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Does everyone get mourning sickness when their pregnant? And how far along in the pregnancy do you get it?
actually, im not sure. my friend, she had 3 kids, and with any of them has she ever had morning sickness. she realized she was pregnant because of missed periods. i believe that its different with everyone; some get it, some dont. and those who do get it, it varies as well to how long.
i dont really want to get into hobbies and stuff...just a cute little catchy screen name.
well, im not into those screen names that are like "xocutiegrlox." i like simple names. i usually go into the dictionary and find one word that i like and use it. i actually have a dictionary beside me.. so, ill check some out for you.
eternize - to make eternal; cause to last forever.
luminosity - the quality or condition of being luminous [ giving off light; shining; bright]
omniscience - the state or quality of being omniscient [having infinite knowledge]
umm.. i dont know if you like how i pick out screen names, but if you like it as well.. tell me and ill look some more up for you.
Last question today i swear ..
Well whenever my best friend is around her boyfriend she id relly mean to me and starts like changing what do i do?
i guess she wants to act tough infront of her boyfriend. which isnt right at all. you should have a talk about that with her and tell her she cant be doing that to you. shes your best friend, and your her best friend, and shes supposed to keep it real with you no matter what. guys come and go, friends are forever. if she continues to act that way and doesnt change, then forget about it. that just shows you the true her.
i really really need a new screen name. like desperatly. are you good at thinking of them? could you think of a couple cute ones? thanks so much! -aly
well, what are some of the things you like and enjoy? describe yourself to me, and i can probably help you out.
See my x b/f that I havn't talk to for a while wants to go back out with me and my new boyfriend dosn't know about it, what do I do???!!!
if you dont have any feelings for your ex boyfriend at all, then dont worry about it. you can not tell your current boyfriend because it doesnt matter anyway, or you could tell him just so he knows that your ex wants you back; just to be honest with him. so if you dont want your ex back, either way, it doesnt matter if you tell your current boyfriend.
if you do have feelings for your ex still, then you need to have a talk with your ex so that you know exactly where your heart is. see which one you have more feelings for and who would treat you better, and go for that person.
My boyfriend is currently in the military, and I was wondering about mailing different types of care packages and fun gift letters instead of boring ones... Does anyone have any great ideas of easy and fun things I can send to him? Or any sites that could help a little. Thank you so much!
i think what would be cute is, for each day you havent seen him, to take one picture per day of you, and send them to him. another thing i personally think is cute, is when you take a picture holding a piece of paper saying i love ______. i did that for my boyfriend and sent it to him on his camera phone and he thought that was cute. okay.. thats all i could think of. sorry
What's a polite way to get off the phone with someone. I'm not annoyed with this person, in fact I'm completely in love with her, but I just don't want to turn into one of those 4 hour conversations every day kind of couples.
you can tell her that you have something to do at a certain time so you can cut the conversation short. you probably dont want to lie to her, so maybe you should straight out tell her that you love her, but talking 4 hours a night isnt your thing. im sorry if im not much help, but i guess its better to tell the truth instead of making something up since you are in love with her and everything.
Um, I like having sex, I'm not going to lie. But the last time I did, the guy I did it with kind of... made me have anal sex with him. And I tried to say it hurt but he didn't stop. I said it loud but when I told him afterwards, he said he didn't hear me. I cried afterwards b/c it hurt so bad. Is it my fault? I didn't want to do it... I feel gross. What do you think?
xoxo Alyssa*
did you tell him you didnt want to do it before he put it in? well, yeah, i can imagine how much that hurted..
it isnt exactly all your fault. i just want to say that, if you didnt want it, you could have backed away from him so he couldnt have put it in. but dont blame yourself too much, you told him you to stop and he didnt. its his fault too. im pretty sure he heard you tell him to stop, how could he not? how did he make you anyway? i would say that thats considered rape.. but then again, i guess you wanted to have sex with him.. i dont know.. but just dont beat yourself up about it. now that you know how it feels, and now that you know that you probably hate anal sex, just dont have anal sex again.
im a freshman and all the senior guys are all over me. its great but its kinda bad ya no. this really hott guy invited me to a party and there will b drinking drugs sex and everything there and i dont want any of the guys to expect sex or a hj or bj from me. do u think i should go to the party? thnx
go if you know yourself enough not to do anything youd regret doing. you can have fun, drink a lil, smoke a lil, just dont do anything that involves sex. butttt, then again, if you know your body well enough that if you drink and what not, that you end up gettin too pissy, then dont go. because some guys like to take advantage of girls when they are drunk or high and stuff and sometimes when you arent sober, you give in to things when usually you wouldnt.. and when you arent sober, you may be too weak to fight people off. but hey.. you can always go just to socialize and to watch other people get all fucked up. its fun just observing
ok..there;s this guy *dan* and he liked me a long time ago and then i started to like him but all he did was break ^ we me n hurt me really bad..recenlty we started tlkin..n we fell inlove..blah blah..well all my friends are yellin at me cuz they think he;ll just hurt me again..i dont tho..i could b wrong but oh well..then there's this guy *james* he asked me out and stuff and i guess i really like him..but like i still luv * dan* and now *james* is all pissd at me and sayin shit ..all i want is to be *james* friend..cuz i luv *dan* but he won;'t..hes bein all possesive & shit..and all my frinds r tellin me to 4get * dan* n giv *james* a try..cuz hes like perfect & hell treat me better--which maybe true..but i need to go out w *dan* its jus sumin i hav to do..even tho i ikno ill prolli get hurt,,idk help =(..i feel bad *james* really likes me..shuld i giv him a chance? or trust *dan* after he hurt me 3 times? sorry so long
well, people will hurt you, even if they love you, in some way, something that the person you love will hurt you. maybe not intentionally but.. who knows. if you love dan and you believe that you should give him another chance, then do so. if that is what makes you happy. you shouldnt go out with james just because your friends think that hes a better person, because you know where your heart is and it obviously isnt with him. well, i know this is not much help, but just do what makes you happy.. and follow your heart. maybe youll get hurt in the long run, who knows, but atleast you know you tried to work things out.
im asking this question for my friend ... a few months ago she wanted to be homeschooled ... then she found this really nice boarding school that she liked A LOT! so she requested information and things of that sort on teh internet and things like that...well she was sure her mom was going 2 say yes...well her mom said that it was A LOT of money 2 pay especially shes one of four kids...four girls...so it kinda sux for her! i feel really badly for her and she asked me 2 write this...she cant go to the boarding school or homeschooled and she doesn't want to go 2 public/private school because in her area...they judge you at pub. and private school...
PLEASE HELP THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO HER AND ME!!
AND AGAIN PLEASE HELP!!
thats true, that no matter where you go or who you come across, that youre going to be judged; not always in a negative way though. public schools sometimes dont give students enough attention as to where home schooling and private schools do, but i dont think anything is wrong with going to a public school. ive been to private schools and to public schools as well, and yeah, people are going to look at me and thinki something of me, but youll always find people who will like you for who you are and not judge you but in a positive manner. tell your friend that it wont be too bad going to a public school. you experience different things in public, and itll be a good thing for when she grows older.
ok i have another question. and if i offended you im sorry but im trying to understand. you say buddah isint a fat, or a bald guy but how come when i go to those nail salons (lol) I see a statue of budah and hes kinda big, and gold...
try looking up "buddha" or "buddhism" on a search engine. and look up the picture of him. buddha couldnt possibly be fat, if buddha himself went through stages of suffering and hardly eating any meat. my friend who is vietnamese, she has little statues of the fat guy in her house, but she doesnt necessary call him buddha. she just calls him the lucky, good luck buddha. he isnt the one who went through suffering and he isnt the one who actually founded buddhism.
Hey I was in a chat room with my 2 chinese friends. One of them was christian, and one was budhist. So the budhist chinese dude was like "How could u be a christian?" and the guy goes "well I rather worship Jesus than a fat, bald, gold statue" And all hell broke loose! the budhist guy startin goin crazyyyy and was dissing christinaity and yea they fought and im not saying anything.but now the budhist guy doesnt want me hanging out with the christian, and the christian doesnt want me hanging out with the budhist guy. so im like i wanna hang out w/ both of them. but their mad at me cuz the christian guy is saying "well your christian too, he'll be a bad influence on you" and the budhist guy goes "how are you gonna hang out with someone that disses me about my religiion i thought u were cool" idk what to do they r awesome friends and we talk all the time but they hate eachother and what do i do? Thank you and I'll rate high!
being that im buddhist, ill try not to be bias in this situation. first of all, i just want to say, that "buddha" is not fat and bald, that is the, well, lucky buddha. buddha is actually tall, skinny, and he has hair. second, no true buddhist would be a bad influence on anyone. buddhists are taught almost the same things that christians are taught, we just dont believe there is a god. tell that to your christian friend, please, who knows nothing of buddhism, so he shouldnt be able to talk.
now, you should let them know how childish that they are acting and that they cant have you pick one over the other. thats selfish. point blank. no real friend would make you not hang out with your other friend. let them both know how you feel about having to choose between two good friends, and that you arent going to do that, so they will have to just get over it. religion is a big deal, but im pretty sure christians and buddhists are taught not to hate on other religions. bring some light into their eyes. its not right to not like someone because of their religion.
Does neone know where to get some surveys on the internet? and dont give me quizilla.com cuz i dont really like that website.. soo if neone could give me sum ill rate you a 5 for answering! thanks!
well whenever im bored and when i just feel like taking quizzes, i go to www.ivillage.com. their quizzes are pretty good
When I get my period, the first 3 days are very heavy. I wear pads on those days and then tampons the rest. I'm going down the shore on the days when it's heavy and I'm not sure what to do. I'm going to be swimming and everything, but do you think a 'super' tampon would be good enough? It's really heavy and I'm scared even the super tampons won't be enough. What should I do?
yeah, it should help for awhile. theres also "super plus." i dont know how heavy you could be, but it should work for a couple hours or so. but then again.. maybe not, bc i remember me having a heavy period and i wore a super, i think, and i had to change it in like 2 hours.
is it wrong to be so in love that you would die for him?
i dont think so..
Hey ok the new school year starts this monday and im scared bout making new friends cuz last year i told people i was christian (im not afraid 2 share my faith) so they all thought i was weird and stuff...and i dont cuss so instead of saying a bad word id say like crap or freak or whatever and they'd make fun of me..i still want ppl to know im christian this year but im scared i wont have friends! i know what i did wrong last year id tell people that Jesus loves them jokingly and they got scared so yea not gonna do that but even if i tell them that im a christian they might reject me..so what do i do?
look, im not christian, im buddhist, and i would be more than glad to treat you like a regular person. if people want to be that way, then you know what, who cares. they shouldnt get all freaked out just because of your religion. im sure you will find friends that will accept you for who you are and for what religion you practice. not all of us are assholes.
i probably shouldnt have said the A word.. but ehhh...
When I get my period i get HORRIBLE cramp! Sometimes theres so bad i can't go to school or do anything all day! Do know some way to get relief ?
i used to always take motrin, but they never worked well enough to make the all the cramps go all away, so one day a friend gave me a "pamprin," and it worked pretty good. you can get that at a local drug store. another option is to get on birth control. talk to your mom about it. im sure if your cramps are that serious, then getting on birth control will be a good idea.
this is a continuation to my question from earlier about the boyfriend doing the new things in bed.
well i asked him where they came from and he told me that we needed to try new things. alot of people told me he may or may not be cheating. like i said im just suspicious becuase we havent had sex in a while, and then all of a sudden we do and its all this crazy wild shit. i'm not saying that i didnt like it... its just strange. strange since we havnt done it in a while, and also cuz he didnt even like discuss these new techniques with me, he just went about them. and of course i went with them cuz they werent bad ideas and all. also, i am pregnant, so like my sex drive is always down, and his is always up. i read that this is very normal, like there is just something that turns guys on about thier woman being pregnant, and there is something that turns woman off about being pregnant, i guess cuz we get all fat. but yeah, because of my low sex drive, i kinda have been pushing him away. could there also be a possibility that he just gave me some space to wait for me to want to do it again? or maybe he got self consious, and was thinking he wasnt that good anymore and wanted to find some new techniques for us to do to make things better? i dont know, but i am like really beating myself up wondering where he got them from. what i really need is a guys oppinion. and if there may be any girls who have experienced this sort of situation that would be good too.
well, i can relate to you about not having sex in awhile and then the next time we have sex that there were some new moves poppin up. i dont know, i never really thought about it up until now.. but i sorta kinda think you have nothing to worry about. we all know, guys watch porn and all that crap so they can always learn it from there. i mean, sometimes during sex, i just do different things that are out of the usual now and then as well, but i never slept with any other guy or cheated on him.. you know what i mean? i can definitely see where youre coming from with all of this, but i dont think you should worry too much. a beautiful pregnant woman like you shouldnt worry soo much.. you cool grl, you straight. if anything, hit me up, ill beat his ass. you know where to find me *wink
ok, well i cut. and i dont want to hear the "oh dont do that! blah blah blah" im really trying to stop and i dont need anyone to be pressuring me right now. but anyways..i usually cut on my shoulders so no one can see and so that i dont kill myself. but the other day i cut my wrist. and i mean, i wanted to, but i didnt want it to bleed...and i didnt even push hard. i just ran it slightly across the skin. and it just started bleeding. im fine and everything, but is that normal? like is the skin just really delicate there or something?
i used to cut, and i guess it is easier to cut through the skin at the wrist. sometimes when i do it lightly, itd bleed.. so yeah.. i guess its normal.
and since you dont want me to say "dont do that, blah blah blah," i wont.. cause i guess i understand..