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[x][edit] - Since being on Advicenators there have been a lot of repetitive questions and innane ones at that. Because of this, I will not be answering as many questions as I had before. To put it simply, some people need to think for themselves. To learn things in life we have to fall down from our hardships, learn from them, and get to our feet again. People aren't just going to spoonfeed you on how to live your life.

To conclude, I'm a level-minded columnist who's not likely to judge. Although I may not understand some situations due to lack of experience, I am an understanding person and will do all I can to help. To people who are "not the brightest crayon in the box", I may appear blunt and brutally honest. Stupid questions deserve stupid answers.

And yes, stupid questions DO exist.

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Ok so finally after a month of being 16, im going to get my permit. My only problem is i havent studdied the book since my birthday . I got the book 2 weeks before my bday and studdied it up to my bday, but since then i havent studdied it..now i cant find the book.
My question : Is the permit test for New York hard? Do you think i will be able to pass based on common sense? What questions do they ask? Should i wait more and take it some other time? Today is a good day though because im off from school...its hard to take it because the place that gives the test is open mon-fri and the latest test they give is at 3 or something..im so busy with sports and school this seems like a good day..but maybe i should wait..i dont know?

anonymous -

Most of the questions are based on common sense. But the problem that I had was that a lot of the answers (it's multiple choice) were almost identical.

Since you lost your book, you can probably pick up a new one at the police station or the DMV. I would study just in case.

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I have been feeling like I'm ugly,fat, and that nobody likes me. I have a little poll in my profile for AIM and its like Am I Ugly? The Majority said I was pretty but when I looked who picked what Drew(the guy I used to like and hes kinda my friend) said I was Ugly. And My Friend Emmie said I was ugly too....And all of these people that aren't my friends said I was pretty....but anyways after Drew said that I was ugly I have just been feeling really bad about myself....I'm not sure why either because I have realized not to care about what other people think but now I just can't help it...Does anyone have some suggestions on what I should do to help me feel better or might know why I am feeling this way? I rate high and leave comments if your going to say something mean please don't say anything at all!

anonymous -

If strangers were to tell you you're pretty, than you must be. After all, they don't know you, and if you WERE ugly, they'd tell you because they don't know you so therefore they don't care.

You probably just feel depressed because your friends were the ones to tell you that you were ugly, and that is not a friendly thing to do.

To feel better, realize that everyone is beautiful in their own way. Instead of focusing on the flaws you possess, acknowledge the numerous qualities.

If you'd like IM me on aim. My sn is mylinh3o3.

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One of my old friends' never talked about guys. Like, we would be on the fone, and i would be talking about the guy i liked, and shed kinda just, "push away" the subject. She always said she never likes anyone, and she dosent think that anyone is "cute" or "Hot". I think thats kind of weird. Then one day, we were talking online, and she told me she was a lesbian. It was really awkward, and i really started to believe her, and then when i saw her the next day at school, she was like "omg that was hilarous last night! i was joking!"....I dont know but this kind of looks strange to me..Any ideas on why she might not like to talk about guys? oh by the way..i dont want to talk or ask her about this. thanks!

anonymous -

One reason why she could be holding back is that she's afraid that you'll tell somebody or criticize her, especially at school where friends are known for approaching a guy and telling them that you like them. I know that's how I felt when I was younger, I didn't feel comfortable telling my girl friends anything about boys until after high school.

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Hi! I need to make a webpage for a class through either Microsoft FrontPage or Notepad, but I wanted to know do you need a FTP program to view the webpage? I'm trying to work on the webpage but its not viewing correctly. Thanks in advance!

anonymous -

I don't think you need an FTP program. Usually it's for uploading right?

But if you want to view your webpage correctly, I'd suggest sign up for Geocities, copy and paste your html, and view. Just as a backup ya know :)

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Ok there's this grl at skewl and i HATE her so0o0o much. Well our Principal called us both down to the office once to talk to us...he asked us if we had ever gotten along and she said "Well at one point we were good friends" I was like WTF!?!? (not out loud of course) But anyway wenever she is mean to me (she is only wen shes with her friends and im not) i want to stand up to her but then i never find a chance or im afraid ill get in a fight and get suspended or something. Anyone kno wut i could do? Plz help...i rate good!

anonymous -

When she tries to be mean to you, poke fun at her stupidity.

"Oh, were you trying to sound SMART there hun? Cuz it really isn't working."

"What kind of an insult is that? If you must make fun of me, get some GOOD material. Even I'm disappointed."

"Did you stay up all night to think of that one? Or is your head really that far up your ass?"

"I find it amusing how you make time to insult me with your petty remarks. Where you being pathetic just leaves me at loss for words."

"Are you really that narrow-minded to resort to using obscenities that you can't find a better way to express yourself?"

Usually I would be against this kind of behavior, but keep in mind this is only a fellow columnists ideas. I encourage civility (meaning play nice), but if you must, here ya go.

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hey guys. i can never seem to get a bf. like i have a lot of guy FRIENDS. just FRIENDS. im always the friend, never the girl. i cant FLIRT! can anyone give me some flirting ways/tips/techniques? i love anyone who helps!!
i just cant open up so easy to guys i like and then when i do its like hey your funny and im like.. eh heh.. yeah just funny! it never turns into something more. last year (6th grade) i got a TON of guys! but this year im more friendly and brave and open.. ugh

anonymous -

You don't need to flirt to get a guy. Decent guys go for the friendly, nice girl, not the flirty trashy ones.

From what you said, you seem like a nice girl. You don't need to put in any extra effort into making a guy notice you. Depending on what kind of a relationship you want, really depends on how you should behave. If you want dates, but not a boyfriend, go ahead and flirt, but don't overdo it. Smile sweetly, joke around a lot, etc. or you can even ask a friend to hook you up on a double date. If you're looking for a committed relationship, continue doing what you're doing because to be committed, you have to find a guy who likes you for you, not who you're trying to be.

Good luck.

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ok me, joan, & laura all skipped our electives today. i need your guys help!!! idk what to do
ppl know laura did because her 2 elective teacher called her other teachers to see if she was absent! i feel very guilty & regretful. i told my parents already. but mostly all my grade knows we did because joan is very popular! so what do i do about my rep? what do i say to people taht give me odd looks? what do i do when my teachers+principals ask me questions??? I NEED YOUR HELP ADVICE-ISTS

_Me -

Depending on your school policies, don't feel so down about it. I was like you once, a good student who never skipped class, but when I did, I never really got in trouble.

Also, depending on how you spent your ditching time, if anyone asks about it, just say you weren't feeling well and you thought it was best not to go to class. But if everyone knows what you did, then I can't help ya here. Just tell the truth then, but conjure up a good motive.

Again, don't feel bad if you just skipped class once. If you're an avid student, other kids will probably give you a little slack. Instead of thinking that you're the preppy goody-goody, they will realize that you're just like them. So you're rep won't be damaged much, because I bet half of your grade ditched at least once anyways.

Hope this helps and feel better.

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is it possible to get pregnant the very first time u have sex, and don't wear a condom?

anonymous -

Yes.

Duh.

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OK, so theres this guy that i REALLY REALLY love. he likes this other girl, but he has no chance with her. someone told me that they were tlaking to him, and he said he might ask me out or that other girl. i REALLY like him and i might have a chance with him, but the thing is i dont know how to get him over the other girl and start to have more feelings for me. in the hall when i walked past him i saw him blush. what should i do?!?!?!?

anonymous -

For starters, you can't say that youo're in love if you're not technically involved with that person to begin with.

Second, make the first move. He was considering you anyways, and is most likely to say yes. On the plus side, if he does say yes, the other girl is out of the picture.

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well i did community service last week with my friend and a bunch of kids from my school, and we had to serve food and stuff to the senior citizens. i got assigned table 1 and so did josh

anonymous -

It's really hard to tell if he likes you so early in time. Because both guys and girls mistaken being nice for flirting, so I wouldn't jump to any conclusions right now.

If he's a shy guy, I find that it's a little easier to strike up conversation. Just get to know him and what he's into like sports, movies, music, etc.

As for the next time you see/talk to him, just be casual about it. Just ask him how he's doing, what he did the past weekend, etc. If you do get together for a hangout, go see a movie together with a group of friends so neither of you feel pressured into making any moves.

But if you'd like, hint to him that you like him. Any guy is flattered to know if they're liked. Make the first move hun! But remember to give it time to see if you really do have feelings for him and if he has any feelings for you. Cuz right now it's still too early to tell.

Good luck.

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I have an appointment tomorrow to get a tooth extracted. I'm a little nervous about the whole process because of course, the doctor told me "It's not going to hurt at all." Lets be honest, don't all doctors say that about EVERYTHING? For those of you who have gotten that procedure done, about how long did it take? How much did it hurt after the novicane wore off? How long does the pain last after the surgery? And does any one have any tips on making it not hurt as bad? Thanks so much!

anonymous -

It really isn't that bad. Before I got braces, I had to get four teeth extracted. The only pain you will experience is when they inject the novicane; it's just a short piercing pain and doesn't hurt too much. When they extract the tooth, they are telling the truth, you really can't feel it. When I had it done all I felt were little wiggles and very little pressure put in that area. Depending on how many teeth you get extracted, for mine it took maybe 20-30 minutes. The novicane lasts maybe a few hours, and for me it didn't hurt when it wore off. Even after the procedure, I had to get a prescription of Vicadin (strong pain killer) prescribed by the oral surgeon. If it hurts for you, try Tylenol, Advil, or Aleve.

Hope this helps.

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Im 15 years old and me and my boyfriend are haveing sex with out a condom and the other night he went in my twice can i still get pregnet even if im on the pill????

anonymous -

cum + pussy = opportunity to get pregnant

pill = 99% effective in preventing pregnancy

do the math you moron.

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OK i really want to get a Cd burner..can i buy it seperately..without it coming with my computer? (i already have a computer) If so, whats the approximate price range..any suggestions on where to get it or what qualities to look for when i buy one? thank you all!

anonymous -

One word:

Ebay.

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Hello,
I live in Texas. I have a 16 yo son who is totally out of control. He has been to boot camp but that didn't help. He is making our family miserable and nothing we do (counseling, etc.) seems to help. We cannot find any help in our town, we are told to deal with him because he is our problem. Does anyone have experience with this?
Thank you so much!

anonymous -

Maybe a juvenile facility? Those tend to get pretty rough.

If not, try to just sit down and talk with your son. Make it clear that the intention of the conversation isn't to hurt him, or threaten him, or be nosey, but just ask him what's been going on in his life. Ask him why does he act the way that he does. Don't try to antagonize him, but instead make him feel like he can open up to you, and tell him the reason why you're asking him these questions is because as a father/mother you want to be there for him...and that his behavior lately has been hurting you a lot. Mention the fact that you (if you're the mom) went through agonizing pain to give birth to him, to give him a chance at life. And seeing him abuse this gift just tears you up inside.

He just needs to know he's loved. And a possible reason why he's acting like this is because he feels isolated at home. He uses these tactics as an escape from the troubles he faces at home.

I really hope this helps, if not, try giving a call to Dr. Phil :)

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Well lets see where do i start.. My mom and step dad got in a fight yesterday over my step dad not going places with her *like movies,out to eat,work out..* well anyways after a couple hours of all this my step dad left to go to work.. so then a little bit later my mom called me down stairs and was like you better end your relationship with your boyfriend soon cause he'll get you to where you dont wanna leave him *he already does* adn then he'll hurt you and he wont want to do anything with you anymore.. well then it turned into a big arguement with me and my mom she never exactly met my boyfriend *we been together almost a year.. and she thinks she knows this boy and thinks he's a complete asshole like my step dad is to her.. well anyways i said shit like that to her.. and she said okay whatever you'll see then... Well later on that night i was talkin to my boyfriend and then i started think bout what my mom said * i know i shouldnt let that shit get to me* but it bothered me and i brought it up to my boyfriend and he got mad and i hung up on him... then he texted me and said *baby im so sorry i love you, and that he dont want my mom interfering with our relationship..cause im the only person who he needs in his life cause im always there for him through anything..* Aww isnt it sweet well him and me are cool... but what should i say to my mom so this dont happen again...?

anonymous -

Make it clear that you aren't her, so what makes her think that you'll end up like her? If you see all the shit going on between them, you're going to consider it so you DON'T end up like them.

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I've been thinking alot about my career that i want to pursue, and I happen to love the french language. I was thinking about some jobs i could have by speaking different languages, but i'm just not sure. Does anybody know of any jobs i could possibly have by doing what i love? Thanks!

Janine

Janine -

-flight attendant
-teacher
-missionary
-peace corps
-translator
-travel guide

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ok can some one please help me here
my gf keeps getting her ass smacked by dudes and its realy getting me pissed off anyway should i beat the liveing shit out of the guys who are doing it? or just tell them to stop?

anonymous -

Scare them off, but don't beat them up. Make it clear that she's YOUR girlfriend and if they want an ass to grab, call a hooker.

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Im gonna buy my boyfriend some stuff for his birthday, but then i also want to make him something creative. I have no idea what to do! Can someone please help me???!?!

anonymous -

If you want it to be creative and original, think of something on your own instead of using other people's ideas.

But if you must, I'll give you two creations I made for my boyfriend, hopefully you can brainstorm something off of that and adjust it to make it an idea of your own.

1. I made a "dry" snowglobe for my boyfriend for Christmas. What you do is you get one of those round, circular, glass fishbowl things (can find it at Wal-mart, Michaels, Hobby Lobby). You get a picture of the two of you and glue it onto a piece of posterboard that is cut into a circle to snugly fit inside the glass bowl. Insert the picture and hot glue it onto the opening of the bowl to make sure it is secure and not loose. Next you get a bunch of fake flower petals (any color or flower you prefer, make sure you get small flower petals) and strip them off of the fake stem. Stuff maybe a good handful into the bowl. Now using a hot glue gun, glue and attach the bowl onto a blank cd. You can cover any glue spots with extra flower petals. When you flip it rightside up, you're picture should be upright lying in a flower bed of petals, making a "dry" snowglobe.

2. Another thing I made was a creative plant project for my boyfriend's birthday. You get a small square-shaped flower pot (choose a pretty design, or clear glass will work) and buy some of those river rocks. Get a bamboo plant shaped like a heart (not sure if those are available to you, but I found mine at an asian supermarket) or if you can't find that, get a regular bamboo plant. "Plant" the bamboo into the river rocks. Next you get a metal clothes hanger and cut a good sized piece off of it (should be a straight line). Next, bend the piece of metal in the shape of a candy cane using pliers to bend the short end into a small loop. Spray paint this black and let dry. Next plant the metal cane piece into the pot behind the piece of bamboo. The "cane" part should hang ever so lightly over the plant. Now, get a small picture of the two of you and paste it onto a small piece of posterboard. Using a hole puncher, punch a hole into the top middle of the photo. Using a ribbon, thread it through the picture and into the loop of the metal cane and tie a bow. If desired, write a love note behind the photo from the posterboard piece. Ta-Da! You're done.

Hope this helps.

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Hello, I have recieved several threatening letters over the past year from my father. The threats include having me put in hospital, also stating that he has had a curse put on my daughter and myself to ensure that something bad happens to us, and general insults and abuse aimed at my wife daughter and myself. We have really had enough of this, is there anything I can do and should I go to the police ? I am convinced that he is going to pay someone to come and do physical harm to my family or myself. He is quite old and in a poor state of health, but is and has always been a very brutal person having caused misery and suffering over many years mainly to his wife and children. All I have done to promt these letters is to write to him listing his bad deeds over the years and telling him what I thaught of his behaviour, this was without any aimed insults from me. My letter to him was in response to further bad behavior on his part.

Yours and Best Regards

Daniel

Daniel -

If you are really that worried that he might potentially be dangerous, why not call the police? Even though it's your father, he has no right to be behaviing inappropriately like this. I'm sure you can file some kind of harrassment charges against your father; hopefully that'll scare him enough to keep him at bay.

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My parents fight a lot and my best friend keeps telling me that they're going to get divorced, and it really hurts my feelings. I don't think that they are going to get divorced because I know how they act around each other, but it just hurts my feelings when my friend says that. What should I do?

anonymous -

you: my parents were fighting again last night.

her: oh, i'm telling you, they're going to get a divorce.

you: let me ask you something.

her: what?

you: do you know my parents or live in my house?

her: well...no...

you: then what right is it of yours to speak out about something you have no knowledge of?

her: ...

you: ok, then shut up.

her: *stares at you dumbfounded*

:) good luck.

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