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I've only kissed one guy b4, IT WAS A TOTAL DISASTER! SO, Im really nervous about kissing my b/f. I want to kiss him but I don't know how to make-out. I'll mess up for sure.
Any help is appreciated!
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THANX IN ADVANCE!
~Kayla~ (link)
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Hi, Making out is simple once you've had experience. I think from the sound of your question that you are scared of making out because your scared of doing it all wrong and also want to make a good impression with your boyfriend. You've first of all got to feel comfortable about making out before you can do it. Its just a matter of showing him how much you like him by perhaps exploring him or just simply kissing him. What are you afraid of? Whats worrying you? Once you've sorted that out then you should be alright. Just kiss him alot and give him lots of hugs and maybe explore. I think your just scared of wether or not your doing it right. There is no right or wrong way because everyone does it in a way they feel comfortable. Making out shouldn't be a worrying experience but more of a happy and nice experience. Daniel.
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I have a clique of 4. We all have been hanging out rather often and having fun together and a horrible thing suddenly happened...I gradually started to have a crush on one of the guys.
When I just got to know him, we both used to keep arguing and keep making fun of each other. I used to find him very irritating and I hated him a lot( and I really mean hate). He just likes to go around making fun of people and whenever he did that to me, I'd scold him.
As time passed, we talked more and he showed a little more sensitive side of him(but he's still darn irritating) and he said and did nice stuff for me which really surprised me. Like for eg, he held my hand and waist when he was teaching me how to dance a school dance. (ok fine duh I know he has to hold my hand and waist) And what the hell..I started liking him. But I know for sure that he doesnt like me. He will never like my type and he seems to be always against how i look, how i talk, how i wear clothes and he always like to tell me bout my hair being too messy, talking too loudly, watever etc. And he just always has this heck-care attitude which is like "i-dun-care-if-you-like-me-or-not-cos-I'm-not-going-to-get-a-gf-and-dun-get-me-involved-in-a-relationship". How do i stop myself from liking him? Cos i just want a nice long lasting friendship among the 4 of us. I really like this clique and I wish to get to know them more. I dun wanna ruin this opportunity to get to be closer to them. But everytime i see the way he acts, the way he walks, its just so ..*sigh*...boyish, manly and cute. I can't make myself hate him again for being so irritating because I've actually like his irritating characteristic as well. Can someone pls tell me how to stop having this crush on him? Its just a crush and i know it'll be easy to get rid of but i need help doing it. so I'd love to see wat advice you guys have to give. :)
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Hi, what usually happens with crushes is that girls like one boy that catches their eye and start liking them for weeks maybe months then as soon as they find someone else who attracts them they quickly get over the other person and start to like him and so on. Its the same with boys as well. Maybe making friends and having an interest in other guys could draw you out of it. Lust usually doesn't last long were as if you felt love it would last a very long time. However crushes don't go away over night and might take a while. It usually comes out in time. Daniel.
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my boyfriend (24)and I(20) have lived together for over a year we live with a roomate who happens to be my friend . just recently last friday actually we got in a big fight and he shoved me into the closet door, our roomate heard it all and said something to him and he got in her face screaming and pointing his finger in her face so i ran flailing my fists aqnd i caught him in the nose , i didn't punch him but i did hit him though and his nose started bleeding which i instantly started bawling and trying to clean away the blood , i knew what i did was wrong and felt horrible anyway we both agreed to forgive each other but then this past tuesday i had to get all 4 of my wisdom teeth out and he was the one with me getting all the post-op insturctions and then after we got home we got into a dumb fight and he said "i can't take getting beaten anymore" and he left me i havn't heard from him since tuesday and now he is at his parents house I don't know what i should do because i am stuck here with all the memories and i am crying everyday I just want him to come home but at the same time i don't know if i should let him come home i need help!!!! (link)
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Hi, the best thing you can do is go and visit him. Try and talk all this out with him and solve the situation. He probaly might want time on his own for a while. This will give both of you time to figure out whats actually happened then if you go around there and say something like "we need to talk" then you should be able to clear all this up. Good relationships do have problems sometimes small and other times big but the whole point in being a relationship is to talk past these problems. With talk can come understanding. Daniel.
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okay, so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f and i really like her but i don't know where i should take her on our first date (if she'll go out with me) if you live in st. louis area, (or anyware) got any advice? (link)
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Hi, here are some suggestions:
1. Mall
2. Fast food/restaurant
3. Movies
4. Park/reserve
5. Beach
6. Shopping (most girls like that)
7. Night in at your place watching movie
8. Go for a picnic and walk
Hopefully Ive given you plenty of choices. Daniel.
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ok so my boyfreind is 15 im 13 the age doesnt bother me that much but the fact that he has has sex before does we can talk about it openly and all but i think he thinks i am imature for telling him there is no way in hell i will lose my virginity when i am only 13 and stuff i dont really no wat my question is i think i just need to talk to someone about it help please (link)
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Hi, you are both quite young to be having or considering sex. Choosing to not have sex at your age to me shows that you have some maturity and know what the consequences of having sex are. Good that you told him, thats excellent. Daniel.
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I really like this guy and I wanna have sex with him, only, I'm a virgin. I don't know how or what it's like and I'm really nervous. Any advice or tips or could any of you girls tell me what it's like to be layed? Anything will help. Thanx
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Hi, first of all if your going to have sex then use a condom. Sex for the first time can feel a wee bit painful or sore. But usually it can be an enjoying and wonderful experience especially if it's with the right person. Im not a girl but I would probally imagine that it would feel good getting laid. Maybe you could try oral sex and your boyfriend could get a flavoured condom. But most of all you both need to be sure that this is what you both want and your ready to have fun. Never do something if your not sure. Daniel.
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When you lose your virginity, how bad does it hurt and how do you stretch the skin for him to get "In There" if youre a small person. ???
Help me!
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Hi, when having sex it can sometimes hurt but not much. If your having sex and get turned on then you should find that the guys penis gets a wee bit wet and your vagina does. Your vagina will open up a little bit then the guys penis as he moves into you and out should go in and out of your vagina, which should give you pleasure around the clitoris. Hope that helps with your question. Daniel.
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ok..im going to say this straight out iv got small boobs is their anything I can do to do make them bigger i heard sleeping with out a bra but so far nothing ? anything i can do? ... and i work with this guy and i reallly want him to ask me out ... how can i get him to do this? (link)
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Hi, first of all there isn't alot you can do about your boobs. They will grow to a certain size and then stop. You can't really make a guy ask you out. However a good way to attract him and perhaps make him feel like asking you out, is by flirting. Talk to him and use eye contact and brush your hair back with your hand and if you've got something like a glass or cup fondle it gently with your fingers. Smile alot and at the end give him a little wink with your eye. See how that goes on. Daniel.
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ok, i have an online friend who i've been friends with for 6 years now and i sort of have a crush on him and i think he does too...he's just an amazing guys but lately he's been moody with me and just an ass sometimes...sometimes he'll be so sweet and tell me sweet things like he likes me and that he wants to be my boyfriend and then the next time we chat, he's such an ass and denies everything he said the last time we talked!
what is that about???? can someone explain?? is he just playin with me? should i just stop talking to the guy?
I guess i should point out that he's never had a g/f, would that have anything to do with it?
ok thanks in advance for any advice given :)
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Hi, I think he does like you but then says he doesn't because he is shy about the whole thing. The only way you can know is if you asked him. If he keeps on saying he does then he doesn't then he's either playing games or he isn't sure. Either way ask him. It should hopefully come out in time. Daniel.
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okay so im 16 and i have never made out. i now have a new boyfriend and im nervous. like a part of me doesnt want him to kiss me and i dont know why. am i just nervous or am i still not ready? i mean im fine with the quick peck on the lips but i dont want to make out. i dated a guy for like 6 months without making out.. i know this cant go on forever but ah i dont know... also in a way the whole tounge in the mouth thing grosses me out... and i dont know how kiss so i wouldnt know what to do. everyone tells me to just go with the flow.. but sitll. wont your teeth knock together?
anyways..
what is wrong with me? (link)
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Hi, it sounds as though you want a boyfriend but are quite ready or don't want the mushy stuff. This is OK especially if your nervous, and you may just need a bit more time to think about it. If your unsure about doing it then don't do it. Give a bit of time to think about it, you might come round in time. Daniel.
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I'm in love with my best friend. But unfortunatly he is going out with some girl I really don't like. She's the type that will hurt him really bad inside and will leave him for someone else. That is her process. How do I break them up without him knowing I did it on purpose?
Oh and he (best friend) knows im madly in love with him.
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Hi, don't break them up. This is between him and her and besides if this is the case then he should soon see through her plans. Let him find out, that way you won't get blamed. Daniel.
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ok. so my mom is going to iraq and my dad is moving me from west bloomfield, were my boyfriend lives to clarkston where my dad wants to live. we are moving next week. should i keep going out with him and do that whole long distance thing or should i break it off and explain?
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Hi, long distance relationships don't usually work out. I would probaly keep him as a friend and E-mail and phone him from time to time. Daniel.
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i really really like my guy friend we are neighbors and he tottaly gives me mixed messages we see eachother everyday and i just can't stand to be away from him i don't know if he likes me or not should i tell him how i feel or not. pleez help i will rate five no matter wat the answere (link)
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Hi, it sounds as though you've got a crush on him. This is OK. I think you might as well get to know him and soon ask him out. You will get a straight yes or no and at least you will know how he feels. Good luck!!! Daniel.
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my boyfriends kind of skinny.
actually hes realllly skinny.
Alot skinnier then me.
and to be honest it kind of bothers me..
i feel so much bigger than him and i dont know how to get over it cause i really like him.
but like i feel like im going to crush him and i just feel like we dont look right together cause usually i go for more muscular looking guys
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Hi, don't change your looks just because you think it doesn't look right being together. As long as he loves you and you love him and are willing to make things work, then you really do look right together. It's about the inside not the outside that counts. But if you think you would like to change the way you look then go for it. Daniel.
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k so i'm 14 and i fell for a 16 yr old. He said he liked me and i told him how i felt. We decided that we'd wait a month before we decided anyhting b/c we had met really recently.
Now he says that he doesn't think he'll be ready to date anyone for a while, but he still only likes me. But i dont want to wait. Should i just give up and move on or wait for him? (link)
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Hi, waiting for him if only for a month is good in alot of ways because it is giving him time to sort out what he wants and deal with the different messages his brain and heart are telling him. However if you find that weeks and months are going by and he isn't letting you know and your still waiting then it might not be worth waiting for. People shouldn't after wait for ages and if thats the case then don't. It will only worry you and make you think the if questions. Daniel.
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tomorro is mine and my bf's 5 months! any ideas on what we can do and what i can give him? 17/f by the way and if it help i will probably be picking him up tomoror. an ideas on how to suprise him in the car? like any food i can bring/buy for him and what i can give him? make preferably. thanks! (link)
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Hi, if your thinking of bringing him some food, then maybe something like belgium/swiss chocolate or russian fudge, something that you would only really have on special occasions. Do you know what he's into as a hobbie or even interest. Suprise him with something like that perhaps. Daniel.
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Okay, so, they guy i like, has a girlfriend, but he told me that he liked me and to wait for him. Should i continue to wait for him? (link)
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Hi there, if he's already got a girlfriend then why does he want you to wait for him? It sounds as though he is putting you on hold while he's having a good time with his girlfriend. I don't think you need him, because you shouldn't be put on hold. Daniel.
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hey, yea i seen him last nite!! it was so good!! we were talkin for ages, then he asked for my number!! i was so happy!! i want to msg him but im not sure if i will seem to depserate or to eager. and i also dont kno wat to say in the msg.
any ideas??
thanx (link)
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Hi, just ask him out lets say to the movies. Tell him that you would like to get to know him a bit more. Your doing really well. Daniel.
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13, female
i have a friend (guy) and we're keeping in close touch over the summer -- emailing, phone.
i guess this isn't that important, but i still want some advice. well, in his emails he always wants me to call him. and i do.
sometimes i say things like 'im free to talk over the weekend.. call!' but he insists for me to call. no big deal, but he hasnt ever called my house or cell since we've started talking over the phone. and when im constantly the one calling his house, it makes me sound kind of desperate.
i dont want to be rude to point it out to him because maybe he wont call at all on purpose. why do some guys not like calling girls? and what are some harmless clues to get him to call ME?
note: we're friends and only friends! (link)
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Hi, maybe your friend isn't allowed to call you because of his parents wishes. Maybe he some how feels uncomfortable calling because if your mum or dad pick up the phone he might get a wee bit embarrassed. I don't know, maybe you could ask him in proper detail. Only he knows. Daniel.
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15.f
Hey, Well for some time now I've been having problems, i have been extremely "out of it" and everything. And I have talked to 2 of my friends about it (one is my bf) and both think i have this thing called dissociation or something. I am really concerned that if i tell anyone or ask about it. They will think i'm crazy. I mean i think i'm crazy myself, but Still. i don't want them to think that. My bf espeshally (sorry about the spelling). He told me to talk to my parents about it. I really Don't want to. I don't have a good relationship with my parents at all. They will judge me, or something. Well i really just don't want to. Please help. What can i do? :( (link)
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Hi, your not crazy. We all feel out of it from time to time and your deffinately not crazy. A school counsellor is good to talk to because you can clear up any issues with him/her and most of all he doesn't have to tell your parents unless you want him/her to. What makes you feel out of it? Try and talk it over with your school counsellor and pick the rout of the problem out of the soil so to say. Daniel.
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