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Q: Whell, I just started going out with a guy, and whell I want to make him feel really special and great..what are some little things I could do that would make him feel wonderful (besides sex and things of that nature heh) Also what are things I can say that wont scare him so early in the relationship but that let him know that I am happy I have him...

thanks

Write him a sweet note, with color and cute things all over it.

Q: Ok i kinda like this girl, but the problem is shes moving away in a little over a month. im planning on asking her out, but im wondering what she will expect to happen at the end of the month. she cant stay, i cant go with her, and i dont know if im ready for a long distance relationship. if it matters shes not moving accross the globe or anything, about a 4 hour drive. so, mostly for the girls, what is she gonna expect to happen? im 18/m shes 19/f.

I know this isn't an answer to your question, but why don't you just keep in touch and see how that goes before you try the long distance thing.

Q: ok i have a really good friend and she is hurting herself by like throwing herself into walls durring school because i think she is depressed. It seems like she really doesn't want to talk about it to anyone. The other day she almost cracked her head open. (she kind of did or maybe she just got a cut on it and it started bleeding because she was banging her head on the lockers) ya i know it sound phsyco...but i don't want her 2 be like this! i mean 2day she was slamming her head against the concrete until i made her stop! what should i do to get her to either tell me whats going on or to stop her from hurting herself????? (i rate high)

ThAnKs A BuNcH!

-*Marissa*-

First of all, shes doing it for attention. If she was seriously depressed she wouln't be doing dumb shit like that. Tell her to get the fuck over herself and stop being dumb. Also, its 'to' not '2'.

Q: My boyfriend took this test that was like "20 questions to a better girlfriend" and I took one that was "20 questions to a better boyfriend" Well, in the end result I got a 55, which is horrible and he got a 91, which is pretty close to ask high as you can get. At first he told me he answered the questions unhonestly, but soon changed his mind when I asked him again. What I need help on is why I got a 55. I've always told him I'm a bad girlfriend, but he'd never listen and now my point is proven to me.

Oh my fucking gosh. It's a stupid 'test' you probably got out of some stupid magazine. Get the fuck over it.

Q: ok well my bf and i have been going out for about 2 mounths. well a couple days ago i found out that about a day after we were going out he made out w/ my best friend(brigitte) at my other friends house(austin). well b4 i knew this my bf and i were at a party and we made out and stuff and it made my friend(brigitte) that had madeout w/ him a couple weeks b4 really mad at me and i had no clue wut was going on! and so i found out wut had happened and i was mad too for a while but i got over it but my other freind kinda hasnt and she is like my best friend!!!!! i dont kno wut to do... dump my boyfriend or dump my best freind? HELP!

Dump both.
P.S. Learn how to spell.

Q: Me and my girlfriend had been goin out for a while but then the other day she broke up with me i asked her why and i found out she wasnt goin outr wit this other guy already. Please tell me what to do!

"wasnt goin outr wit"

Q: Sorry this is long, but I rate high.

Im moving soon, August to be exact. But there is this guy where i live now that Ive had a crush on since Feb. of 2004. I guess it's more than a crush now. Anyways, some people say he likes me but he never tells anyone who he likes so they just assume he does. Well, now that I'm moving I want to truly find out if he likes me so I can possibly make a move or I know to flirt more and w/e. Im so confused. I don't want to leave wishing I had done something. What do I do? Sorry this might be a little confusing...but Im just as confused. PLEASE HELP!

It depends on your age. Because if your like 12-16 you probably shouldn't make a move because its a very slim chance it will work out. But on the other hand if your 17- or older you have a better chance of it working out.

Q: anyone have any birthday ideas for a boyfriend?

Could you maybe put more information? Such as his age and maybe what hes into like music or sports. Hell, just give him sex thats good for any age.

Q: omg. ok like when i walk around all the guys like 15 to 16 ask me to get in a car with them or try to get me 2 hang out with them and stuff im 13 but they think im older but i mean you have to addmit that 13 year old guys are really inmature some arent even into girls yet. well at laest in my world. id want a bf older but then it seems like theyd just use me or try to have sex with me.like one tryied..... do yeah i dont no what to do i dont want to go out with a guy my age i want one older. and like where do i meet them? ok sry if this is really dumb im leaving before i make a bigger fool of myself

Are you on speed?
Anyways, you should only date older guys if you are mature and you don't seem mature. You seem kind of dumb, which means they probably just want you for sex.

Q: ok, so i imed this guy i liked 2 days ago, and he was talking a lot and asking me stuff..and he usually never does this so i was excited. And i wanted to ask him to this dance for friday..my friend talked to him at lunch and asked him if he wud say yes if i aksed him and she sed that he sed "prolly yes", and that he seemed enthusiastic about it. So then today, i imed him and he didnt say word...and then put an away up.. Should i not ask him, and do you think that he doesnt like me? Thanks.

How is it that you can spell enthusiastic correct but not would?

Q: Does anyone know where I can get some good quality (preferably with an underwire), but inexpensive bras? (like under $20)

Target.

Q: Ok well I have tried to use a tampon like a million times but everytime I try to put in, It doesn't go in all the way even though it looks like it!! When I walk, it's realllyyy uncomfertable..What am I doing wrong???

Go to www.teenwire.com it has a little movie to show you how to do it and its awesome.

Q: Me and my boyfriend did it on the 11th (i remember because i went to my friends party afterward). The first time we did it we used protection then we took a break and did it again but didn't use protection bc we didn't have any and I know that was stupid of me. The second time we only did it for about 5-10mins. A week or so passed and I took a test to see if I was pregnant, I wasn't. On the 25th I was suppose to have my period which didn't happen. Should I be worried or whats going on plez help I can't ask my parents bc they'll never look at me again.

First of all, are you stressing over it? Because stress can make you be late or miss your period. Also there are alot of other factors that can make you late or miss. Go to www.teenwire.com for more information.

Q: ok i asked about the games for my party earlier..and if they were too babyish..most of you said no, so thats a good sign. My next question is how many games per hour should i have? i dont want to overwhelm everyone with games..should it be once every half hour? every hour? thanks you guys

I thought people stoped having games at parties when they were like 8.

Q: okay this question is for my friend who can't ask it so i am doing it for her. well her best friend just recently died at age 12. and she wants to go to her funeral and wants me to go with her but her mom won't let her go because its during school and she thinks she will get all emotional but she really wants to go so she can say bye and she wants me to go with her so she has a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. does anyone know how she can get her mom to change her mind and let her go to her best friends funeral? please help.

Wow, thats fucked up. In my opinion if the mom wont let her go now, she probablywont ever let her go.

Q: ok well i have a boyfriend and i like him a lot we talk on line and sometimes on the phone (i always call him he never calls me) and at school we don't talk at all. i am his first girl friend he has ever had but i can't stand not talking to him. i want to talk to him at school but i'm shy and hes shy not good not good at all. i was just wondering what i should do? i rate high

Okay, relationships where both people are shy, are not good. One of ya'll need to come out of your shell, other wise its just going to stay like that. And since it seems like you have the problem maybe you should be the first one to make the move, and maybe he will fill more comforable and lossen up too.

Q: Hi, im 14/ m and I just want to know what to do about me and my girlfriend, we have been going out for a year now and were across states. We always talk on the phone and we have gotten really close. But I am just wondering if when me and my girlfriend meet, Im worried that she will push me away. And Im afarid of that, does anyone halft to say anything about this...?

You've never meet her. Did ya'll meet online or something? Anyways, I don't see why she would push you away, unless your like totally weird looking and she doesn't know that yet.

Q: Hi, I like the group ICP and my girlfriend doesn't, she doesn't like it because it has killing in it, she hates it. Should I stop liking it or just keep listening to it, I just wanna make her happy, what should I do??

WTF! If you listening to a band can fuck up your relationship, then somethings wrong. Why the fuck should you have to change the music you listen to to make her happy? Can she be happy with you just not listening to it around her?

Q: sorry if this is long, but there is this guy that i like and we used to go out. he now has a girlfriend but i dont care, i still like him. This one girl likes him, so someone asked if he would ever go out with her and he said no. but then this girl asked if he would ever go back out with me and he smiled nad said "umm .. i gotta get to class" so the next day the girl asked again and so he was like "umm .. i gotta girlfriend" so he didnt say yes or no. Do you htink i still have a chance?

No.

Q: I'm 15 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. The main problem people keep telling me is that when i like a guy i tend to be shy around him. I like this one guy right now and he knows i like him thanks to one of my big mouth friends. We've talked only maybe twice before he found out i liked him but thats the only time we've ever talked. When i see him in the halls he looks at me...what does that mean? How can i get him to like me without coming on to him as a stalker?