My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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E-mail: SoccerChick62591@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: MA
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Age: 13
AIM: Lostxinside87
Member Since: March 13, 2005
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there is someone who keeps logging on to my screen name! I think its one of my friends but everytime i ask her she denies it! the last question "i" asked i think she did. u kno the acting question. That question is totally inaccurate! I stink at acting let alone boast about it. She is in my acting class too so thats why i think its her. What do you think i can do about her cuz she wont admit it???
~Dani~
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Like everyone else said, change your password. OR get a new screen name. Just don't make your password too easy, and don't tell anyone.
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today has been the worst day of my life. Ok, so i've liked this guy for over a year and i found out that my (one of my best friends) is moving in on him. She's after him and i think he likes her. she knows i like him, but doesn't care. My other best friends says we cant be best friends anymore. Everything is ruined at school for me now, what am isuposed to do? HELP
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I don't think she's a great friend if she's doing that to you. That doesn't seem right to me. I would confront your friend, tell her how she's making you feel. If she still goes after the guy you like after that, I would try to move on. You can find better friends than that! You seem like a nice, caring girl! If she was a real friend she wouldn't hurt you like that..
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I just found out that this girl i know is about to die because of cancer. I dont know how to handle it. someone please help me!! (link)
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I would try spending as much time as possible with her. Like someone else said, treat her like she never told you she had cancer. Let her last days of her life be the best she's ever had. Sometimes treating them differently than you did before just makes them feel worse, and it reminds them that they have cancer. Maybe you could ask your mom to go to a counselor, and they can help you out.
Try praying too, maybe she can miraculously recover! I wish her and everyone she knows the best of luck! Sorry to hear about your friend =(.
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i wana go on a diet and iv tried alot and im just going by my own rules so i just make it up as i go along. has n e 1 been on a diet and lost alot of wieght? (link)
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Well, try to eliminate junk food from your diet. Eat fruits and vegetables for a snack instead of junk food. Instead of drinking soda, drink water. Watch your calories, and fat intake. DO NOT starve yourself though. Just try to eat healthier. Also, try to exercise regular. Walk everyday, take the stairs instead of the elevator, work out, play sports etc.
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Have you ever thought that you liked someone when you were going out with a different someone (that you love soooo much!) and sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with the other person?
I know its wrong, and i told my boyfriend {of 1yr and almost 2mos.} but i dont know how to stop. because I don't truly like these other people. I Love my boyfriend tho. I hope this isn't too confusing!!
Anyone experienced this?
Help me to stop please!
Oh, I would never cheet on my boyfriend or break up with him. So your probabaly wondering, "whats the problem them?" well I still dont want to think these things. i mean i know im a teen (freshman/female) but I have a great boyfriend and I know this isnt right! so, anyone??
Thanks In Advance!
-*KeLs*-
p.s.=if this doesnt make since { how i worded it or if you need to know something else}, say so in your answer, and i'll re-ask the question to you differently!
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I think those feelings are normal. I mean, it seems like you truly love your boyfriend. If that was true, you wouldn't let these other people interfere, and it seems like you don't. You said yourself you would never dump him, so I wouldn't worry about it. You seem like you love your boyfriend a lot, and would never let anybody else ruin your relationship. Sorry if I didn't answer what you asked =\.
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hi, remember me? I talked to you guys about this guy I like and I wasnt sure if he liked me back.
Anyway. I went to a party last night and I was shocked. I felt like I was shot twice : he smoked and he dirty-danced with a girl, you know with her butt all over him. I really thought he was different, that's why I liked him in the first place.She's not his gf cause she danced with other guys.
I really need some help...Should I ignore all this and try to get to know his personality better? Or should I move on and forget all about him?
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If it were me, I would move on. I'm one who doesn't like either of those 2 things, but that's me.
How do you feel? Do you still have feelings for him? If you do, I would get to know him better. SO many people dance dirty, it's really common. But the smoking.. ick, at least I feel that way. You should try to talk to him, find out WHY he smokes, how much etc. But I wouldn't get too crazy over him, just see what happens between you.
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Okay so I'm a 14 year old girl. I have 4 best friends...ish. It's really more like 3. One of my friends, is a complete snob! She thinks shes better than everybody else, and shes completely obsessed with shopping. I mean, I'm not against shopping, but whenever we go with her she flaunts about saying how she can buy anything she wants because her parents give her all the money she wants. I'm TIRED OF HER! Yet, no body else likes her, so if we abandon her, she'll be alone. at times theres nothing I would want more, but I don't want her a complete loner.
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I would talk to her. Tell her how you and your friends feel about her. Honesty is the best policy, although it's hard. She might be having a hard time finding herself, which is why she is acting that way. Maybe you and your friends could try to work things out, and tell her exactly what you don't like about her. And if she's willing to, maybe she can make changes. But if not that, maybe you could tell her you feel you have gone seperate ways or something. Say you've both changed, and feel that your friendship is not working out.
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My friend Ray introdcued me to his best friend Jason. In the beginning Jason and I got along fine, everyone thought he was interested in me. But soon Jason started asking me about other boys.. whether I liked them or not. It wasnt really any of his business so I would just respond to him without really answering his question. Now all of a sudden lately Jason has been extreamly rude to me. A friend of mine seems to think Jason has the hots for me and is upset Im talking about other boys. I think he's just plain rude. Other opinions would be nice. I rate. (link)
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I think he likes you too. He's probably jealous you're talking to other guys. I'd confront him, tell him you feel he's been rude to you..
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i want to get higher marks and next term i wanna aim for a 90 or over.. how can i do that? i'm not actually particularly good at any of the subjects but i want to try to get a 90s average. what are some things i could do? especially for core subjects like english, math, history/geography, and science? thanks alot, i really want to keep all my options open since i want to be some kind of doctor when i grow up. (link)
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Well, how old are you? I'm 13, and my mom sometimes helps me study. She'll pick out questions from my science book and stuff, and I'll answer them.
If you want to get higher marks you need to put a lot of effort into your work. Try planning ahead of time. If a teacher tells you there will be a test in 1 week, study a little every night. Put a lot of effort into homework, and into studying. Pay attention in class, and behave. Those should help you out.
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Hey I realized my friend sorta WANTS to have sex and she is only 13, shes not going to have it, its just she wants to. I was on her computer and saw alot of porn websites, is this normal for a 13 year old??
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Yes, it is normal for people that age to be doing/thinking of that stuff. I, however, am not one of those people who are interesed. I have a site she might want to go to, it's about how you should wait until marriage to have sex. It also has stuff on STDs, birth control, and some other stuff. It's www.pureloveclub.com if you want to give it to her..
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hey melanie! wats up? its laura! uhh my probelem is .. i dont know if i should study tonight or not lol. ttyl! (link)
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Hello! Study! NOW!.. actually, don't cause American Idol is on in 2 minutes =)!!
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earlier today a friend of mine asked me a question...they asked "if i show you something will you be mad?" I said no. so the person showed me and it happened to be that the person had cut their wrist. i didnt get mad..but they had done it once before. i want to do something before it gets to bad. what can i do? (link)
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I would definately tell someone. You could tell her parents yourself. Or maybe you could tell a teacher, or guidance counselor, and they can contact her parents if you don't want to. But you don't want to let her get any worse. Also, try being there for her. If she ever wants to vent on you, try letting her. And try telling her how much you care, and how much others care. Goodluck, and you're doing the right thing by wanting to help her!
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Hi tonight in like 2 hr's i hav a bsktball game against one of my best friends...she hasnt won a game yet and i feel really bad. If she loses she wont be her team is out of the playoff's. I feel really bad for her. I really really really wanna win but who wouldnt? I AM going to do my best. I guess i just wanna know what i should do if she gets mad. I hate being in a fight with my friends, and our fights dont normally last long.
Please help.
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Try complimenting on how well her team did! Say how awesome she did. Maybe say how what a good game it was, and that you're sorry they lost. If your team is winning by a lot, I would recommend not playing your best. I mean, losing is one thing, but losing by A LOT is another thing. I don't mean if your team is up by 10 give up, I mean by like 30 or something. Did that last part make sense? lol
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So, what do you do when the people you used to be closest with begin to ignore you? when they forget you have feelings and make snide comments?
What do you do when people keep secrets from you? When the same person tries to hit on and steal your best friend?
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Try to confront them. Tell them how they make you feel. How old are you anyways? If your in the teenage years (probably more younger than older) people change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. It seems like these people aren't very good friends. Maybe you should try to get some new friends, try to become closer friends with some other people. BUT if you feel these people are worth trying to become friends with again, and forgiving them, you can. In my eyes they seem like they're not worth becoming friends with again =\. Maybe they started hanging out with the wrong crowd. Hope whatever you decide to do makes you happier.
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is this a good idea.....well i like this guy and i want to write a note and put it in his locker but not tell who i am just yet but put a sn in thast note that isnt my real one and talk to him on there and give him hinks to who i am?i older by a year 13/f (link)
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I would say no, but that's my opinion. I, personally, think it's a little childish =\. I think you should try to confront him. Or at least try to get to know him better. Maybe you could tell him online if you didn't want to in person? Or maybe you could have a friend tell him for you? But an anonymous note seems.. eh.
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I'm starting to think i have some form of depression.Here lately I will start crying for praticaly nothing.I try not to cry but then I start to cry even harder and forget every thing good that happend in that day and start thinking baout my life sucking and me hating myself.Im starting to lose self confidence.I've got freinds who have to have anti-depressants for the same reasons im starting to think I need them the only thing is most of the time they go and get advice from people like special docters and stuff.But I dont like telling alot of people about my life it bugs me specially knowing a stranger knows everything about me.I was just woundering if someone could tell me some of the ways you can tell if you are having a depression problem and need to seek a docter to get medication.(sorry for it being long) (link)
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It seems like you could be depressed. I know how you feel, it's a really sucky feeling. I would try talking to your parents about it. Maybe if you just talked to someone about your problems it would make you feel better. Not necessarily a counselor, but a close friend or something. If you continue to feel like this I would go to the doctor's and see what they have to say...
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ok umm my friend is not eating. she says she eats infront of a big group of ppl but then when she is only around a few ppl she says she does not eat. she drinks energy drinks like crazy and i tell her to stop drinking sooo many b/c you can die if you drink too many, and she is not even doing a energy when she drinks them.and i have told her to start eating and stuff but she won't she wants to loose wait, and i said to just workout and not to starve yourself and yeah. i am really worried about her. she is always tired b/c she is not eating and she is not getting her calciam or however you spell that and it makes her tired so she drinks a Red Bull.i don't know how to help her. should i tell a parent if i tell her to stop and she doesn't?? please help me
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You definately need to tell her parents, they need to know. She can REALLY hurt her body if she keeps not eating. She needs help. Once you tell her parents hopefully they'll bring her to the doctor's and she can get the right treatment. She'll probably need to go to a nutritionist, and maybe a counselor too.
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My cousin's family invited me to go on a cruise with them to Cancun and Cozemel. I really want to go but if my cousin and I spend at least 2 hours together, we don't get along. She will get mad at me and I will have no one to hang out with because her dad's side of the family is coming, too (I don't know them because we're not related) But this is a once in a lifetime opportunity...Should I go or no?? (link)
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I would go. If you don't, you will probably regret it later. Does your cousin agree that you two don't get along? Maybe you two can try to work things out, and think of ways not to get on each other's nerves. Maybe tell her what she does to get on your nerves, and vise versa. Then you could try avoiding doing those things. I think it'd be an awesome trip though!
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well i havnt been on my period in like a month mostly more then a month..ive already skipped once i havnt did nething..soo what could be wrong how many times can you skip your period please i need some advice (link)
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It depends. How long have you had it? If you recently got it (as in the past 1-3 years, or 1-2) then it's fine. Your period tends to be irregular the first few years. If you're really worried about it you could talk to your mom, or doctor or something.
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june 2004 my cousin died from a mistake a police officer made. i cant seem to get over his death and i dont know who to talk to. i still cry all the time over him, and i htink about him a lot too. the rest of my family has moves on it seems, and they dont like to talk about him. if u have been in this situation... or one like it please shre advice. thanks (link)
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You could talk to anyone you trust and feel comfortable with. Your mom, dad, sibling, teacher, guidance counselor, best friend.. anyone. If you're having a really hard time I would suggest talking to your mom about going to a counselor.
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