hell, I never slept over my boyfriend's house until I was grown and out of my mom's house. I may have been over there doing things I shouldn't have been doing, but sleeping over was out of the question on my parent's behalf and my boyfriends' parents behalf too at that age. Wow..
Yes, you should approach her by telling your interests, and finding out hers and seeing if she is cool with trying these things first. I applaud your maturity from that aspect of it.
Good luck, have fun and be careful-safe most of all.
It sounds odd, but I sometimes get the feeling that my friends are no longer interested in remaining friends with me, but are being polite about it.
How can you tell if they no longer want you as a friend without outright asking them?
You are talking about male friends just hanging out right?
One, they avoid your phone calls, don't return your phone calls. They don't open the door when you come to visit or they have nothing to really talk to you about if you are on the phone. They don't answer emails or text messages either.
Second, you will never know what's up until you do straight up ask them what the deal is.
I want to say this, if you are depressed all the time, or constantly talking about your girlfriend or current situation, it pushes friends away, especially if you aren't going to do anything about it. If you are allowing a girl or woman to use you and get over on you and manipulate you, and yet complain to them without doing anything about it, it also pushes friends away. If you are always complaining and whining about life, money, relationships, etc. it also pushes friends away - again if you aren't going to do anything about it.
If the feelings you get are caused by actions, reactions and lack of responsive action from your friends, then they no longer want you as a friend. If the feelings you get are just because you enjoy questioning yourself instead of challenging yourself to focus on you and improve YOU, then most likey your friends,are interested in still being friends with you, and you have self esteem issues, or depression issues that you should consider talking to someone about, so that it does not over take your life, and ruin you as a person OR your relationship.
can sperm be netralized
Yes, sperm can be neutralized in 3 different ways that I know of. cervical fluids, antibodies, and certain foods can cause it too.
14/f
Okay I recently noticed that I've developed stretch marks on my thighs. I've read that they develope because of weight gain, but I exercise all the time, I'm a runner you see? I'm 5'5 and 115 pounds, so what I'm asking is...will they go away as I get older, and when exactly?
stretch marks come from weight gain and weight loss as well. Stretch marks must be treated with cocoa butter and shea butter. They do leave eventually once you have treated them. You are 14 which means you are growing. This also can cause stretch marks too. Don't worry about it go ahead and treat it so it gets no worse but gets better.
I have a boyfriend but my other friend likes me 2 and my boyfriend found out;i told him! But he doesn't seem to care. I wonder if he does care and if i shouldn't talk about other boys around him?? Would he get jelous? Would he think i like them and not him? What should i not do??
i need to know!!!
OK. honesty is good, respectful and an important factor throughout your life. Reverse your question and allow your boyfriend to be you and you be him - how would you feel? would you like it? what would you think? would you be jealous? or would you appreciate the honesty?
First to find out where he is with all of this, ask him. talk to him and go ahead and clear things up before even making him go through the bs mentally. Of course he cares so don't think he doesn't - regardless of what he shows you. Men/Boys hide their feelings and release it later on, which isn't good. Pressure burst pipes. Why would you talk about other boys around him anyway? Are you cool with him talking about other girls around you? Come on' now...
You aren't even asking what should you do, you are asking what should you not do, which tells me you already know what not to do and you want someone to validate that your thoughts are correct. Don't talk about other guys or even show interest in other guys unless you just want to be friends only with your boyfriend. Don't be a two timer either. It's cool to have friends of the opposite sex as long as you know how to carry yourself, but generally it doesn't work out that way to be honest with you - because one starts having a crush on the other. So, think about how much you want to still a boyfriend and you will then know what to do and what not to do, please realize it now before your boyfriend gets tired of feeling played or gamed and bounces on you, as a result of it.
good luck on getting you together and finding out more about self! it's always good to internalize self while exchanging shoes with the other person.
whats is herpes and STD's?
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http://www.stdservices.on.net/std/definition.htm
Above are two web sites to answer your question in depth. hope this helps